Doctor refusing to see new patient

stevek93 · 15-04-2017 1:12pm #1

Hi all,

Not to sure where to put this every thread I see is in a different section.

Someone I know moved doctors from the country to Dublin about 9 months ago. When completing the change of doctor form he specifically asked for the male doctor in the clinic but for some reason they gave him the female doctor. Now obvious reasons there is some things you cannot see a female doctor about not getting into detail.

He is now trying to change GP as they will not let him change to the male doctor. No GP will take him on he is being told you have to see your own doctor and that's it. What can he do here?

The_Valeyard · 15-04-2017 1:14pm

I'd personally, not medical advice now, but would go to the walk in clinic until you can get sorted?

Allinall · 15-04-2017 1:14pm

I cannot think of one thing that a man cannot see a female doctor about.

Not one.

R.D. aka MR.D · 15-04-2017 1:15pm

stevek93 wrote: »

Now obvious reasons there is some things you cannot see a female doctor about not getting into detail.

A doctor is a doctor.

Loveinapril · 15-04-2017 1:17pm

He can just grow up and go to the female doctor!

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:21pm

Like saying I dont like Doctors whose surname begins with a vowel I want a different one.

If you need a doctor you go to a doctor. He has a qualified doctor.

Irishmale0399 · 15-04-2017 1:24pm

If your mate needed life saving surgery and the surgeon was a lady...would he say no??? Like sh1t would he.....

Tell him to grow up...be sure..he wont suprise her and she will more than likely have heard/seen it all before.

893bet · 15-04-2017 1:25pm

Allinall wrote: »

I cannot think of one thing that a man cannot see a female doctor about.

Not one.

There isn't. But some people have preferences and would feel more comfortable with a doctor of there own sex.

Same as some women would prefer to see a female doctor certain times.

Comparing this situation to a life saving surgery situation is bizarre.

Noddyholder · 15-04-2017 1:26pm

You should change the title of the Op, it's not doctors refusing to see patient, It's patient refusing to see doctor.

whoopsadoodles · 15-04-2017 1:26pm

Loveinapril wrote: »

He can just grow up and go to the female doctor!

I don't think it's odd to want to see a doctor of your own gender for certain things.

I didn't go to my old man GP for smears or when I found a lump on my breast or when I had endometriosis. Absolutely nothing to do with "growing up". If I had to go to a male doctor for those things it would have been OK. I had a male obstetrician because I heard good things about him. But my preference for female issues is a female GP.

The Backwards Man · 15-04-2017 1:27pm

Allinall wrote: »

I cannot think of one thing that a man cannot see a female doctor about.

Not one.

If you were married to the female doctor and you got a hamster stuck up your bum?

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:28pm

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

I don't think it's odd to want to see a doctor of your own gender for certain things.

I didn't go to my old man GP for smears or when I found a lump on my breast or when I had endometriosis. Absolutely nothing to do with "growing up". If I had to go to a male doctor for those things it would have been OK. I had a male obstetrician because I heard good things about him. But my preference for female issues is a female GP.

But you didnt demand a change from your "old man GP"?

15-04-2017 1:28pm

stevek93 wrote: »

Hi all,

Not to sure where to put this every thread I see is in a different section.

Someone I know moved doctors from the country to Dublin about 9 months ago. When completing the change of doctor form he specifically asked for the male doctor in the clinic but for some reason they gave him the female doctor. Now obvious reasons there is some things you cannot see a female doctor about not getting into detail.

He is now trying to change GP as they will not let him change to the male doctor. No GP will take him on he is being told you have to see your own doctor and that's it. What can he do here?

Well I mean he can see a female doctor. If his preference for a male doctor is that strong, which is fair enough, he might be able to find a drop in GP place in town somewhere

I'm surprised they won't let him switch to the male GP. Is he just for social or something?

I don't think telling someone to grow up for preferring a doc of their own gender is fair

sundodger5 · 15-04-2017 1:29pm

If it is a group practice with both gender doctors working in it then a once off "can i see the male GP" chat with the Secretary should not be an issue

whoopsadoodles · 15-04-2017 1:29pm

pjohnson wrote: »

But you didnt demand a change from your "old man GP"?

No because he had no other doctors in his practice, it was him and him alone, so I went to another practice entirely.

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:30pm

I think OP is deleting thread now.....

Loveinapril · 15-04-2017 1:30pm

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

I don't think it's odd to want to see a doctor of your own gender for certain things.

I didn't go to my old man GP for smears or when I found a lump on my breast or when I had endometriosis. Absolutely nothing to do with "growing up". If I had to go to a male doctor for those things it would have been OK. I had a male obstetrician because I heard good things about him. But my preference for female issues is a female GP.

I understand that it is about comfort levels but the OP mentions "there are some things a man wouldn't go to a female doctor about". I think that is very silly due to the extensive training doctors have. My reading is that this man needs a doctor for a specific issue but is refusing to go to a female one purely due to her gender.

