Broke up with boyfriend - going out in search of meaningless sex?

twilightzone · 17-02-2013 12:19AM

goinganon wrote: »

I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I think I just want to give myself time to think before I go out and do something rash.

Last night I ended my first serious relationship. We went out for a year and a half and it was incredibly intense - but of us vacillating between being passionately in love with each other and absolutely hating each other.

Basically, it was wonderful, but draining and while I'm sad that things are over, it's for the best.

So, my plan for the night had been to sit in and indulge in some crappy food. Now though I'm tempted to doll myself up and just have meaningless sex with some random man. I've never done the one-night stand thing before - the only person I've had sex with was with the aforementioned ex-boyfriend.

None of my friends are around to go out with me - everyone has gone home from college for the weekend. So, I'm considering getting dressed up and just going to some pub alone and basically just picking someone up. It seems incredibly pathetic and I know I'll probably feel cheap in the morning - but getting drunk and happy seems more appealing right now than wallowing in my sorrows.

After Hours possibly isn't the best place for this....but what do people think about rebound sex in general? Good idea or just a recipe for disaster?

My slurry tank has a leak in her. I know how you feel. Empty and looking for fulfillment. Sad state of events. Chin up girl. Chin up.

smash · 17-02-2013 12:20AM

robertxxx wrote: »

Let me smash you back door in!

NO.

Fromthetrees · 17-02-2013 12:21AM

Go get some sexy time but don't go out alone.

goinganon · 17-02-2013 12:28AM

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Praetorian Saighdiuir · 17-02-2013 12:29AM

Do a "Kinga".

Zombrex · 17-02-2013 12:29AM

goinganon wrote: »

I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I think I just want to give myself time to think before I go out and do something rash.

Last night I ended my first serious relationship. We went out for a year and a half and it was incredibly intense - but of us vacillating between being passionately in love with each other and absolutely hating each other.

Basically, it was wonderful, but draining and while I'm sad that things are over, it's for the best.

So, my plan for the night had been to sit in and indulge in some crappy food. Now though I'm tempted to doll myself up and just have meaningless sex with some random man. I've never done the one-night stand thing before - the only person I've had sex with was with the aforementioned ex-boyfriend.

None of my friends are around to go out with me - everyone has gone home from college for the weekend. So, I'm considering getting dressed up and just going to some pub alone and basically just picking someone up. It seems incredibly pathetic and I know I'll probably feel cheap in the morning - but getting drunk and happy seems more appealing right now than wallowing in my sorrows.

After Hours possibly isn't the best place for this....but what do people think about rebound sex in general? Good idea or just a recipe for disaster?

Probably bad idea.

You will just spend the experience thinking this guy isn't my boyfriend, the intimacy and familiarity won't be there and it will just be weird. One night stands don't work when you are trying to forget some cause they just remind you that this person isn't who you want them to be.

Plus if you drink until you forget you are probably in the do-something-stupid zone. Waking up with an STI from someone you met in a bar is not a good cherry on top of a breakup.

Spend your time doing something that isn't relationship or sex based, even if that is just watching the new Die Hard movie until the kick you out of the cinema.

BorneTobyWilde · 17-02-2013 12:30AM

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Good choice, Good future

Pottler · 17-02-2013 12:33AM

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Have a look at the "Taxi driver" thread.:eek: You could call 8 20 20 20 and offer to ride the driver, If you really wanted to. Personally, I'd be going with the "wine and find a new Boyfriend" option. There's loads of them out there, go gettem

Tomorrow.:)

unknowngirl!! · 17-02-2013 12:36AM

goinganon wrote: »

I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I think I just want to give myself time to think before I go out and do something rash.

Last night I ended my first serious relationship. We went out for a year and a half and it was incredibly intense - but of us vacillating between being passionately in love with each other and absolutely hating each other.

Basically, it was wonderful, but draining and while I'm sad that things are over, it's for the best.

So, my plan for the night had been to sit in and indulge in some crappy food. Now though I'm tempted to doll myself up and just have meaningless sex with some random man. I've never done the one-night stand thing before - the only person I've had sex with was with the aforementioned ex-boyfriend.

None of my friends are around to go out with me - everyone has gone home from college for the weekend. So, I'm considering getting dressed up and just going to some pub alone and basically just picking someone up. It seems incredibly pathetic and I know I'll probably feel cheap in the morning - but getting drunk and happy seems more appealing right now than wallowing in my sorrows.

