online dating sites,your experiences.Good or bad?

harry Bailey esq

hi folks, i don't know if this is the proper place to post,if not maybe a friendly mod will move it for me. Anyways after much pressure from my pals I've joined an online dating site,well two to be precise.Plenty of fish an okcupid.Few of my mates have been on them a good while,have a reasonable strike rate,and saddle up with new people every other weekend.Plenty of fish in particular is "too easy" im told.Thing is,I've been on a few blind(ish) dates in the past,the odd few texts and calls in the run up but essentially blind dates.Most of them were a nightmare to be honest,and not because of the venue or company,i met some lovely people and went to places in my hometown that i would have never went otherwise,the guiness storehouse being memorable,but the real reason is usually nervousness on my part,i clam up sometimes,and the girl,whos probably just as nervous as me but cooler under pressure cops this and starts clamming up too.Cue awkward silences etc. Iv no such worries chatting up women in a pub,but im unemployed now so its not possible to be hitting the town every weekend.Half my friends are married,and the single ones all use these sites.So everybody is getting plenty,except me,and i feel like im missing out.So as the title says,experiences,good or bad?
Thanks, Harry.

Buzz Killington the third

That wall of text just hurt my eyes!

The One Doctor

Don't bother, and I speak from experience with dating sites. They're useless. Just go out and talk to women. The best chat-up line is 'Hi'. It's always worked for me.

Sir Arthur Daley

Go in harmony op.

catallus

Do you really think you can fill the void in your soul by trawling the net for other lonely people OP? No.

You're going to be alone forever. FOREVER, I say!

Just deal with it.

harry Bailey esq

Buzz Killington the third wrote: »

That wall of text just hurt my eyes!

its a pity the words won't come out like that on my many failed attempts at blind dating

Sir Arthur Daley

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

its a pity the words won't come out like that on my many failed attempts at blind dating

Why are you wearing a blind fold going dating?

Puzzle35

No experience Harry, though a neighbour of mine did meet her husband through one. Try to relax and just enjoy it as a night out with a new friend and you're right the girl will be at least as nervous as you.

harry Bailey esq

catallus wrote: »

Do you really think you can fill the void in your soul by trawling the net for other lonely people OP? No.

You're going to be alone forever. FOREVER, I say!

Just deal with it.

i love being alone,i just want me hole

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

The One Doctor wrote: »

The best chat-up line is 'Hi'. It's always worked for me.

You must be a hunk.

catallus

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

i love being alone,i just want me hole

Well then, Plenty of Fish is where it's at.

harry Bailey esq

Sir Arthur Daley wrote: »

Why are you wearing a blind fold going dating?

have to get them into bed first before getting into light s+m

harry Bailey esq

Sir Arthur Daley wrote: »

Why are you wearing a blind fold going dating?

catallus wrote: »

Well then, Plenty of Fish is where it's at.

That seems to be the general consensus. anyone know how genuine it is? i only joined on Tuesday evening and have definitely had fakes message me,one message was supposedly from a girl close to where live,naively i responded to that.Then yesterday a message from somebody in derry. It was the same picture.

Sir Arthur Daley

I would suggest take up a sport or hobby, you get to meet new people and you never know as they say.

wp_rathead

Met up with 4 girls via pof. 2 were good experiences and 2 were bad..

bad: one turned out to be a lesbian and the other was kinda pro-rape and i ended up havin massive row with her on first date (by pro-rape i mean she victim blamed)

The two good ones i met up with them few times- we had good time but was no real "le spark" .. Enjoyable though all same

Gran Hermano

www.rip.ie is great for identifying who's new to the dating scene in your area.

Buzz Killington the third

I thought tinder was the new place to get the ride?

Sir Arthur Daley

Buzz Killington the third wrote: »

I thought tinder was the new place to get the ride?

Did you mean timber as in boards?

harry Bailey esq

Buzz Killington the third wrote: »

I thought tinder was the new place to get the ride?

