Would you go out with a man or woman with a kid?

BraziliaNZ

A friend of mine broke up with someone recently, she dumped him because of some custody battle over a child she had going on, she had too much on her plate, or at least that was her excuse.
Personally it's a big turn off when I hear a girl has a kid and right away I have zero interest. I'm 32 now, I'd imagine it wouldn't be a big deal if I was middle aged, or had my own kids, but I would steer clear right now.
So yeah, experiences? Good? Bad? Discuss.

AnonoBoy

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

A friend of mine broke up with someone recently, she dumped him because of some custody battle over a child she had going on, she had too much on her plate, or at least that was her excuse.

I heard she broke up with him cause he's a d*ck.

But shhh..... don't tell your friend.

syklops

Depends how good looking the kid is.

**Vai**

I don't even want my own kids.

eviltwin

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

A friend of mine broke up with someone recently, she dumped him because of some custody battle over a child she had going on, she had too much on her plate, or at least that was her excuse.
Personally it's a big turn off when I hear a girl has a kid and right away I have zero interest. I'm 32 now, I'd imagine it wouldn't be a big deal if I was middle aged, or had my own kids, but I would steer clear right now.
So yeah, experiences? Good? Bad? Discuss.

At this stage in my life it wouldn't bother me. I'm 36 and I have kids myself though so that probably makes a difference but I think once you get to my age its hard to meet anyone who is single and doesn't have a past. Granted it would be another challenge to deal with but I think if I met someone amazing I wouldn't let the fact he had kids put me off.

thee glitz

I went out with a girl before but left her because I was competing for time/attention too much with her kid.
Then I missed her. That was dumb but made sense at the time. I'd be careful not to make that mistake again.

electrobanana

If she's loaded and the kid is at a boarding till 18 im in.

Mr. CooL ICE

I always thought it was a non-issue and that it would never be a turn-off. However, one night I was getting on really well with a girl. She was funny, good looking, etc etc and I was well in there. However, I got wind that she had 2 kids and in my half-drunk state, I knocked back my pint and ran.

Dunno if that makes me a bad person or not. Probably does.

Stereomaniac

Well, you are seeing the thought through to the end when you act that way I think. Do you want to have those kids in your life?

The Backwards Man

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Duckworth_Luas

No, kid should stay at home!

handlemaster

when i didnt have a kid I would have said no way. now that i do and am older I would put up with a milf :-)

Pherekydes

Two kids! Plus married, but separated. So yeah, no probs.

bassy

Think the headline should have been man or woman with KIDS.

very few have only one,its multiple nowadays.

Killer Wench

Well, if you did date someone with a kid, you certainly shouldn't drag the little bastard with you to a pub!

thefasteriwalk

As a young woman, I'd have no interest in damaged goods.

Boom_Bap

I go out with a woman with 2 kids and it's not a problem for me.












They are both mine though.

chopperbyrne

I married a girl who had a son from a previous relationship.

He was three when we first got together and he's eight today and everything is going fine.

Duckworth_Luas

Boom_Bap wrote: »

I go out with a woman with 2 kids and it's not a problem for me

They are both mine though.

You sure!

Pherekydes

thefasteriwalk wrote: »

As a young woman, I'd have no interest in damaged goods.

Could be a long time waiting for a virgin. :pac:

mr bungle.

Interference from the childs other parent is what would be on mind

Boom_Bap

Duckworth_Luas wrote: »

You sure!

The boy does have a passing resemblence to the milk man.

eviltwin

mr bungle. wrote: »

Interference from the childs other parent is what would be on mind

I think sometimes dealing with the ex is harder than dealing with the kids.

Duckworth_Luas

Boom_Bap wrote: »

The boy does have a passing resemblence to the milk man.

Hairy babies, everywhere!

Celly Smunt

Child,sure.
Teenager,not a chance.

Boombastic

No I wouldn't, I'd run a mile, maybe even 2

old hippy

If I loved that person, sure. I'm not a big fan of kids but when you love someone, you compromise.

Soups123

Wouldnt bother me in the slightest. Some men/women come with more 'baggage' than children

Grayson

Probably not. Although i know a few girls with kids that I think are nice/funny etc and i might consider dating them, they're the exception. For the majority i wonder what baggage comes with them. maybe a possessive ex or a child that hates his mums boyfriends etc... there's so much potential hassle.

I joined a dating website a while back. and there's loads of women who post up photo's of their kids. So it's obvious that they're a package deal or that you'd be the interloper.
Although it's not as disturbing as when i see someones profile photos on a dating website with photos of them and their dog. and then a few photo's of the dog by itself.

handlemaster

thefasteriwalk wrote: »

As a young woman, I'd have no interest in damaged goods.[/QUO

what do you mean damaged ?

