Is it true most men wouldn't turn down free sex?

lukasgrenwald

Heard this on the radio that if a husband/wife went for a lad's/gals trip abroad, were met by a stunner at a bar alone and could have an affair that no one would ever know about, around 30-40% of women would take the offer and 60-80% of men would.

Is this true? It's true in a biological sense men have less to lose from sex so I'm wondering if pregnancy and STD's were off the table for a married man along with the guarantee of secrecy, would nearly every one of them have a fling?

Warts are caused by a virus and most of the time the virus lies dormant in your system, it's not curable. Your best options are removal via a salicylic acid treatment or freezing and neither of those are guaranteed to be successful or may take repeated attempts to work. They sometimes disappear by themselves but I wouldn't waste any money on alternative remedies or healers, if any of those seem to have worked the likely explanation is coincidence, the wart went away by itself and the witch doctor got the credit.

corks finest

lukasgrenwald wrote: »

Heard this on the radio that if a husband/wife went for a lad's/gals trip abroad, were met by a stunner at a bar alone and could have an affair that no one would ever know about, around 30-40% of women would take the offer and 60-80% of men would.

Is this true? It's true in a biological sense men have less to lose from sex so I'm wondering if pregnancy and STD's were off the table for a married man along with the guarantee of secrecy, would nearly every one of them have a fling?

Don't believe it

Heres Johnny

Only thing that would stop me and most guys I know (Talking guys 20s to early 40s here) is if we thought we were being set up for a scam or the girl would become a bunny boiler.
No strings attached, get a good ride and no repercussions and no STD? I'd say the 60 to 80% figure would be about right

professore

In theory I would have said yes - but it happened to me in practice once with a married work colleague after a long dinner with lots of alcohol and outside my bedroom door I was presented with the option and I turned it down.

shakeitoff

Turned down loads of times. Woke up one night to a girl grinding on me and just had to sort of throw her off lmao, she was hot too.

Dave0301

lukasgrenwald wrote: »

Heard this on the radio that if a husband/wife went for a lad's/gals trip abroad, were met by a stunner at a bar alone and could have an affair that no one would ever know about, around 30-40% of women would take the offer and 60-80% of men would.

Is this true? It's true in a biological sense men have less to lose from sex so I'm wondering if pregnancy and STD's were off the table for a married man along with the guarantee of secrecy, would nearly every one of them have a fling?

Candie wrote: »

Warts are caused by a virus and most of the time the virus lies dormant in your system, it's not curable. Your best options are removal via a salicylic acid treatment or freezing and neither of those are guaranteed to be successful or may take repeated attempts to work. They sometimes disappear by themselves but I wouldn't waste any money on alternative remedies or healers, if any of those seem to have worked the likely explanation is coincidence, the wart went away by itself and the witch doctor got the credit.

I feel like something has gone missing between the OP and the first response

suicide_circus

the wife wouldn't know but I'd know every time I looked in the mirror.

TheValeyard

Dave0301 wrote: »

I feel like something has gone missing between the OP and the first response

Yeah I read it twice wondering where the link was and maybe just the mention of STDs. Lol.

Pawwed Rig

suicide_circus wrote: »

the wife wouldn't know but I'd know every time I looked in the mirror.

A conscience is a terrible thing for those of us afflicted by it.

I guess I'd be in the minority of men then. Sounds like pure effort, nevermind the betrayal etc. Wearing a condom again for the first time in seven years would make me feel like a teenager.

D3V!L

I get free sex at home. Why would I want it when I had a night out from a randomer ?

PandaPoo

suicide_circus wrote: »

the wife wouldn't know but I'd know every time I looked in the mirror.

Yep that's my take on it too. My husband's friend was with a girl for 10 years, and spent the last 2 having an affair. It's completely broken her and she's miserable and has no confidence.

I just couldn't do that to my husband, I love him so much and the thought of hurting him or breaking his trust would kill me. Even if he never found out I couldn't cuddle him with that on my mind, it would eat me up.

Roger Hassenforder

shakeitoff wrote: »

Turned down loads of times. Woke up one night to a girl grinding on me and just had to sort of throw her off lmao, she was hot too.

Username checks out

JohnnyFlash

Some lads get fierce randy, especially if they’ve had a few pints. Would get up on the crack of a plate. Going around like a tomcat with two dicks.

JMNolan

No such thing as free sex, you always pay somehow

FrancieBrady

It wouldn't be 'free'. Guilt is a heavy price to pay.

awec

A lot of men are all talk. Easy to say yes when it's purely hypothetical.

arybvtcw0eolkf

Couldn't be bothered with the betrayal and the effort, and tbh one night stands are usually sh*t.

Dr Turk Turkelton

corks finest wrote: »

Don't believe it

I concur, Id say the percentage for men would be way higher.

suicide_circus wrote: »

the wife wouldn't know but I'd know every time I looked in the mirror.

And give yourself a high five in the mirror?

randomrb

There is a theoretical world where no-strings attached sex exists but its not this one. There is a big difference being asked a question and being faced with potentially turning your world upside down for a cheap fling.

whisky_galore

There has to be a catch.

