Asking someone out on the street

Artic Simian

Sooo, here's the lowdown. Every morning on my way to work I take the same route and I inevitably pass by this ridiculously cute guy. We often make contact but obviously never say anything as we're complete strangers. This has been going on for months now, I also see him on the way home. I've started to daydream about ways of sparking up a conversation with him in the hopes of him asking me out and falling madly in love with me. 
So far, I've come up with.. giving him a high five as he passes by,  sticking my leg out and purposefully tripping him over then pointing and laughing like a true ledge, jumping out in front of his path saying 'Stop in the name of love!'... real suave or saying 'excuse me, I'm doing a survey on cute guys asking girls out on the street, what are your thoughts on this?'
I'm a big believer in nothing ventured nothing gained and take life by the balls so I'm not afraid of actually asking him out but is it weird or creepy to stop someone in the street. Obviously, my above methods are not genuine ways but is there a way of doing this? He definitely checks me out (I'm pretty damn gorgeous) but he's yet to make a move. 
Would you lot ask somebody out in the street, on a bus, anywhere without the crutch of alcohol? If I saw him in a bar I'd climb him like a tree but I obviously can't do that on a busy street... or can i?

PlaneSpeeking

Strange man whoever you are - RUN FAR AND RUN FAST!!!!!

sbsquarepants

Stop string at me on the street weirdo.
Plus if you trip me up, i'll knock you the fúck out!:D

rizzodun

Go for it. If he rejects just find another route to work.

Artic Simian

rizzodun wrote: »

Go for it. If he rejects just find another route to work.

My thoughts exactly.. I'd love if someone asked me out on my way to work, it's flattering if nothing else, no?

rizzodun

Artic Simian wrote: »

My thoughts exactly.. I'd love if someone asked me out on my way to work, it's flattering if nothing else, no?

Are you on the way to work now? Fancy a drink sometime?

There, feel better.

Hoboo

Artic Simian wrote: »

Sooo, here's the lowdown. Every morning on my way to work I take the same route and I inevitably pass by this ridiculously cute guy. We often make contact but obviously never say anything as we're complete strangers. This has been going on for months now, I also see him on the way home. I've started to daydream about ways of sparking up a conversation with him in the hopes of him asking me out and falling madly in love with me. 
So far, I've come up with.. giving him a high five as he passes by,  sticking my leg out and purposefully tripping him over then pointing and laughing like a true ledge, jumping out in front of his path saying 'Stop in the name of love!'... real suave or saying 'excuse me, I'm doing a survey on cute guys asking girls out on the street, what are your thoughts on this?'
I'm a big believer in nothing ventured nothing gained and take life by the balls so I'm not afraid of actually asking him out but is it weird or creepy to stop someone in the street. Obviously, my above methods are not genuine ways but is there a way of doing this? He definitely checks me out (I'm pretty damn gorgeous) but he's yet to make a move. 
Would you lot ask somebody out in the street, on a bus, anywhere without the crutch of alcohol? If I saw him in a bar I'd climb him like a tree but I obviously can't do that on a busy street... or can i?

You'd climb him like a tree? I'd prefer a sober girl to ask me out on the street than a drunk one sticking her heels into my knees as she makes a final push for the summit.

deise08

Go for it. Life's too short....
Just happen to be opening a packet of sweets or bubble gum walking towards him and offer him one.. you have to time it right though. Too far and you look stupid holding out sweets walking towards him.. like a child snatcher... Too close and you look like a savage wolfing in to them.. or you could just she your tic tacs at him.

s7ryf3925pivug

You've developed a relationship with an imaginary person you've superimposed on someone you don't know. This might confuse you when he is unlikely to happen to be like the imaginary person. By all means try to refoncile your idea of him with reality and actually talk to him, but don't confuse the two.

...incidentally the approaches you descrube above would have caused me personally to move swiftly on, no matter how good looking you were.

Sardonicat

Start with the usual "Morning " then "Morning, sh1t/great weather, isn't it?'
Depending on response to the above move on to "How are you ? " If he's interested he'll respond with a bit of chat and you can take it from there. If not, move on. Seriously, do NOT just make a move on your morning commute, unless you live in the States, that is.

Artic Simian

My above ideas were just me joking, as if I'd trip up a total stranger in the street!! I've had guys ask me out in cafes before by slipping their number across and while I didn't call them for whatever reason at the time, it's a nice thing to happen if it's not done sleazily!

valoren

Isn't it an empowerment to go after what you want?
He might be grateful you made the first move.

Here's what his brain is thinking in the split second he passes you.

