Inappropriate hugs

faceman

Have you inappropriately hugged or been inappropriately hugged? I don't mean assaulted, I mean spent longer doing it than you should have?

For example, you meet a friend of any sex, you have seen them in a while and you give a hug. At what point does it become inappropriate for a "length of time hugging" perspective.

I got a hug from a friend recently. It was a normal hug that became prolonged. It went from a "I havent seen you in ages" hug to a "thank you for saving my life from the falling piano, how could I ever repay you" hug.

How long is too long?

anncoates

faceman wrote: »

How long is too long?

When a boner ensues.

Yellow121

faceman wrote: »

Have you inappropriately hugged or been inappropriately hugged? I don't mean assaulted, I mean spent longer doing it than you should have?

For example, you meet a friend of any sex, you have seen them in a while and you give a hug. At what point does it become inappropriate for a "length of time hugging" perspective.

I got a hug from a friend recently. It was a normal hug that became prolonged. It went from a "I havent seen you in ages" hug to a "thank you for saving my life from the falling piano, how could I ever repay you" hug.

How long is too long?

It's too long if she can feel it.

dodderangler

If one of them smells your hair if suppose its too long

KeithM89

Anymore than 3 seconds and you may as well be ridin'

BeerWolf

:pac: < - - - - Click

Micky Dolenz

It is the same as that hand shaking craze. See how long you can make it last. My longest hug record is 3 minutes 23 seconds.

Elbaston

anncoates wrote: »

When a boner ensues.

Rule already established by Larry David.

Exact time - 5 seconds. [ /thread]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UW7s6ynwlpY

Clandestine

I always do my best to avoid hugs. Doesn't matter how long they last, they just make me feel uncomfortable in general.

Lia_lia

Clandestine wrote: »

I always do my best to avoid hugs. Doesn't matter how long they last, they just make me feel uncomfortable in general.

Same! Yuck.

Pretty Polly

I also dislike when a work colleague of mine places his hand on my back (not as part of a hug) and lets it linger a bit too long!

The Backwards Man

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VK9YVD5D6U8

KeithM89

Pretty Polly wrote: »

I also dislike when a work colleague of mine places his hand on my back (not as part of a hug) and lets it linger a bit too long!

He's probably trying to open your bra.

Triangla

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

It is the same as that hand shaking craze. See how long you can make it last. My longest hug record is 3 minutes 23 seconds.

Does that include the making sweet sweet love first too?

hatrickpatrick

My life has become infinitely better since I just stopped giving a f*ck about faux pas. You can live your life in fear of embarrassing yourself or you can simply live your life.

Elbaston

Pretty Polly wrote: »

I also dislike when a work colleague of mine places his hand on my back (not as part of a hug) and lets it linger a bit too long!

Bring back the days when you could smack a young lady on the behind without a lawsuit.

Then share some scotch and cigars with the guys in the office.

MugMugs

It's a common known fact that hot women love long embracing hugs.

Elbaston

MugMugs wrote: »

It's a common known fact that hot women love long embracing hugs.

And men hate hiding their boners after.


Fear the boner.

Rasheed

Most inappropriate hug I ever had was from an aul fella I know. I was sitting in the car and he came over the the window. He leaned in to hug me 'Oh you're a lovely girl, you were the best nurse to me in that hospital'. Then he full on grabbed my left tit in the process of his 'hug'. Dirty hoor.

Mr Benevolent

Elbaston wrote: »

And men hate hiding their boners after.


Fear the boner.

I love my boner, thank you very much.

massdebater

Surprised with all the hug hatred here. Hugging is amazing and I'd greet a lot of my friends (male and female) with hugs.

Long hugs (~20 seconds) are great for reducing cortisol (stress hormone) and releasing endorphins and oxytocin (bonding hormone).

http://parentables.howstuffworks.com/self/20-Second-stress-buster-hugging.html

EDIT: I'm male btw

Micky Dolenz

Rasheed wrote: »

Most inappropriate hug I ever had was from an aul fella I know. I was sitting in the car and he came over the the window. He leaned in to hug me 'Oh you're a lovely girl, you were the best nurse to me in that hospital'. Then he full on grabbed my left tit in the process of his 'hug'. Dirty hoor.

So he didn't feel like a right tit?

Pretty Polly

massdebater wrote: »

Surprised with all the hug hatred here. Hugging is amazing and I'd greet a lot of my friends (male and female) with hugs.

