Bathroom baskets

amdublin

I just love when a bride and groom have put some useful items in the bathroom. Particularly....deodorant! I find that it is the one thing that I can not fit in my little evening/occasion bag and it is the one thing that I need because of all the dancing I am doing.

So my advice to any b&g's for a bathroom basket is focus on the essentials and don't bother with everything else!
IF you do want to go with EVERYTHING (but the bathroom sink lol) there are many many sites on the web that list everything.

For what it is worth here is my list (it's ladies only, sorry it's from my experience only, I've no clue what generally is placed in the man's bathroom)
1. Deodorant - I'd suggest 3 bottles of spray on. I think it'd be cute to put your own stickers on them to make it your own "wedding brand". For example, change Sure to become Sure I do! Or Dove to become Love. OMG I just came up with that sticker idea as I typed and I think it's a winner!
2. Body spray (for the same reasons as the deodorant). You could put two types - the spray on Impulse type, plus the pump (Victoria Secret) type of body spray. I'd say 3 bottles also.
3. Plasters/Bandaids
4. Sewing kit, plus safety pins
5. Hair clips/bobby pins/straight slides type
6. Hair bobbins
7. Hair spray - one big can of Silvikrin should do it.

And that's it! No packs of makeup wipes (seriously why???), no cotton buds, no tweezers. I wouldn't buy anything else and instead I'd use the money for flip flops!

Yes, I love when flip flips are provided, So the more flip flops you can provide the better.

What are your thoughts on bathroom baskets? What do you think about my list? Would you add or take away anything?!

Liam McPoyle

The missus did this for the ladies at ours. The only thing is that she bought about 30 pairs of flip flops (only €1.50 each mind you) but we are now left with about 20 pairs up stairs, aside from that, the deodorant, hair spray etc went down a treat.

Stheno

Wtf?

I got married (since divorced) in 1999 and there was none of this nonsense

Seems weddings have gone from a ceremony to solemnise a marriage with a meal to celebrate after, to some sort of ridiculous event
I know someone getting married soon who for her after part day has boules , kayaking and various games involved

And now op as a guest at weddings wants deodorant provided in the bathrooms!

I am gobsmacked I'm going to a wedding soon and in my bag I'll have a roll on, powder,perfume,and lipstick, I'll wear shoes I'll be comfortable in for the day, and won't need to avail of a bathroom basket

What other event would you attend that you would expect to be babied to this extent

Seriously it's utter nonsense

Spanish Eyes

Someone I know visited a posh hotel recently where the flip flops were in a huge basket by the door from a wedding the day before.

Guess who has lots of new flip flops with the tags still on? The hotel didn't mind, as they had not been taken away on the morning after as advised. Or maybe they just turned a blind eye.

Anyway, why deodorant AND body spray, So many smells going on with the perfume and all that. One or the other I'd say.

Need some paracetemol/aspirin in every room for the morning after. Now THAT is a good idea!!

Spanish Eyes

Stheno wrote: »

Wtf?

I got married (since divorced) in 1999 and there was none of this nonsense

Seems weddings have gone from a ceremony to solemnise a marriage with a meal to celebrate after, to some sort of ridiculous event
I know someone getting married soon who for her after part day has boiled, kayaking and various games involved

And now op as a guest at weddings wants deodorant provided in the bathrooms!

I am gobsmacked

Ah it's the little things that don't cost too much! This is the era of high heels, dirty drunken sweaty dancing, plasters, deodorant, safety pins and flip flops. So what.

It can go over the top though I will grant you that.

byhookorbycrook

Unless you have exclusive use of the hotel, chances are much stuff will disappear with non-guests. I do think it's an extra expense and that most people don't really notice -or care.

Stheno

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

Ah it's the little things that don't cost too much! This is the era of high heels, dirty drunken sweaty dancing, plasters, deodorant, safety pins and flip flops. So what.

It can go over the top though I will grant you that.

