Would you encourage your teenage daughter to use a vibrator?

A Pint of Goo

Thought I was done fapping for the evening. Sigh.

*unzips katana

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Outlaw Pete

Went out with one girl when I was around 19 who told me her mother taught her how to masturbate She was raised to say she was going to do it in the same way you'd say you were going to your room to play computer games or whatever. I stayed over at her place loads and her mother would walk around in a bikini and tell us to have fun when we were going to bed. I think the daughter was more prudish than the mother. One night when we were doing it she got into bed with us and... nah, but I kept an eye on the damn door in hope, I can tell ya

Anyway, seems they were ahead of their time as it's all the rage today, and sure why not. Sure beats leaving the sitting room nervously coughing when Miley started kissing yer woman in the hay barn that time (hay barn is not a euphemism).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0vPqxSVaG4

Defunkd

Seeing as i'm over 18 i have no comment whatsoever about instructing a teenager of any gender how to masturbate nor do i want to enter into any sexual related topic.



The op could be one of these 'catch a pedophile' vigilante groups.

Esel

OP is on shaky ground...

Irish Guitarist

Hammer89 wrote: »

You don't; you ask the mother.

I should point out that this thread wouldn't be as controversial if it was about giving a 15-year-old boy a copy of Penthouse. Either way you're encouraging masturbation but it's a lot more taboo when it's a female and that's precisely the problem. The subject is far weirder than it actually is in my view.

Your idea that parents go around giving their male children porn isn't as common an occurrence as you seem to think it is. This might happen in some American sitcom but I've never heard of this happening in the real world.

I used to rob the Sunday World free magazine on my parents and cut out the pages with models advertising lingerie and would hang them on my bedroom wall. I didn't think my parents would ever need to come into my room for anything. Then one evening my neighbours called round and said they wanted to look around the house for some decorating tips. My father went upstairs with them and showed them around. I'm pretty sure he showed them my bedroom because when the woman came back into the sitting room she seemed to be avoiding making eye contact with me.

The idea of my parents telling me to yank away at myself is just as weird a concept as them telling my sisters to go out and treat themselves to a black mamba.

Hammer89

Irish Guitarist wrote: »

Your idea that parents go around giving their male children porn isn't as common an occurrence as you seem to think it is. This might happen in some American sitcom but I've never heard of this happening in the real world.

I didn't say it was common; I said there'd be less outrage and most likely less suggestions that I'm a paedophile if the thread was about teenage lads instead of teenage girls, which I think is true.

Johnnyhpipe

My parents never taught me and I turned out to be a right little wanker

ThinkProgress

Hammer89 wrote: »

I didn't say it was common; I said there'd be less outrage and most likely less suggestions that I'm a paedophile if the thread was about teenage lads instead of teenage girls, which I think is true.

You strike me as someone, that is just a bit lacking in decorum...

Not every aspect of life needs to be open and transparent. Sometimes it's in much better taste, to just leave some things unsaid/unseen.

The kidz will be alright... they don't need their hand held through every single aspect of their development. It's best to let them figure certain things out on their own, in their own way and in their own time!

BurnUp78

One of my old friends from primary school apparently had his first **** with his dad in the sitting room, his dad **** too, watching some porno together. We didn't go to the same secondary schools so I unfortunately never got the chance to slag him over it.

Wanderer78

BurnUp78 wrote:

One of my old friends from primary school apparently had his first **** with his dad in the sitting room, his dad **** too, watching some porno together. We didn't go to the same secondary schools so I unfortunately never got the chance to slag him over it.

This worked out well in the Fred and rose west household!

sbsquarepants

BurnUp78 wrote: »

One of my old friends from primary school apparently had his first **** with his dad in the sitting room, his dad **** too, watching some porno together. We didn't go to the same secondary schools so I unfortunately never got the chance to slag him over it.

Fúcking hell - that's Jimmy Saville shít:eek:

sbsquarepants

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Sure beats leaving the sitting room nervously coughing when Miley started kissing yer woman in the hay barn that time (hay barn is not a euphemism).

Well it certainly should be:D

Many years back, I actually ran into the lovely fidelma in a bar in town, would have been around that time I suppose - I tried to work my magic on her, but she was somehow impervious to my charm, so I never did get to play in her hay barn:mad:

A Pint of Goo

I thought the gym teacher did this anyway?

Malayalam

It's best avoided, you know how competitive teenage girls are. Young Megan gets a cute vibrator from her parents for her birthday, and by the following Christmas little Amy finds this chap under the tree...



:rolleyes:

Sin City

Sin City wrote: »

Thats Christmas sorted

Vibrator for daughter
Fleshlight for son :D:D

Sofiztikated wrote: »

As with any Christmas pressies, don't forget the 4AA batteries.

They can literally go fcuk themselves

El_Duderino 09

Talking about sexuality should be easy enough if you’re honest about it from the start. P

So I’d be fine with talking about masturbation but the thread question is about whether you’d encourage your daughter to use a vibrator which I don’t think I’d do. If they asked for information or asked to help them get a vibrator then I’d be fine with that.

