Little moments that made you realise someone's no good

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My mam's friend is divorced from a real piece of sh1t. They were out taking a walk when she was pregnant, along with their friend and her small child. As they were taking a short cut through a field, all of a sudden he legs it, jumps the gate at the top and THEN called down to them "watch out, there's a bull". My mam was hearing this story told as a "haha what's he like" thing but remembers it as a decisive moment in terms of what she thought of him.

Someone else I know went to see The Sixth Sense with a mate, who copped the twist about 45 minutes in and loudly announced "OH I KNOW! HE'S DEAD TOO!". Had to have everyone know how clever he was, even though it meant ruining the rest of the film for them.

Anyone else got any little moments that might not seem like such a big deal but turn out to be the beginning of the end of your high regard for someone?

5rtytry56

A long time ago now, myself and a certain "partner" were late in submitting a project.

..Now, we were mature students - I shared the fact with this "gent" that we were accepted back to college on the basis we both did a year out in an IT role, (callcentre for me).

The course tutor, and head lecturer on the course did not have a particularly high opinion of both of us.

I had a conversation with this "partner" about the impact of the lateness of our project submission.
This "partner" assured me he had "fast - talked" [course tutor] into accepting our late submission.
Finally this "partner" would not do any weekend study with me. Just would'nt.

I endured the graduation ceremony with him the following October. A STUPID aunt, my mother's sister, commanded me to attend the graduation ceremony. That was it.

Realt Dearg Sec

What?

s15r330

5rtytry56 wrote: »

A long time ago now, myself and a certain "partner" were late in submitting a project.

..Now, we were mature students - I shared the fact with this "gent" that we were accepted back to college on the basis we both did a year out in an IT role, (callcentre for me).

The course tutor, and head lecturer on the course did not have a particularly high opinion of both of us.

I had a conversation with this "partner" about the impact of the lateness of our project submission.
This "partner" assured me he had "fast - talked" [course tutor] into accepting our late submission.
Finally this "partner" would not do any weekend study with me. Just would'nt.

I endured the graduation ceremony with him the following October. A STUPID aunt, my mother's sister, commanded me to attend the graduation ceremony. That was it.

I just had one of those moments...

tayto lover

My so-called "friend" ate my last Rolo.

JeffKenna

Angie Faint King wrote: »

Someone else I know went to see The Sixth Sense with a mate, who copped the twist about 45 minutes in and loudly announced "OH I KNOW! HE'S DEAD TOO!". Had to have everyone know how clever he was, even though it meant ruining the rest of the film for them.

Fuxk sake, you just ruined that movie for me!

endacl

Realt Dearg Sec wrote: »

What?

Forgot to disable <autoconfuse>, I'm guessing...

McMurphy

Any turd that openly admits to claiming compensation when there's shag all wrong with them.

One lad I know even had the nerve to make a fraudulent insurance claim on his holiday insurance, a holiday he went on, on the back of a 'whiplash' claim.

Bollocks said he had a load of stuff robbed from the beach and tried to claim the price of the holiday back. Not sure how the claim eventually ended up, but it's w@nkers like him that have the rest of us paying for sky high insurance premiums.

Lies.

I hate people who lie. Had a friend miss a meet up, just lunch. Texted her. 24 hours later she said she had been stuck at work and had forgotten her phone. She was stumped when I pointed out that there was about 30 people with mobiles at her workplace. She then said she had forgotten about lunch. But damage was done. Tore a strip off her, got a few messages afterwards where she was clearly trying to slide back into the friendship thing, told her that wasn't happening.

Donald Trump

She spits


'Tis only terrible bad manners so it is

Neon_Lights

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Lies.

I hate people who lie. Had a friend miss a meet up, just lunch. Texted her. 24 hours later she said she had been stuck at work and had forgotten her phone. She was stumped when I pointed out that there was about 30 people with mobiles at her workplace. She then said she had forgotten about lunch. But damage was done. Tore a strip off her, got a few messages afterwards where she was clearly trying to slide back into the friendship thing, told her that wasn't happening.

People these days are too demanding and have short friendship spans... And you're not even a woman, as if you've never fobbed anyone off

andekwarhola

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Lies.

I hate people who lie. Had a friend miss a meet up, just lunch. Texted her. 24 hours later she said she had been stuck at work and had forgotten her phone. She was stumped when I pointed out that there was about 30 people with mobiles at her workplace. She then said she had forgotten about lunch. But damage was done. Tore a strip off her, got a few messages afterwards where she was clearly trying to slide back into the friendship thing, told her that wasn't happening.

I've told the - very occasional - white lie to get out of a social occasion with friends, albeit with lots of notice. I'd never dream of just not showing up though.

AtomicHorror

Deleted User wrote: »

Lies.

