Woman at Work who says she a Fat B*tch

Muckie

Hi Guys,

I work in an Office and one of my work colleagues has a weight problem.
She eats nothing but junk food and has a medical issue.

I brought in some treats when i came back from holiday to share with my Team.

She came over and was helping herself much like the others, but she then said
"Stop bring in food, your bring out the fat b*tch in me"

How does someone answer that?

I just mumbled, "ah, yeah enjoy..ha ha ha..awkward"....

Buckfast W

Well fat bottomed girls do make the world go round.

Maybe she was coming onto you.........

IvyTheTerrible

Has she never heard of taking responsibility for her own decisions, like a grown up?

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I wouldn't answer it to be honest

Mr. CooL ICE

You mean you didn't offer her a napkin too?

How inconsiderate of you.

a320famalam

Haha I love that theres a thread on this.

Personally I'd just say "Ah well, it's not everyday, enjoy!". Quite frankly, it wouldn't be my problem whether she's overweight or not, I've just brought in some treats. Haha good luck!

whiskeyman

Muckie wrote: »

but she then said
"Stop bring in food, your bring out the fat b*tch in me"

How does someone answer that?

reply

'Oh, I didn't bring it out honey.
She's been out for a long time now...' while averting your gaze to her oversized gut...

smash

Muckie wrote: »

"Stop bring in food, your bring out the fat b*tch in me"

How does someone answer that?

"Don't worry, I'm gonna bring in fruit for the next few weeks and see if I can bring out the skinny bitch in you!"

Hande hoche!

Tell her you're a feeder. Bonus points if you are dressed like the Unabomber at the same time.

seamus

She was fishing for a compliment - "You're not that fat", "You're thinner than you were last year", "Angela from accounts is fatter than you". You missed a trick there OP.

livedadream

ignore her, dont let her make you feel awkward.

Hrududu

Or you react as if you've ever had human interaction before and laugh like a normal person

brevity

"I clean myself with a rag on a stick"

Hande hoche!

brevity wrote: »

"I clean myself with a rag on a stick"

*applause*

nkav86

Well if the shoe fits!

BrokenArrows

or you just say, "She was here already".

harry Bailey esq

smash wrote: »

"Don't worry, I'm gonna bring in methamphetamine for the next few weeks and see if I can bring out the skinny bitch in you!"

Fixed that for you friend.

In fairness to her, she may have been trying to puncture the "look at her scoffing herself" mood.

It was probably awkward, but I wouldn't conclude she was trying to make you feel awkward.

lee_baby_simms

Next time you come back from holidays bring in some bags of kale and almonds.

mahoganygas

What would David Brent do?

Wossack

Well you are eating for two!
*awkward pause*
Eh, Im not pregnant..
No I mean you're eating enough calories to sustain a healthy weight of two regular people

Aongus Von Bismarck

There’s a chap working here in deskside IT support who is extremely overweight. Stereotypical case - disgusting unkempt beard, wallet chain, black boots, combats, heavy metal or computer game t-shirt, vague smell of dried mushrooms off him. He’s extremely surly and sarky as well, but that is for another thread.

He’ll often emerge from wherever in the building the IT crew sit, and thud down the room looking for whoever had the misfortune of requiring his help. One day that poor misfortunate was me.

There he was puffing and panting as he rooted around under my desk looking to unplug a cable. I was standing back at a safe distance, looking on aghast. He emerged out from under the desk and had a half-eaten chocolate pretzel hanging out of his mouth as he did so! He couldn’t even carry out a minor task without feeling the need to snack.
I couldn’t keep quiet, and suggested that he try a mindful eating exercise at some stage. I despair when I see someone eating al desko or stuffing their face mindlessly as they stare into a monitor. So uncouth.

It's hard to know what to say when this happens alright (when a clearly overweight woman makes a self-effacing joke/remark about it). Sort of imposes undeserved awkwardness on others. You are either forced to laugh and confirm to the woman that she is fat and make her feel bad and hate you. Or forced to deny that her remark has a basis in reality and look uncomfortable, giving it away that you are lying and then make her feel bad. I would just make a facial expression like "ah now, come on!" and kind of laugh.

Elliott S

Sounds like a self-deprecating, self-aware joke. I'd just have smiled!

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

Has she never heard of taking responsibility for her own decisions, like a grown up?

I can't fathom such humourlessness as the above. Of course it's not remotely surprising that AH contributors would be sanctimonius on this subject.

