Waiting for a friend in a pub

JupiterKid

So I'm here sitting in a pub waiting for a mate to arrive. We arranged to meet at 9.30pm and its now 9.45 and I get a text from him saying he's running late and won't be here until "just after" 10.

Does anyone we here feel a bit uncomfortable sitting on yer own in a pub whike everyone else around you are enjoying each others' company and you stick out like a sore thumb?

Anyone else here sometimes end up waiting for ages for a friend to arrive, twiddling your thumbs (or logging on to beards)?

Tell your pub waiting stories here...:pac:

I like sitting at the bar if I'm on my own. I actually like sitting at the bar all the time. I don't much like people being late though.

smellslikeshoes

Best typo ever, the world needs more people logging onto beards.

TheBody

JupiterKid wrote: »

So I'm here sitting in a pub waiting for a mate to arrive. We arranged to meet at 9.30pm and its now 9.45 and I get a text from him saying he's running late and won't be here until "just after" 10.

Does anyone we here feel a bit uncomfortable sitting on yer own in a pub whike everyone else around you are enjoying each others' company and you stick out like a sore thumb?

Anyone else here sometimes end up waiting for ages for a friend to arrive, twiddling your thumbs (or logging on to beards)?

Tell your pub waiting stories here...:pac:

Is that a website about facial hair?

The_Pretender

I just take out my phone and pretend to be in the middle of something extremely important :pac: Thank god for unlimited data

PizzamanIRL

JupiterKid wrote: »

So I'm here sitting in a pub waiting for a mate to arrive. We arranged to meet at 9.30pm and its now 9.45 and I get a text from him saying he's running late and won't be here until "just after" 10.

Does anyone we here feel a bit uncomfortable sitting on yer own in a pub whike everyone else around you are enjoying each others' company and you stick out like a sore thumb?

Anyone else here sometimes end up waiting for ages for a friend to arrive, twiddling your thumbs (or logging on to beards)?

Tell your pub waiting stories here...:pac:

Everyone thinks you're drinking alone. Buy an extra pint and leave it on the table so it looks like your drinking buddy has popped out. And stay looking at your phone as if you're texting when you're actually looking at your calendar notes.

Fox_In_Socks

I like it actually. I like to people-watch when in a pub waiting for someone who's late

MadsL

I used to wait in pub, but the tips were terrible.

Mr. CooL ICE

I whip out my phone and start playing Tower Defense. Then when my friend shows up, I get pissed at him for disturbing me cos I'm in the last wave

cml387

Just since we're on the subject of waiting in pubs.
If you are a girl and have to wait in a pub for someone, and want to avoid being hassled, do the following.

If you get unwanted attention from a saddo, just give him your broadest smle and say

"I'm so glad you want to talk. Can I ask you, have you found room in your heart for Jesus?"

Lenin Skynard

You will grow out of it OP.

Fox_In_Socks

MadsL wrote: »

I used to wait in pub, but the tips were terrible.

You misunderstand.

The original poster was speaking about waiting (as in expecting) rather than waiting (as in service industry waiting).

I hope I have clarified, as it could have caused confusion.

Ihatecuddles-old

Doesnt really bother me, Im always early so Im waiting around for ages. I just sit back and watch people around me. I used to hate it and feel like the whole place thought I had been stood up or something.

AckwelFoley

JupiterKid wrote: »

So I'm here sitting in a pub waiting for a mate to arrive.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8-0Ds05UnrA&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D8-0Ds05UnrA

Lapin

Its a pub ffs, not a silent monastary.

Could you not get talking to a few people while you're waiting ?

cml387

cml387 wrote: »

Just since we're on the subject of waiting in pubs.
If you are a girl and have to wait in a pub for someone, and want to avoid being hassled, do the following.

If you get unwanted attention from a saddo, just give him your broadest smle and say

"I'm so glad you want to talk. Can I ask you, have you found room in your heart for Jesus?"

How do you establish he's a "saddo"?

Fox_In_Socks

Deleted User wrote: »

How do you establish he's a "saddo"?

I wouldn't go that far, but would the average person be able to spend a few minutes alone without logging on a social networking website or gazing into a smartphone in a pub? Is it self conciousness?

Luap

When I'm waiting for a person I play myself in a game of pool.




I always win!

