Guilty one nighters

Wacker The Attacker · 02-09-2013 11:36AM #1

Anyone felt really guilty after a one night stand?

Muise... · 02-09-2013 11:42AM

I find the one night stand requires a more complex reaction than guilt. Giddy tickleshame, I call it.

stefan idiot jones · 02-09-2013 11:57AM

Anyone ?

Michael D Not Higgins · 02-09-2013 11:57AM

Are you feeling guilty because you cheated on a gf/bf/spouse?

Wacker The Attacker · 02-09-2013 12:08PM

Michael D Not Higgins wrote: »

Are you feeling guilty because you cheated on a gf/bf/spouse?

No. That you feel like youve taken advantage of someone elses naivety/inexperience. I'm single

pale blue dot cotton · 02-09-2013 12:09PM

Yes. After I dropped her home and didn't ask for her number.

Still got the ride though.

shruikan2553 · 02-09-2013 12:09PM

doesnt matter, had sex.

wil · 02-09-2013 12:09PM

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

Anyone felt really guilty after a one night stand?

That you Mr X?

Wacker The Attacker · 02-09-2013 12:12PM

wil wrote: »

That you Mr X?

No. Afraid not.

Gannicus · 02-09-2013 12:13PM

Once just over a year ago. I knew the girl was really into me but I found her really annoying and would purposely try to avoid her if I saw her around my/her area.

I had a few drinks on me one night and sent her a Facebook IM about 2am when I was headed home after the friend I was out with scored. I did it mostly because I wanted me hole and partially because her gaf was two minutes from the pub I was drinking in and I wasn't ársed walking home. (like ten min walk tops)

She really liked me and took it the wrong way and when I went home the next day she mistook my intent and started saying how much she liked me and wanted to go out for dinner or movies and asking me to hang out etc.

I felt really bad about it and had to set her straight. I looked like a right asshóle too.

When I was a teenager and up till I was about 21-22 I wouldn't have put a pass on doing something like this and just leaving someone hanging like that.

Wacker The Attacker · 02-09-2013 12:18PM

Big Steve wrote: »

Once just over a year ago. I knew the girl was really into me but I found her really annoying and would purposely try to avoid her if I saw her around my/her area.

I had a few drinks on me one night and sent her a Facebook IM about 2am when I was headed home after the friend I was out with scored. I did it mostly because I wanted me hole and partially because her gaf was two minutes from the pub I was drinking in and I wasn't ársed walking home. (like ten min walk tops)

She really liked me and took it the wrong way and when I went home the next day she mistook my intent and started saying how much she liked me and wanted to go out for dinner or movies and asking me to hang out etc.

I felt really bad about it and had to set her straight. I looked like a right asshóle too.

When I was a teenager and up till I was about 21-22 I wouldn't have put a pass on doing something like this and just leaving someone hanging like that.

You did get the bang?

timthumbni · 02-09-2013 12:19PM

Big Steve wrote: »

She really liked me and took it the wrong way

You lucky sod.

CommanderC · 02-09-2013 12:20PM

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

No. That you feel like youve taken advantage of someones naivety/inexperience. I'm single

Hmmmmm-the fact that you feel guilty shows you've got some compassion for the person. I'd say, just don't go there again. Set them straight also about your true feelings.

Also I'm assuming you don't mean inexperienced as in......like a 12 year old

Wacker The Attacker · 02-09-2013 12:20PM

timthumbni wrote: »

You lucky sod.

There is no wrong way in that sense

Gannicus · 02-09-2013 12:21PM

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

You did get the bang?

Yes Wacker I did.

That's why I felt guilty. She was stone cold sober and I was jarred. I assumed she thought she was taking advantage of my state when all I wanted was the ride and a bed for the night.

timthumbni wrote: »

You lucky sod.

Not that kinda "wrong way" timthumbni. I meant she misread my intentions. I wish it was the other "wrong way" ha ha

Wacker The Attacker · 02-09-2013 12:21PM

CommanderC wrote: »

Hmmmmm-the fact that you feel guilty shows you've got some compassion for the person. I'd say, just don't go there again. Set them straight also about your true feelings.

Also I'm assuming you don't mean inexperienced as in......like a 12 year old

Jesus no. It was all legal and above board from that point of view. She's a grown woman but she was a lot younger

CommanderC · 02-09-2013 12:25PM

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

Jesus no. It was all legal and above board from that point of view. She's a grown woman but she was a lot younger

Ah well then. Don't go there again and explain to her that it was just a one night thing for you. If she's into you then she will probably be hurt but.....it happens to us all and people learn through experiences like this.

Gannicus · 02-09-2013 01:00PM

I'd be more curious to know if a female boardsie has ever done it. It just seems even from talking to my friends (male and female) that a woman may feel guilty before and won't go ahead with it.

Do women do it and feel guilty after? I don't mean feel guilty/shame for doing it but feel guilty for using a guy for a one night stand.

Esoteric_ · 02-09-2013 01:08PM

Haven't had a one night stand, because I don't think they'd be my cup of tea, but I don't see why anyone should feel shame or guilt (except in situations where you know full well the person wants more than a one night stand) if both are consenting adults. It's not 'using' them, it's a bit of fun.