JohnnyFlash

randomrb wrote: »

There is a theoretical world where no-strings attached sex exists but its not this one. There is a big difference being asked a question and being faced with potentially turning your world upside down for a cheap fling.

It’s what leads a lot of people to the door of AA. They wake up having done the dirt on their partner, and no recollection of how it happened.

Mokuba

If I tell someone I'll be faithful then I'll be faithful. I would have enough respect for my partner not to demean them like that. Even if they didn't know, I would know, and your word is your bond.

I would hold any potential other half to the same standard. Even a kiss with someone else would be game over, regardless of length of time of relationship.

If I were interested in sex with other people I would end the relationship and pursue that then.

Theboinkmaster

A man is only ever as faithful as his options.

Mokuba

Theboinkmaster wrote: »

A man is only ever as faithful as his options.

Speak for yourself.

Roger Hassenforder

PandaPoo wrote: »

I just couldn't do that to my husband, wife I love her so much and the thought of hurting her or breaking his trust would kill me. Even if she never found out I couldn't cuddle her with that on my mind, it would eat me up.

Mokuba wrote: »

If I tell someone I'll be faithful then I'll be faithful. I would have enough respect for my partner not to demean them like that. Even if they didn't know, I would know, and your word is your bond.

I would hold any potential other half to the same standard. Even a kiss with someone else would be game over, regardless of length of time of relationship.

About sums it up for me.
I wouldn't like them to do it to me, therefore I hope never to do it to them.

posturingpat

Seems on the big side to me.
Of all my friends in serious relationships or married there's only 1 that has admitted he would as we had this conversation in the pub recently and we wouldn't exactly be a bunch of choir boys.
Any of the lads that have got wed get far more attention from women these days than they ever have before when single, we used to head over to Cheltenham for the races or Manchester for a game and they'd be scraping around at the end of the night trying to take any woman they could back to the hotel, now they've the wedding ring on the women are queueing up. What's the story there?
I'm thinking of purchasing a ring for this purpose

Will I Am Not

shakeitoff wrote: »

Turned down loads of times. Woke up one night to a girl grinding on me and just had to sort of throw her off lmao, she was hot too.

#youtoo?

professore

posturingpat wrote: »

Any of the lads that have got wed get far more attention from women these days than they ever have before when single, we used to head over to Cheltenham for the races or Manchester for a game and they'd be scraping around at the end of the night trying to take any woman they could back to the hotel, now they've the wedding ring on the women are queueing up. What's the story there?
I'm thinking of purchasing a ring for this purpose

Can confirm. Never understood that tbh.

Arrival

I'd never cheat, I had a couple of opportunities while in my last relationship where girls were really flirty and getting very touchy and I got up and went to different pubs. It's as simple as this; if you wouldn't be okay with your partner doing it to you then you shouldn't do it to your partner. If you're capable of cheating then you shouldn't be in a relationship as you are a going to cause an inevitable disaster, stay single and sleep with whoever you want (but that's the thing, losers like this can't get laid consistently so they get in relationships just for regular sex and are opportunists when they get a chance with someone new. Dickheads)

People need to start placing more importance on their integrity, it really is imperative to be strong in this regard.

professore

professore wrote: »

Can confirm. Never understood that tbh.

"Good enough to get married? Good enough for me."

"Guaranteed to be only one night."

spurious

Never understood why a majority of men do not call time on the 'animals ruled by their penis/sex drive' portrayal of men which the sort of report referred to by the OP kind of implies.

I don't believe it's true, any more than the 'girls aren't as interested in sex as boys are' myth.

There is desire (lust, if you want to call it that) and there is self-control. Both men and women have both. Sometimes at the one time, amazingly enough.

Roger Hassenforder

posturingpat wrote: »

Seems on the big side to me.
Of all my friends in serious relationships or married there's only 1 that has admitted he would as we had this conversation in the pub recently and we wouldn't exactly be a bunch of choir boys.
Any of the lads that have got wed get far more attention from women these days than they ever have before when single, we used to head over to Cheltenham for the races or Manchester for a game and they'd be scraping around at the end of the night trying to take any woman they could back to the hotel, now they've the wedding ring on the women are queueing up. What's the story there?
I'm thinking of purchasing a ring for this purpose

Can also confirm.
At a certain age, they seem to look at a ring as some sort of validation record, that another of their kind has determined you're of some quality, worthy of further investigation.

No ring suggests you've taken it off and are a scut, or have failed several validation processes and are useless. Or a psycho.
It's a signal to avoid.


Better bet though, is a puppy with a paw in a bandage (sheepdogs particulary suited).
Pure gold.

Pawwed Rig

spurious wrote: »

Never understood why a majority of men do not call time on the 'animals ruled by their penis/sex drive' portrayal of men which the sort of report referred to by the OP kind of implie.

The majority of men bear scant resemblence to how they are portrayed by an increasingly hostile media. Personally I take an interest in this portrayal and the whole left wing feminist agenda however most men (and women) ignore it completely.

