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heyday30

greenfrogs wrote: »

Does anyone here struggle with poor body image. At the moment I am very self-conscious of my weight. I would describe myself as pear shaped as I carry a lot of weight around my hips and thighs. I would never wear a skirt without tights. My legs actually repulse me. I genuinely think no man would want me if they saw the state of my legs. I spend a few minutes each day examining them in the mirror. I know I should do squats but I just think it's pointless. I am wondering is this kinda an extreme attitude. Should I bring it up with my therapist. I have brought it up before but she just kinda skipped past it.

Yep. I've a lot of body hang ups. Legs too one for sure. Even at my thinnest / fittest I hated them would never go out bare legged. Now paranoid over my belly too. When I do go out ill wear long cardigans and long scarfs to try cover it.

If your still in therapy do of course bring it up. I think a lot of people here unfortunately have something about their body they hate

Hugo Stiglitz

heyday30 wrote: »

Yep. I've a lot of body hang ups. Legs too one for sure. Even at my thinnest / fittest I hated them would never go out bare legged. Now paranoid over my belly too. When I do go out ill wear long cardigans and long scarfs to try cover it.

If your still in therapy do of course bring it up. I think a lot of people here unfortunately have something about their body they hate

I know I do H

heyday30

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

I know I do H

It is so easy to get very hung up on your poor body image. It can easily become a fixation.

mg1982

heyday30 wrote: »

It is so easy to get very hung up on your poor body image. It can easily become a fixation.

Have to say my belly is the part i struggle with. Being carrying around a ponch for the last ten years. Its so hard to get rid off especially with my eating habits.

greenfrogs

heyday30 wrote: »

It is so easy to get very hung up on your poor body image. It can easily become a fixation.

There is always one part of my body that I fixate on. I was shopping yesterday and trying on knee length dresses. Some changing room lights show every imperfection especially the dreaded cellulite. The light highlights every lump and bump.

spudger1

greenfrogs wrote: »

Does anyone here struggle with poor body image. .

Hasn't been diagnosed, but there is a good chance i have Body Dysmorphic Disorder. Apparently such people commonly have issues
with OCD, Social Anxiety, eating disorders, and depression, all of which are things i wrestle with at times.

mg1982

spudger1 wrote: »

Hasn't been diagnosed, but there is a good chance i am Dysmorphic. People with BDD apparently commonly have issues
with OCD, Social Anxiety, eating disorders, and depression, all of which are things i wrestle with at times.

Dysmorphic. Is that where you have a distorted view of your own body like not seeing it how it really is?

spudger1

mg1982 wrote: »

Dysmorphic. Is that where you have a distorted view of your own body like not seeing it how it really is?

Yes.

But it feels like more i can see something nobody else can... That pretty much sums up my entire perspective on life tho.

heyday30

Sometimes... like This evening. I get to thinking n it makes me sad.
I will never know what it's like to have my own family. I look at people all around me having babies and see how happy they are. I'll never experience that. That bond must be awesome.

And girls I went to school with going on their hen nights n getting married.

Think I'll cancel my Facebook. I'm happy for them but can't help be jealous and sad too.

mg1982

heyday30 wrote: »

Sometimes... like This evening. I get to thinking n it makes me sad.
I will never know what it's like to have my own family. I look at people all around me having babies and see how happy they are. I'll never experience that. That bond must be awesome.

And girls I went to school with going on their hen nights n getting married.

Think I'll cancel my Facebook. I'm happy for them but can't help be jealous and sad too.

Aw heyday, dont be thinking like that. Your still a young woman and things can change.

heyday30

mg1982 wrote: »

Aw heyday, dont be thinking like that. Your still a young woman and things can change.

ah I don't think so mg. It doesn't seem to be for me.