I hate people who lie. Had a friend miss a meet up, just lunch. Texted her. 24 hours later she said she had been stuck at work and had forgotten her phone. She was stumped when I pointed out that there was about 30 people with mobiles at her workplace. She then said she had forgotten about lunch. But damage was done. Tore a strip off her, got a few messages afterwards where she was clearly trying to slide back into the friendship thing, told her that wasn't happening.

Seems harsh tbh.

Mint Sauce

When they punch you whilst drunk for no reason, other than for whats going on in their head.

AtomicHorror

Had a manager who used "retard" to describe most anyone who she did not like. I had a relative with an intellectual disability so that ragged me a lot. Also, she was not exactly Mensa grade material herself.

Wanderer2010

People who only talk to you when they need something off you and drip with insincerity, only to ignore you the second you don't have anything of value.

I regularly picked up a coffee for someone I used to work with if I was going out to get something for myself. I got him maybe ten coffees over a few months. He never offered to pay me for them, and I didn't expect him to.

The one and only time he asked me if I wanted something, he put it on the desk when he came in, took out the receipt to show me what I owed him and asked me to pay him immediately, which I did. It was a small chocolate bar, about a third of the price of one coffee.

I've been put off people before but that's the smallest thing I can think of.

Autochange

Rick Shaw wrote: »

Any turd that openly admits to claiming compensation when there's shag all wrong with them.

One lad I know even had the nerve to make a fraudulent insurance claim on his holiday insurance, a holiday he went on, on the back of a 'whiplash' claim.

Bollocks said he had a load of stuff robbed from the beach and tried to claim the price of the holiday back. Not sure how the claim eventually ended up, but it's w@nkers like him that have the rest of us paying for sky high insurance premiums.

Thats a clever idea about the beach stuff. Must remember that one. Thanks

Neon_Lights

When your housemate is incapable of buying toilet paper to wipe their own hole

Katgurl

I was in college as a mature student doing a predominantly male course. Myself and the only other same-age female gravitated toward each other. She was grand company but i did notice she was very good at mobilising other people to do her bidding; assignments, free grinds, collecting notes, lifts etc. I was financially comfortable for a student as worked and she used me like an atm. I copped this but didn't mind too much thinking its only money and i am not short atm.

Anyway my contracts finished and i went looking for other work. I got on very well with the department head so mentioned i was available to him and he began recommending students to me for grinds that had failed their 1st and 2nd year grinds. Soon i had a very handy source of regular income.

One day i was chatting to a guy from anothet course who said he had heard i gave great tuition and could i help him and a few buddies as they were all lost with certain areas. I said yes, check out how many and we would work out a price based on group size. I gave him my number but never heard from him.

Months later i bumped into him. It transpired he had misplaced phone shortly after speaking to me but recognised my friend on corridor and asked for my number. Imagine my surprise when he told me how she explained i was now booked out but how she would do him a better deal than me. She never breathed a word to me.

Wagon.

Wibbs

Katgurl wrote: »

Wagon.

Bloody right!

For me people who pull emotional stuff to try to get what they want are a red flag. People who force intimacy as "friends" too quickly. They'll alway turn out to be as reliable as a baby's arse.

Your Face

When they wouldn't start the dance.

Neon_Lights

Neon_Lights wrote: »

People these days are too demanding and have short friendship spans... And you're not even a woman, as if you've never fobbed anyone off

If it was a close friend, I'd be honest.

That's kinda the point of close friendships, there is trust. It distinguishes close friends from friends and acquaintances.

Benjamin Buttons

Deleted User wrote: »

Lies.

I hate people who lie. Had a friend miss a meet up, just lunch. Texted her. 24 hours later she said she had been stuck at work and had forgotten her phone. She was stumped when I pointed out that there was about 30 people with mobiles at her workplace. She then said she had forgotten about lunch. But damage was done. Tore a strip off her, got a few messages afterwards where she was clearly trying to slide back into the friendship thing, told her that wasn't happening.

It's not you Conor, it's her....or something.
Plenty more fish in the sea and all that bollox.
Straighten your back, smarten yourself up, and for chrissakes get over it man!

Tigger

Neon_Lights wrote: »

People these days are too demanding and have short friendship spans... And you're not even a woman, as if you've never fobbed anyone off

Also who even knows people's numbers these days?

Benjamin Buttons

Benjamin Buttons wrote: »

It's not you Conor, it's her....or something.
Plenty more fish in the sea and all that bollox.
Straighten your back, smarten yourself up, and for chrissakes get over it man!

Oh long since over it! Losing a close friend is disappointing. Heard a few things afterwards, she ripped off another close friend of both of ours, a friend of hers was involved in some very nasty business involving stealing money from vulnerable people etc.