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:31pm

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

No because he had no other doctors in his practice, it was him and him alone, so I went to another practice entirely.

Yes but you did not try to demand a formal change?

whoopsadoodles · 15-04-2017 1:32pm

Loveinapril wrote: »

I understand that it is about comfort levels but the OP mentions "there are some things a man wouldn't go to a female doctor about". I think that is very silly due to the extensive training doctors have. My reading is that this man needs a doctor for a specific issue but is refusing to go to a female one purely due to her gender.

He wants to see a male doctor for male issues. And you're telling him to grow up. Not entirely fair whatever his reasons.

Jawgap · 15-04-2017 1:34pm

Seems abit bonkers that, taken to its logical conclusion, someone would have a preference for a bad male doctor over a good female one!!

Personally, if I, or someone I care about is ill, then I'd want the best doctor be it a he, she or it

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:34pm

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

He wants to see a male doctor for male issues. And you're telling him to grow up. Not entirely fair whatever his reasons.

Well it depends on severity of the issue. If its small you may nitpick but if its some kind of emergency surely any doctor will suffice.

15-04-2017 1:35pm

Ah the typical dickhead boards response. The guy is probably out of his mind thinking he has prostate cancer and he wants a male doctor because who knows, maybe he has just spent 50 years used to the idea.

But it's 2017 so he's wrong and screw this thing that would make him feel better and screw giving advice. Let's just judge him.

TheChizler · 15-04-2017 1:36pm

Hmm a thread with all context removed, let the wild speculation begin!

Jawgap · 15-04-2017 1:36pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Ah the typical dickhead boards response. The guy is probably out of his mind thinking he has prostate cancer and he wants a male doctor because who knows, maybe he has just spent 50 years used to the idea.

But it's 2017 so he's wrong and screw this thing that would make him feel better and screw giving advice. Let's just judge him.

Anything to do with the prostate?

Deffo want a female doc for that one.......

........slimmer fingers

stevek93 · 15-04-2017 1:36pm

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

He wants to see a male doctor for male issues. And you're telling him to grow up. Not entirely fair whatever his reasons.

Finally someone who understands. My female doctor would not see to me about a male issue I had before she put me on a waiting list with took nearly a year. I can't understand all these negative comments here why should he be told what doctor to see.

Would a women see a man doctor about a female issue? It doesn't happen.

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:37pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Ah the typical dickhead boards response. The guy is probably out of his mind thinking he has prostate cancer and he wants a male doctor because who knows, maybe he has just spent 50 years used to the idea.

But it's 2017 so he's wrong and screw this thing that would make him feel better and screw giving advice. Let's just judge him.

Well if I thought I had cancer I wouldnt give a sh*te what the doctor was once they could tell me my result.

Loveinapril · 15-04-2017 1:37pm

pjohnson wrote: »

Well it depends on severity of the issue. If its small you may nitpick but if its some kind of emergency surely any doctor will suffice.

That's what I think. Surely having your ailment treated is more important than the gender of the highly skilled professional treating it.

Jawgap · 15-04-2017 1:38pm

stevek93 wrote: »

Finally someone who understands. My female doctor would not see to me about a male issue I had before she put me on a waiting list with took nearly a year. I can't understand all these negative comments here why should he be told what doctor to see.

Would a women see a man doctor about a female issue? It doesn't happen.

Really, between Holles Street and the Rotunda how many male masters of the the State's two largest maternity hospitals have there been do you reckon?

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:38pm

stevek93 wrote: »

Finally someone who understands. My female doctor would not see to me about a male issue I had before she put me on a waiting list with took nearly a year. I can't understand all these negative comments here why should he be told what doctor to see.

Would a women see a man doctor about a female issue? It doesn't happen.

Well if your female doctor REFUSED you that is a completely separate issue to the initial OP.

stevek93 · 15-04-2017 1:39pm

pjohnson wrote: »

Well if your female doctor REFUSED you that is a completely separate issue to the initial OP.

She refused to see me about a male issue.

Jawgap · 15-04-2017 1:40pm

stevek93 wrote: »

Finally someone who understands. My female doctor would not see to me about a male issue I had before she put me on a waiting list with took nearly a year. I can't understand all these negative comments here why should he be told what doctor to see.

Would a women see a man doctor about a female issue? It doesn't happen.

If your female GP put you on a waiting list and you waited for nearly a year, surely it was to see a consultant, not another GP?

stevek93 · 15-04-2017 1:42pm

Jawgap wrote: »

If your female GP put you on a waiting list and you waited for nearly a year, surely it was to see a consultant, not another GP?

Yes consultant as she refused to examine a male issue I had.

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:42pm

stevek93 wrote: »

She refused to see me about a male issue.

I dont think this is legal.....

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:43pm

stevek93 wrote: »

Yes consultant as she refused to examine a male issue I had.

