Guilty one nighters

Wacker The Attacker

Anyone felt really guilty after a one night stand?

Muise...

I find the one night stand requires a more complex reaction than guilt. Giddy tickleshame, I call it.

stefan idiot jones

Anyone ?

Michael D Not Higgins

Are you feeling guilty because you cheated on a gf/bf/spouse?

Wacker The Attacker

Michael D Not Higgins wrote: »

Are you feeling guilty because you cheated on a gf/bf/spouse?

No. That you feel like youve taken advantage of someone elses naivety/inexperience. I'm single

pale blue dot cotton

Yes. After I dropped her home and didn't ask for her number.

Still got the ride though.

shruikan2553

doesnt matter, had sex.

wil

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

Anyone felt really guilty after a one night stand?

That you Mr X?

Wacker The Attacker

wil wrote: »

That you Mr X?

No. Afraid not.

Gannicus

Once just over a year ago. I knew the girl was really into me but I found her really annoying and would purposely try to avoid her if I saw her around my/her area.

I had a few drinks on me one night and sent her a Facebook IM about 2am when I was headed home after the friend I was out with scored. I did it mostly because I wanted me hole and partially because her gaf was two minutes from the pub I was drinking in and I wasn't ársed walking home. (like ten min walk tops)

She really liked me and took it the wrong way and when I went home the next day she mistook my intent and started saying how much she liked me and wanted to go out for dinner or movies and asking me to hang out etc.

I felt really bad about it and had to set her straight. I looked like a right asshóle too.

When I was a teenager and up till I was about 21-22 I wouldn't have put a pass on doing something like this and just leaving someone hanging like that.

Wacker The Attacker

Big Steve wrote: »

Once just over a year ago. I knew the girl was really into me but I found her really annoying and would purposely try to avoid her if I saw her around my/her area.

I had a few drinks on me one night and sent her a Facebook IM about 2am when I was headed home after the friend I was out with scored. I did it mostly because I wanted me hole and partially because her gaf was two minutes from the pub I was drinking in and I wasn't ársed walking home. (like ten min walk tops)

She really liked me and took it the wrong way and when I went home the next day she mistook my intent and started saying how much she liked me and wanted to go out for dinner or movies and asking me to hang out etc.

I felt really bad about it and had to set her straight. I looked like a right asshóle too.

When I was a teenager and up till I was about 21-22 I wouldn't have put a pass on doing something like this and just leaving someone hanging like that.

You did get the bang?

timthumbni

Big Steve wrote: »

She really liked me and took it the wrong way

You lucky sod.

CommanderC

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

No. That you feel like youve taken advantage of someones naivety/inexperience. I'm single

Hmmmmm-the fact that you feel guilty shows you've got some compassion for the person. I'd say, just don't go there again. Set them straight also about your true feelings.

Also I'm assuming you don't mean inexperienced as in......like a 12 year old

Wacker The Attacker

timthumbni wrote: »

You lucky sod.

There is no wrong way in that sense

Gannicus

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

You did get the bang?

Yes Wacker I did.

That's why I felt guilty. She was stone cold sober and I was jarred. I assumed she thought she was taking advantage of my state when all I wanted was the ride and a bed for the night.

timthumbni wrote: »

You lucky sod.

Not that kinda "wrong way" timthumbni. I meant she misread my intentions. I wish it was the other "wrong way" ha ha

Wacker The Attacker

CommanderC wrote: »

Hmmmmm-the fact that you feel guilty shows you've got some compassion for the person. I'd say, just don't go there again. Set them straight also about your true feelings.

Also I'm assuming you don't mean inexperienced as in......like a 12 year old

Jesus no. It was all legal and above board from that point of view. She's a grown woman but she was a lot younger

CommanderC

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

Jesus no. It was all legal and above board from that point of view. She's a grown woman but she was a lot younger

Ah well then. Don't go there again and explain to her that it was just a one night thing for you. If she's into you then she will probably be hurt but.....it happens to us all and people learn through experiences like this.

Gannicus

I'd be more curious to know if a female boardsie has ever done it. It just seems even from talking to my friends (male and female) that a woman may feel guilty before and won't go ahead with it.