"There she is again, bloody hell she's gorgeous. You should get her number! Yeah you should but wait a second, if you stop her she'll just think you're a creep or a weirdo for engaging with her, she'll probably say no anyway and you'll just look like a complete fool and feel like a dope for even asking"

*walks past you while checking you out as he passes you by, dreaming of what could be*

Next time you see him, make eye contact, smile and stop walking. He'll check up and then you say "Sorry to bother you but a drink sometime would be lovely", say no more and walk breezily away with a smile. You've let him know you fancy him and the next time you see each other just say hello.

It's win-win for you.

If he is single and interested he will ask you out and feel like "da man".
If he is single and interested and doesn't ask you out, he is an idiot.
If he's taken and not interested, you can just continue to say your morning hello's.

razorblunt

Yeah I don't see what's wrong with it, same as someone asking for a number in a shop or pub really, you just happen to be indoors on those occasions.

The approach is what makes it though. I don't think I've ever seen anything as creepy as the lads on the French Underground particularly at Gare du Nord trying to pick up girls.
The cringe was horrific.

the_pen_turner

what is he doing when you pass him. working , walking to work, waiting fo a bus.

Koolhanger

Artic Simian wrote: »

My above ideas were just me joking, as if I'd trip up a total stranger in the street!! I've had guys ask me out in cafes before by slipping their number across and while I didn't call them for whatever reason at the time, it's a nice thing to happen if it's not done sleazily!

Agreed. It wouldn't freak me out if I was asked. I'd just be flattered. I say go for it.

Can't believe you had to highlight that your original 'ideas' were jokes, for some readers :rolleyes:

cherryghost

I talked to a stranger one day by saving her life. Maybe you can just tug his coat before he crosses the street and point out he was about to get hit by a car. He'll thank you and take it from there.

dhaughton99

the_pen_turner wrote: »

what is he doing when you pass him. working , walking to work, waiting fo a bus.

Kicking dogs and yelling at children.

Foggy Jew

This is what I would do. Catch his eye. Hold the look a bit longer than you would if he were an ordinary stranger, and maybe a shadow of a smile. That will pique his interest. Next time you see him, catch his eye and really smile. Do that a couple of times. You will soon know if he has a shred of interest in you. I would test the water like that before running the risk of being shot down in flames in the street and having to recalculate your route to work. The very best of luck.....If it's for you, it won't pass you....(notwithstanding the fact that he passes you twice a day....:D:D:D

Artic Simian

Koolhanger wrote: »

Artic Simian wrote: »

My above ideas were just me joking, as if I'd trip up a total stranger in the street!! I've had guys ask me out in cafes before by slipping their number across and while I didn't call them for whatever reason at the time, it's a nice thing to happen if it's not done sleazily!

Agreed. It wouldn't freak me out if I was asked. I'd just be flattered. I say go for it.

Can't believe you had to highlight that your original 'ideas' were jokes, for some readers :rolleyes:

Haha I know!! Like I'd leap out in front of someone singing stop in the name of love and expect them to go, oh hello, how about we get it on!!

Sky King

Leave earlier and earlier every day. Meet him earlier and earlier on his commute.

Eventually using this method you'll find out where he lives.

Take this to its logical conclusion - if you leave early enough you'll end up in his bed.

Pyr0

Artic Simian wrote: »

Sooo, here's the lowdown. Every morning on my way to work I take the same route and I inevitably pass by this ridiculously cute guy. We often make contact but obviously never say anything as we're complete strangers. This has been going on for months now, I also see him on the way home. I've started to daydream about ways of sparking up a conversation with him in the hopes of him asking me out and falling madly in love with me.

That's cool and all but are you good looking?

Koolhanger

Artic Simian wrote: »

Haha I know!! Like I'd leap out in front of someone singing stop in the name of love and expect them to go, oh hello, how about we get it on!!

Although... maybe, just maybe... :D

mad muffin

It’s pretty easy.

“How much for half an hour?”

Thank me later.

frosty123

i'm kinda in the same senario as the OP.....there's this cute check-out girl in my local supermarket, she keeps giving me the "glad eyes" i don't whether to ask her out at the checkout or wait till i see her walking around town..which is the better scenario ?

Artic Simian

Pyr0 wrote: »

Artic Simian wrote: »

Sooo, here's the lowdown. Every morning on my way to work I take the same route and I inevitably pass by this ridiculously cute guy. We often make contact but obviously never say anything as we're complete strangers. This has been going on for months now, I also see him on the way home. I've started to daydream about ways of sparking up a conversation with him in the hopes of him asking me out and falling madly in love with me.

That's cool and all but are you good looking?

Traffic stoppingly so.. true story

Artic Simian

frosty123 wrote: »

i'm kinda in the same senario as the OP.....there's this cute check-out girl in my local supermarket, she keeps giving me the "glad eyes" i don't whether to ask her out at the checkout or wait till i see her walking around town..which is the better scenario ?

