Anyone else enjoy being single?

SusieBlue

Dial Hard wrote: »

It's mostly a one-way street to be fair, T.

Its baffling.
I've had quite a few negative experiences, in relationships and with men in general, yet I still wouldn't write all men off because of the behaviour of a few.

I've been cheated on (more than once), lied to, disrespected, assaulted (granted, that didn't happen in Ireland) and spoken to like I'm some sort of sexual commodity (my most recent online dating experience) yet I still wouldn't tar all men with the one brush because of it.

The negative, bitter, resentful attitude here is something to behold.
If its that blatant online, I can only imagine the signals these men are giving to women IRL.

pumpkin4life

Augeo wrote: »

There's bucketloads of seriously unattractive people in relationships.

Yeah, but there's the difference between knowing that and working with what you have, compared to someone who is unattractive waiting for that person who is completely out of his/her league, when they would be very happy with someone of their own status/level. Then they go and write it off as "I'm happy being single, loads of time for me!" You see this quite a bit.

They just don't want to admit it to themselves.

I think both men and women are guilty of this, women probably more so.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

dd973 wrote: »

Couply people have always given me the impression that they'd be married or hooked up with someone else if they weren't with their current partner, there's loads of these types especially among the baby boomer generation, married at 22, divorced at 45, hook up again, stepkids, split up again, meet someone else then end up back with the person they married at 22.

It's as if being in marriages/relationships is inbuilt into their personality and DNA whilst with other people, myself included, I could quite conceivably be single for 300 years and this soulmate never turns up no matter how many pubs or public places you walk into, statistically there probably is 'someone for everybody' but that's no use if they're living in Chile or New Zealand and you're never going to meet them!

I'm definitely a couply person, not that I could just swap my partner out for another willy nilly or that I'd rather be in a bad relationship than be single, mind.

jimgoose

Ramona Shrilling Matchmaking wrote: »

...not that I could just swap my partner out for another willy...

FNAAAARGGH!!!

kunst nugget

dd973 wrote: »

Couply people have always given me the impression that they'd be married or hooked up with someone else if they weren't with their current partner, there's loads of these types especially among the baby boomer generation, married at 22, divorced at 45, hook up again, stepkids, split up again, meet someone else then end up back with the person they married at 22.

Where in Ireland was this commonplace? Ahascragh?

They were too busy in most of Ireland going to Novenas to be part of the baby boomer generation...

Dial Hard

Dial Hard wrote: »

It's mostly a one-way street to be fair, T.

Not in my experience. Tiny handful of both on both sides is all really ever see - but a lot of that "butt hurt" from them. But I admit I have never kept stats on it.

Gimme A Pound

Deleted User wrote: »

Not in my experience. Tiny handful of both on both sides is all really ever see - but a lot of that "butt hurt" from them. But I admit I have never kept stats on it.

Here though it's definitely one-way. Women do not start posting on threads about how awful men are. Now we certainly do defend ourselves but provocation and defence are different things.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

When I broke up with my vile and contemptible ex-wife I couldn't believe how much I enjoyed the single life. It was like taking off a pair of shoes that were two sizes too small - that freedom. In the pub most Friday and Saturday nights, sinking the pints, up to me conkers in clunge most weekends. My ideal relationship started around 2.30am in the morning, and finished the next morning by 11.30 at the latest. I suppose it helps that I'm relatively attractive for my age, and extremely outgoing almost to the point of arrogance. Chicks tend to like me.

I think I'm looking for something a bit more permanent at this stage. My preference is for birds in their mid to late 30's, maybe 41 to 42 max. But that's a dangerous game to be playing, as the biological alarm clock is very loud in most of them. I'm 54 and the thoughts of becoming a father again fill me with horror - 2 of the bastards is more than enough. Might get the snip just to be sure.

By god, I think we have our new Aongus Von B!

Tell me how

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

By god, I think we have our new Aongus Von B!

That's like comparing Geordie Shore to Made in Chelsea.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Mad_maxx wrote: »

Use of the term "Patriarchy"

Classic!

Even the courts overwhelmingly side with the woman, the system is still mysogonist :rolleyes:

Feminists loose even when they win

Would ya not even give her some credit for making a lot of sense in that post. The point about judges is that being mostly middle-aged and older, they lived in the time of the civil service marriage ban and whatnot so some may still hold old-fashioned views about the family.

Charles Ingles

Tucker Hot Bell wrote: »

No they're not fighting it but I guess that's because it's a men's rights issue (and yes I know feminists now claim to fight for any gender equality but we all know that's not true).

But you're in a relationship or marriage as far as I know? Which makes your posts kinda strange. I mean yes there are certainly awful inequalities against men in family law (And elsewhere) but it seems to be very personal for you

Depends. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. A person's own perspective isn't always the one everyone has.

You most certainly have not.

When have I been disrespectful?

Zorya

As a related aside I find that word clunge to be gruesome sounding. I don't get out much so I read it on boards for the first time, and I hope it is not commonly used. C*nt is a much nicer word, frankly. Clunge. Ughhhh.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Zorya wrote: »

As a related aside I find that word clunge to be gruesome sounding. I don't get out much so I read it on boards for the first time, and I hope it is not commonly used. C*nt is a much nicer word, frankly. Clunge. Ughhhh.

I wouldn't say it's used too much irl even by the people who use it here, you look A LOT more insane going into little x rated Walter Mitty spiels when you've to look people in the eye...

Tell me how

Zorya wrote: »

As a related aside I find that word clunge to be gruesome sounding. I don't get out much so I read it on boards for the first time, and I hope it is not commonly used. C*nt is a much nicer word, frankly. Clunge. Ughhhh.