It's complete bull imo from the op post I'd fit everything apart from flip flops in any evening bag

Talk about wanting to be pandered to!

byhookorbycrook

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

Ah it's the little things that don't cost too much! This is the era of high heels, dirty drunken sweaty dancing, plasters, deodorant, safety pins and flip flops. So what.

It can go over the top though I will grant you that.

Not a great endorsement of your social circle.

Spanish Eyes

Stheno wrote: »

It's complete bull imo from the op post I'd fit everything apart from flip flops in any evening bag

Talk about wanting to be pandered to!

I actually agree with you.

Most people will stay over and have all those things to hand. Maybe they only remember that when they are sober though!!

amdublin

Stheno wrote: »

It's complete bull imo from the op post I'd fit everything apart from flip flops in any evening bag

Talk about wanting to be pandered to!

You think my list is big?! Check this out
http://www.mrs2be.ie/wedding-reception-guest-bathroom-baskets/

Spanish Eyes

byhookorbycrook wrote: »

Not a great endorsement of your social circle.

You could be right there! But to me it's a typical Wedding set up.

That's why I now avoid all but close family weddings like the plague. But even the family weddings are the same madness, but at least I know them :eek:

purplecow1977

Bathroom basket s are a load of crap like other wedding gimmicks.
It's almost becoming circus like!!!

halfback5

Business Cat wrote:

The missus did this for the ladies at ours. The only thing is that she bought about 30 pairs of flip flops (only €1.50 each mind you) but we are now left with about 20 pairs up stairs, aside from that, the deodorant, hair spray etc went down a treat.

where did you get the flip flops for 1.50?

Stheno

amdublin wrote: »

You think my list is big?! Check this out
http://www.mrs2be.ie/wedding-reception-guest-bathroom-baskets/

Some of the items there are disgusting, I mean who wants to use lipgloss someone else has used?

Be it a tube or jar, that's gross. Same with combs, tweezers, scissors and lotion

halfback5 wrote: »

where did you get the flip flops for 1.50?

Pennys

http://www.primark.com/en-ie/products/category/women,womens-footwear,beach

amor3

Ooohhhh.. really considering not doing baskets now! It was never really an important part but just if i got around to picking up a few bits, got baskets but that's it so far, might just stop at that ☺

Stheno

amor3 wrote: »

Ooohhhh.. really considering not doing baskets now! It was never really an important part but just if i got around to picking up a few bits, got baskets but that's it so far, might just stop at that ☺

Seriously don't let my opinion stop you, it's 1999 since I was last at a wedding , it was mine.

We got the flowers the day before, we didn't have fancy chair covers, table dressings, favours or anything like that.

Bathroom baskets weren't even in existence then, and at the end of the night everyone went home, and were never seen in the same place again

These days it's weekend long affairs, with fancier and fancier table centre pieces, favours for the guests, and now it appears bathroom baskets.

I may be going for round two of marriage in years to come, it'll be a quick ceremony at the registry office, and a lovely meal in a very nice restaurant for a small group of loved ones. So I'm a cranky old mare when it comes to these things

Arbiter of Good Taste

Stheno wrote: »

It's complete bull imo from the op post I'd fit everything apart from flip flops in any evening bag

Talk about wanting to be pandered to!

Who pissed in your cornflakes today???

It's a lovely idea, and it's a little way of letting the guests know that the bride and groom were thinking about them when planning the day.

OP, if I remember correctly, this is what I had in mine

Ladies:
Deodorant
Hairspray
Hair pins
Cotton buds
Breath spray and mints
Stain remover wipes
Clear nail varnish
Emery boards
Lip balm
Safety pins
Hand cream

Men's
Deodorant
Hair gel
Breath spray and mints
Stain remover wipes

It didn't cost much at all. Penneys is cheap as chips for these things, and I would pick up few bits and pieces in Boots every so often throw something in if it was free under the 3 for 2 offers.

Stheno

Arbiter of Good Taste wrote: »

Who pissed in your cornflakes today???

It's a lovely idea, and it's a little way of letting the guests know that the bride and groom were thinking about them when planning the day.

No one I genuinely think it's pure nonsense, and just more theatre to add to the day.