Long hugs (~20 seconds) are great for reducing cortisol (stress hormone) and releasing endorphins and oxytocin (bonding hormone).

http://parentables.howstuffworks.com/self/20-Second-stress-buster-hugging.html

Unless someone was upset or needed comforting I wouldn't be hugging anybody for 20 seconds.

princess-lala

Nothing like a good hug!! Boner hugs are deadly cause ya know whats coming next

Boom_Bap

I'm one of those people that will hug an inappropriate amount of time until it becomes awkward. It's normally above the Larry David benchmark, but below 10 seconds.
A slow pull out and lingering hands are an important part of my awkward hug.

Watching people compose themselves afterwards is the reward.

kylith

Not hugging, but two women I work with are very touch feely; always stroking your arm or grabbing your elbow. The ironic thing is one of them gives talks on inappropriate workplace behaviour and respecting boundaries to incoming staff.

BeerWolf

massdebater wrote: »

Surprised with all the hug hatred here. Hugging is amazing and I'd greet a lot of my friends (male and female) with hugs.

Long hugs (~20 seconds) are great for reducing cortisol (stress hormone) and releasing endorphins and oxytocin (bonding hormone).

http://parentables.howstuffworks.com/self/20-Second-stress-buster-hugging.html

Hugs are easy for women towards both genders, but there's this stigma of men doing it - specially with other men.

I honestly got no problem giving a male friend I haven't seen in a fair while a quick hug and a pat on the back, instead of a brief handshake.

Nothing more than like 3 or so seconds mind you - 20 seconds would be kinda excessively, unless it's a comforting hug after something happened I guess.

The Backwards Man

BeerWolf wrote: »

Hugs are easy for women towards both genders, but there's this stigma of men doing it - specially with other men.

I honestly got no problem giving a male friend I haven't seen in a fair while a quick hug and a pat on the back, instead of a brief handshake.

I hug indiscriminately. Men, women, children, animals, trees, I hug them all.

pharmaton

kylith wrote: »

Not hugging, but two women I work with are very touch feely; always stroking your arm or grabbing your elbow. The ironic thing is one of them gives talks on inappropriate workplace behaviour and respecting boundaries to incoming staff.

gack, whatever about hugging I hate the arm touching feeling thing. I'm getting the shivers just thinking about it. I worked with a girl who couldn't talk about something without placing her hand on my arm, inevitably the "something" always turned out to be something gossipy and her creepy hand gesture was like a slimey way to engage her bull****osophy.
I suppose it depends on who's doing the hugging/touching. (nurse touched my arm today and it was comforting so that's ok)

Chucken

Paging Ihatecuddles.

Yellow121

kylith wrote: »

Not hugging, but two women I work with are very touch feely; always stroking your arm or grabbing your elbow. The ironic thing is one of them gives talks on inappropriate workplace behaviour and respecting boundaries to incoming staff.

That's the trouble with being irresistible isn't it kylith? They just can't keep their hands off people like you and me.

kylith

pharmaton wrote: »

gack, whatever about hugging I hate the arm touching feeling thing. I'm getting the shivers just thinking about it. I worked with a girl who couldn't talk about something without placing her hand on my arm, inevitably the "something" always turned out to be something gossipy and her creepy hand gesture was like a slimey way to engage her bull****osophy.
I suppose it depends on who's doing the hugging/touching. (nurse touched my arm today and it was comforting so that's ok)

Urgh. I feel for you. I was talking to one of these women recently and every time she grabbed by elbow I took a step backward. We must have looked ridiculous, me backing across the office with her following me, completely oblivious.

Yellow121 wrote: »

That's the trouble with being irresistible isn't it kylith? They just can't keep their hands off people like you and me.

I wish they bloody would, if I were working there for much longer I'd probably snap.

pharmaton

kylith wrote: »

Urgh. I feel for you. I was talking to one of these women recently and every time she grabbed by elbow I took a step backward. We must have looked ridiculous, me backing across the office with her following me, completely oblivious.

and all you want to do is scream "stop touching me!"

KeithM89

princess-lala wrote: »

Nothing like a good hug!! Boner hugs are deadly cause ya know whats coming next

A courtcase?

princess-lala

Keith wrote: »

A courtcase?

Out of the workplace hugs !

AnonoBoy

There isn't a problem in the world that can't be sorted out by hugs.

"Let's hug it out bro!"

Of course some of those problems are quite involved, long-running and serious so they may require hugs of considerable length that some people may deem 'inappropriate'.

I dunno though, if Israel and Palestine could just hug for say the next 40 years or so I'd say we'd see the end of that conflict.