That's easy... go up to the till with a tub of vaseline, a box of condoms and a mens health magazine. Slip a twenty across the counter and say 'keep the change ya filthy animal'. She'll be tripping over herself to get to ya!

Witchie

As you pass him, stop and say "excuse me do you have the time?" 
When he tries to tell you the time say "sorry, I meant, do you have the time to grab a coffee or drink with me sometime?"

OP, just stop him and say "hi". It's not rocket science. Most people react well to honest compliments and get his details so that you can arrange for a coffee later. Since you're both probably busy, don't try to hold his attention immediately.. and you can chat by phone/IM until you arrange to meet later. Just convert to meeting quickly, and avoid the temptation to keep it to online messaging..

Also, don't make up the story before it happens, creating a fantasy. Right now, you only know him to be cute. He could be gay, married or a total muppet. Aim for a coffee date to find out more.

Women asking guys out should be encouraged. Maybe that way they'll understand the pressures/risks involved, and become more sympathetic/informed to the realities of dating.

Boom_Bap

Start off with saying Hi. See how he responds.

Pyr0

Artic Simian wrote: »

Traffic stoppingly so.. true story

It doesn't count when you walk out in front of the traffic! :pac:

facehugger99

The creepiness is inversely proportional to how good-looking you are.

corner of hells

OP , find out if he has a dog.
If he does and walks it regularly , it means he's an animal lover, is active and picks up **** on the street

I'll get my coat.

Baby01032012

Artic Simian wrote: »

Traffic stoppingly so.. true story

Photo or GTFO After Hours LMAO

Sassygirl1999

Whenever I get asked out in a place that could get mugged I tend to get spooked

SomeSayKos

frosty123 wrote: »

i'm kinda in the same senario as the OP.....there's this cute check-out girl in my local supermarket, she keeps giving me the "glad eyes" i don't whether to ask her out at the checkout or wait till i see her walking around town..which is the better scenario ?

They're both not great scenarios!

hatrickpatrick

In the #metoo era we're supposed to believe that sexual advances have to be limited to a fairly restricted set of acceptable circumstances - location, professional / authoritative relationship to one's crush, telepathy, etc. Personally I regard all that as total bullsh!t - an initial advance can't be considered harassment regardless of its setting, only a persistent advance following a rejection.

I'm very libertarian when it comes to sex so I wouldn't suggest that my opinion is widely held, but in my view just go for it. Best case scenario you get a date, medium case scenario you get rejected but gently, worst case scenario the guy is an SJW type who unloads on you for not acting like we're living in the Victorian era.

In my view that worst case scenario has a silver lining in that it'd probably make an at least semi-amusing story to share with your mates over a few drinks at the weekend.

Go for it!

Wheety

Mariah Witty Manicurist wrote: »

You've developed a relationship with an imaginary person you've superimposed on someone you don't know. This might confuse you when he is unlikely to happen to be like the imaginary person. By all means try to refoncile your idea of him with reality and actually talk to him, but don't confuse the two.

...incidentally the approaches you descrube above would have caused me personally to move swiftly on, no matter how good looking you were.

Appropriate username.

valoren

facehugger99 wrote: »

The creepiness is inversely proportional to how good-looking you are.

The Creep/Cute Scale.

Hunk stops to ask for number = How Cute! Just like in the movies!
Not-a-Hunk stops to ask for number = OMG! What a ****ing Creep!!!

Is it any wonder dating sites are as popular as they are.

Plopsu

Sooooo, you pass this guy twice a day and haven't managed to spark up an escalating conversation? Cause that a lot of opportunity right there.

Red_Wake

Success in this won't rely so much on what you say, as what you're wearing.

lalababa

Artic Simian wrote: »

Sooo, here's the lowdown. Every morning on my way to work I take the same route and I inevitably pass by this ridiculously cute guy. We often make contact but obviously never say anything as we're complete strangers. This has been going on for months now, I also see him on the way home. I've started to daydream about ways of sparking up a conversation with him in the hopes of him asking me out and falling madly in love with me. 
So far, I've come up with.. giving him a high five as he passes by,  sticking my leg out and purposefully tripping him over then pointing and laughing like a true ledge, jumping out in front of his path saying 'Stop in the name of love!'... real suave or saying 'excuse me, I'm doing a survey on cute guys asking girls out on the street, what are your thoughts on this?'
I'm a big believer in nothing ventured nothing gained and take life by the balls so I'm not afraid of actually asking him out but is it weird or creepy to stop someone in the street. Obviously, my above methods are not genuine ways but is there a way of doing this? He definitely checks me out (I'm pretty damn gorgeous) but he's yet to make a move. 
Would you lot ask somebody out in the street, on a bus, anywhere without the crutch of alcohol? If I saw him in a bar I'd climb him like a tree but I obviously can't do that on a busy street... or can i?