If I were to attend a wedding with this, I'd seriously think it was ridiculous

These are adults you are pandering to not children.

byhookorbycrook

Do people not just have flat shoes in the car or if staying over, the room? Antiperspirant should mean people don't need deodorant , unless they are skanks.

kandr10

I managed to find the best plain black clutch in monsoon for €7 which held purse, lipstick, deodorant, flat shoes amongst other things. Win win.
Not worth the expense at all.
Apparently you get a bigger uptake on the flip flops if you keep them near the dance floor. Just in case there's anyone who has bought a dose load of them and is worried about being left with them 😉

amdublin

I'd generally reapply deodorant on a night out. But generally I have a bigger bag with me.

I see it as a nice touch that it's provided as my small bag won't take a big deodorant.

I think providing breath freshener etc is going out of your way (see my suggested list on first post) but each to their own!

Hey anyone like my cute rebranding idea for the bottles???!!

dudara

I first went to a wedding in the early 2000s with this idea, and I thought it was great. And I still do.

Just keep it simple. No need for too much in the basket. But, speaking for myself, as the world's worst women for packing makeup, I like to find a deodorant in a bathroom.

Stheno

dudara wrote: »

I first went to a wedding in the early 2000s with this idea, and I thought it was great. And I still do.

Just keep it simple. No need for too much in the basket. But, speaking for myself, as the world's worst women for packing makeup, I like to find a deodorant in a bathroom.

I suspedt my aversion to this is that I tend to have absolutely everything I need in my bag. That in itself spins out from my travelling a lot with work, and in my early days, assuming a hotel would provide basic toiletries like toothbrush/paste and body wash/shampoo.

Then I got sent to a place where the hotel didn't provide it.

Ever since, anytime I go anywhere strange for a day or more, I've everything I need. For a wedding I'd have antiperspirant, perfume, lipstick, and powder in my bag, and in the car/case I'd have a sewing kit/ pins/flats etc.

So thinking about it, unless you are a little OCD as I am in relation to being prepared for where you are going to, I can see why they might be seen as a good idea. Lip gloss though is just a big much hygiene wise.

Different strokes I guess If I do get married again, we won't be having them

pwurple

I didn't do it for my own OP, but I've been to weddings with them and they can be useful. I used a needle and thread & scissors anyway repairing a tear in someone's dress before at a wedding. I prefer the ballet flats in various colours to flip flops myself.


I love the rebranding idea! Do it!

looksee

Just as an aside, please reconsider the body spray especially stuff like Impulse. This whole business of spraying chemicals around to change smells (personal or buildings) causes problems to increasing numbers of people. I know someone who has to leave any venue where someone has doused them-self - and even the build up of more subtle perfumes in an enclosed area means she cannot stay long - it really makes her ill.

I do not have medical problems with it, but I too find the smell of sprayed on perfume quite disgusting. All you need is the merest suggestion of perfume, at most.

Milly33

hahah love I Arbiter of Good Taste just say what you feel..

Love the baskets now I have to say tis great if you feel like you have forgotten anything..

I have most of what is said above and getting some afro combs for the ladies basket, and also planning to make up just a little spray stain remover.. I am sure there is one with baking soda or something in it...

Oh and clear nail polish for any runs in the tights..

fits

I didnt bother with bathroom baskets. Its another unnecessary expense imo.

amdublin

Milly33 wrote: »

hahah love I Arbiter of Good Taste just say what you feel..

Love the baskets now I have to say tis great if you feel like you have forgotten anything..

I have most of what is said above and getting some afro combs for the ladies basket, and also planning to make up just a little spray stain remover.. I am sure there is one with baking soda or something in it...

Oh and clear nail polish for any runs in the tights..

Good idea on the clear nail varnish.

Re. Afro combs. Do you and your friends have afro hair? Are you expecting many ladies with 'fros at your wedding. Would you not just get just regular straight combs/hairbrushes?

Milly33

No no afros here but they are great for curly hair so they are.. Or if lets say you wanted to put some volume into your hair they are great for holding bathes of hair up and spraying underneath..