Corcaigh84

poll?

mr bungle.

eviltwin wrote: »

I think sometimes dealing with the ex is harder than dealing with the kids.

Ya,years ago I went out with a girl with a kid,the father made a career of trying to knock my head off and constantly bad mouthing me even though I never had anything to do with him,the thing is I could understand his hatred towards me,another man around his son and all that kind of stuff

Boombastic

Grayson wrote: »

Probably not. Although i know a few girls with kids that I think are nice/funny etc and i might consider dating them, they're the exception. For the majority i wonder what baggage comes with them. maybe a possessive ex or a child that hates his mums boyfriends etc... there's so much potential hassle.

I joined a dating website a while back. and there's loads of women who post up photo's of their kids. So it's obvious that they're a package deal or that you'd be the interloper.
Although it's not as disturbing as when i see someones profile photos on a dating website with photos of them and their dog. and then a few photo's of the dog by itself.

People putting their children's pictures on a dating website profiles. That's bizarre

jimgoose

thefasteriwalk wrote: »

As a young woman, I'd have no interest in damaged goods.

Bit harsh? There's a lot of folk on Lap 2 these days. Wouldn't bother me - mind you, I am an oul' dag fer the hard road!

Ihatecuddles-old

I was seeing a guy who said it didnt bother him that I had a kid....2 months in he breaks up with me over it :P

IM0

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

unless it was a hyperactive crazy thing which ruled her instead of the other way round. she would need to be a good mum, but apart from that wouldnt make a difference

handlemaster

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I was seeing a guy who said it didnt bother him that I had a kid....2 months in he breaks up with me over it :P

or so he told you

Ihatecuddles-old

handlemaster wrote: »

or so he told you

Oh God dont say that to me...

TPD

I'm 23. So eh.. no.

Grayson

Boombastic wrote: »

People putting their children's pictures on a dating website profiles. That's bizarre

they're the kind of people that start their description with something like "Well, I'm a mum and love my 5 children to bits"

Sciprio

Personally, I wouldn't have any interest in a woman with kids. I would probably reconsider if i got on really well but the odds are highly against it.

I Heart Internet

I don't even like the thought that my partner might have held hands with another man.

So having a constant reminder of another man in the picture - no matter how nice the child is - would be a no-no for me.

That might be a bit harsh - but it would turn me off.

Gmol

TPD wrote: »

I'm 23. So eh.. no.

in Soviet relationship kid is ..you

jimgoose

TPD wrote: »

I'm 23. So eh.. no.

I have a step-daughter your age. She still regards me with a sort of fascinated horror. I'm sure she thinks I'm the Kurgan, or something! :D:D

Cienciano

I'm 35 now, so no. But when I was in my 20's, not a hope.

jimgoose

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I was seeing a guy who said it didnt bother him that I had a kid....2 months in he breaks up with me over it :P

Well in all fairness, you do hate cuddles.

Grayson wrote: »

they're the kind of people that start their description with something like "Well, I'm a mum and love my 5 children to bits"

Indeed. Such people are often "bubbly" and/or "vivacious" also.

old hippy

I Heart Internet wrote: »

I don't even like the thought that my partner might have held hands with another man.

So having a constant reminder of another man in the picture - no matter how nice the child is - would be a no-no for me.

That might be a bit harsh - but it would turn me off.

Extremely harsh and would your partner have a problem with your dating/relationship history?

keano_afc

I'm going out with my wife tomorrow night, and she has a kid. It is mine though.

GreeBo

old hippy wrote: »

If I loved that person, sure. I'm not a big fan of kids but when you love someone, you compromise.

I guess though you make the decision about the kid before you are in love with the person.
Unless you are a love at first sight person (or the other person hides the fact they have a kid!)

Camrat

If you're asking would i go out on a date with(in my case) a single mother, the answer would be yes. Them having children wouldn't be a issue.

If the relationship continued however and got serious, looking into the future family etc etc then YES, this would become a issue for me. It's a feeling i get (like its not a pure family) as in breed, if that makes sense.

Tbh i'd say she is using it as an excuse to dump him. (ouch)

Daveysil15

I went out with a girl a few years ago who had a 5 year old son. It didn't really bother me at the time and the kid was fairly quite and not troublesome. I'd imagine it depends on how old the kid is and how well they take to you. If everyone gets on great then its fine, but that is not always the case. If I like a girl it wouldn't turn me off, but I probably would still prefer if she didn't have any kids. You can't always get everything your own way though, and the right person doesn't come along very often.