Sisters lying and keeping secrets!

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sistersMC wrote: »

There has been numerous lies..
I asked my sis what did sis in law say.She lied and said she rang and hung up phone.

I asked her when interview was in conversation.She lied and said had not got date.

Another sis pretended not to know anything about my sis who left job after a day or so and was real sneaky trying to get extra informatiom from me.I had nothing to tell.

Numerous more lies but I don't think ppl can see it's not the not being told it's the lies

Anyway as ye say I'll keep things to myself from now on.
Tell them when I'm back in country after hols etc
It works both ways.

1. You had no right to ask her what her phone conversation was about.
2. Maybe he didn't have a date at the time you asked
3. Maybe she didn't know anything about her leaving her job. Why is it considered "sneaky" when she asks you things, but acceptable for you to ask them personal things?
4. Nobody is lying to you. Keeping personal information to themselves isn't lying.
5. Ya I think that's for the best.

Neyite

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EmmaH1997

I feel like most of the posters are not being understanding . As the OP says its not the not being told - its that she's is being lied to by her family. OP my question is has your family dynamic always been like this with everyone being close to each other and not close to you ? Was there some fall out that led to you being left out ?

And if I were you,I would tell them nothing and just honestly again if I were you, I would be feeling quite hurt by the family and would just not speak to them.No dramatic fight but if they're not going to include you, you don't include them. Find your own "family" of friends and for your own sanity just deal with your sisters as little as possible .

I'm feel sorry that only a few of the commenters has emphasised with your situation

LegacyUser

1. I asked as she had told me she rang.I also told her she did not have to tell me but no had to lie instead.

2. He had as previously mentioned

3. She knew all about her leaving the job.This sister is renowned for getting extra information from ppl. Is sneaky.

4. Yes, ppl.are lying to me... again as above...

Thanks Emma. Some ppl are like sheep.

LegacyUser

The 3 youngest have always been close but I don't mind that in the slighest.Used never be singled out and lied to before.
My other sister that lives away always gets told everything.
It's just me that is left out.
The one that lives away is v confident, size 8, pretty and knows it.Is that why she gets told everything.I dunno.

There has been no fall out.
Defo keeping things to myself from now on.
If I told one person something.The whole family would know.

I told one sister I was going out with someone im the past and they all knew almost immediately.
It didn't bother me but it just goes to show the family dynamics.

charlietheminxx

OP I get your frustration but myself and others have taken time to give you advice, which is what you said you were looking for. It's not nice to refer to us as sheep. You can keep giving out about your sisters and you only seem to see it from one perspective but it isn't going to change the relationship and it doesn't seem positive for you. Lots of people aren't close to their families but they create another support network of friends and loved ones. Focus on building those relationships with good, positive people.