PhoenixParker

I wouldn't bother with combs at all. Most people won't share a comb with someone else. Ditto lip balm, mouth wash (unless you're providing cups) etc. hand cream is often provided in hotel bathrooms so check that. I've always thought flip flops were a bit pointless. It's impossible to dance in flip flops.

A nice basic basket in the bathroom is a great addition. I've used them a lot. There's no need to go to huge expense or trouble.

Hair - hairspray, grips, bobbins
Freshen up - spray anti-perspirant, chewing gum
Disaster repair - plasters, baby wipes, cotton buds, safety pins.
Sanitary - tampons & pads

Done.

Milly33

oh another is those oil blotting sheets you see for you face...yeah you can go mad or not depends as per it all what you fancy yourself

chanelfreak

PhoenixParker wrote: »

I wouldn't bother with combs at all. Most people won't share a comb with someone else. Ditto lip balm, mouth wash (unless you're providing cups) etc. hand cream is often provided in hotel bathrooms so check that. I've always thought flip flops were a bit pointless. It's impossible to dance in flip flops.

A nice basic basket in the bathroom is a great addition. I've used them a lot. There's no need to go to huge expense or trouble.

Hair - hairspray, grips, bobbins
Freshen up - spray anti-perspirant, chewing gum
Disaster repair - plasters, baby wipes, cotton buds, safety pins.
Sanitary - tampons & pads

Done.

I was firmly on team Stheno there, I think that the bathroom baskets are a complete and utter waste, as no-one I know (drunk or sober) would use things like combs, lipbalms, etc that someone else had used. However, the items PP mentioned above would be a really nice touch if you *had* to have something there.

Saying that, my future SIL is getting married next year and if she even starts mentioning this ridiculous notion of flip-flops and half of Boots, I'm going to have to slap her down. The brother will thank me for it

Amoureux

I like the idea of baskets, I always end up with a tiny clutch at a wedding that just about fits my phone, money and a bit of makeup, so it's nice to have access to some body spray and hairspray as the evening goes on. My OH also appreciates the deoderant and gel that's usually on offer in the gents. I'll definitely be including them at my wedding, it's something small that I can for my guests that may help them out at some stage during their evening, and if they have no interest in anything in the basket then it will make no difference to them that it's there.

Have to say I was surprised by some of the response on this thread. People have lots of different styles of weddings, some like it simple, some like it over the top and then there are about a hundred variations in between. A wedding is a chance for a couple to celebrate their relationship and whatever way they choose to do that should be up to them. I love this forum because I've got lots of great advice and lovely ideas from it. It's such a pity that some people feel the need to come on here and shame others for choosing to include certain elements in their wedding. Of course everyone is going to like different things but if I ever see people talking about things that I personally wouldn't like for my wedding I certainly don't feel the need to contribute to the thread by slagging it off. No one should have to feel like they need to justify anything they do for their weddding just because others didn't do it for theirs.

Liam McPoyle

Amoureux wrote: »

I like the idea of baskets, I always end up with a tiny clutch at a wedding that just about fits my phone, money and a bit of makeup, so it's nice to have access to some body spray and hairspray as the evening goes on. My OH also appreciates the deoderant and gel that's usually on offer in the gents. I'll definitely be including them at my wedding, it's something small that I can for my guests that may help them out at some stage during their evening, and if they have no interest in anything in the basket then it will make no difference to them that it's there.

Have to say I was surprised by some of the response on this thread. People have lots of different styles of weddings, some like it simple, some like it over the top and then there are about a hundred variations in between. A wedding is a chance for a couple to celebrate their relationship and whatever way they choose to do that should be up to them. I love this forum because I've got lots of great advice and lovely ideas from it. It's such a pity that some people feel the need to come on here and shame others for choosing to include certain elements in their wedding. Of course everyone is going to like different things but if I ever see people talking about things that I personally wouldn't like for my wedding I certainly don't feel the need to contribute to the thread by slagging it off. No one should have to feel like they need to justify anything they do for their weddding just because others didn't do it for theirs.