I'm mean she clearly realises she's overweight.

Hrududu wrote: »

Or you react as if you've ever had human interaction before and laugh like a normal person

+1

WTF, like?

BrokenArrows

Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »

So uncouth.

You lost my support here. lol.

Letree

None for you fat bird.. said in the voice of Ritchie from Bottom

IvyTheTerrible

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

Has she never heard of taking responsibility for her own decisions, like a grown up?

I'm thinking of a phrase involving AH bringing out the judgemental ***** in people.......

Nothing specific, mind.....

blue note

Another refreshing it's fat people's own fault thread? Wow, I never realised that before. And I'm sure it never dawned on fat people it was their fault too!!!

OP, she was having a treat like everyone else and probably a little awkwardly trying to make a little joke of it. Give her a break and just offer a mild chuckle, or say it's only small or whatever meaningless office banter you'd give to whoever else.

blue note

blue note wrote: »

OP, she was having a treat like everyone else and probably a little awkwardly trying to make a little joke of it. Give her a break and just offer a mild chuckle, or say it's only small or whatever meaningless office banter you'd give to whoever else.

I agree with this. She isn't trying to make anyone feel awkward, more like she's putting it out there that she's aware she's overweight before anyone else can think it, because she thinks they'll be thinking it regardless. In reality most people wouldn't bat an eyelid, unless she took way more than everyone else or something!

Rhyme

nkav86 wrote: »

Well if the shoe fits!

it doesn't, feet have gotten too big.

jimmy blevins

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-deprecation

LoLth

OP at least she seems to have a sense of humour

Where I work I'm constantly having to deal with absolute snobs. I mean complete pencil necked gits with zero sense of humour that think they are somehow superior to others and are almost sickened at the sight of actual work going on. The other day I had to sort out a network problem for one of these, his network cable had been knocked loose by his folding motorised scooter. While I was moving al the crap under his desk out of the way, he just stood there and watched. Bad enough I have to crawl across where people rest their shoes after stepping in God knows what but I also have to deal with their forgotten sandwiches, dirty gym gear and mountains of self help manuals. I had the last laugh though, I found half a chocolate pretzel! score! and I popped a keylogger between his keyboard and usb port so now I'm reading all his emails and working out which URL all these passwords belong to. must remember to update the firewalls, there's some really dodgy **** making it past the smut filters.

Elliott S

Deleted User wrote: »

I agree with this. She isn't trying to make anyone feel awkward, more like she's putting it out there that she's aware she's overweight before anyone else can think it, because she thinks they'll be thinking it regardless. In reality most people wouldn't bat an eyelid, unless she took way more than everyone else or something!

Exactly, just everyday office nonsense that wouldn't occupy my mind for more than 30 seconds after it happened.

But no, DOESN'T SHE REALISE HOW UNHEALTHY SHE IS? :pac: Yes, I would say she does! :P

Outlaw Pete

You brought in some treats and she was the only person outside of your team who indulged? Or was she just the only fat one?

Anyway, I like her. And not just because she's got big tits.

#TeamFatChick

IvyTheTerrible

Elliott S wrote: »

Sounds like a self-deprecating, self-aware joke. I'd just have smiled!



I can't fathom such humourlessness as the above. Of course it's not remotely surprising that AH contributors would be sanctimonius on this subject.

I'm mean she clearly realises she's overweight.



+1

WTF, like?

Oh I'm not judging, but I'd be pissed if no more cake was being brought into the office because one person isn't "supposed" to have. She should just take it and not feel guilty about it.

Olishi4

Self deprecating humour. She acknowledged her own weakness and played a joke on it by blaming you for tempting her with the sweets.

Op did you really take her seriously?

Maximus Alexander

Muckie wrote: »

"Stop bring in food, your bring out the fat b*tch in me"

"Who brought her out all the other days?"

Elliott S

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

Oh I'm not judging, but I'd be pissed if no more cake was being brought into the office because one person isn't "supposed" to have. She should just take it and not feel guilty about it.

If I know offices, that wont happen! The cake supply never stops!

The only thing that used to annoy me about cake-suppliers in the office is poeple who had clearly been on a baking frenzy the night before and who would plonk their wares in the middle of the table at teabreak, looking on expectantly at people. You'd feel almost obliged to have some. I did resist a lot of the time because one can't be eating cake every day but, man, sometimes I'd feel so guilty not sampling the wares.

Some of the offices I was in could honestly have done with a reduction in the cake supply!