Not sure I ever thought I'd see someone describing c*nt as a nice word.
The other one originated largely from the inbetweeners I think and anyone using it in real life probably isn't that different (in personality or succes with the ladies) than Jay.

Zorya

Tell me how wrote: »

Not sure I ever thought I'd see someone describing c*nt as a nice word.
The other one originated largely from the inbetweeners I think and anyone using it in real life probably isn't that different (in personality or succes with the ladies) than Jay.

Can't link on this excuse for a phone but somewhere online there is a very long and interesting essay on the word c*nt, that looks at possible etymologies. Including for example the Gaelic cuan, meaning harbour. And many other lovely trails. The word is very old and ripe for rehabilitation. Anyways back to the enjoyment etc.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Tell me how wrote: »

That's like comparing Geordie Shore to Made in Chelsea.

It’s more the WUM-practiced story-self-praise aspect I’m talking about. :pac:

TomasMacR

Zorya wrote: »

As a related aside I find that word clunge to be gruesome sounding. I don't get out much so I read it on boards for the first time, and I hope it is not commonly used. C*nt is a much nicer word, frankly. Clunge. Ughhhh.

Inbetweeners Jay legacy stuff. I'm not even sure it existed before inbetweeners. I'd imagine anyway using it not as some, fairly dated by now, Jay joking reference is an absolute retard.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MRSF0eUIq6Q

C*nt is an insult.

"Look dear, I got a Brazilian"...."Oh my, your c*nt looks bloody marvellous".

"doctor, there's something wrong with my c*nt"

doesn't really work, won't really work in any context.

Zorya

If you're interested Matthew Hunt wrote about it. Maybe because of a lifetime of rhyming slags. It's just me, I don't mind it.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Zorya wrote: »

As a related aside I find that word clunge to be gruesome sounding. I don't get out much so I read it on boards for the first time, and I hope it is not commonly used. C*nt is a much nicer word, frankly. Clunge. Ughhhh.

Clunge and Johnny’s tale in general reminds me of:



:pac:

cannotlogin

Recently started seeing someone but early days and he's the other side of the country for a couple of weeks so it's great because it's like easing myself back into it.

Last LTR ended about 5 years ago and afterwards I loved been single, was a bat like a bat out of hell and in hindsight it should have ended a lot sooner.

Nothing for a while, then lots of dating all sorts - as in anyone who asked really, my type or not, purely cos it was fun & different, even if I knew it was unlikely to go anywhere, then FWB for a while which was fun too, then back to casual dating.....

Somewhere along the way the novelty wore off and I decided that I would prefer to be single and not seeing anyone unless there was a chance it might go somewhere rather than dating just for fun.

Who knows what happens next but it's nice to be really physically attracted to someone again and attracted to their personality too - rare to find both.

DoozerT6

44F single my entire life. It just never happened for me. Would like to have a relationship so I could actually KNOW whether I'd prefer being single or coupled up. I think it's hard to tell when you haven't experienced both sides.

ancapailldorcha

DoozerT6 wrote: »

44F single my entire life. It just never happened for me. Would like to have a relationship so I could actually KNOW whether I'd prefer being single or coupled up. I think it's hard to tell when you haven't experienced both sides.

32. I'm happy enough in my own company but I wouldn't say I'm committed to being single at all. Just making the best of it.

Charles Ingles

Completely different for a man to choose to be single than a woman.
A man can arse around until his fourties then settle for any woman once she is capable of conceiving.
Women on the other hand miss the boat after 35 childbirth is dangerous and the woman is actually referred to as a geriatric mother.

Zorya

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Clunge and Johnny’s tale in general reminds me of:



:pac:

I'll have to look that up, ODB, I rarely watch telly so I haven't a clue who that is. Oh dear.

ancapailldorcha

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Completely different for a man to choose to be single than a woman.
A man can arse around until his fourties then settle for any woman once she is capable of conceiving.
Women on the other hand miss the boat after 35 childbirth is dangerous and the woman is actually referred to as a geriatric mother.

Would you mind taking your weird anti-women soapbox somewhere else please? I was hoping the thread wouldn't turn into a sh*tshow.

Charles Ingles

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Would you mind taking your weird anti-women soapbox somewhere else please? I was hoping the thread wouldn't turn into a sh*tshow.

Sorry I'm not anti woman at all.
I'm pointing out biological differences where I feel women get the short end of the stick.
Trying to balance career etc and having children

Franz Von Peppercorn

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Completely different for a man to choose to be single than a woman.
A man can arse around until his fourties then settle for any woman once she is capable of conceiving.
Women on the other hand miss the boat after 35 childbirth is dangerous and the woman is actually referred to as a geriatric mother.

You’re a charmer Charles. A charmer.

Actually we men have to worry about a decrease in sperm quality as we age.

BBFAN

Deleted User wrote: »

I'm willing to wager Charlie isn't a day over 20. Brings to mind the empty posturing of a frustrated undergraduate.

I think you're crediting him with to high a level of education. :P

DoozerT6

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Sorry I'm not anti woman at all.
I'm pointing out biological differences where I feel women get the short end of the stick.
Trying to balance career etc and having children

Some women didn't 'miss the boat' just because we're trying to climb the corporate ladder. Some of us just failed to attract a mate (any mate) during the most productively fertile years of our life. It happens.

Charles Ingles

Franz Von Peppercorn wrote: »

You’re a charmer Charles. A charmer.

Actually we men have to worry about a decrease in sperm quality as we age.

Mrs ingles had our last child at 36.
On her file was stamped geriatric mother.
Needless to say she wasn't happy