Would you go out with a man or woman with a kid?

BraziliaNZ · 14-06-2013 02:42PM #1

A friend of mine broke up with someone recently, she dumped him because of some custody battle over a child she had going on, she had too much on her plate, or at least that was her excuse.
Personally it's a big turn off when I hear a girl has a kid and right away I have zero interest. I'm 32 now, I'd imagine it wouldn't be a big deal if I was middle aged, or had my own kids, but I would steer clear right now.
So yeah, experiences? Good? Bad? Discuss.

AnonoBoy · 14-06-2013 02:44PM

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

A friend of mine broke up with someone recently, she dumped him because of some custody battle over a child she had going on, she had too much on her plate, or at least that was her excuse.

I heard she broke up with him cause he's a d*ck.

But shhh..... don't tell your friend.

syklops · 14-06-2013 02:45PM

Depends how good looking the kid is.

**Vai** · 14-06-2013 02:45PM

I don't even want my own kids.

eviltwin · 14-06-2013 02:46PM

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

A friend of mine broke up with someone recently, she dumped him because of some custody battle over a child she had going on, she had too much on her plate, or at least that was her excuse.
Personally it's a big turn off when I hear a girl has a kid and right away I have zero interest. I'm 32 now, I'd imagine it wouldn't be a big deal if I was middle aged, or had my own kids, but I would steer clear right now.
So yeah, experiences? Good? Bad? Discuss.

At this stage in my life it wouldn't bother me. I'm 36 and I have kids myself though so that probably makes a difference but I think once you get to my age its hard to meet anyone who is single and doesn't have a past. Granted it would be another challenge to deal with but I think if I met someone amazing I wouldn't let the fact he had kids put me off.

thee glitz · 14-06-2013 02:48PM

I went out with a girl before but left her because I was competing for time/attention too much with her kid.
Then I missed her. That was dumb but made sense at the time. I'd be careful not to make that mistake again.

electrobanana · 14-06-2013 02:48PM

If she's loaded and the kid is at a boarding till 18 im in.

Mr. CooL ICE · 14-06-2013 02:51PM

I always thought it was a non-issue and that it would never be a turn-off. However, one night I was getting on really well with a girl. She was funny, good looking, etc etc and I was well in there. However, I got wind that she had 2 kids and in my half-drunk state, I knocked back my pint and ran.

Dunno if that makes me a bad person or not. Probably does.

Stereomaniac · 14-06-2013 03:00PM

Well, you are seeing the thought through to the end when you act that way I think. Do you want to have those kids in your life?

The Backwards Man · 14-06-2013 03:03PM

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Duckworth_Luas · 14-06-2013 03:07PM

No, kid should stay at home!

handlemaster · 14-06-2013 03:09PM

when i didnt have a kid I would have said no way. now that i do and am older I would put up with a milf :-)

Pherekydes · 14-06-2013 03:11PM

Two kids! Plus married, but separated. So yeah, no probs.

bassy · 14-06-2013 03:11PM

Think the headline should have been man or woman with KIDS.

very few have only one,its multiple nowadays.

Killer Wench · 14-06-2013 03:11PM

Well, if you did date someone with a kid, you certainly shouldn't drag the little bastard with you to a pub!

thefasteriwalk · 14-06-2013 03:12PM

As a young woman, I'd have no interest in damaged goods.

Boom_Bap · 14-06-2013 03:13PM

I go out with a woman with 2 kids and it's not a problem for me.

They are both mine though.

chopperbyrne · 14-06-2013 03:13PM

I married a girl who had a son from a previous relationship.

He was three when we first got together and he's eight today and everything is going fine.

Duckworth_Luas · 14-06-2013 03:14PM

Boom_Bap wrote: »

I go out with a woman with 2 kids and it's not a problem for me

They are both mine though.

You sure!

Pherekydes · 14-06-2013 03:14PM

thefasteriwalk wrote: »

As a young woman, I'd have no interest in damaged goods.

Could be a long time waiting for a virgin. :pac:

mr bungle. · 14-06-2013 03:16PM

Interference from the childs other parent is what would be on mind

Boom_Bap · 14-06-2013 03:16PM

Duckworth_Luas wrote: »

You sure!

The boy does have a passing resemblence to the milk man.

eviltwin · 14-06-2013 03:18PM

mr bungle. wrote: »

Interference from the childs other parent is what would be on mind

I think sometimes dealing with the ex is harder than dealing with the kids.

Duckworth_Luas · 14-06-2013 03:18PM

Boom_Bap wrote: »

The boy does have a passing resemblence to the milk man.

Hairy babies, everywhere!

Celly Smunt · 14-06-2013 03:21PM

Child,sure.
Teenager,not a chance.

Boombastic · 14-06-2013 03:22PM

No I wouldn't, I'd run a mile, maybe even 2

old hippy · 14-06-2013 03:23PM

If I loved that person, sure. I'm not a big fan of kids but when you love someone, you compromise.

Soups123 · 14-06-2013 03:24PM

Wouldnt bother me in the slightest. Some men/women come with more 'baggage' than children

Grayson · 14-06-2013 03:25PM

Probably not. Although i know a few girls with kids that I think are nice/funny etc and i might consider dating them, they're the exception. For the majority i wonder what baggage comes with them. maybe a possessive ex or a child that hates his mums boyfriends etc... there's so much potential hassle.

I joined a dating website a while back. and there's loads of women who post up photo's of their kids. So it's obvious that they're a package deal or that you'd be the interloper.
Although it's not as disturbing as when i see someones profile photos on a dating website with photos of them and their dog. and then a few photo's of the dog by itself.

handlemaster · 14-06-2013 03:26PM

thefasteriwalk wrote: »

As a young woman, I'd have no interest in damaged goods.[/QUO

what do you mean damaged ?

Corcaigh84 · 14-06-2013 03:28PM

poll?

Would you go out with a man or woman with a kid?

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