After Hours possibly isn't the best place for this....but what do people think about rebound sex in general? Good idea or just a recipe for disaster?

I hear you! Single after 4 years with someone and having the same thoughts.. Go have fun

smash · 17-02-2013 12:37AM

unknowngirl!! wrote: »

I hear you! Single after 4 years and having the same thoughts.. Go have fun

You two should hook up for some girl on girl action!

Pottler · 17-02-2013 12:38AM

unknowngirl!! wrote: »

I hear you! Single after 4 years and having the same thoughts.. Go have fun

There goes your "Unknown" status.:D

ArtyM · 17-02-2013 12:38AM

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods.
Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass.
Robert. H. Schuller

I think you made a wise choice OP.

robertxxx · 17-02-2013 12:41AM

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Offer still there if you want your back door smashed in, just PM.

MaxSteele · 17-02-2013 12:41AM

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

Yes. You are so much more better than those who lightheartedly offered you the ride. Damn those heterosexuals.

Get over yourself FFS.

Pottler · 17-02-2013 12:42AM

MaxSteele wrote: »

Yes. You are so much more better than those who lightheartedly offered you the ride. Damn those heterosexuals.

Get over yourself FFS.

Soo, not getting the ride then?

Earthhorse · 17-02-2013 12:43AM

Do it if you want to OP but if it's what you really wanted I don't think you'd be posting in AH about it.

Mocha Joe · 17-02-2013 12:45AM

MaxSteele wrote: »

Yes. You are so much more better than those who lightheartedly offered you the ride. Damn those heterosexuals.

Get over yourself FFS.

What a mental response!

Ruudi_Mentari · 17-02-2013 12:46AM

I always think these mysterious girls are actually guys, then think why don't girls ever do likewise then I see the responses and then think why cant I just be as unassuming

NegativeCreep · 17-02-2013 12:48AM

So nice of you to dump him after you get the Valentine's presents.

monkeysnapper · 17-02-2013 12:49AM

I remember when I 1st found boards. Ie and I made a huuuuuuuge mistake asking for advice in the after hours thread.

Won't be making that mistake again .....

Doesn't matter anyway it fell off in end ..

Gummy Panda · 17-02-2013 12:50AM

goinganon wrote: »

Thanks to those who responded seriously, but even greater thanks to all those with the crude responses - reminded me that there are a lot of less than desirable people around and that's most likely who I'd end up going home with tonight. Opened the wine and am staying in for the night - thanks After Hours!

So I won't be getting a belly rub?

goinganon · 17-02-2013 12:54AM

Gummy Panda wrote: »

So I won't be getting a belly rub?

You're a gummy panda, 'course you'll be getting a belly rub

goinganon · 17-02-2013 12:56AM

NegativeCreep wrote: »

So nice of you to dump him after you get the Valentine's presents.

Dinner was booked for tonight, so actually saved him hassle and money!

NegativeCreep · 17-02-2013 12:57AM

goinganon wrote: »

Dinner was booked for tonight, so actually saved him hassle and money!

Ah I'm only havin a laugh :L

Pottler · 17-02-2013 01:02AM

goinganon wrote: »

Dinner was booked for tonight, so actually saved him hassle and money!

Sure no harm so, he was probably busy taking his other girlfriend out on the actual Valentines day anyway..................................

SV · 17-02-2013 01:02AM

TIL: When women end relationships they have a strong urge to be kinda slutty.

paulheu · 17-02-2013 01:03AM

Well, you seem to be home still, so just sit it out and sleep it off.. You'll feel much better in the morning waking up on your own.. And if you still want some you can always choose to PM some of us losers, cheaper than going to a bar even....

See, made you smile just now!

irish son · 17-02-2013 01:04AM

Good choice op, it's to soon, you would be doing it for the wrong reasons. Go out next weekend with the girls and do some flirting and take it from there

ashers22 · 17-02-2013 01:06AM

have you ever tried lesbianism, just out of curiosity.

monkeysnapper · 17-02-2013 01:06AM

goinganon wrote: »

Dinner was booked for tonight, so actually saved him hassle and money!

You sound like a good lady for saving money... I could do with a lady like you....

My wife spends all my money .... :mad:

Have your night in and just move on and take up knitting or fishing while you get over it . We've all been there . It just takes time.

Good luck

Broke up with boyfriend - going out in search of meaningless sex?

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