Candie

Candie wrote: »

Warts are caused by a virus and most of the time the virus lies dormant in your system, it's not curable. Your best options are removal via a salicylic acid treatment or freezing and neither of those are guaranteed to be successful or may take repeated attempts to work. They sometimes disappear by themselves but I wouldn't waste any money on alternative remedies or healers, if any of those seem to have worked the likely explanation is coincidence, the wart went away by itself and the witch doctor got the credit.

Dave0301 wrote: »

I feel like something has gone missing between the OP and the first response

Oh my GOD! Not only the wrong thread, but also the wrong forum.

This is what happens when you don't sleep, folks.

Regarding the OP, some cheat, some don't. I wouldn't be able to look my chap in the eye again if I did the dirt on him, and it would eat me up from the inside out even if he never found out. Nothing is worth that.

Roger Hassenforder

Candie wrote: »

Oh my GOD! Not only the wrong thread, but also the wrong forum.

This is what happens when you don't sleep, folks.

Regarding the OP, some cheat, some don't. I wouldn't be able to look my chap in the eye again if I did the dirt on him, and it would eat me up from the inside out even if he never found out. Nothing is worth that.

"Look your chap in the eye" ...."warts"..."eating you up"....
Put me right off an affair

sbsquarepants

Candie wrote: »

Oh my GOD! Not only the wrong thread, but also the wrong forum.

.

Did you think you were in the witch doctor forum?:eek::eek:

Roger Hassenforder

Roger Hassenforder wrote: »

"Look your chap in the eye" ...."warts"..."eating you up"....
Put me right off an affair

Then my work here is done, Roger. Good to know I've played my part in keeping you on the straight and narrow. Or the gay and narrow, if applicable.

You're welcome. :pac:

sbsquarepants

sbsquarepants wrote: »

Did you think you were in the witch doctor forum?:eek::eek:

That's a forum I'd follow.

PirateShampoo

After reading this thread I've come to the conclusion that a lot of you guys have told your girlfriends about Boards and your Usernames.

Pintman Paddy Losty

Myself and most of my mates would all score birds on our golfing trips away or on stags. Part of the fun of a lads holiday. Never done my marriage any harm. What they don't know can't hurt them!

why leave a perfectly good bar to go and have sex with a woman?

sounds like an odd thing to do.

partyguinness

I shagged a women on my stag in the front seat of my car. She was not a stunner...

Did I feel guilty? No

It was very anonymous, didnt even know her name and nobody else knew or ever found out. It was in a different country and put it down to just some random craic on a boozy weekend away.

Not defending it. Meant absolutely zero. In fact I had clean forgotten about it until reading this thread. Couldn't pick her out of a line up.

Dave0301

Candie wrote: »

Oh my GOD! Not only the wrong thread, but also the wrong forum.

This is what happens when you don't sleep, folks.

Regarding the OP, some cheat, some don't. I wouldn't be able to look my chap in the eye again if I did the dirt on him, and it would eat me up from the inside out even if he never found out. Nothing is worth that.

I thought it might have been some threat to the OP about what would happen if they did the bold thing on their better half :pac:

Westernyelp

Load of nonsense. 80% of men are not complete assholés

Dave0301

Dave0301 wrote: »

I thought it might have been some threat to the OP about what would happen if they did the bold thing on their better half :pac:

A warty cautionary tale!

No, sadly it's just me being stupid.

Dave0301

partyguinness wrote: »

I shagged a women on my stag in the front seat of my car. She was not a stunner...

Did I feel guilty? No

It was very anonymous, didnt even know her name and nobody else knew or ever found out. It was in a different country and put it down to just some random craic on a boozy weekend away.

Not defending it. Meant absolutely zero. In fact I had clean forgotten about it until reading this thread. Couldn't pick her out of a line up.

Not trying to be a smart arse, but how did you find standing up in front of your family, friends (and your wife's) and committing to her?

No guilt? Or was it a case of fook it, I had my fun?

Also, was a boozy hookup with someone you don't think was that attractive worth the potential fall out if word ever got back?

Arrival

Pintman Paddy Losty wrote: »

Myself and most of my mates would all score birds on our golfing trips away or on stags. Part of the fun of a lads holiday. Never done my marriage any harm. What they don't know can't hurt them!

Absolute scumbags

Arrival

partyguinness wrote: »

I shagged a women on my stag in the front seat of my car. She was not a stunner...

Did I feel guilty? No

It was very anonymous, didnt even know her name and nobody else knew or ever found out. It was in a different country and put it down to just some random craic on a boozy weekend away.

Not defending it. Meant absolutely zero. In fact I had clean forgotten about it until reading this thread. Couldn't pick her out of a line up.

Cretin

Duckjob

Wouldn't be for me. My mind would already be fast forwarding to the 5 mins after the act to when I'd start thinking about what I had done to the wonderful person I go home to and the guilt would take over.

It wouldnt matter if she never knew about it - I would know, and knowing what i had done i wouldnt be able to carry on as if nothing had happened.