JupiterKid

I meant boards!! Though I do have a beard...:D

Friend still has t turned up yet. For him "just after 10" could mean 20 past or later. I do watch others in the pub. I don't really sit right at the bar as that can give off the wrong signal.

Entertain me!

Muise...

Being comfortable while waiting for someone is a measure of a good pub. I find I can't read unless there's silence, but I can manage a crossword to pass the time in a noisy place. (The cryptic crossword is the measure of a good conversation starter. )

Turpentine

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2j3JLcM15xU

Ihatecuddles-old

Lapin wrote: »

Its a pub ffs, not a silent monastary.

Could you not get talking to a few people while you're waiting ?

I would never in a million years do that. I envy people who can just walk up to strangers and strike up a conversation, but I would walk over and break down in tears I think

TheHighest92

people care too much what others think, the worst that can happen is an attractive woman could come sit beside you

Daveysil15

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

I wouldn't go that far, but would the average person be able to spend a few minutes alone without logging on a social networking website or gazing into a smartphone in a pub? Is it self conciousness?

I do it all the time as I've no smartphone.

johnnymt

AckwelFoley wrote: »

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8-0Ds05UnrA&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D8-0Ds05UnrA

That was entertaining!

What's your friends name?
James
What's your name?
James

Voiceover "Because he said his name is also James, the officer knows he's lying"

Daveysil15

TheHighest92 wrote: »

people care too much what others think, the worst that can happen is an attractive woman could come sit beside you

That happened to me before actually. She was absolutely stunning too. Only thing was she was a hooker.

Fox_In_Socks

Daveysil15 wrote: »

I do it all the time as I've no smartphone.

Me too, but just the Original Post got me thinking. I'd often see people constantly looking at their phones, even old model phones if they're waiting on someone.

Femme_Fatale

TheHighest92 wrote: »

people care too much what others think

It's not about what others think of me sitting on my own waiting, it's the fear of drunken people coming over and getting all up on mah grill.

Daveysil15

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

Me too, but just the Original Post got me thinking. I'd often see people constantly looking at their phones, even old model phones if they're waiting on someone.

Maybe they're waiting for the sext?

Anyway back to the OP. I've travelled alone a few times and have gone into bars alone. You can always talk to the bar staff or even the people next to you if they're willing. Or failing that just entertain yourself with beards.

Jasus I must get myself a smartphone.

Fox_In_Socks

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

It's not about what others think of me sitting on my own waiting, it's the fear of drunken people coming over and getting all up on mah grill.

Mmmmm-hmmmm...yo righ' on sistah!

:pac:

MadsL

Deleted User wrote: »

How do you establish he's a "saddo"?

Jesus Saves! button on his T-shirt.

Fresh Pots

The_Pretender wrote: »

I just take out my phone and pretend to be in the middle of something extremely important :pac: Thank god for unlimited data

Is that where you got your username from?!

Pug160

cml387 wrote: »

Just since we're on the subject of waiting in pubs.
If you are a girl and have to wait in a pub for someone, and want to avoid being hassled, do the following.

If you get unwanted attention from a saddo, just give him your broadest smle and say

"I'm so glad you want to talk. Can I ask you, have you found room in your heart for Jesus?"

I think the whole girl being hassled thing is overblown. It happens but it's generally certain types of bars and more likely to happen on weekends.

cloudatlas

mp3 player audio book problem solved.

Felexicon

Love a bit of alone time in the pub. Plonk yourself at the bar, order a Guiness, look at the bloke beside you and mention something about "those government pr1cks" and you'll be grand.

Chucken

JupiterKid wrote: »

Entertain me!

Is there a ginger haired barman there?
Ask him if his name is Philip and we'll take it from there.

SimonQuinlank

Don't mind being in pubs alone.

Find far more women approach me when I'm sitting at the bar by myself then they do when I'm with a group of friends for some reason.

Ihatecuddles-old

SimonQuinlank wrote: »

Don't mind being in pubs alone.

Find far more women approach me when I'm sitting at the bar by myself then they do when I'm with a group of friends for some reason.

Im sure you have to beat them off with sticks!! :P

The_Pretender

TheTechGuy wrote: »

Is that where you got your username from?!

Yep



Always pretending to have friends

MRnotlob606

friend of mine goes out on the town alone a lot and turns up a birthday parties of people he hardly knows, people might think its weird but he is just straight in there talking to people .i hate peoples perceptions that going somewhere alone makes them a loser or anti- social.