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Hi I have been on sick leave from work since October suffering from stress and anxiety. I just feel I can't go back there between not being happy in the work place and too much happening in my personal life has left me feeling very anxious stressed mixed emotions and feeling very inconfident. I been sending in my certs but it's not enough they keep ringing me and sending letters wanting to know when I am coming back I just don't know what to tell them it's hard enough talking about it let alone telling them I'm not ready and on top of that. i recently found out that I am pregnant which I am delighted about but I'm just so afraid to tell work that one I'm not ready nor do I know do I want to go bk there and two that I'm pregnant, is there any way I can hand my notice and still have some bit of a Income coming in and that way I can focus on getting my mental health bk to normal and enjoy my pregnancy. Hope I have posted this the right way if not someone can tell me I'm useless at this sort of thing

mg1982

heyday30 wrote: »

ah I don't think so mg. It doesn't seem to be for me.

Why do you think that H? You still have a long life ahead of you and a lot can happen. If you really want that then maybe it is something you can work towards.

Gongoozler

Hey all.
Just wondering if anyone can recommend a book on self esteem for me? I need to get working on mine.

seventeen sheep

Anyone get insomnia from taking Valium? I've just started taking it and not a hope of me getting a wink of sleep tonight. And I'm more panicky than ever. Have a viral infection too so maybe that's part of it.

GeneralC

Anyone awake?

carzony

i am

GeneralC

carzony wrote: »

i am

Not tired my friend?

GeneralC

seventeen sheep wrote: »

Anyone get insomnia from taking Valium? I've just started taking it and not a hope of me getting a wink of sleep tonight. And I'm more panicky than ever. Have a viral infection too so maybe that's part of it.

Most definitely the viral infection is making you more panicky.

carzony

GeneralC wrote: »

Not tired my friend?

I'm back to a mad sleeping pattern.. up most of the night and sleeping till late afternoon:mad::mad:

GeneralC

carzony wrote: »

I'm back to a mad sleeping pattern.. up most of the night and sleeping till late afternoon:mad::mad:

Don't be too mad on yourself. Are you actually sleeping though for those hours?

killian113

What a great time to post - just after a rubbish night out wher I wish I spent the night at home

Anyhow, I am very use to boards, I have my own account but I am just too shy to post from it as I fear someone I know will find out this certain information about me. Therefore this is a "fake" account, or call it what you like.

Anyhow, I am 18 years old and fear that I suffer depression. I have been feeling very odd and sad over the past two, or three years now. No one has known about this and I feel now is the right time but I am currently undegoing the Leaving Cert so some people would consider it as "pressure" or "stress". Basically Im just not myself. For example. any night I go out with the lads in the town, I just wish I was at home in my bed with my lights off and no one around me. I look forward to the bus coming to pick me up, in which I sit at the very front beside the bus driver so no one will talk to me.
Some nights out, I find myself drinking too much to forget about this sigma, but I find it making it worse the day after.

I feel this feeling of mine is effecting evrything. Im not socialising with my friends or family half as much as I use to and I am just not the same.

I have contacted some websites and help lines, which I find a no use atal. Please, if someone here could come to some solution then it would be much appreciated.

carzony

GeneralC wrote: »

Don't be too mad on yourself. Are you actually sleeping though for those hours?

Last night I fell asleep at about 6 in the morning and wake at about 1.30.

greenfrogs

killian113 wrote: »

What a great time to post - just after a rubbish night out wher I wish I spent the night at home

Anyhow, I am very use to boards, I have my own account but I am just too shy to post from it as I fear someone I know will find out this certain information about me. Therefore this is a "fake" account, or call it what you like.

Anyhow, I am 18 years old and fear that I suffer depression. I have been feeling very odd and sad over the past two, or three years now. No one has known about this and I feel now is the right time but I am currently undegoing the Leaving Cert so some people would consider it as "pressure" or "stress". Basically Im just not myself. For example. any night I go out with the lads in the town, I just wish I was at home in my bed with my lights off and no one around me. I look forward to the bus coming to pick me up, in which I sit at the very front beside the bus driver so no one will talk to me.
Some nights out, I find myself drinking too much to forget about this sigma, but I find it making it worse the day after.