Benjamin Buttons

Deleted User wrote: »

Oh long since over it! Losing a close friend is disappointing. Heard a few things afterwards, she ripped off another close friend of both of ours, a friend of hers was involved in some very nasty business involving stealing money from vulnerable people etc.

Good man. That's the spirit.

razorblunt

Anyone that treats animals poorly.
Anyone that acts rude to service staff.

freshpopcorn

When I was at college we had a practical class. I think I was out of the room or something but when I re entered the room people were starting to get ready. A girl grabbed me by the door and said that the lecturer said we were meant to pair up. I went off and started working and all off a sudden the lecturer came up to me and started giving out saying that we weren't meant to be in pairs.
The girl said that freshpopcorn came up to me and said that the lecturer said that we were meant to pair up.

Ms. Chanandler Bong

My store manager & assistant manager were in the office on a conference call with the district manager tearing strips off them. I had got some bad news from home and went to the canteen (beside the office) just to take a few minutes to calm down and compose myself. The AM comes out of the office to go to the loo and sees me, obviously upset, and asks me what's up. I tell her and she gives me a 30 second pep talk before going back into the office. 30 seconds later she comes back out and heads off to the sales floor. I thought nothing of it until about a week later when I was chatting to the SM about something and mentioned the conference call. "Oh yeah," she said, "**** was telling me about how upset you were that day, she asked if she could leave the conference call & come out to you to calm you down. I felt awful for you but was raging that I had to deal with the call on my own." :eek: :mad:
I was speechless at first but soon corrected her on where her AM had gone to after leaving her to deal with the sh1tst0rm on the call!!! I haven't been able to look at the AM the same since.

alberto67

Any mod closing an AH thread.

ArnoldJRimmer

A former friend who was a compulsive spender persuaded a mutual friend to allow them to move into their house so they could save money. The mutual friend is one of the kindest people I know and wouldn't even charge them rent, even though they're not exactly loaded themselves.

Former friend continued to spend money like it was going out of fashion, and still didn't offer a cent in rent, but here's the real kicker. Eventually moved out leaving a load of their cr*p behind them. Put this stuff up for sale online (anyone for a fondue set?) and then told the mutual friend that random strangers would be calling round to look at the stuff and could they forward on any money made on the cr*p.

Was genuinely stunned when I heard the absolute cheek of them, my advice was to stick the lot in the bin and delete the number

andekwarhola

When somebody is disrespectful - without provocation - to others on the basis of standing or position, for example, being disrespectful or rude to service staff, elderly people, junior colleagues etc.

Widdershins

When confiding a worry is just an opportunity for someone to out-do your problem with a problem they had once. When it becomes obvious they're not telling you so you don't feel like the only one, they actually don't care that you're worried.

Also went above and beyond to help someone out intensively for months and as soon as she got back on her feet she didn't bother with me and even wrote a blog post of a twisted story about the way I did things, making out I was callous and thoughtless and couldn't wait to get her out of my hair, and not once mentioned a single thing I did to help. This was after '' I hope I can do the same for you someday, my friend!'' sycophantic gushing until she had made full use of me. Not a word from her or a ''do you need anything'' when I got seriously ill...except to tag me on her business venture's Kickstarter and ask me to share it.

And an acquaintance who verbally abuses politicians when they call.

pauliebdub

A former colleague who was lovely to his team and anyone else he deemed to be on the same level as him but would be extremely rude to the staff in the canteen, cleaning staff, car park attendants, waiters, shop assistants etc. Clicking his fingers at them, barking instructions, creating unnecessary drama.

bodhrandude

Candie wrote: »

I regularly picked up a coffee for someone I used to work with if I was going out to get something for myself. I got him maybe ten coffees over a few months. He never offered to pay me for them, and I didn't expect him to.

The one and only time he asked me if I wanted something, he put it on the desk when he came in, took out the receipt to show me what I owed him and asked me to pay him immediately, which I did. It was a small chocolate bar, about a third of the price of one coffee.

I've been put off people before but that's the smallest thing I can think of.

What a dick, he should be in the **** thread.

ShmuckRyan

Conor McGregor fans.

People who don't like cats.

Degag

AtomicHorror wrote: »

Had a manager who used "retard" to describe most anyone who she did not like. I had a relative with an intellectual disability so that ragged me a lot. Also, she was not exactly Mensa grade material herself.

It's obviously not right but it still doesn't mean someone is no good if they use terms like that - not properly educated in that regard perhaps, or just that they don't have someone in the same situation as yourself.

Again, not defending it by any matter of means... but there are worse people out there than this.... of whom i will share when i have a chance:)

Spanish Eyes

A mean person. Has to be the absolutely worst trait in anyone (apart from violence)

I hate it. Skinflints have no good traits to balance it out either. Feckers.

mikeybrennan

ShmuckRyan wrote: »

People who don't like cats.