Ihatecuddles-old

MRnotlob606 wrote: »

friend of mine goes out on the town alone a lot and turns up a birthday parties of people he hardly knows, people might think its weird but he is just straight in there talking to people .i hate peoples perceptions that going somewhere alone makes them a loser or anti- social.

That's a bit weird now to be fair...!

Stereomaniac

I used to love going into the pub by myself and striking up conversation with the barman. I'd soon be selecting the music and offering to clean the toilets in exchange for free drink. I retired.

weemcd

Go to pub, find out the person you are meant to be meeting isn't there yet.

Take a seat at the bar, order a pint of Guinness, talk to the barman, the two part pour will mean he has to talk to you that bit longer

By now you might have built up some rapport with the barman, give out about something, ask what the local bar scene is like. whatever

Drink your pint, chat to them a bit, flip a few beer mats, tap your phone a bit. Go for a smoke.

^ Rinse repeat the above, it's not that difficult, and if you get over the self conscious feeling can be very enjoyable

People watching is good too, but difficult to to in a subtle way

The_Pretender

Stereomaniac wrote: »

I used to love going into the pub by myself and striking up conversation with the barman. I'd soon be selecting the music and offering to clean the toilets in exchange for free drink. I retired.

I think you may have a problem :pac:

Daveysil15

MRnotlob606 wrote: »

friend of mine goes out on the town alone a lot and turns up a birthday parties of people he hardly knows, people might think its weird but he is just straight in there talking to people .i hate peoples perceptions that going somewhere alone makes them a loser or anti- social.

I'm guilty of doing that when I had nobody to go out with. I even gatecrashed a few hen parties.

SimonLynch

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

You misunderstand.

The original poster was speaking about waiting (as in expecting) rather than waiting (as in service industry waiting).

I hope I have clarified, as it could have caused confusion.

So I've been sitting at bars for 30 years waiting for people for people to give me money and it's not going to happen? Thank you Fox in Socks you utter sh1tbag.

Agricola

weemcd wrote: »

Go to pub, find out the person you are meant to be meeting isn't there yet.

Take a seat at the bar, order a pint of Guinness, talk to the barman, the two part pour will mean he has to talk to you that bit longer

By now you might have built up some rapport with the barman, give out about something, ask what the local bar scene is like. whatever

Drink your pint, chat to them a bit, flip a few beer mats, tap your phone a bit. Go for a smoke.

^ Rinse repeat the above, it's not that difficult, and if you get over the self conscious feeling can be very enjoyable

People watching is good too, but difficult to to in a subtle way

I tried this but the major stumbling block to success was that a lot of barmen prattle on about tedious old shít far too much. It usually begins with talk about the latest GAA match. My blank expression leads to a conversational cul de sac. I found it best to have a paper, sit at a table and enjoy the pint.

Femme_Fatale

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

Mmmmm-hmmmm...yo righ' on sistah!

Ain't nobody got time fo' tha'! I'm talking DOWNTOWN...!!!

cml387

Deleted User wrote: »

How do you establish he's a "saddo"?

By definition,if his attention is unwanted then he's a sadddo. Duh?

Pug160

MRnotlob606 wrote: »

friend of mine goes out on the town alone a lot and turns up a birthday parties of people he hardly knows, people might think its weird but he is just straight in there talking to people .i hate peoples perceptions that going somewhere alone makes them a loser or anti- social.

It's not weird but it's potentially a bit dangerous, especially if he's really drunk and loses his ability to think rationally. Drink and house parties with strange people don't always go to plan. Although saying that, it's usually easy enough to tell if people are decent. And being able to handle yourself physically means nothing if something slips something into your drink.

weemcd

Agricola wrote: »

I tried this but the major stumbling block to success was that a lot of barmen prattle on about tedious old shít far too much. It usually begins with talk about the latest GAA match. My blank expression leads to a conversational cul de sac. I found it best to have a paper, sit at a table and enjoy the pint.

All depends on the quality of the barman of course, one your own age, or an older one who can hold more than one type of conversation. Fit young barwoman who can hold a conversation is he holy grail

TBH I do like not having to talk at all though, sometimes just to sit with a drink and do nothing, but of existential bliss