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Do you intend to get married?

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  • 27-06-2015 9:29pm
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    efb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 35,514 ✭✭✭✭


    If you are not currently married, do you intend/hope to?

    Never on my radar now the referendum has changed that. I think I would like to marry. (pref Leo Varadkar! :P)

    So single boardsies, do you intend to wed?

    Do you intend to get married? 318 votes

    Already married
    0% 0 votes
    Someday
    24% 78 votes
    No!
    45% 144 votes
    I'm married in my virtual gaming world
    30% 96 votes


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    mad m
    Registered Users Posts: 9,002 ✭✭✭mad m


    Live in sin I say!!!


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    #3
    The Backwards Man
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    I intend to go to the moon but I need a lift in a spaceship first.


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    Not a NSA agent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 781 ✭✭✭Not a NSA agent


    Probably will eventually, emigration is a bit easier as a couple when youre married.


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    #5
    Mightydrumming
    Registered Users Posts: 746 ✭✭✭Mightydrumming


    I'd like to think by not getting married I would be sparing my self from brain damage.


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    Birneybau
    Registered Users Posts: 10,240 ✭✭✭✭Birneybau


    I should have done...


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    #7
    the evasion_kid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,740 ✭✭✭the evasion_kid


    Not a hope


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    jimmycrackcorm
    Registered Users Posts: 14,331 ✭✭✭✭jimmycrackcorm


    Getting married is like signing into Mountjoy without the possibility of parole. There is no reason why two people can't just simply decide to stay together. Marriage exists to force people to stay together hence the long notice period if you want to divorce


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    #9
    c_man
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,436 ✭✭✭c_man


    I always thought I would, and indeed hope I do. I'd like to have someone to share my life with.

    But I'm posting on boards on a Saturday night so, you know...


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    #10
    coffee_cake
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Politics Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 81,309 CMod ✭✭✭✭coffee_cake


    I don't "intend" to, it's not like "do you intend to go on holiday this year"
    Find the first fella who'll do and march him up the aisle :pac:
    But I wouldn't mind if it comes up like :)


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    jorex88
    Site Banned Posts: 13 ✭jorex88


    mad m wrote: »
    Live in sin I say!!!

    All very fine, but will your kids (or your family/friends) respect you?


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    368100
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,067 ✭✭✭368100


    If Only I could fool someone ;-)


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    beks101
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    I predict this thread will be brimming full of responses from die-hard romantics writing sweet soliloquys about the beauty and benefits of the institution of marriage...


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    Zaph
    Registered Users, Subscribers Posts: 47,283 ✭✭✭✭Zaph


    efb wrote: »
    So single boardsies, do you intend to wed?

    I don't think you can ask someone if they intend to get married. They might like to at some stage, but if they never find the person they want to marry they can intend all they like but it ain't going to happen. I was 44 when I got married and would not unreasonably have assumed that being single at 40+ would mean I'd be staying single. I certainly would have liked to meet someone I loved to the extent that I wanted to marry her, and fortunately I did, but I couldn't say I intended to get married before I met my wife.


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    efb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 35,514 ✭✭✭✭efb


    in·tend
    \in-ˈtend\
    verb
    : to plan or want to do (something) : to have (something) in your mind as a purpose or goal
    : to plan for or want (someone or something) to do or be something


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    #16
    efb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 35,514 ✭✭✭✭efb


    To intend also means to want to guys


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    #17
    efb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 35,514 ✭✭✭✭efb


    Zaph wrote: »
    I don't think you can ask someone if they intend to get married. They might like to at some stage, but if they never find the person they want to marry they can intend all they like but it ain't going to happen. I was 44 when I got married and would not unreasonably have assumed that being single at 40+ would mean I'd be staying single. I certainly would have liked to meet someone I loved to the extent that I wanted to marry her, and fortunately I did, but I couldn't say I intended to get married before I met my wife.


    Some people do want to marry in life. Not just passive about it


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    coffee_cake
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Politics Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 81,309 CMod ✭✭✭✭coffee_cake


    efb wrote: »
    To intend also means to want to guys

    I guess I'm trying to say that being with someone I'm happy with would be more important than intending to get married in and of itself and having to find someone to fill the position
    In reverse order
    If you're asking unmarried couples I suppose it makes more sense :pac:


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    blackbird 49
    Registered Users Posts: 411 ✭✭blackbird 49


    jorex88 wrote: »
    All very fine, but will your kids (or your family/friends) respect you?

    My brother and his partner are not married and their 3 children don't think any less of them


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    Cold War Kid
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    jimmycrackcorm wrote: »
    There is no reason why two people can't just simply decide to stay together.
    There is - they won't be next of kin if they don't get married, which could be really important (e.g. if one got ill and only next of kin could visit them). If they have children and the relationship goes awry and simply has to end, the father has zero parental rights.
    I understand the idea of getting married not appealing to people who'd prefer just to be in a relationship (I'd kinda empathise tbh) but it's not true, when it comes to certain protections, that a committed relationship is the same as a marriage unfortunately.


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    #21
    efb
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    bluewolf wrote: »
    I guess I'm trying to say that being with someone I'm happy with would be more important than intending to get married in and of itself and having to find someone to fill the position
    In reverse order
    If you're asking unmarried couples I suppose it makes more sense :pac:

    Some single people want to get married too you know!

    /sits in wedding dress and watches Muriel's Wedding for the 40th time...


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    Zaph
    Registered Users, Subscribers Posts: 47,283 ✭✭✭✭Zaph


    efb wrote: »
    Some people do want to marry in life. Not just passive about it

    I don't disagree, but my point is that no matter how firm their intentions, they're still dependent on another person to enable to them to meet their goal. It doesn't necessarily happen for everyone, no matter how much they may want it.


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    RobertKK
    Registered Users Posts: 33,733 ✭✭✭✭RobertKK


    No, I don't want to ever get married.


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    jorex88
    Site Banned Posts: 13 ✭jorex88


    blackbird 49 wrote: »
    My brother and his partner are not married and their 3 children don't think any less of them

    So why didn't they bother marrying? Afraid of the public declaration bit?


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    #25
    efb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 35,514 ✭✭✭✭efb


    Zaph wrote: »
    I don't disagree, but my point is that no matter how firm their intentions, they're still dependent on another person to enable to them to meet their goal. It doesn't necessarily happen for everyone, no matter how much they may want it.

    thats why its an intention, not a definite!


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    #26
    efb
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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X09M4YjeE78


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    Doctor Jimbob
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    jorex88 wrote: »
    So why didn't they bother marrying? Afraid of the public declaration bit?

    You seem to be getting very wound up by this


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    #28
    coffee_cake
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Politics Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 81,309 CMod ✭✭✭✭coffee_cake


    zaph is much better at saying what im trying to say


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    #29
    jorex88
    Site Banned Posts: 13 ✭jorex88


    Doctor Jimbob wrote: »
    You seem to be getting very wound up by this

    Excuse me for getting "wound up" when hearing about fathers who are unwilling to commit and mothers who are willing to spread their legs (3 times, no less) to uncommiting fathers.

    Mod: rereg banned


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    #30
    efb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 35,514 ✭✭✭✭efb


    bluewolf wrote: »
    zaph is much better at saying what im trying to say

    You can intend to do something and for it never to come to pass. Thats why its referred to as an intention.


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    #31
    efb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 35,514 ✭✭✭✭efb


    jorex88 wrote: »
    Excuse me for getting "wound up" when hearing about fathers who are unwilling to commit and mothers who are willing to spread their legs (3 times, no less) to uncommiting fathers.

    Chill.


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