Ask him the time!

Hammer89

I'd say go for it. Regrets aren't good. I used to be in love with a girl who worked on the deli in Centra in Swords. She was around 23, beautiful and very nice to me.

I was morbidly obese at the time, and when you're morbidly obese then you will read it as love if the opposite sex and a stranger is nice to you. This is because strangers aren't very nice to you when you're that size; doors don't get held open for you at the bank, nobody smiles at you, people in cars turn their heads 90 degrees to gawk at you. Remember that creepy audience member in The Late Late Show one time, who turned his head at the camera randomly? That's what it was like, the people in cars.

What were we talking about? Ah yes, the love of my life.

This one time, she gave me a few extra sausage rolls - probably 10 for the price of seven or something because, as I said, I was fat - and I was like, 'Ugh, have my babies'.

Anywho, I lost a fair amount of weight and hadn't seen her since. I always fantasised about asking her out. Not that I ever would've done it because, you know, I was pretty low on confidence, but I always wondered what her answer would be.

Anywho, I wound up moving out of the area and losing a fair amount of weight, to the point where I was getting a lot more female attention during nights out and stuff. Being honest, I actually turned into a bit of a ride I think. I rediscovered a jaw and a few inches of penis that I thought were lost to obesity forever. It's about six months after last seeing her, and I'm back in Swords. 'Hmm, she might say yes if I ask her out now you know,' I think to myself.

With my new jaw and new willy I return to Centra. I run through the sliding doors before they open. I jump over the counter. I pull her by the apron and say, 'Thanks for being sound to me when I was a fat c*nt'. I then kiss her and carry her to the back seat of the Punto where we make love until Monday. That's what was going to happen in my head anyway.

What really happened is she wasn't there. It wouldn't have been her day off because she only worked weekends I think, so I imagine she simply completed college and got a real job or something. Dunno. I still think about her. I often fantasise about bumping into her in town or something, on a night out. I'm not as ridey anymore because I've since gained a few stone back, but still nowhere near as big as I was, so I might still ask her if that does happen. She isn't quite the one that got away, because she'd ring the guards on me if she saw any of this, but she's the one that could've been.

super_furry

Sorry, I'm already married.

Steve F

Artic Simian wrote: »

Traffic stoppingly so.. true story

Pictures or it's not true :P

CPTM

I was once handed a business card in New York city by someone walking by. It had "You caught my eye" written on it. I think the idea was to pass it on to someone else.

If you think he sees you everyday too, you could do the same. Have a little note with "You caught my eye" with your first name and your mobile number written underneath it. Worst case scenario is you give a guy a compliment.

But if he contacts you, make sure and go through the "he's not an axe wielding maniac" checklist before going home with him. Just in case you have a Meg Ryan/Tom Hanks type story going back and forth in your head.

Actually the worst case scenario is that he's an axe wielding maniac.

Gonad

Mariah Witty Manicurist wrote: »

You've developed a relationship with an imaginary person you've superimposed on someone you don't know. This might confuse you when he is unlikely to happen to be like the imaginary person. By all means try to refoncile your idea of him with reality and actually talk to him, but don't confuse the two.

...incidentally the approaches you descrube above would have caused me personally to move swiftly on, no matter how good looking you were.

I’d say you’re fun at funerals .

Katgurl

Why is this so complicated? Just say "hi, how are you?" next time you walk by with a big smile.

Baron Kurtz

CPTM wrote: »

I was once handed a business card in New York city by someone walking by. It had "You caught my eye" written on it. I think the idea was to pass it on to someone else.

If you think he sees you everyday too, you could do the same. Have a little note with "You caught my eye" with your first name and your mobile number written underneath it. Worst case scenario is you give a guy a compliment.

But if he contacts you, make sure and go through the "he's not an axe wielding maniac" checklist before going home with him. Just in case you have a Meg Ryan/Tom Hanks type story going back and forth in your head.

Actually the worst case scenario is that he's an axe wielding maniac.

Was it a fish?

"And quick as a flash, Stew..... Tom O'Connor says, Are you a sardine?!"

suicide_circus

I wouldn't bother with a date, just tell him to give you a quick rattle down a lane

daheff

drop your phone on the ground as he walks past. Let him pick it up for you. When he does say to him "as you've got my phone, you might as well give me your number"

take it from there.


if he doesnt pick up your phone for you then hes not worth talking too. (or if he picks it up and runs away with it either!)

rizzodun

suicide_circus wrote: »

I wouldn't bother with a date, just tell him to give you a quick rattle down a lane

Is she a spray can or something?