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Sick Boyfriend

Pinkmoon19 · 2014-02-05 11:59:54

I don't really know where to start with this one. I have been with my partner for over 4 years. We've had great times together, have travelled loads and have been living together for over 2 years. For the last year or so he has developed tendonosis in his shoulders which is preventing him from working, he finished his job…

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#62 02-05-2014 10:37am
Pinkmoon19

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blatantrereg wrote: »

I would guess he wasn't consciously exploiting you, though the result is just the same really.

Thanks all for your comments. @blatantrereg I do actually agree with you there. At least I hope he wasn't consciously exploiting me but I don't think he realised or wanted to take responsibility for the running of the household, or the massive amount of pressure this put on me.
I found it really hard with the mental illness side of it, I want to help and wanted to make life easier but I think ultimately I did him no favours by doing this, and this definitely did no favours for me.
It's really difficult when mental illness is involved, as a non-sufferer I didn't know what the best approach was or how to really deal with it. But I guess there is only so much you can do to help someone and then they have to help themselves.
Although I'm cut up about the break up I can't believe how much less stress and pressure I have in my life now. It really illuminates all that was wrong.

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