Oh so you mean she REFERRED you not REFUSED you

Alf Veedersane · 15-04-2017 1:44pm

Found a lump on my testicle. My GP was away. Was offered a female GP. Figured she probably had to go through that chapter in college so went in. She checked my testicles, prescribed a course of action and all was well.

A doctor is a doctor unless you have a reason like negative reviews.

Jawgap · 15-04-2017 1:45pm

stevek93 wrote: »

Yes consultant as she refused to examine a male issue I had.

Well clearly she felt it needed expert attention, or a diagnostic test she didn't have access to and to save time (your time!) she referred you straight to the consultant - like a good GP should!!

Jeez, doctors can't win - if they're slow to refer they get slagged off, and now you seem to be criticising one for being too quick to refer!

Richard Hillman · 15-04-2017 1:45pm

I have never had a prostate exam or anything to do with my nether regions with a doctor but I would genuinely feel a lot more comfortable with a female doctor than a male.

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:48pm

Jawgap wrote: »

Well clearly she felt it needed expert attention, or a diagnostic test she didn't have access to and to save time (your time!) she referred you straight to the consultant - like a good GP should!!

Jeez, doctors can't win - if they're slow to refer they get slagged off, and now you seem to be criticising one for being too quick to refer!

Title should be

"GP refers patient"

pl4ichjgy17zwd · 15-04-2017 1:49pm

stevek93 wrote:

Would a women see a man doctor about a female issue? It doesn't happen.

I see my male GP about any issue I have. I would only see the female GP if it was urgent and he wasn't available.

stevek93 · 15-04-2017 1:50pm

Marlowe Wailing Tapestry wrote: »

I see my male GP about any issue I have. I would only see the female GP if it was urgent and he wasn't available.

Are you male or female?

15-04-2017 1:51pm

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

Loveinapril wrote: »

He can just grow up and go to the female doctor!

I don't think it's odd to want to see a doctor of your own gender for certain things.

I didn't go to my old man GP for smears or when I found a lump on my breast or when I had endometriosis. Absolutely nothing to do with "growing up". If I had to go to a male doctor for those things it would have been OK. I had a male obstetrician because I heard good things about him. But my preference for female issues is a female GP.

You do realise that is sexism.

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 1:52pm

And aside from the "referal" scandal I dont see how the gender is in anyway involved. If you needed a consultant a male GP would have refered you?????

pl4ichjgy17zwd · 15-04-2017 1:52pm

stevek93 wrote:

Are you male or female?

Female

stevek93 · 15-04-2017 1:55pm

Deleted User wrote: »

You do realise that is sexism.

Don't be so politically correct. If a patient doesn't feel comfortable seeing a male or female doctor about a certain issue it is their choice no need to judge.

15-04-2017 1:55pm

I'm going to start a thread like this in the future but with the genders reversed.

Mr.H · 15-04-2017 1:55pm

pjohnson wrote:

But you didnt demand a change from your "old man GP"?

I think this mind set should "grow up"

Many women feel more comfortable about having a female gp when it comes to certain issues.

I know I would feel awkward about getting my bits out for a female gp. I mean what if I got aroused. That would be very awkward for both myself and the gp. I'm bot trying to sound sexist I'm just saying if a pretty lady is touching me its gonna get weird.

It's not a sexist issue to have a preference doctor in certain situations. I know that no woman would be even questioned if she asked for a female doctor so why should a guy be ridiculed?

Bubbaclaus · 15-04-2017 1:56pm

This is a bizarre thread. All doctors go through the same training. They don't get split by sex day one and only deal with medical issues of their own sex.

15-04-2017 1:58pm

Bubbaclaus wrote: »

This is a bizarre thread. All doctors go through the same training. They don't get split by sex day one and only deal with medical issues of their own sex.

Not all doctors are young so no, they haven't all done the same training. Were woman taught 40 years ago how to feel for prostate cancer? And if so, would she be as experienced at it?

15-04-2017 1:59pm

stevek93 wrote: »

Deleted User wrote: »

You do realise that is sexism.

Don't be so politically correct. If a patient doesn't feel comfortable seeing a male or female doctor about a certain issue it is their choice no need to judge.

So if I don't feel comfortable been seen by a black doctor. Then that's not racism?

pjohnson · 15-04-2017 2:00pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Not all doctors are young so no, they haven't all done the same training. Were woman taught 40 years ago how to feel for prostate cancer? And if so, would she be as experienced at it?

I would assume so. Prostate cancer isnt new. If a male learnt it 40 years ago so did female

whoopsadoodles · 15-04-2017 2:00pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

You do realise that is sexism.

Ah stop.

Yeh real sexist to prefer a woman's hand in my vagina :rolleyes:

Womens health clinics are sexist so. Male cancer charities.

And gynaecologists, who won't even see a male patient. Well - perhaps we should report their blatent discrimination.

Sexist indeed.

Doctor refusing to see new patient

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