Caught my neighbour cheating

spud82

Hey all

Was out at the weekend and saw my neighbour all of this woman who wasn't his wife. I than went into the bar and saw him peck her on the lips before they left the bar together.

My neighbour and his wife has 4 kids, I babysat them when they were younger. I feel so bad about this and so sorry for his wife. I know it's not my business but I feel so bad.

Worst is they are hosting a X mas party in a few weeks in their house, and I can't get out of it. I feel so sorry for her and the kids

The Sidewards Man

Is she hot?

spud82

The Sidewards Man wrote: »

Is she hot?

The wife or mistress?

aaakev

Chaching!

corner of hells

spud82 wrote: »

The wife or mistress?

Either or

Also the Christmas party has the potential to be the best party ever..

The Sidewards Man

spud82 wrote: »

The wife or mistress?

The mistress.

myshirt

Back of the net!

spud82

spud82 wrote: »

Hey all

Was out at the weekend and saw my neighbour all of this woman who wasn't his wife.

You saw all of the woman who wasn't his wife?

Did she forget her clothes?

Atlantic Dawn

Could it have been his mother?

spud82

corner of hells wrote: »

Either or

Both are good looking and fit.

darkpagandeath

spud82

Deleted User wrote: »

You saw all of the woman who wasn't his wife?

Did she forget her clothes?

Sorry am dyslexic that was meant to read all over this woman who wasn't his wife

3rdDegree

Start making comments to the kids like "would you like to have a new mammy?" while the husband is in earshot.

corner of hells

spud82 wrote: »

Sorry am dyslexic that was meant to read all over this woman who wasn't his wife

Dyslexia is an anagram of " sex daily " .

yes there

The best thing you can do here is bribe him

spud82

corner of hells wrote: »

Dyslexia is an anagram of " sex daily " .

haha..it sure is. I do try for daily sex, it does keep you fit and healthy.

kneemos

spud82 wrote: »

haha..it sure is. I do try for daily sex, it does keep you fit and healthy.

Your neighbour is available apparently if you're stuck.

spud82

kneemos wrote: »

Your neighbour is available apparently if you're stuck.

I should really stop joking about this but it's driving me mad I feel awful for her.

yes there

yes there wrote: »

The best thing you can do here is bribe him

Wouldn't blackmail be more obvious?

corner of hells

Deleted User wrote: »

Wouldn't blackmail be more obvious?

I thought that myself .

Fred Swanson

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asherbassad

Put the moves on the wife.

When she's wracked with guilt and tells him she's been tramping around behind his back....he'll explode....but be also filled with temporary relief that he's not the dirt-bird.

When he takes a break from the mistress,,,,,then vulture in on her.




















Give me your wife's/girlfriend's number in the interim. It's a war man.....but a love war.

humberklog

Get your ****ing nose out of their ****ing business you nosy ****.

corner of hells

Deleted User wrote: »

Wouldn't blackmail be more obvious?

corner of hells wrote: »

I thought that myself .

Fred Swanson wrote: »

This post has been deleted.

We're all agreed, blackmail it is.

Next.

The Sidewards Man

humberklog wrote: »

Get your ****ing nose out of their ****ing business you nosy ****.

Write a song there Johnny.

mzungu

The Sidewards Man wrote: »

Write a song there Johnny.

The Caught My Neighbour Cheatin Blues....get that Jailhouse Rock riff in the mix and the lyrics write themselves.

NachoBusiness

Follow him on Friday night with a decent surveillance cam. Set up stream to it online so we can all watch. As he's walking to his hall door approach him and tell him you know, and that a few hundred people online do too, and that we're all watching. Point to the cam. Then tell him that we all know your name and address and so if anything happens you, like you suddenly disappear, we're all going to the police. Then tell him he must come clean to his wife that night, or else. Then give him the cam and say we're all gonna watch to make sure he does it.

acb121

Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors, and the intricate details of peoples personal arrangements.

With 4 kids maybe she even is aware, tacitly agrees for a variety of reasons, and would prefer he gets his oats elsewhere than bothers her.

Nobody really knows, or can judge unless you can put yourself in somebody elses shoes.

Best thing is to keep schtumm.

spud82

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Follow him on Friday night with a decent surveillance cam. Set up stream to it online so we can all watch. As he's walking to his hall door approach him and tell him you know, and that a few hundred people online do too, and that we're all watching. Point to the cam. Then tell him that we all know your name and address and so if anything happens you, like you suddenly disappear, we're all going to the police. Then tell him he must come clean to his wife that night, or else. Then give him the cam and say we're all gonna watch to make sure he does it.

:D:D:D:D

If that fails Ill use my feminine charm on him and honey trap him hahah

spud82

acb121 wrote: »

Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors, and the intricate details of peoples personal arrangements.

With 4 kids maybe she even is aware, tacitly agrees for a variety of reasons, and would prefer he gets his oats elsewhere than bothers her.

Nobody really knows, or can judge unless you can put yourself in somebody elses shoes.

Best thing is to keep schtumm.

Im not going to say anything I just needed to get it out of me in some way. thanks boardsies

corner of hells

spud82 wrote: »

Im not going to say anything I just needed to get it out of me in some way. thanks boardsies

you're welcome.

Hammer89

spud82 wrote: »

:D:D:D:D

If that fails Ill use my feminine charm on him and honey trap him hahah

I'm sure you could. I know for a fact he views you as the girl next door type.

spud82

Hammer89 wrote: »

I'm sure you could. I know for a fact he views you as the girl next door type.

