Broke up with boyfriend - going out in search of meaningless sex?

goinganon

I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I think I just want to give myself time to think before I go out and do something rash.

Last night I ended my first serious relationship. We went out for a year and a half and it was incredibly intense - but of us vacillating between being passionately in love with each other and absolutely hating each other.

Basically, it was wonderful, but draining and while I'm sad that things are over, it's for the best.

So, my plan for the night had been to sit in and indulge in some crappy food. Now though I'm tempted to doll myself up and just have meaningless sex with some random man. I've never done the one-night stand thing before - the only person I've had sex with was with the aforementioned ex-boyfriend.

None of my friends are around to go out with me - everyone has gone home from college for the weekend. So, I'm considering getting dressed up and just going to some pub alone and basically just picking someone up. It seems incredibly pathetic and I know I'll probably feel cheap in the morning - but getting drunk and happy seems more appealing right now than wallowing in my sorrows.

After Hours possibly isn't the best place for this....but what do people think about rebound sex in general? Good idea or just a recipe for disaster?

BEASTERLY

goinganon wrote: »

I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I think I just want to give myself time to think before I go out and do something with a rash.

FYP

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Great idea.

marketty

Creepy PM sent

kfallon

Get ready for PM Central......

robertxxx

Come round here and I'll **** your brains out.

Professey Chin

Cant hurt. Well unless its anal

galwayrush

Try flicking the bean for a while.

StinkyMunkey

goinganon wrote: »

I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I think I just want to give myself time to think before I go out and do something rash.

Last night I ended my first serious relationship. We went out for a year and a half and it was incredibly intense - but of us vacillating between being passionately in love with each other and absolutely hating each other.

Basically, it was wonderful, but draining and while I'm sad that things are over, it's for the best.

So, my plan for the night had been to sit in and indulge in some crappy food. Now though I'm tempted to doll myself and just have meaningless sex with some random man. I've never done the one-night stand thing before - the only person I've had sex with was with the aforementioned ex-boyfriend.

None of my friends are around to go out with me - everyone has gone home from college for the weekend. So, I'm considering getting dressed up and just going to some pub alone and basically just picking someone up. It seems incredibly pathetic and I know I'll probably feel cheap in the morning - but getting drunk and happy seems more appealing right now than wallowing in my sorrows.

After Hours possibly isn't the best place for this....but what do people think about rebound sex in general? Good idea or just a recipe for disaster?

Stay home, open a bottle of wine, stick a rom com on, have a good cry and hit the sack. Your plan won't work and you will regret it.

Pappacharlie

Don't act too rashly. Give yourself some time!!

passremarkable

go on, go out and get minced

StinkyMunkey

Nice name btw

raher1

Chocolate and wine my friend

Scortho

Wrong thread for this op. personnel issues would probably be better but I'd advise against it in case you get a unexpected surprise in a month. You're in a vulnerable position at the moment and the worst of men will feed of this. Get yourself a nice tub of Ben and jerrys and sit down in front of the telly. Then next week when you're friends are back meet up with them and head out. At least they'll look out for you.

philologos

Scortho wrote: »

Wrong thread for this op. personnel issues would probably be better but I'd advise against it in case you get a unexpected surprise in a month. You're in a vulnerable position at the moment and the worst of men will feed of this. Get yourself a nice tub of Ben and jerrys and sit down in front of the telly. Then next week when you're friends are back meet up with them and head out. At least they'll look out for you.

I agree. Don't do this to yourself OP. It'll more than likely cause more hurt and pain than there already is.

Conbhar

Welcome to the single life. Ya may as well dive in head first, start as ya mean to continue. Go get em tiger!

Pottler

goinganon wrote: »

I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I think I just want to give myself time to think before I go out and do something rash.

Last night I ended my first serious relationship. We went out for a year and a half and it was incredibly intense - but of us vacillating between being passionately in love with each other and absolutely hating each other.

Basically, it was wonderful, but draining and while I'm sad that things are over, it's for the best.

So, my plan for the night had been to sit in and indulge in some crappy food. Now though I'm tempted to doll myself up and just have meaningless sex with some random man. I've never done the one-night stand thing before - the only person I've had sex with was with the aforementioned ex-boyfriend.

None of my friends are around to go out with me - everyone has gone home from college for the weekend. So, I'm considering getting dressed up and just going to some pub alone and basically just picking someone up. It seems incredibly pathetic and I know I'll probably feel cheap in the morning - but getting drunk and happy seems more appealing right now than wallowing in my sorrows.

After Hours possibly isn't the best place for this....but what do people think about rebound sex in general? Good idea or just a recipe for disaster?

Too late., They're shut. Stick on a Pizza. You'll feel better in the morning.:)

ITS_A_BADGER

Throw on a brezzie cd and flick the bean, all will be better in the morning

Doom

Meaningless sex, have it with the ex......who knows maybe that's what ye need...but be careful...

Weathering

Rustle about for a cucumber and you'll be grand love
Or practice with a hanger...u'll never get one legally in this hell hole

Gummy Panda

Rub my belly!

smash

Well if you decide to stay in, may I point you towards the PM's thread...

stoneill

Nothing like a good long rodgering to make you forget your ex.

passremarkable

u still there op

robertxxx

If you really want to forget the ex, go for a 4 ball.

smash

And don't forget to send him pics to annoy him!

Pottler

passremarkable wrote: »

u still there op

Candy Cane? Come in Candy Cane..:D eek..

Canis Lupus

Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

Kichote

Need a number nifty? Call 11 8 50

robertxxx

Let me smash your back door in!

tfker

Out ye go,im sure hes out gettin his jollies

twilightzone

goinganon wrote: »

I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I think I just want to give myself time to think before I go out and do something rash.