Muise... · 02-09-2013 01:13PM

Esoteric_ wrote: »

Haven't had a one night stand, because I don't think they'd be my cup of tea, but I don't see why anyone should feel shame or guilt (except in situations where you know full well the person wants more than a one night stand) if both are consenting adults. It's not 'using' them, it's a bit of fun.

even more fun is watching a man lie the next morning about ringing you, their eyebrows trying to escape into their scalp with the awkwardness.

_Kaiser_ · 02-09-2013 01:14PM

Esoteric_ wrote: »

Haven't had a one night stand, because I don't think they'd be my cup of tea, but I don't see why anyone should feel shame or guilt (except in situations where you know full well the person wants more than a one night stand) if both are consenting adults. It's not 'using' them, it's a bit of fun.

+1 .. Was never my thing personally either, but there's nothing wrong with a bit of fun between two consenting adults as long as both know the score and are happy with it.

The Catholic church has so much to answer for in this country - our (as a people's) attitudes to sex being one of them!

heretochat · 02-09-2013 01:25PM

They are not for me either. Would strike me as rather soulless encounters, usually brought on by too much alcohol (nothing wrong with that every now and again)..

But as others have said, if both parties know the score and one is not leading the other on then each to their own..

Barna77 · 02-09-2013 01:26PM

No.

But somehow a couple of times I've "managed" to say no right before heading home with someone, even being totally wasted.... that made me feel bad.

EDIT:
I remembered now one time I slept with an ex a few months after the break up. Biggest mistake ever. But an ex is a different story....

herisson · 02-09-2013 01:30PM

I've had a few one night stands and they aren't for me. I have always felt like crap after them, so I just don't do them anymore.

minidazzler · 02-09-2013 01:35PM

Have had a bunch, only regret one, but that's because I had and have no interest whatsoever inthe girl and my friends found out. She's not exactly attractive...

RoboRat · 02-09-2013 01:44PM

I was a right bollox when I was younger and I feel guilty about some of my carry on now, at the time I didn't.

I knew there was a girl in the job that really liked me and I slept with her, it was her first time although I didn't know it at the time. She became a little obsessed and was constantly mailing me and then started to leave notes on my desk. I ended up having to tell her that I would have to go to HR if she didn't stop and she left the company. Feel bad about it but I think there was a screw loose.

Another friend liked me and I knew it, we got on well but I wasn't into her until one night I was alone, pissed and frisky. I called her and she got a taxi to my apartment which was a €50 fare. Did the deed and the next morning I went off to play a match and left her at a bus stop (she needed 2 buses to get home). She thought it was going somewhere but it wasn't and I lost a nice friend as a result.

There have been others, some where I had been taken advantage of like when a 40 year old woman took me home and destroyed me (I was only 23 or 24 at the time).

Thankfully I am happily married now and those days are well and truly behind me (as are my drinking days).

Gannicus · 02-09-2013 01:48PM

RoboRat wrote: »

There have been others, some where I had been taken advantage of like when a 40 year old woman took me home and destroyed me (I was only 23 or 24 at the time).

Do you still know her and is she still hot :pac:

RoboRat · 02-09-2013 01:52PM

Do you still know her and is she still hot

Never knew her and believe me, you really don't want to meet her. She left my little general bruised and out of commission for a month, bite marks on my shoulders, stomach and top on my thighs (too close to the meat and 2 veg). My back looked liked I had a marathon session on barbed wire and I probably should have gotten a tetanus afterwards.

She was a looney and she wanted to 'introduce' me to her friend. I am never one to turn down a threesome but I was actually quite scared.

zl1whqvjs75cdy · 02-09-2013 01:54PM

RoboRat wrote: »

I was a right bollox when I was younger and I feel guilty about some of my carry on now, at the time I didn't.

I knew there was a girl in the job that really liked me and I slept with her, it was her first time although I didn't know it at the time. She became a little obsessed and was constantly mailing me and then started to leave notes on my desk. I ended up having to tell her that I would have to go to HR if she didn't stop and she left the company. Feel bad about it but I think there was a screw loose.

Another friend liked me and I knew it, we got on well but I wasn't into her until one night I was alone, pissed and frisky. I called her and she got a taxi to my apartment which was a €50 fare. Did the deed and the next morning I went off to play a match and left her at a bus stop (she needed 2 buses to get home). She thought it was going somewhere but it wasn't and I lost a nice friend as a result.

There have been others, some where I had been taken advantage of like when a 40 year old woman took me home and destroyed me (I was only 23 or 24 at the time).

Thankfully I am happily married now and those days are well and truly behind me (as are my drinking days).

Do tell.

Gannicus · 02-09-2013 01:56PM

RoboRat wrote: »

Never knew her and believe me, you really don't want to meet her. She left my little general bruised and out of commission for a month, bite marks on my shoulders, stomach and top on my thighs (too close to the meat and 2 veg). My back looked liked I had a marathon session on barbed wire and I probably should have gotten a tetanus afterwards.

She was a looney and she wanted to 'introduce' me to her friend. I am never one to turn down a threesome but I was actually quite scared.

Sounds like a great night to me. ha ha:p

SEPT 23 1989 · 02-09-2013 01:58PM

RoboRat wrote: »

I had been taken advantage of like when a 40 year old woman took me home and destroyed me (I was only 23 or 24 at the time).

Please do go on........

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