I never get this

Are people obliged to like cats ?

branie2

Someone who became President of the United States of America.

juneg

mikeybrennan wrote: »

I never get this

Are people obliged to like cats ?

Yes of course!!!! Miaow:)

SATSUMA

When he asked me what i wanted to drink and came back with a pint for himself

Jobs OXO

5rtytry56 wrote: »

A long time ago now, myself and a certain "partner" were late in submitting a project.

..Now, we were mature students - I shared the fact with this "gent" that we were accepted back to college on the basis we both did a year out in an IT role, (callcentre for me).

The course tutor, and head lecturer on the course did not have a particularly high opinion of both of us.

I had a conversation with this "partner" about the impact of the lateness of our project submission.
This "partner" assured me he had "fast - talked" [course tutor] into accepting our late submission.
Finally this "partner" would not do any weekend study with me. Just would'nt.

I endured the graduation ceremony with him the following October. A STUPID aunt, my mother's sister, commanded me to attend the graduation ceremony. That was it.

I can see why the tutor didn't have a high opinion of you if this post is a reflection of the work you turned in.....

The_Captain

Ms. Chanandler Bong wrote: »

My store manager & assistant manager were in the office on a conference call with the district manager tearing strips off them. I had got some bad news from home and went to the canteen (beside the office) just to take a few minutes to calm down and compose myself. The AM comes out of the office to go to the loo and sees me, obviously upset, and asks me what's up. I tell her and she gives me a 30 second pep talk before going back into the office. 30 seconds later she comes back out and heads off to the sales floor. I thought nothing of it until about a week later when I was chatting to the SM about something and mentioned the conference call. "Oh yeah," she said, "**** was telling me about how upset you were that day, she asked if she could leave the conference call & come out to you to calm you down. I felt awful for you but was raging that I had to deal with the call on my own." :eek: :mad:
I was speechless at first but soon corrected her on where her AM had gone to after leaving her to deal with the sh1tst0rm on the call!!! I haven't been able to look at the AM the same since.

So the awful person in this story is you I take it?

JeffKenna

JeffKenna wrote: »

Fuxk sake, you just ruined that movie for me!

You think that's bad? Wait'll you see The Crying Game. Yer one's really a bloke in a dress!

B.A._Baracus

Deleted User wrote: »

Lies.

I hate people who lie. Had a friend miss a meet up, just lunch. Texted her. 24 hours later she said she had been stuck at work and had forgotten her phone. She was stumped when I pointed out that there was about 30 people with mobiles at her workplace. She then said she had forgotten about lunch. But damage was done. Tore a strip off her, got a few messages afterwards where she was clearly trying to slide back into the friendship thing, told her that wasn't happening.

Didn't you say you are a solicitor before on here?
Which let's be honest entails lying "stretching" the truth?

beveragelady

5rtytry56 wrote: »

A long time ago now, myself and a certain "partner" were late in submitting a project.

..Now, we were mature students - I shared the fact with this "gent" that we were accepted back to college on the basis we both did a year out in an IT role, (callcentre for me).

The course tutor, and head lecturer on the course did not have a particularly high opinion of both of us.

I had a conversation with this "partner" about the impact of the lateness of our project submission.
This "partner" assured me he had "fast - talked" [course tutor] into accepting our late submission.
Finally this "partner" would not do any weekend study with me. Just would'nt.

I endured the graduation ceremony with him the following October. A STUPID aunt, my mother's sister, commanded me to attend the graduation ceremony. That was it.

I've gone back a couple of times to re-read this but I can't make sense of it. Somebody explain it to me.

Is the bit about working in a call center significant in a way I don't understand? Is it code for something?

Are the "gent" and the "partner" the same person? Is that why they're both in pointless inverted commas? What did he/they do that was so terrible?

I just don't get it.

Ms. Chanandler Bong

The_Captain wrote: »

So the awful person in this story is you I take it?

No, the AM using what happened to me to score points for being a 'caring manager with great people skills' with the district manager on the conference call when in actual fact she didn't give a fluck what happened to me.

5rtytry56

Jobs OXO wrote: »

I can see why the tutor didn't have a high opinion of you if this post is a reflection of the work you turned in.....

OK. I'll always be a ne'er do well then.

metaoblivia

Whenever someone talks a lot of ****e about people, it's a red flag for me. There's a girl in my vocal studio who loves to talk about other students' flaws. She always veers the conversation in that direction. And I started distancing myself from her. I'm sure if she's willing to talk about others in that way, she's more than happy to talk about me like that.
And once, at an audition, while we were waiting for the placement results, she told me, "I wish they would post the results so I could get ready to sing tonight (the winner sang in a concert that evening) and you could go home." Prior to that, I had said that I didn't think I would win, but you still don't say that to someone.

I ended up winning that audition and stayed to sing in the concert, and she did not make the top 3.