Thats the key thing I think, the few bits herself got (excluding the flip flops) came to around €20 and I do think its a nice touch.

berrecka

I suppose maybe it depends on the time of year of the wedding, but if the ladies are wearing tights, flipflops are useless to them. Ankle socks or pumps (expensive option) are a much better option, I think.

aunt aggie

Really surprised at how many people are against these baskets. It's the most practical gesture and it doesn't have to be expensive. I've loved them at the weddings I've attended. The hairspray and bobby pins are a life saver.

You have to remember that a lot of guests will not have booked a room after all the expense involved in attending the wedding itself. Ladies have very small clutch bags, that only just fit the phone, camera and purse. After 12 to 18 hours of standing around, eating too much and dancing like a fool anyone would need to change shoes and freshen up.

Zhane

I think it s a brilliant idea. It won't be of use to everyone, but the ones that will use it will appreciate it big time.

haveringchick

Stheno wrote: »

No one I genuinely think it's pure nonsense, and just more theatre to add to the day.

If I were to attend a wedding with this, I'd seriously think it was ridiculous

These are adults you are pandering to not children.

I couldn't agree more. It really is nonsense. It's got nothing to do either with being considerate of guests. No wedding guest ever in the history of weddings went to the toilet and said"how inconsiderate! I really need some Penneys lip balm and a cotton bud and there's none here" it's just juvenile competitive showing off like needy creatures fishing for Facebook likes.
If you want to show your guests you care do without the sweet cart the photo booth the chocolate fountain the pointless insulting "favours" (please) and the sad bathroom baskets and spend all that money instead on a decent meal or decent night time snacks . Oh and try not to ignore your cherished guests for 2+ hours without even a biscuit and a cup of tea while you throw endless ridiculous poses for your pretentious over priced photographer.

Faith

At, the wedding forum rears its nasty head again. Brides and grooms just can't win. If they leave something out, they're selfish and inconsiderate. If they include something extra, they're pandering and showing off. Some of the replies here are just so nasty, and a really poor reflection of the posters. All I can say is I'm glad none of you will be at my wedding! It must be tiring spending all of your time judging people so much.

Amoureux

haveringchick wrote: »

I couldn't agree more. It really is nonsense. It's got nothing to do either with being considerate of guests. No wedding guest ever in the history of weddings went to the toilet and said"how inconsiderate! I really need some Penneys lip balm and a cotton bud and there's none here" it's just juvenile competitive showing off like needy creatures fishing for Facebook likes.
If you want to show your guests you care do without the sweet cart the photo booth the chocolate fountain the pointless insulting "favours" (please) and the sad bathroom baskets and spend all that money instead on a decent meal or decent night time snacks . Oh and try not to ignore your cherished guests for 2+ hours without even a biscuit and a cup of tea while you throw endless ridiculous poses for your pretentious over priced photographer.

I understand that guests wont find it inconsiderate if the basket isn't there but they do appreciate it if it is there. I know myself I've appreciated the basket being there purely because it had things like hairspray or body spray, there is no way I would have fitted these things in my bag. I've seen women purposely walking into the bathroom looking for the basket and being so grateful that there's hairclips/plasters/etc. If I've ensured that there's decent food and a good band surely its my perogative to spend my money on extras that I think will enhance my guests experience.
Not really sure how favours are insulting?! Equally confused about how spending money on a photographer to capture what would be one of the most important days in my life is pretentious.

Think it's a bit unfair to ridicule people who want to have their wedding a certain way, there's no one on here sneering about weddings that didn't have all these extras, if people want to have a simple pared back wedding that's fair enough but I don't see anyone coming on this forum trying to shame them for this decision. I think the same respect should be payed to those who decide to have a wedding that includes some of the extras that I personally have appreciated as a guest at a wedding.

Toots

haveringchick, there is absolutely no need for that kind of hostility. It is possible to express your opinion without being horrible about it. Please read the charter before posting again.