Calahonda52

Give her a token for two bathroom scales from Lildl, each good for 180kg

IvyTheTerrible

Elliott S wrote: »

If I know offices, that wont happen! The cake supply never stops!

The only thing that used to annoy me about cake-suppliers in the office is poeple who had clearly been on a baking frenzy the night before and who would plonk their wares in the middle of the table at teabreak, looking on expectantly at people. You'd feel almost obliged to have some. I did resist a lot of the time because one can't be eating cake every day but, man, sometimes I'd feel so guilty not sampling the wares.

Some of the offices I was in could honestly have done with a reduction in the cake supply!

I had a German manager for about 4 years, every event was an excuse for cake at 4pm...nom Germans really know their cakes!

meeeeh

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

Elliott S wrote: »

Sounds like a self-deprecating, self-aware joke. I'd just have smiled!



I can't fathom such humourlessness as the above. Of course it's not remotely surprising that AH contributors would be sanctimonius on this subject.

I'm mean she clearly realises she's overweight.



+1

WTF, like?

Oh I'm not judging, but I'd be pissed if no more cake was being brought into the office because one person isn't "supposed" to have. She should just take it and not feel guilty about it.

I don't think person making a joke is a problem in that case, a lack of humor is...

BTW my reply would be: and I am a mean bastard/bitch. And a smile. It really is that easy.

Elliott S

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

I had a German manager for about 4 years, every event was an excuse for cake at 4pm...nom Germans really know their cakes!

Actually, yes, I also worked with a German lady who loved her baking. But like, cake is so calorific, plus I think having it so often takes away from its specialness on birthdays and whatnot. Now, the office birthday cake is a fine tradition!

meeeeh wrote: »

I so think person making a joke us problem in that case, lack of humor is...

You sentence write good! :pac:

meeeeh

It seems I was too slow with my editing.

BTW has anyone else problems editing posts in new format?

Elliott S

LoLth wrote: »

OP at least she seems to have a sense of humour

Where I work I'm constantly having to deal with absolute snobs. I mean complete pencil necked gits with zero sense of humour that think they are somehow superior to others and are almost sickened at the sight of actual work going on. The other day I had to sort out a network problem for one of these, his network cable had been knocked loose by his folding motorised scooter. While I was moving al the crap under his desk out of the way, he just stood there and watched. Bad enough I have to crawl across where people rest their shoes after stepping in God knows what but I also have to deal with their forgotten sandwiches, dirty gym gear and mountains of self help manuals. I had the last laugh though, I found half a chocolate pretzel! score! and I popped a keylogger between his keyboard and usb port so now I'm reading all his emails and working out which URL all these passwords belong to. must remember to update the firewalls, there's some really dodgy **** making it past the smut filters.

LOLTH! Parodying a parody post - how very meta.

Olishi4

Olishi4 wrote: »

Self deprecating humour. She acknowledged her own weakness and played a joke on it by blaming you for tempting her with the sweets.

Op did you really take her seriously?

That's it exactly. I feel a little sorry for her in that she obviously feels the need to pass a remark.

Muckie

Olishi4 wrote: »

Self deprecating humour. She acknowledged her own weakness and played a joke on it by blaming you for tempting her with the sweets.

Op did you really take her seriously?

Ah no, it's just this isn't the first time she has said something like this.
Recently a new guy in the office was sitting with her and he made the mistake of thinking she was pregnant.......

worded

Just another salad dodger

I would say something PC like .... Shouldn't you be on a step aerobic machine somewhere ?

Elliott S

Muckie wrote: »

Ah no, it's just this isn't the first time she has said something like this.
Recently a new guy in the office was sitting with her and he made the mistake of thinking she was pregnant.......

Well, that makes her comment even more understandable.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Muckie wrote: »

Ah no, it's just this isn't the first time she has said something like this.
Recently a new guy in the office was sitting with her and he made the mistake of thinking she was pregnant.......

Do you think she should have to justify her appearance or her diet to the rest of you on the team?

Muckie

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Do you think she should have to justify her appearance or her diet to the rest of you on the team?

No she just mentions her weight.
Chap didn't know what to do or say.
It's not like anyone slags her about it.
A lot of people have body issues.
Other people on the Team enjoyed the treats, cheers Muckie!

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

But why would you start your OP with her diet of junk food and medical condition? Leave her alone. If you're going to bring in treats, bring them for everyone. If you begrudge her having some, either don't bring them or don't share then out in front of her.