I feel this feeling of mine is effecting evrything. Im not socialising with my friends or family half as much as I use to and I am just not the same.

I have contacted some websites and help lines, which I find a no use atal. Please, if someone here could come to some solution then it would be much appreciated.

Could you talk to anyone in your family about how you are feeling. Also make an appointment with your doctor to discuss how you are feeling. It's good that you are not brushing aside your feelings as stress due to the Leaving Cert. You know yourself better than anyone.

Also try to cut out the alcohol. It is a known depressant.

greenfrogs

carzony wrote: »

Last night I fell asleep at about 6 in the morning and wake at about 1.30.

It's similar here. Except I fell asleep at half 4. I also had a two hour nap in the evening. I think the tablets make me drowsy. Unfortunately I'm wide awake now.

seventeen sheep

GeneralC wrote: »

Anyone awake?

I spent most of the night lying awake feeling like I was going to die. Then I slept for maybe an hour, during which I had a nightmare that the house had been broken into. My whole life feels like a nightmare I need to wake up from these days. Back to lying awake feeling like I'm going to die now.

Joya

feel so low today...
a week ago a friend of mine committed suicide
and since then i have a strong urge to contact my ex bf ... who i broke uo with 2 yrs ago..
so i was fighting it but yesterday took a phone and called.. turned out his number has been disconnected.... who knows since when..
last time i got an email from him for christmas...
so i drop few lines on email but no response from him.. tbh i cant remember when i saw him online last time..
i completely was preoccupied with my own things that i haven't even noticed how he slipped out of my life....

so yea idk... just feeling very low and in some sort of slight panic inside...
should study as i have 2 eams in few days and i am unable to concentrate at all.. m hardly breathin..

scrimshanker

Joya wrote: »

feel so low today...
a week ago a friend of mine committed suicide
and since then i have a strong urge to contact my ex bf ... who i broke uo with 2 yrs ago..
so i was fighting it but yesterday took a phone and called.. turned out his number has been disconnected.... who knows since when..
last time i got an email from him for christmas...
so i drop few lines on email but no response from him.. tbh i cant remember when i saw him online last time..
i completely was preoccupied with my own things that i haven't even noticed how he slipped out of my life....

so yea idk... just feeling very low and in some sort of slight panic inside...
should study as i have 2 eams in few days and i am unable to concentrate at all.. m hardly breathin..

Apply for extenuating circumstances for the exams in light of your friends death. You'll probably need the notice in the paper and a letter from your doctor. Might be worthtrying to get.

Hope you got through the funeral okay

Joya

scrimshanker wrote: »

Apply for extenuating circumstances for the exams in light of your friends death. You'll probably need the notice in the paper and a letter from your doctor. Might be worthtrying to get.

Hope you got through the funeral okay

thanks scrimshanker, yes might be worth trying.. ill contact my course director and ask if this can be done...

btw my friend will be cremated today...2pm..

mg1982

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Hi I have been on sick leave from work since October suffering from stress and anxiety. I just feel I can't go back there between not being happy in the work place and too much happening in my personal life has left me feeling very anxious stressed mixed emotions and feeling very inconfident. I been sending in my certs but it's not enough they keep ringing me and sending letters wanting to know when I am coming back I just don't know what to tell them it's hard enough talking about it let alone telling them I'm not ready and on top of that. i recently found out that I am pregnant which I am delighted about but I'm just so afraid to tell work that one I'm not ready nor do I know do I want to go bk there and two that I'm pregnant, is there any way I can hand my notice and still have some bit of a Income coming in and that way I can focus on getting my mental health bk to normal and enjoy my pregnancy. Hope I have posted this the right way if not someone can tell me I'm useless at this sort of thing

Hi Gemma. I dont think you posted it right but im sure you will get the hang of it. Have you considered telling work that mental health wise your not feeling up to going back and your going through a bad time. Otherwise you could hand in your notice and claim social welfare.