I've heard of tinder,the app don't work on my phone.I was told its not great.

mickydoomsux

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

I've heard of tinder,the app don't work on my phone.I was told its not great.

I tried tinder and it's ****e. It's that old "hot or not" website from a few years back with the added benefit of being able to message the people in the pics.

I used pof for a while and got talking to a few women but none of them were really my cup of tea. Did get ride off one of them the first time we met and another wanted to shag but circumstances got in the way at the time.

EDIT: almost forgot to mention that you will have to deal with a good percentage of headcases one way or the other

harry Bailey esq

wprathead wrote: »

one turned out to be a lesbian and the other was kinda pro-rape

certainly food for thought :eek:

Buzz Killington the third

mickydoomsux wrote: »

I tried tinder and it's ****e. It's that old "hot or not" website from a few years back with the added benefit of being able to message the people in the pics.

Sounds like too many people just swiped left on you :pac:

catallus

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

I've heard of tinder,the app don't work on my phone.I was told its not great.

Don't you need a facebook account for that?

mickydoomsux

Buzz Killington the third wrote: »

Sounds like too many people just swiped left on you :pac:

My secret is out

harry Bailey esq

Liquid Sunshine wrote: »

Chat women up during the day, it's free.

if it was that easy i wouldn't have signed up on the dating sites,nobody would.

harry Bailey esq

Liquid Sunshine wrote: »

Have you ever tried? Give it a go and practice.

orangesoda you rascal...

artful_codger

wprathead wrote: »

the other was kinda pro-rape and i ended up havin massive row with her on first date (by pro-rape i mean she victim blamed)

Why the hell were you discussing Rape on a first date you weirdo.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I can confirm tinder is indeed unreal for getting the ride. You apparently don't even have to talk to each other, just like each others pic and bobs at your uncle.

stimpson

Puzzle35 wrote: »

No experience Harry, though a neighbour of mine did meet her husband through one.

I bet they were both scarlet.

Shenshen

I used to use them a while ago... had a few dates, some good, some not so much, a few one night stands, and eventually met my now husband on a page call flirtbox.ie (not sure if this is still going, it was nearly a decade ago).

I can honestly say I've never, ever in my life met someone "on a night out"... never got how people would manage to do that. Most pubs and clubs are too noisy to hear anything at all, how would you get chatting to someone?

Taking up sports or other hobbies and finding a group is good advise, though, I think.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I met a guy on a night out last year, and he's one of my best friends now. He smelled like a guy I used to be with, other than that I'd have probably been with him. Still, we text each other every single day and I've brought him home a few times and made him sleep on the couch, so I'm sure he's happy enough in the friendzone.

It's much easier meeting guys on nights out, than a dating site, I would think. People aren't as sleezy in person!

Skeleton XIII

With herself 3 years now. Met on Pof. Could never do the pub/club hook up thing. I cringe at myself too much to approach randomers and I'm not giving some tarted up bitch the satisfaction of loudly telling me to **** off in front of a bunch of people. **** absolutely all of that.
Reckon a certain degree of shamelessness is what's needed for that, something I don't have.

Dating sites are not for everybody. But for those giving it a shot, with a bit of luck, a thick skin and perseverance, it can work.

TerrorFirmer

I've had a few good dates from online dating, some bad, even at that, bad in the sense that the person wasn't like what their profile suggested (one girl was very normal in her pictures, and in person, was older and very, very overweight) - still nice people though, always had a good time on dates. I'm not convinced it's the best way to meet people but it's an interesting alternative for those of us who don't get out as much anymore for various reasons.

wp_rathead

artful_codger wrote: »

Why the hell were you discussing Rape on a first date you weirdo.

Iv explained this before - a hen party walked into bar we were and she went "bet one of them gonna get raped, but sure their own fault,.they askin for it dressed like that" - date was goin ****e before this so instead if lettin it slide i challenged her on it..

harry Bailey esq

wprathead wrote: »

Iv explained this before - a hen party walked into bar we were and she went "bet one of them gonna get raped, but sure their own fault,.they askin for it dressed like that" - date was goin ****e before this so instead if lettin it slide i challenged her on it..

were you eying up any of said hen party by any chance? where they more attractive than your 'date' ?