Do women do it and feel guilty after? I don't mean feel guilty/shame for doing it but feel guilty for using a guy for a one night stand.

Esoteric_

Haven't had a one night stand, because I don't think they'd be my cup of tea, but I don't see why anyone should feel shame or guilt (except in situations where you know full well the person wants more than a one night stand) if both are consenting adults. It's not 'using' them, it's a bit of fun.

Muise...

Esoteric_ wrote: »

Haven't had a one night stand, because I don't think they'd be my cup of tea, but I don't see why anyone should feel shame or guilt (except in situations where you know full well the person wants more than a one night stand) if both are consenting adults. It's not 'using' them, it's a bit of fun.

even more fun is watching a man lie the next morning about ringing you, their eyebrows trying to escape into their scalp with the awkwardness.

_Kaiser_

Esoteric_ wrote: »

Haven't had a one night stand, because I don't think they'd be my cup of tea, but I don't see why anyone should feel shame or guilt (except in situations where you know full well the person wants more than a one night stand) if both are consenting adults. It's not 'using' them, it's a bit of fun.

+1 .. Was never my thing personally either, but there's nothing wrong with a bit of fun between two consenting adults as long as both know the score and are happy with it.

The Catholic church has so much to answer for in this country - our (as a people's) attitudes to sex being one of them!

heretochat

They are not for me either. Would strike me as rather soulless encounters, usually brought on by too much alcohol (nothing wrong with that every now and again)..

But as others have said, if both parties know the score and one is not leading the other on then each to their own..

Barna77

No.

But somehow a couple of times I've "managed" to say no right before heading home with someone, even being totally wasted.... that made me feel bad.




EDIT:
I remembered now one time I slept with an ex a few months after the break up. Biggest mistake ever. But an ex is a different story....

herisson

I've had a few one night stands and they aren't for me. I have always felt like crap after them, so I just don't do them anymore.

minidazzler

Have had a bunch, only regret one, but that's because I had and have no interest whatsoever inthe girl and my friends found out. She's not exactly attractive...

RoboRat

I was a right bollox when I was younger and I feel guilty about some of my carry on now, at the time I didn't.

I knew there was a girl in the job that really liked me and I slept with her, it was her first time although I didn't know it at the time. She became a little obsessed and was constantly mailing me and then started to leave notes on my desk. I ended up having to tell her that I would have to go to HR if she didn't stop and she left the company. Feel bad about it but I think there was a screw loose.

Another friend liked me and I knew it, we got on well but I wasn't into her until one night I was alone, pissed and frisky. I called her and she got a taxi to my apartment which was a €50 fare. Did the deed and the next morning I went off to play a match and left her at a bus stop (she needed 2 buses to get home). She thought it was going somewhere but it wasn't and I lost a nice friend as a result.

There have been others, some where I had been taken advantage of like when a 40 year old woman took me home and destroyed me (I was only 23 or 24 at the time).

Thankfully I am happily married now and those days are well and truly behind me (as are my drinking days).

Gannicus

RoboRat wrote: »

There have been others, some where I had been taken advantage of like when a 40 year old woman took me home and destroyed me (I was only 23 or 24 at the time).

Do you still know her and is she still hot :pac:

RoboRat

Do you still know her and is she still hot

Never knew her and believe me, you really don't want to meet her. She left my little general bruised and out of commission for a month, bite marks on my shoulders, stomach and top on my thighs (too close to the meat and 2 veg). My back looked liked I had a marathon session on barbed wire and I probably should have gotten a tetanus afterwards.

She was a looney and she wanted to 'introduce' me to her friend. I am never one to turn down a threesome but I was actually quite scared.

zl1whqvjs75cdy

RoboRat wrote: »

I was a right bollox when I was younger and I feel guilty about some of my carry on now, at the time I didn't.

I knew there was a girl in the job that really liked me and I slept with her, it was her first time although I didn't know it at the time. She became a little obsessed and was constantly mailing me and then started to leave notes on my desk. I ended up having to tell her that I would have to go to HR if she didn't stop and she left the company. Feel bad about it but I think there was a screw loose.

Another friend liked me and I knew it, we got on well but I wasn't into her until one night I was alone, pissed and frisky. I called her and she got a taxi to my apartment which was a €50 fare. Did the deed and the next morning I went off to play a match and left her at a bus stop (she needed 2 buses to get home). She thought it was going somewhere but it wasn't and I lost a nice friend as a result.

There have been others, some where I had been taken advantage of like when a 40 year old woman took me home and destroyed me (I was only 23 or 24 at the time).

Thankfully I am happily married now and those days are well and truly behind me (as are my drinking days).

Do tell.

Gannicus

RoboRat wrote: »

Never knew her and believe me, you really don't want to meet her. She left my little general bruised and out of commission for a month, bite marks on my shoulders, stomach and top on my thighs (too close to the meat and 2 veg). My back looked liked I had a marathon session on barbed wire and I probably should have gotten a tetanus afterwards.

She was a looney and she wanted to 'introduce' me to her friend. I am never one to turn down a threesome but I was actually quite scared.

Sounds like a great night to me. ha ha:p

SEPT 23 1989

RoboRat wrote: »

I had been taken advantage of like when a 40 year old woman took me home and destroyed me (I was only 23 or 24 at the time).

Please do go on........

Tom M

RoboRat wrote: »

Never knew her and believe me, you really don't want to meet her. She left my little general bruised and out of commission for a month, bite marks on my shoulders, stomach and top on my thighs (too close to the meat and 2 veg). My back looked liked I had a marathon session on barbed wire and I probably should have gotten a tetanus afterwards.

She was a looney and she wanted to 'introduce' me to her friend. I am never one to turn down a threesome but I was actually quite scared.

When she said "friend" she meant her strap on.

RoboRat

When she said "friend" she meant her strap on.

Nope, she tried to introduce that friend the first night but there are lines that I refuse to cross.

There was also another girl from my time in college in the UK and she was from a staunchly protestant family, I went to watch Celtic v Rangers in a bar and Rangers won. She followed me home slagging me off so I lifted her up and dropped her in a skip. About a month later had a one night stand with her and spent the rest of my days avoiding her as her family were big in the Orange order and though I was going to be killed.

Jesus when I think back about the things I done I realise I should be happy that I am alive!

pharmaton

If I divulged the truth I'd be hung drawn and quartered but no, I've done some stupid things in my time I don't really regret them but I've definitely grown up a bit. I was at a party over the weekend and bunked down with someone but it was just for the snuggles. Much prefer the snuggles these days. (the following day I get a text from a male friend and his first question was, "well did you get the ride, "cheesy face" ? I just wanted to slap him for not being able to think without his dick.)
I'm female btw.

RoboRat

If I divulged the truth I'd be hung drawn and quartered

Spit it out or get out...

In fairness I have divulged some rather non-flattering incidents but I have learned from my past.

pharmaton

RoboRat wrote: »

Spit it out or get out...

In fairness I have divulged some rather non-flattering incidents but I have learned from my past.

Lets say in a nutshell I didn't have a lot of respect for many women for a long time, having sex with them was the easiest way of making myself feel better about that.

(that sounds rapey, should add it was all very consensual, in the majority of cases they were the ones instigating sex)

Gummy Panda

minidazzler wrote: »

Have had a bunch, only regret one, but that's because I had and have no interest whatsoever inthe girl and my friends found out. She's not exactly attractive...

Is this the one eyed ginger you went down on?

angus1

Kinda depends where the offenders are coming from I suppose ? I was the receiver of bad news that my wife had a 'so called ' fling with someone at work... After being caught out both guilty parties say the deeply regretted the fling.... but it at the time of the affair , no guilt prevented it continuing prior to being found out!!
So I suppose the majority of us would only feel guilty about a O>N>S if we were in a relationship, and got caught out... If your single.... wahey !!! Both parties are consenting adults... go at it like a barn door on a windy night !!

Spring Onion

minidazzler wrote: »

Have had a bunch, only regret one, but that's because I had and have no interest whatsoever inthe girl and my friends found out. She's not exactly attractive...

I've done worse

RoboRat

Lets say in a nutshell I didn't have a lot of respect for many women for a long time, having sex with them was the easiest way of making myself feel better about that.

Not much different to some feminists, although rather than sex they like to demean men in other ways.

Muise...

RoboRat wrote: »

Not much different to some feminists, although rather than sex they like to demean men in other ways.

mmm, like biting.

Prodgey

RoboRat wrote: »

Never knew her and believe me, you really don't want to meet her. She left my little general bruised and out of commission for a month, bite marks on my shoulders, stomach and top on my thighs (too close to the meat and 2 veg). My back looked liked I had a marathon session on barbed wire and I probably should have gotten a tetanus afterwards.

She was a looney and she wanted to 'introduce' me to her friend. I am never one to turn down a threesome but I was actually quite scared.

New thread

Caonima

a few times... i've been predatory picking up girls at times. if i get a sniff that a girl fancies me, i almost always go after it. banged the friend of a (female) friend a few years ago - she offered to share a few spliffs with me back at her gaff in blanchardstown. went back there, had a few puffs... she told me she liked me but that she didn't want to do anything because my friend had a crush on me. put my hand on her knee, told her i liked her (lie), and threw a ride into her. walk of shame'd my arse to a centra the next morning and got a breakfast roll. went for a hair of the dog in the Bell bar in Blanchardstown after that. my friend rang me, crying, asking if it was true that i rode her mate. said i'd walk over to her gaff and explain everything. got there and.... well.... you can guess what happened...

Muise...

Prodgey wrote: »

New thread

Caonima wrote: »

a few times... i've been predatory picking up girls at times. if i get a sniff that a girl fancies me, i almost always go after it. banged the friend of a (female) friend a few years ago - she offered to share a few spliffs with me back at her gaff in blanchardstown. went back there, had a few puffs... she told me she liked me but that she didn't want to do anything because my friend had a crush on me. put my hand on her knee, told her i liked her (lie), and threw a ride into her. walk of shame'd my arse to a centra the next morning and got a breakfast roll. went for a hair of the dog in the Bell bar in Blanchardstown after that. my friend rang me, crying, asking if it was true that i rode her mate. said i'd walk over to her gaff and explain everything. got there and.... well.... you can guess what happened...

New website...

wp_rathead

Nope..

do it rarely enough but when i do i don't fell any guilt.. it is usually just awkward in morning as you don't wanna be a dick and just leave first thing, but then you don't wanna wait around all morning either

Spring Onion wrote: »

I've done worse

brilliant first post Spring Onion

Tombo2001

Caonima wrote: »

a few times... i've been predatory picking up girls at times. if i get a sniff that a girl fancies me, i almost always go after it. banged the friend of a (female) friend a few years ago - she offered to share a few spliffs with me back at her gaff in blanchardstown. went back there, had a few puffs... she told me she liked me but that she didn't want to do anything because my friend had a crush on me. put my hand on her knee, told her i liked her (lie), and threw a ride into her. walk of shame'd my arse to a centra the next morning and got a breakfast roll. went for a hair of the dog in the Bell bar in Blanchardstown after that. my friend rang me, crying, asking if it was true that i rode her mate. said i'd walk over to her gaff and explain everything. got there and.... well.... you can guess what happened...

Is this the Guilty One Nighters thread or the Yo, Me, I'm the man thread....

Caonima

Tombo2001 wrote: »

Is this the Guilty One Nighters thread or the Yo, Me, I'm the man thread....

bit of column A, bit of column B ðŸ˜

Did i feel guilty? yeah, a bit... who wouldn't. but that was years ago and surprisingly i still keep in touch with them on linkedin. go figure...

touts

If both parties are single, reasonably sober, know that it is a one nighter and know what they are doing in bed then there is nothing wrong with a one night stand. In college they didnt fulfill all, or even any, of those criteria so embarrassed guilt result. Heading into your 20s they get better and the guilt disappears. Mid 20s everyone has had a few partners so the "I dont want to appear cheap" attitude is replaced by "I like sex, I am good at it and I want some" attitude. Then come late 20s and early 30s and the clocks start ticking, unrealistic hopes/expectations of an encounter start to pop up again so back comes the guilt.

cletus van damme

never felt it except once was with a friend who i did like but she liked me more - a lot more.

was great mates with her for about 15 years - haven't seen her since

Definitely. I did it once and felt horrible after it. It's not for me.

Wibbs

Caonima wrote: »

i still keep in touch with them on linkedin.

Clearly a lie...