Same goes for the rest of the thread, keep it civil. There's no need to go make people feel like crap because you don't like an aspect of their wedding plans.

haveringchick

Congrats and best of luck on your upcoming nuptials. Believe it or not I'm neither judgemental or nasty. And I know this is the biggest day of your life so far and you must and will do as you please. But remember this. Some of your nearest and dearest will look forward to spending the day celebrating with you and supporting you. They will have saved up or borrowed and are looking forward to spending some time with you and enjoying a very nice meal. If you decide to disappear for hours and then serve a reheated plate of whatever was the cheapest choice on offer then that ice cream van outside the church and the unhygienic messy chocolate fountain that you somehow thought would impress suddenly seem cliched and inexcusable. The local chippers where I live do a bomb now whenever there's a wedding in town due to the wedding guests being half starved. One mother of the groom expressed her mortification to me on passing back through town after the photos and spotting most of her guests in Subway.

Stheno

haveringchick wrote: »

Congrats and best of luck on your upcoming nuptials. Believe it or not I'm neither judgemental or nasty. And I know this is the biggest day of your life so far and you must and will do as you please. But remember this. Some of your nearest and dearest will look forward to spending the day celebrating with you and supporting you. They will have saved up or borrowed and are looking forward to spending some time with you and enjoying a very nice meal. If you decide to disappear for hours and then serve a reheated plate of whatever was the cheapest choice on offer then that ice cream van outside the church and the unhygienic messy chocolate fountain that you somehow thought would impress suddenly seem cliched and inexcusable. The local chippers where I live do a bomb now whenever there's a wedding in town due to the wedding guests being half starved. One mother of the groom expressed her mortification to me on passing back through town after the photos and spotting most of her guests in Subway.

In fairness, given the detail people are talking about going to in this thread mediocre food is not something I imagine would feature

I'm going to a wedding in the registry office soon and we are invited for the ceremony which probably takes half an hour? Then dinner two hours after the ceremony which I imagine is to set expectations that there will be a gap for photos which I thought was a good idea

Amoureux

haveringchick wrote: »

Congrats and best of luck on your upcoming nuptials. Believe it or not I'm neither judgemental or nasty. And I know this is the biggest day of your life so far and you must and will do as you please. But remember this. Some of your nearest and dearest will look forward to spending the day celebrating with you and supporting you. They will have saved up or borrowed and are looking forward to spending some time with you and enjoying a very nice meal. If you decide to disappear for hours and then serve a reheated plate of whatever was the cheapest choice on offer then that ice cream van outside the church and the unhygienic messy chocolate fountain that you somehow thought would impress suddenly seem cliched and inexcusable. The local chippers where I live do a bomb now whenever there's a wedding in town due to the wedding guests being half starved. One mother of the groom expressed her mortification to me on passing back through town after the photos and spotting most of her guests in Subway.

Why do you assume that just because I plan to have some added extras for my guests that the meal will be reheated and I'll disappear for hours for photographs. I've chosen my venue because its renowned for both the quality and quantity of food served. It's my local venue and I've been to a good few weddings there and know that my guests will not be hungry nor will they be fed anything subpar. I'll be doing my wedding photos in the garden of the hotel. I choose my photographer because he does mostly candid shots and at the last wedding I saw him he only had the wedding perty away from the guests for 20 minutes.
I'm sorry that you seem to have extremely negative experiences at weddings and your local wedding venue is clearly very disappointing in terms of the food they serve but please don't assume this is the norm.
Having a few added extras and getting to spend time with well fed guests do not need to be mutually exclusive goals for my wedding. Of course everyone has a different idea about what they want for their wedding but I don't see the need to shame people about their choices. There is a difference between giving advice and making judgemental assumptions.

haveringchick

The last wedding I was at was at a church in the middle of nowhere followed by a hotel in the middle of nowhere. The hotel was 5 star. 2 bottles of beer and one whiskey was €10. 3 1/2 hours between church and meal. The meal was inedible. The b&g wanted the fancy setting but could only barely afford the budget menu. No evening food. Breakfast the following morning €18 per head. Neither bride nor groom spoke to either my husband or myself the whole day. The delicious looking cake turned out to be cardboard. Actual cardboard. I literally couldn't believe it. No thank you cards. Jesus.