The Dagda

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I'm sure he's happy enough in the friendzone.

I wouldn't be so sure about that...

eamonnq

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I've brought him home a few times and made him sleep on the couch, so I'm sure he's happy enough in the friendzone.

Yeah, right!!

SouthTippBass

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

were you eying up any of said hen party by any chance? where they more attractive than your 'date' ?

Let it go, he answered your question.

Hotfail.com

wprathead wrote: »

Met up with 4 girls via pof. 2 were good experiences and 2 were bad..

bad: one turned out to be a lesbian and the other was kinda pro-rape and i ended up havin massive row with her on first date (by pro-rape i mean she victim blamed)

The two good ones i met up with them few times- we had good time but was no real "le spark" .. Enjoyable though all same

By pro-rape I thought you meant she wanted you to rape her....

Hotfail.com

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

orangesoda you rascal...

My favourite troll was here and I missed it?

harry Bailey esq

Hotfail.com wrote: »

My favourite troll was here and I missed it?

orangesoda is omnipresent.

Duck's hoop

Shenshen wrote: »

I can honestly say I've never, ever in my life met someone "on a night out"... never got how people would manage to do that. Most pubs and clubs are too noisy to hear anything at all, how would you get chatting to someone?

You chat. If you 'hit it off' you get numbers. You meet again. It's very simple really.

Shenshen

Duck's hoop wrote: »

You chat. If you 'hit it off' you get numbers. You meet again. It's very simple really.

Can't say I find it simple to scream something at someone just 5 centimeters away at the top of my lungs, only for them to hardly hear it... I couldn't do this to have a conversation with a friend, nevermind a complete stranger.

Buzz Killington the third

I've never had a problem talking to someone in a club never mind a pub, and I don't have to be shouting in their face for them to hear me. I don't really get it when people say they just can't talk in these kind of places.

Fat Christy

Hotfail.com wrote: »

My favourite troll was here and I missed it?

Everyone keeps pointing it out and then he disappears....:(

The next time someone spots him say nothing lads....

Fat Christy

Buzz Killington the third wrote: »

I've never had a problem talking to someone in a club never mind a pub, and I don't have to be shouting in their face for them to hear me. I don't really get it when people say they just can't talk in these kind of places.

Yeah I usually have a penguin talk on the queue into Coppers, no better time for it. Talking shíte to randomers is best part of a night out.

Shenshen

Buzz Killington the third wrote: »

I've never had a problem talking to someone in a club never mind a pub, and I don't have to be shouting in their face for them to hear me. I don't really get it when people say they just can't talk in these kind of places.

I'm honestly curious : How?

Everytime I've been to a club, my ears were ringing and my voice was gone for days afterwards.

harry Bailey esq

Fat Christy wrote: »

Everyone keeps pointing it out and then he disappears....:(

The next time someone spots him say nothing lads....

i think he likes to be caught... or else he's just slipping.The new usernames are too easy to spot,i mean liquid sunshine?? not even trying anymore,try harder orangesoda

siblers

Met around 7 or 8 different girls through Tinder. Developed those feels for one girl but it didn't workout. Had some fun with a few other girls I met, the other ones were just normal first dates that didn't go any further. I too find it impossible to meet someone on a night out where it can go anything further than just getting the shift or ride. I'm too socially awkward to go up to girls during the day in the street.

harry Bailey esq

Shenshen wrote: »

I'm honestly curious : How?

Everytime I've been to a club, my ears were ringing and my voice was gone for days afterwards.

well clubs don't really appeal to me,but the pubs i drink in would be quite cosy places,music not to loud.Smoking areas are a godsend

Buzz Killington the third

Shenshen wrote: »

I'm honestly curious : How?

Everytime I've been to a club, my ears were ringing and my voice was gone for days afterwards.

Just invade everyone's personal space :pac: