Guilty one nighters

Kinda depends where the offenders are coming from I suppose ? I was the receiver of bad news that my wife had a 'so called ' fling with someone at work... After being caught out both guilty parties say the deeply regretted the fling.... but it at the time of the affair , no guilt prevented it continuing prior to being found out!!
So I suppose the majority of us would only feel guilty about a O>N>S if we were in a relationship, and got caught out... If your single.... wahey !!! Both parties are consenting adults... go at it like a barn door on a windy night !!

Lets say in a nutshell I didn't have a lot of respect for many women for a long time, having sex with them was the easiest way of making myself feel better about that.

Not much different to some feminists, although rather than sex they like to demean men in other ways.

RoboRat wrote: »

Never knew her and believe me, you really don't want to meet her. She left my little general bruised and out of commission for a month, bite marks on my shoulders, stomach and top on my thighs (too close to the meat and 2 veg). My back looked liked I had a marathon session on barbed wire and I probably should have gotten a tetanus afterwards.

She was a looney and she wanted to 'introduce' me to her friend. I am never one to turn down a threesome but I was actually quite scared.

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Caonima wrote: »

a few times... i've been predatory picking up girls at times. if i get a sniff that a girl fancies me, i almost always go after it. banged the friend of a (female) friend a few years ago - she offered to share a few spliffs with me back at her gaff in blanchardstown. went back there, had a few puffs... she told me she liked me but that she didn't want to do anything because my friend had a crush on me. put my hand on her knee, told her i liked her (lie), and threw a ride into her. walk of shame'd my arse to a centra the next morning and got a breakfast roll. went for a hair of the dog in the Bell bar in Blanchardstown after that. my friend rang me, crying, asking if it was true that i rode her mate. said i'd walk over to her gaff and explain everything. got there and.... well.... you can guess what happened...

Is this the Guilty One Nighters thread or the Yo, Me, I'm the man thread....

If both parties are single, reasonably sober, know that it is a one nighter and know what they are doing in bed then there is nothing wrong with a one night stand. In college they didnt fulfill all, or even any, of those criteria so embarrassed guilt result. Heading into your 20s they get better and the guilt disappears. Mid 20s everyone has had a few partners so the "I dont want to appear cheap" attitude is replaced by "I like sex, I am good at it and I want some" attitude. Then come late 20s and early 30s and the clocks start ticking, unrealistic hopes/expectations of an encounter start to pop up again so back comes the guilt.

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

No. That you feel like youve taken advantage of someone elses naivety/inexperience. I'm single

I'm sure that deep down that person does feel guilty that they have robbed you of your naivety OP.

I've had a few one-nighters and the only one I regret was this one who only seemed to be into me because I was into her friend and her friend was into me. I had this confirmed by a mutual friend.

On Erasmus, I got to know a group of American girls and there was one I was taken with in particular and who flirted with me a bit. So one night we all go to a party and, from the way me and this girl had been talking in the days before, I had a good feeling.

Anyway, we get to the party and her friend, who had a boyfriend, was throwing herself at me, though I wasn't that into her. The one I was into seemed to drift around the party and avoid us so I thought I'd go for it. So it happened and neither of them talked to me again.

I later found out from a friend that your one slept with me bascially because she was thousands of miles from her boyfriend, they were having trouble and then saw that one of her friends was getting more attention than her.

So yeah, felt a bit **** about that one.

Never after a one nighter because you're both responsible for your own actions but I did have an f buddy that went on too long, got messy and did feel guilty for a good while after that.

Well... after I realised she wanted a lot more from it I continued to "see" her even though I knew it was going nowhere when she hoped it was.

Caonima wrote: »

Hmmmmm... did she enter the F buddy situation with something like dating you in mind, or was it just sex at the start?

I think she had other motives from day one but it was a while before I copped. She never said anything, I think she was hoping I might warm to her but I didn't. She told me later I stole two years of her life.