I will meet you by the bins in ten mins, wear your red dressing gown it's super sexy

nullzero

spud82 wrote: »

Hey all

Was out at the weekend and saw my neighbour all of this woman who wasn't his wife. I than went into the bar and saw him peck her on the lips before they left the bar together.

My neighbour and his wife has 4 kids, I babysat them when they were younger. I feel so bad about this and so sorry for his wife. I know it's not my business but I feel so bad.

Worst is they are hosting a X mas party in a few weeks in their house, and I can't get out of it. I feel so sorry for her and the kids

This is a truly complex situation with layers of possibilities for your possible action or inaction, a wife's feelings and by extension the future of these people's marriage and the likely knock on effects that may be felt by their children are all important factors, but what is most important and an absolute truism in this case is, to mind your own fvcking business and steer clear of other people's bullshyt.

spud82

nullzero wrote: »

This is a truly complex situation with layers of possibilities for your possible action or inaction, a wife's feelings and by extension the future of these people's marriage and the likely knock on effects that may be felt by their children are all important factors, but what is most important and an absolute truism in this case is, to mind your own fvcking business and steer clear of other people's bullshyt.

I am. As I said in this post i just wanted to get it off my chest. I am not saying it to anyone at all, I just needed to let it out of my mind.

Hammer89

spud82 wrote: »

I will meet you by the bins in ten mins, wear your red dressing gown it's super sexy

I need a **** now.

NachoBusiness

spud82 wrote: »

I am. As I said in this post i just wanted to get it off my chest. I am not saying it to anyone at all, I just needed to let it out of my mind.

It's a pity you didn't record it.

This guy happened upon his best friend's girlfriend hooking up with some other guy in a club and he filmed it..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cf8EeaassAU

Most likely if he didn't film it, she'd just have accused the friend of stirring.
The messenger usually gets shot in such situations I'd suspect as people will do anything they can rather than face an uncomfortable truth.

Diabhal Beag

Nobody likes a grass

spud82

Diabhal Beag wrote: »

Nobody likes a grass

I am not saying nothing

Diabhal Beag

spud82 wrote: »

I am not saying nothing

It's a bad situation to be in tbh. You lose respect for a person and yet you don't know enough details to have a proper grasp of both sides. Could be a whole mental story behind it.

MadYaker

You don't have enough information to make a good decision here. Either try to find out more details about what is going on by observing him or her, or else forget about it.

MadsL

MadYaker wrote: »

You don't have enough information to make a good decision here. Either try to find out more details about what is going on by observing him or her, or else forget about it.

It's not the OPs decision at all. well out of it would be the best advice.

A poster's name is relevant here..."Nachobusiness"!!

KomradeBishop

Don't mind all the kneejerk 'mind your own business' Omerta folk - it's not for them to say whose business it is, that's up to the person (potentially) being cheated on, on whether they'd welcome being told.

If you have reason to believe she'd welcome being told her partner was cheating, can go ahead and (anonymously, for your own sake) tell her - otherwise, wait, and you could try to suss out if it'd be welcome over time, since it sounds like you're in semi-regular social contact.

He may not be cheating, but if you know/find-out that she'd welcome being informed, that makes the remaining set of harmful/bad consequences of informing (that aren't a result of the cheating itself) pretty small.

sonny.knowles

humberklog wrote: »

Get your ****ing nose out of their ****ing business you nosy ****.

Snitches get stitches, eh?

keithclancy

sonny.knowles wrote: »

Snitches get stitches, eh?

Not really, just you don't know what the situation is.

It's could be possible for example that the wife knows all about it but might not be too happy that you know about it for example.

Alf Veedersane

spud82 wrote: »

Worst is they are hosting a X mas party in a few weeks in their house, and I can't get out of it. I feel so sorry for her and the kids

Don't. The wife and kids probably don't hate you to the point that you'd ruin the party.

etoughguy

In theory its none of your business and you're better off saying fook all
Thats easy for me to say!

wakka12

They could be divorced for all you know. One of my friends in college lives with her parents and 2 siblings but her parents are in an open relationship, as in both of them can and do see other men and women and both parties are comfortable with the arrangement. I find it odd but theyre happy with it. I also know divorced couples who live together with their children in the same house but don't announce to everyone theyre divorced.

Think before you do or say anything to embarrass yourself.
Also the fact that he met her in a busy public place, where Im sure he could easily bump into lots of people he knows, who know thats not his wife, makes me think he's not doing it behind her back.

arayess

seeing a fella hanging off some woman in a bar and kissing her is flakey ground to potentially break up a family.

You've no idea the context.

If the party is a big issue for you , cry off sick.
I just don't get the notion that his misbehaviour would upset you that much that you can't spend some time socialising with them without getting in a flap.
Why would you feel bad? Do you often impose your emotions into others situations?
i could understand if the wife was your sister or somebody close to you.
I'm sure you won't be talking about the state of their marriage so you won't be required to lie or anything.

Subcomandante Marcos

Hey op,
For all you know they have a poly-amorous or open relationship and this woman is their unicorn (Google it) or they met her on a swinging site.

Either way, it's none of your business.

superfurry1

Kissing other women in a bar/club on a lads night out happens to 99.9% of men if anyone disagrees just give it time:P the other .1% are that guy from the bank of ireland ad stephen and rachel rachel and stephen dim wit who has bigger problems:D