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Why does anyone get upset by the sexuality or gender identity of others?
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eh no....I was worried I'd offended my friend by not caring, as it turns out he didn't want me to care cause it would have no impact on me. He was still the same guy I'd gotten to know, still the same guy I became friends with.
So nothing had changed, other than that I now knew he was gay (bisexual as it turns out) which really......made no difference to me. (actually it kinda did, I now could have lots of fun dancing and flirting with him when my girl friend was around, he was really cute when he blushed
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I give up
I wasn't trying to be obtuse or confrontational or anything but I'm noticing more and more online and offline that people are tripping over themselves almost to be seen as all righteous and so on, and anyone that doesn't declare how righteous they are, are somewhat looked down upon as being immediately bigoted, racist, <insert some other derogatory term here depending on the situation>...
It's almost like the "If you're not with us, you're against us" mentality, when in reality, it's more like- some people just don't feel a need to give a fiddlers.
It wasn't anything personal against you wexie, I was more just using your post as an example.0 -
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I give up
I wasn't trying to be obtuse or confrontational or anything but I'm noticing more and more online and offline that people are tripping over themselves almost to be seen as all righteous and so on, and anyone that doesn't declare how righteous they are, are somewhat looked down upon as being immediately bigoted, racist, <insert some other derogatory term here depending on the situation>...
It's almost like the "If you're not with us, you're against us" mentality, when in reality, it's more like- some people just don't feel a need to give a fiddlers.
It wasn't anything personal against you wexie, I was more just using your post as an example.
errr...Didn't take it personal at all. Just trying to understand what you're trying to say. I'm not trying to be righteous or anything (although sometimes I try to talk like Crush the Turtle from Finding Nemo but that's only to amuse my kids) I just don't give a hoot whether you like winkies or pussies. As long as you're not after mine or my OH's
And I'm really not all that happy go lucky, I'm perfectly happy condemning people to a lifetime of misery (or the death penalty). Just not over who they happen to feel like shagging.
Sit in the middle lane of the M50 doing 80 though......:mad:0 -
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C, you really overthink things at times. I thought that wexie's point was that his/her friends sexuality was irrelevant. The friend came out and was obviously expecting a reaction - possibly a negative one, only to be greeted with a 'meh' response. So, on reflection wexie then thought maybe the friend misinterpreted the reaction and worried that their friend may have thought he/she had a problem with it.I give up
I wasn't trying to be obtuse or confrontational or anything but I'm noticing more and more online and offline that people are tripping over themselves almost to be seen as all righteous and so on, and anyone that doesn't declare how righteous they are, are somewhat looked down upon as being immediately bigoted, racist, <insert some other derogatory term here depending on the situation>...
It's almost like the "If you're not with us, you're against us" mentality, when in reality, it's more like- some people just don't feel a need to give a fiddlers.
It wasn't anything personal against you wexie, I was more just using your post as an example.0 -
Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »Well I know one gay friend who told me he was felched by a guy, who in turn passed the jizz into another guys mouth then into my friends mouth.....so he says.
Hence, one reason why I don't want to know.....as he takes a mouthful of my pint.
Ahh fucking nasty!
In fairness though I'd make something like that up and take a gulp of a mate's pint just to fuck with his head :P No, I will do this sometime!0 -
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I give up
I wasn't trying to be obtuse or confrontational or anything but I'm noticing more and more online and offline that people are tripping over themselves almost to be seen as all righteous and so on, and anyone that doesn't declare how righteous they are, are somewhat looked down upon as being immediately bigoted, racist, <insert some other derogatory term here depending on the situation>...
It's almost like the "If you're not with us, you're against us" mentality, when in reality, it's more like- some people just don't feel a need to give a fiddlers.
It wasn't anything personal against you wexie, I was more just using your post as an example.
Exactly. Ive had pretty serious discussions with people about it. Its a character flaw, Ill admit. But Its there nonetheless. But while a gay/bi/lgbt has entitlement to the right to be accepted, my right to be uncomfortable (and nothing more) is apparently the worst thing ever and people cant wait to eliminate it. I dont actively try to stop gay people. I have better things to do and so do they, Im sure, than deal with people who hate them. I just... let them be. But I am getting tired of people telling me "oh youre as bad as the guys in russia". If someone comes out to me then yes, Itll be awkward for me (I can appreciate how much worse itll be for him or her, of course) an opinion on someone is entirely dynamic, of course Itll change based on what you learn about them as time goes on, but thats all.0 -
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errr...Didn't take it personal at all. Just trying to understand what you're trying to say. I'm not trying to be righteous or anything (although sometimes I try to talk like Crush the Turtle from Finding Nemo but that's only to amuse my kids) I just don't give a hoot whether you like winkies or pussies. As long as you're not after mine or my OH's
And I'm really not all that happy go lucky, I'm perfectly happy condemning people to a lifetime of misery (or the death penalty). Just not over who they happen to feel like shagging.
Sit in the middle lane of the M50 doing 80 though......:mad:
Ahh yeah, haha, ok not the best at explaining what's in my head but what I mean is just people that go overboard, like for example if you HAD made a point of it with your friend and done the whole giving him a hug like you're trying to show him you know you won't catch "teh gay", etc. Just going overboard and making a point of it basically in trying to prove how much they don't care about the fact that their friend just came out... It's a bit cringe really kinda thing
Actually the whole "coming out" thing, I never got that tbh. It just seems cringe to me, like, I just don't get it 0 -
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Assuming he was telling the truth, I wouldn't exactly take him as representative of the LGBT community.
I'd say that's about as common as straight guys into scat
Ah sure he must have been pulling me leg so floggg.
You can take him anyway you like
I'm just saying what he said, and I actually do know a straight guy who got **** on....he didnt like it one bit.0 -
Ahh yeah, haha, ok not the best at explaining what's in my head but what I mean is just people that go overboard, like for example if you HAD made a point of it with your friend and done the whole giving him a hug like you're trying to show him you know you won't catch "teh gay", etc. Just going overboard and making a point of it basically in trying to prove how much they don't care about the fact that their friend just came out... It's a bit cringe really kinda thing
Actually the whole "coming out" thing, I never got that tbh. It just seems cringe to me, like, I just don't get it
ah....those people. The people that will bend over backwards to show they are tolerant and not one of them people that don't like hippies, vegans, gays, lesbians and so on and so forth.
They piss me off too, generally I find they are people that WANT to be seen to be tolerant, purely for fear of people thinking they may not be. Regardless of whether or not they actually are.
The people that make it a point to have a gay friend, a black friend, an asian friend etc. etc. etc.
Pisses me off. Just live your life, let people shag who they want to shag, love who they want to love. As long as they do it without harming you or any guinea pigs it's none of anyone's bloody business.0 -
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Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »Ah sure he must have been pulling me leg so floggg.
You can take him anyway you like
I'm just saying what he said, and I actually do know a straight guy who got **** on....he didnt like it one bit.
Knowing what he's had in his mouth, I'd rather not take him any way!0
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