Faith

haveringchick wrote: »

3 1/2 hours between church and meal.

Oh the horror. A whole 3.5 hours without eating? Did you make it through okay or did you nearly die from the starvation?

haveringchick wrote: »

2 bottles of beer and one whiskey was €10.

That's an incredibly reasonable price for 3 drinks.

Seems like you're looking for excuses to be annoyed.

haveringchick

Faith wrote: »

Oh the horror. A whole 3.5 hours without eating? Did you make it through okay or did you nearly die from the starvation?



That's an incredibly reasonable price for 3 drinks.

Seems like you're looking for excuses to be annoyed.

We'd left the house at 8am to drive the 3 hours to the middle of nowhere for the church ceremony. We couldn't find a B&B nearby and could only afford one night in the hotel at €250 per night room only. The B&G were fully aware that most of their guests were in similar financial circumstances to us but obviously they didn't let that deter them. It was a very close family member and declining the invite was not an option. Believe it or not there was a time when the brides mother simply wouldn't have entertained the idea of wedding guests having to feed themselves between leaving for the church and soup because of desicions about locations the B&G made based on how the photos would turn out. Edited to add that the church/hotel combo was nowhere distance wise near the home of either bride or groom nor was there any particular association with that area. It was picked purely for aesthetics and for the the vast majority of the guests was at least a 2 hour drive

Stheno

haveringchick wrote: »

We'd left the house at 8am to drive the 3 hours to the middle of nowhere for the church ceremony. We couldn't find a B&B nearby and could only afford one night in the hotel at €250 per night room only. The B&G were fully aware that most of their guests were in similar financial circumstances to us but obviously they didn't let that deter them. It was a very close family member and declining the invite was not an option. Believe it or not there was a time when the brides mother simply wouldn't have entertained the idea of wedding guests having to feed themselves between leaving for the church and soup because of desicions about locations the B&G made based on how the photos would turn out.

Now while I might think bathroom baskets are way over the top, you are being ridiculous now.

You knew where you were going and could have factored in time to get food before the wedding.

And you could have left at ten and driven home if you didn't want to stay in the hotel/couldn't find somewhere else to stay

That's you not making arrangements for yourself once you'd details of where the wedding was, nothing to do with the bride and groom

DivineGranny

haveringchick wrote: »

We'd left the house at 8am to drive the 3 hours to the middle of nowhere for the church ceremony. We couldn't find a B&B nearby and could only afford one night in the hotel at €250 per night room only. The B&G were fully aware that most of their guests were in similar financial circumstances to us but obviously they didn't let that deter them. It was a very close family member and declining the invite was not an option. Believe it or not there was a time when the brides mother simply wouldn't have entertained the idea of wedding guests having to feed themselves between leaving for the church and soup because of desicions about locations the B&G made based on how the photos would turn out. Edited to add that the church/hotel combo was nowhere distance wise near the home of either bride or groom nor was there any particular association with that area. It was picked purely for aesthetics and for the the vast majority of the guests was at least a 2 hour drive

What does any of this have to do with bathroom baskets? Just because you went to a bad wedding doesn't mean you have to be horrible to people in here for no good reason.

Toots

Guys can we get back on topic please? I suspect that the lifespan of this thread is rapidly drawing to a close....

haveringchick

Stheno wrote: »

Now while I might think bathroom baskets are way over the top, you are being ridiculous now.

You knew where you were going and could have factored in time to get food before the wedding.

And you could have left at ten and driven home if you didn't want to stay in the hotel/couldn't find somewhere else to stay

That's you not making arrangements for yourself once you'd details of where the wedding was, nothing to do with the bride and groom

Leaving the wedding at 10 would have created a bad atmosphere afterwards nevermind the thoughts of driving back an unfamiliar route after a long tiresome day of standing around endlessly. Believe me we were not the only ones quietly grumbling. The father of the groom was mortified. Particularly with the poor quality meal.