Last night I ended my first serious relationship. We went out for a year and a half and it was incredibly intense - but of us vacillating between being passionately in love with each other and absolutely hating each other.

Basically, it was wonderful, but draining and while I'm sad that things are over, it's for the best.

So, my plan for the night had been to sit in and indulge in some crappy food. Now though I'm tempted to doll myself up and just have meaningless sex with some random man. I've never done the one-night stand thing before - the only person I've had sex with was with the aforementioned ex-boyfriend.

None of my friends are around to go out with me - everyone has gone home from college for the weekend. So, I'm considering getting dressed up and just going to some pub alone and basically just picking someone up. It seems incredibly pathetic and I know I'll probably feel cheap in the morning - but getting drunk and happy seems more appealing right now than wallowing in my sorrows.

After Hours possibly isn't the best place for this....but what do people think about rebound sex in general? Good idea or just a recipe for disaster?

My slurry tank has a leak in her. I know how you feel. Empty and looking for fulfillment. Sad state of events. Chin up girl. Chin up.

smash

robertxxx wrote: »

Let me smash you back door in!

NO.

Fromthetrees

Go get some sexy time but don't go out alone.

goinganon

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Do a "Kinga".

Zombrex

goinganon wrote: »

I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I think I just want to give myself time to think before I go out and do something rash.

Last night I ended my first serious relationship. We went out for a year and a half and it was incredibly intense - but of us vacillating between being passionately in love with each other and absolutely hating each other.

Basically, it was wonderful, but draining and while I'm sad that things are over, it's for the best.

So, my plan for the night had been to sit in and indulge in some crappy food. Now though I'm tempted to doll myself up and just have meaningless sex with some random man. I've never done the one-night stand thing before - the only person I've had sex with was with the aforementioned ex-boyfriend.

None of my friends are around to go out with me - everyone has gone home from college for the weekend. So, I'm considering getting dressed up and just going to some pub alone and basically just picking someone up. It seems incredibly pathetic and I know I'll probably feel cheap in the morning - but getting drunk and happy seems more appealing right now than wallowing in my sorrows.

After Hours possibly isn't the best place for this....but what do people think about rebound sex in general? Good idea or just a recipe for disaster?

Probably bad idea.

You will just spend the experience thinking this guy isn't my boyfriend, the intimacy and familiarity won't be there and it will just be weird. One night stands don't work when you are trying to forget some cause they just remind you that this person isn't who you want them to be.

Plus if you drink until you forget you are probably in the do-something-stupid zone. Waking up with an STI from someone you met in a bar is not a good cherry on top of a breakup.

Spend your time doing something that isn't relationship or sex based, even if that is just watching the new Die Hard movie until the kick you out of the cinema.

BorneTobyWilde

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Good choice, Good future

Pottler

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Have a look at the "Taxi driver" thread.:eek: You could call 8 20 20 20 and offer to ride the driver, If you really wanted to. Personally, I'd be going with the "wine and find a new Boyfriend" option. There's loads of them out there, go gettem Tomorrow.:)

unknowngirl!!

goinganon wrote: »

I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I think I just want to give myself time to think before I go out and do something rash.

Last night I ended my first serious relationship. We went out for a year and a half and it was incredibly intense - but of us vacillating between being passionately in love with each other and absolutely hating each other.

Basically, it was wonderful, but draining and while I'm sad that things are over, it's for the best.

So, my plan for the night had been to sit in and indulge in some crappy food. Now though I'm tempted to doll myself up and just have meaningless sex with some random man. I've never done the one-night stand thing before - the only person I've had sex with was with the aforementioned ex-boyfriend.

None of my friends are around to go out with me - everyone has gone home from college for the weekend. So, I'm considering getting dressed up and just going to some pub alone and basically just picking someone up. It seems incredibly pathetic and I know I'll probably feel cheap in the morning - but getting drunk and happy seems more appealing right now than wallowing in my sorrows.

After Hours possibly isn't the best place for this....but what do people think about rebound sex in general? Good idea or just a recipe for disaster?

I hear you! Single after 4 years with someone and having the same thoughts.. Go have fun

smash

unknowngirl!! wrote: »

I hear you! Single after 4 years and having the same thoughts.. Go have fun

You two should hook up for some girl on girl action!

Pottler

unknowngirl!! wrote: »

I hear you! Single after 4 years and having the same thoughts.. Go have fun

There goes your "Unknown" status.:D

ArtyM

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods.
Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass.
Robert. H. Schuller

I think you made a wise choice OP.

robertxxx

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Offer still there if you want your back door smashed in, just PM.

MaxSteele

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Yes. You are so much more better than those who lightheartedly offered you the ride. Damn those heterosexuals.

Get over yourself FFS.

Pottler

MaxSteele wrote: »

Yes. You are so much more better than those who lightheartedly offered you the ride. Damn those heterosexuals.

Get over yourself FFS.

Soo, not getting the ride then?

Earthhorse

Do it if you want to OP but if it's what you really wanted I don't think you'd be posting in AH about it.

Mocha Joe

MaxSteele wrote: »

Yes. You are so much more better than those who lightheartedly offered you the ride. Damn those heterosexuals.

Get over yourself FFS.

What a mental response!

Ruudi_Mentari

I always think these mysterious girls are actually guys, then think why don't girls ever do likewise then I see the responses and then think why cant I just be as unassuming

NegativeCreep

So nice of you to dump him after you get the Valentine's presents.

monkeysnapper

I remember when I 1st found boards. Ie and I made a huuuuuuuge mistake asking for advice in the after hours thread.

Won't be making that mistake again .....

Doesn't matter anyway it fell off in end ..