AndrewJRenko

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0vPqxSVaG4

There's something amazingly normal, sensible and mature about the video - just parents talking to their kids about masturbation. I'm not sure I could do the parent's role, but I really should.

I do confess to having a little giggle at YouTube's auto-subtitles attempt at 'pretend penis'.

A Pint of Goo

I remember reading an article in the Metro where the female author (a man would be burned out of his house for being a pedo if he wrote what she did) unironically saying parents should teach their daughters how to masturbate.

El_Duderino 09

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

I remember reading an article in the Metro where the female author (a man would be burned out of his house for being a pedo if he wrote what she did) unironically saying parents should teach their daughters how to masturbate.

Sounds sensible. I’d say they should teach children about masturbation what it is, why people do it and, yes, how to do it.

A Pint of Goo

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Sounds sensible. I’d say they should teach children about masturbation what it is, why people do it and, yes, how to do it.

Yeah a great way to traumatise your child.

AndrewJRenko

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Yeah a great way to traumatise your child.

So you reckon all those kids in the video are traumatised?

A Pint of Goo

AndrewJRenko wrote: »

So you reckon all those kids in the video are traumatised?

No one wants to talk to their parents about masturbation.

AndrewJRenko

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

No one wants to talk to their parents about masturbation.

Maybe no-one in Ireland who has been brought up with traditional Irish Catholic repressed attitudes to sexuality wants to talk to their parents about masturbation.

Some of the kids in the video seemed to be mildly embarrassed, but no worst than that.

irishrebe

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

I remember reading an article in the Metro where the female author (a man would be burned out of his house for being a pedo if he wrote what she did) unironically saying parents should teach their daughters how to masturbate.

Sounds sensible. I’d say they should teach children about masturbation what it is, why people do it and, yes, how to do it.

Why would anyone need to be taught this???

A Pint of Goo

AndrewJRenko wrote: »

Maybe no-one in Ireland who has been brought up with traditional Irish Catholic repressed attitudes to sexuality wants to talk to their parents about masturbation.

Some of the kids in the video seemed to be mildly embarrassed, but no worst than that.

Irish people are sexually repressed? Have you ever been out on a Saturday night? Seen what the girls wear?

The kids will be mortified once they reached puberty and realise not only did their weirdo parents talk to them about masturbation but they put it on youtube.

Gobble deGook

Hammer89 wrote: »

Saw this segment on This Morning last week and found it interesting. I don't have a teenage daughter but although I wouldn't give her a sex toy and say 'Off you go then princess', I would certainly encourage the mother to sit her down and explain to her that it's probably not the worst thing in the world if she wanted to go and explore her body intimately for the first time. I'm behind this for one reason: pleasure shouldn't be denied.

How many women of previous generations have gone their whole lives without ever experiencing a real orgasm? Many women can't climax from penetration alone, so a more surgical approach needs to be adopted, with extra attention dedicated to the clitoris, and personally I can't envisage a lot of men back in the day going to those lengths to please their ladies, nor can I envisage those women tending to their own needs, not while the church was still influential and a flick of the bean meant you were destined to spend the afterlife in hell.

It's sad really, and I don't see a major problem with ushering your teenage daughter into that world when they're old enough. Question is, when are they old enough? I wouldn't broach the subject before they're 15. I think 13 and 14 is a bit too young and it can be a confusing enough period as it is, but 15 seems okay.

I'm interested in other pros and cons here, but overall I feel as if pleasure - especially female pleasure, which can be a lot more intense and magical than what we experience - is something that be encouraged, not denied.

Whats wrong with doing it manually?
Like the old fashioned way- who would know?

El_Duderino 09

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Yeah a great way to traumatise your child.

Traumatise? Gerr-up outta that.

I think most of the embarrassment comes from the parents in these circumstances. And besides, embarrassment isn’t a good reason not to teach children about any aspect of personal hygiene.

I doubt it’s traumatic to hear about cleaning your bum after a poo or washing under your fore skin. Masturbation is a normal part of life and involves personal hygiene and sexual development.

Of course it’s a parents job to make sure the kids are informed.

El_Duderino 09

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Irish people are sexually repressed? Have you ever been out on a Saturday night? Seen what the girls wear?

That’s how repression works. You repress something in normal everyday life then it erupts in over the top outbursts. Saturday night is an example of the outburst, the people on this thread who think it’s wrong or embarrassing to talk to a child about a normal aspect of sexuality, is an example of the day to day repression.

A Pint of Goo

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Traumatise? Gerr-up outta that.

I think most of the embarrassment comes from the parents in these circumstances. And besides, embarrassment isn’t a good reason not to teach children about any aspect of personal hygiene.

I doubt it’s traumatic to hear about cleaning your bum after a poo or washing under your fore skin. Masturbation is a normal part of life and involves personal hygiene and sexual development.

Of course it’s a parents job to make sure the kids are informed.

No it's not! Jesus, you discover yourself how to do it. Why on earth would you need your parents to teach you?