Czarcasm

It depends really who I'm meeting tbh, and it'll vary then between no physical contact, a handshake, a hug, or a kiss (not a full on frenchie or anything... ), but there's this new thing now seems to be gaining popularity among men is the handshake before the shoulder to shoulder bit, or how to describe it I'm not quite sure but I know it when I see it, and for whatever reason it bugs the shìt out of me because it's so fake, like they picked it up on tv or something.

I wouldn't knee a guy in the balls for doing it or anything, but I'm just breaking away sooner because it gives me a woeful twitchy eyeball! :mad:

Micky Dolenz

This reminds me of a story, albeit, a non related hug story.

I was helping some elderly neighbours of mine with something. I don't know them particularly well. Anyhow, during the course of helping them I burnt my wrist. The lady insisted on applying TCP to the wound. I put out my hand and she step forward, planting one of her big bosoms squarely onto the palm of my hand.

Was I to move my hand making it completely obvious or just grin and bear it. Talk about awkward.

johnny_knoxvile

the man with the 10 stone testicles had to ponder this question every time he hugged someone.

Czarcasm

AnonoBoy wrote: »

There isn't a problem in the world that can't be sorted out by hugs.

"Let's hug it out bro!"

NO :mad:


And that also goes for dude, homeboy, homeslice, brother from another mother, or any of the many variations of "coolspeak".

Micky Dolenz

Czarcasm wrote: »

NO :mad:


And that also goes for dude, homeboy, homeslice, brother from another mother, or any of the many variations of "coolspeak".

Take a chill pill, Amigo.

Czarcasm

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

This reminds me of a story, albeit, a non related hug story.

I was helping some elderly neighbours of mine with something. I don't know them particularly well. Anyhow, during the course of helping them I burnt my wrist. The lady insisted on applying TCP to the wound. I put out my hand and she step forward, planting one of her big bosoms squarely onto the palm of my hand.

Was I to move my hand making it completely obvious or just grin and bear it. Talk about awkward.

Friction burns on the palms of your hands that night then!

the_monkey

When Chelsea won the UCL in 2012 my mate hugged me for a full minute or 2 ... it was amazing .... he was there for the scandal of stamford bridge in 2009 and he promised me Chelsea would get their revenge and the title ....

amazing stuff...

Micky Dolenz

Czarcasm wrote: »

Friction burns on the palms of your hands that night then!

She did suspiciously invite me around after, while her husband was out getting his gout looked at.

MusicalMelody

Eh what about the awkward them sitting down and hugging you while your standing up = A boob hug...

CruelCoin

I've recently been upgraded to "hugs approved" status by the gf of a good friend of mine, who i would now also call a friend.

Hugs still feel weird off her.

Czarcasm

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

She did suspiciously invite me around after, while her husband was out getting his gout looked at.

I was about to say "Too much Mickey, too much", but then I realised how that could be misinterpreted too... :pac:

Jester252

Only hug if both parties are going for it. Nothing worst than getting hugged by someone and not having your arms open. You become stuck and the only way free is if they let you go

suicide_circus

The worst are the "free hugs" types who think its like sooo random and kooky to randomly hug strangers at random, randomly, sometimes with a sign saying "free hugs", makes me want to reciprocate with a "free punch to the trachea" sign. **** off you hippy.

cantdecide

There's a particular friend of mine that I'd always wanted to ask out. She's wonderful but I just never met her when she was single. Eventually, after not seeing her for about a year and a half and knowing she had been single in or around the time I had last seen her, I just decided to grab the bull by the horns and ask her if she were single and would she let me take her out before I couldn't genuinely say I didn't know what her current marital status was.

Well she had been seeing someone for about 8 or 9 months but hell, I got something off my chest I'd wanted to for a long time. I could see she was glad of the excuse even though there is mutual good will and admiration. The night wore on and we both knew it had been a less than typical night and as we parted, knowing it may quite a while before a reunion, the world's most awkward hug ensued. It dragged on too long and way too squeezey. I think she wanted a hole in the ground to open up!

Rasheed wrote: »

Most inappropriate hug I ever had was from an aul fella I know. I was sitting in the car and he came over the the window. He leaned in to hug me 'Oh you're a lovely girl, you were the best nurse to me in that hospital'. Then he full on grabbed my left tit in the process of his 'hug'. Dirty hoor.

One of these days, we're going to watching the sit-com that is your life on TV

Rasheed

cantdecide wrote: »

One of these days, we're going to watching the sit-com that is your life on TV

Ha! It'd be a mix of Glenroe and Friends I think.