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Do you have any stereotypical gay characteristics?
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12-05-2013 12:32PM#1
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I have a wardrobe that would rival Imelda Marcos... but I spend most of my time loafing around in hoodies, jeans and runners.
I seriously have spent loads in my time on suits, shirts, blazers, slacks, formal shoes, etc., but rarely wear them. Fashion whore.
Apart from that, I'm pretty "red-blooded" and eschew most of the (negative and positive) stereotypes.0 -
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I think a total disinterest in sports is my most stereotypically gay characteristic.
Although I'm also a profesional nerd, so that's like a stereotype double-whammy.
I hear you dude. I'd only watch Ireland in the rugby. Beyond that, not really.
I love how you said 'professional nerd'. I'm quite nerdy in a quirky kinda way. Thankfully not like Sheldon from Big Bang Theory.
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playedalive wrote: »I hear you dude. I'd only watch Ireland in the rugby. Beyond that, not really.
I love how you said 'professional nerd'. I'm quite nerdy in a quirky kinda way. Thankfully not like Sheldon from Big Bang Theory.
So, you make an exception for rugby? I wonder why.... 0 -
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playedalive wrote: »Well it's an aesthetically pleasing sport in so many ways. Lots of action.
Cauliflower ears.0 -
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thinly veiled " I'm fit and I know it" post :PI was trying to think of something and couldn't find anything until it hit me how I talk about fitness a huge amount, I'm a growing gym bunny and would like to be a personal trainer part time for summer work.
I really thought I didn't conform to any stereotype but I suppose every person is going to have at least one or two no matter what! 0 -
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jaffacakesyum wrote: »Do you guys like or hate that you have stereotypical gay characteristics? Like before anybody knew I was bi, me liking sport and wrestling and beer and everything was just my 'thing' - nobody made jokes about me being a big lesbian for enjoying these things, it was a 'cool' thing for my male friends and stuff we had in common. Yet now when some of my friends know about my orientation I can't help but think they must feel I'm fufilling a stereotype!! That said, I don't look gay at all but still, it's kinda annoying :pac:
I think it's generally seen as more acceptable for women to like stereotypically "man things" like beer, sports etc. than it is for a guy to be effeminate. A little girl might be praised if she's a bit of a tomboy and most people won't automatically assume she'll grow up to be a lesbian, whereas boys who don't like sports and like pop music and other "girly things" may likely be subjected to words like sissy, f****t etc at some point. It's all bullshít but it's bullshít that's deeply rooted in society.
Tbh it does annoy me a little bit when people automatically assume I'm gay without me telling them, and I know it shouldn't but it does and it happens quite a lot. I wouldn't describe myself as being particularly camp or effeminate or anything (not that there's necessarily anything wrong with people who are) but I guess I have some mannerisms that I don't even realise that other people can pick up on.
So to answer your question I'd prefer not to have any stereotypically gay characteristics; I mean I don't think I have many but I guess there's some "quality" (to borrow a phrase from Friends :pac:) that gives me away.
As much as I hate the phrase "straight-acting", and cringe while using it, I guess that's what I'd like to be seen as ideally.0 -
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Deleted User wrote: »I think it's generally seen as more acceptable for women to like stereotypically "man things" like beer, sports etc. than it is for a guy to be effeminate. A little girl might be praised if she's a bit of a tomboy and most people won't automatically assume she'll grow up to be a lesbian, whereas boys who don't like sports and like pop music and other "girly things" may likely be subjected to words like sissy, f****t etc at some point. It's all bullshít but it's bullshít that's deeply rooted in society.
Tbh it does annoy me a little bit when people automatically assume I'm gay without me telling them, and I know it shouldn't but it does and it happens quite a lot. I wouldn't describe myself as being particularly camp or effeminate or anything (not that there's necessarily anything wrong with people who are) but I guess I have some mannerisms that I don't even realise that other people can pick up on.
So to answer your question I'd prefer not to have any stereotypically gay characteristics; I mean I don't think I have many but I guess there's some "quality" (to borrow a phrase from Friends :pac:) that gives me away.
As much as I hate the phrase "straight-acting", and cringe while using it, I guess that's what I'd like to be seen as ideally.
Yeah I get what you mean. I always give out about how it's hard to meet girls because I don't look gay at all and sometimes I wish I could be into dressing like a stereotypical lesbian (if not short/shaved hair, at least half head shaved but I could never do that!!), so that people would know and maybe it would be easier to meet girls (plus, all the hot girls are into the butch lesbians :pac: ).
But I get where you're coming from too. I would dislike it if people, without knowing me, automatically assumed I was gay/bi because I like beer and sports and things like that. You're right - it is more acceptable for a woman. Still, you get idiots who think someone is less of a woman because of my interests, despite the fact that I can be quite girly. Just because I'm not all "ermigawwwd I broke a nail" type doesn't mean I don't like my femininity
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jaffacakesyum wrote: »Yeah I get what you mean. I always give out about how it's hard to meet girls because I don't look gay at all and sometimes I wish I could be into dressing like a stereotypical lesbian (if not short/shaved hair, at least half head shaved but I could never do that!!), so that people would know and maybe it would be easier to meet girls (plus, all the hot girls are into the butch lesbians :pac: ).
But I get where you're coming from too. I would dislike it if people, without knowing me, automatically assumed I was gay/bi because I like beer and sports and things like that. You're right - it is more acceptable for a woman. Still, you get idiots who think someone is less of a woman because of my interests, despite the fact that I can be quite girly. Just because I'm not all "ermigawwwd I broke a nail" type doesn't mean I don't like my femininity
Given where I thought you were going with that sentence I read it as fanny 0 -
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jaffacakesyum wrote: »Yeah I get what you mean. I always give out about how it's hard to meet girls because I don't look gay at all and sometimes I wish I could be into dressing like a stereotypical lesbian (if not short/shaved hair, at least half head shaved but I could never do that!!), so that people would know and maybe it would be easier to meet girls (plus, all the hot girls are into the butch lesbians :pac: ).
But I get where you're coming from too. I would dislike it if people, without knowing me, automatically assumed I was gay/bi because I like beer and sports and things like that. You're right - it is more acceptable for a woman. Still, you get idiots who think someone is less of a woman because of my interests, despite the fact that I can be quite girly. Just because I'm not all "ermigawwwd I broke a nail" type doesn't mean I don't like my femininity
Despite my penchant for checked shirts, people don't tend to assume I'm gay either. I have long hair and the only butch thing about me is probably the checked shirts. But I'm the opposite to you. I find it tiresome having to tell people the whole time. I've been away for the last few months and met a lot of new people, and it has become a bother for me to have to keep coming out each time the conversation steers towards relationships etc. Because then it often becomes a topic of conversation, and it's a topic that bores me now. There is a lot more to me than the gay thing which so often becomes a focus of conversation for curious straight people after a few drinks have been taken.
So yeah, I guess I would like it to be more obvious that I'm gay. I should probably get some lesbian accessories, like a whatchamacallit.. a girlfriend 0 -
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