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Neice univited me to her Hen

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  • #152
    alan partridge aha
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,337 ✭✭✭alan partridge aha


    Wildly Boaring wrote: »
    A hens?

    Hen
    Hen party
    Hen night
    Hens?

    The OP just seems to love a bit of drama.
    Niece happy out with her ignoring her I reckon

    I see seriously doubt that If I was aunt id forget about niece and her sprog.


  • #153
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 15,706 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    alan partridge aha, yellow card following an ontbread warning to read the Forum Charter. Do not post in this thread again.

    All posters are reminded to keep their posts civil. Even if you feel the OP is at fault there are ways of advising and getting your point across without resorting to childish ridicule. That sort of posting is not welcome here.


  • #154
    iguana
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,917 ✭✭✭✭iguana


    Big Bag of Chips wrote: »
    I hope you at least RSVP'd that you weren't going, rather than just not show up.

    I'm more worried about the opposite. That the OP might have made it clear from January until the wedding that she wouldn't be 'going where she wasn't really wanted' and basically playing a game of chicken so she'd get a hen invite (plus grovelling apology) in order to ensure her presence at the wedding. And the poor bride held firm and called her bluff. Which would probably have caused her massive stress and heartache for the months before her wedding no matter how stoic a facade she would have presented.

    I don't know if you are still reading OP but honestly, all we are getting is your side of the story and even at that most of us are finding all our sympathy with your niece. Which means that in all likelihood your behaviour was even worse than in the story you are presenting. The thing is, that if it was my wedding and you'd turned down the hen night invitation and then changed your mind and wanted back in, that would have been fine. I went for dinner and drinks the week before my wedding and you could have decided right up until we went home that night to have joined us. So if I had told you three months beforehand that it was too late to change your mind, you'd be right. That would have been a slight. But it sounds like your niece had at least a weekend away booked and a number of activities planned and booked. It's very possible that there was no way to change that with three months notice.

    I am wondering what kind of activities your niece booked? Were they activities that would have been difficult/dangerous for you due to your cataracts? Activities she wouldn't have booked if you'd accepted the invite in the first place? But that she had the opportunity to do when you declined? I could see how that would feel hurtful and make you (irrationally) feel unwanted. I could also see how a text explaining this might have made you feel angry.


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