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Not fancying Spouse anymore.

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    #62
    ITS_A_BADGER
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,232 ✭✭✭ITS_A_BADGER


    OP honestly if you feel that way about it, don't tell her anything yet. Try and maybe do things with just you and her, go out with her a couple of times a week bring her to a dinner/movie/drinks. do things that she likes to do and see how does she respond to doing those things with you. have a DvD night with just you and her on the couch and some wine and chocs. Bring her flowers somedays as a surprise. If you still feel the same way at least you gave it a shot...


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    #63
    Gauss
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 550 ✭✭✭Gauss


    ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »
    OP honestly if you feel that way about it, don't tell her anything yet. Try and maybe do things with just you and her, go out with her a couple of times a week bring her to a dinner/movie/drinks. do things that she likes to do and see how does she respond to doing those things with you. have a DvD night with just you and her on the couch and some wine and chocs. Bring her flowers somedays as a surprise. If you still feel the same way at least you gave it a shot...

    I'd love to but since I'm single that would be tricky.


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    #64
    Boombastic
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    Gauss wrote: »
    I'd love to but since I'm single that would be tricky.

    Did your OH see the thread?:pac:


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    #65
    ITS_A_BADGER
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,232 ✭✭✭ITS_A_BADGER


    Gauss wrote: »
    I'd love to but since I'm single that would be tricky.

    Then why are you worrying/thinking about this scenario so :confused:


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    #66
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    Gauss wrote: »

    I'd love to but since I'm single that would be tricky.

    I'm truly shocked


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    #67
    Gauss
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 550 ✭✭✭Gauss


    ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »

    Then why are you worrying/thinking about this scenario so :confused:
    Most definitely not worried. Find it curious how no one talks about this even though it must be fairly common.


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    #68
    HondaSami
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,713 ✭✭✭HondaSami


    Gauss wrote: »
    Most definitely not worried. Find it curious how no one talks about this even though it must be fairly common.

    why do you think it's common? no one expects relationships single or married to be loved up all the time. there is more to life and generally people have more in common than just sex.
    You ever hear the expression sex is either a feast or a famine?


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    #69
    Jimoslimos
    Registered Users Posts: 4,930 ✭✭✭Jimoslimos


    Gauss wrote: »
    Yes, topics of interest fantasy. Good work Columbo.
    FYP
    Gauss wrote: »
    I'd love to but since I'm single that would be tricky.
    Ah the engagement was broken off so. Well probably for the best so...
    Gauss wrote: »
    I asked for permission because my fiancé because she wanted me too. It didn't take much effort so fukc it, if it makes her happy. Both me and her dad thought it was stupid but I went through the motions.

    It stupid really.
    Gauss wrote: »
    Hi,

    I'm getting married next year and just looking for some suggestions for first dance songs, nothing too over played.
    Or was it marriage?? Finding it difficult to keep track of these hypothetical engagements, marriages, interesting sex lives....
    Gauss wrote: »
    Completely agree, I had a quadruple barrel surname and my wife had a quadruple barrel surname. We refused to choose which quadruple barrel surname to give our son, so he now has an octuple barrel surname. I don't see the issue with it and neither does young Jack Smith-Walton-Grant-Pepperpot-Fowler-Dunne-Blanc-Cooper-Santos. When he grows up he can do as he wishes.

    My wife is proud of her quadruple barrel name, it has history and she isn't going to abandon it.
    Although I'm guessing that last one was tongue-in-cheek..


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    #70
    Piper101
    Registered Users Posts: 450 ✭✭Piper101


    Johnny? Is that you?


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    #71
    tan11ie
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    Piliger wrote: »
    What utter nonsense. Your perception of love and life is shallow and naive. Love can be deep and wonderful without sex. Marriage is not just a journey of sexual delight. It is a decision to travel through life with a single partner, sharing ALL of life's struggles and rewards together.
    Sometimes sexual attraction wains and sometimes is goes. That doesn't mean love goes and it doesn't mean a loving and happy relationship should be thrown in the trash, and kids tossed into the vortex.
    And for your information marriage vows rarely say anything about total physical fidelity despite the claims that some people make.

    Ah FFS


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    #72
    Gauss
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 550 ✭✭✭Gauss


    Jimoslimos wrote: »
    FYP


    Ah the engagement was broken off so. Well probably for the best so...


    Or was it marriage?? Finding it difficult to keep track of these hypothetical engagements, marriages, interesting sex lives....

    Although I'm guessing that last one was tongue-in-cheek..

    The last one is true.

    Have you anything to contribute to the actual thread or are you more interested in me?


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    #73
    Pataman
    Registered Users Posts: 1,534 ✭✭✭Pataman


    Hippies! wrote: »
    Feed her cake and make her chubby. ;)

    I suspect that is already the problem


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    #74
    pickarooney
    Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 35,176 Mod ✭✭✭✭pickarooney


    What if you're both 80? Bugger all chance anyone is going to find either of you attractive.


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    #75
    Jimoslimos
    Registered Users Posts: 4,930 ✭✭✭Jimoslimos


    Gauss wrote: »
    The last one is true.

    Have you anything to contribute to the actual thread or are you more interested in me?
    You mean do I have any stories for you to jack-off to? I'm afraid not.

    On reflection I reckon you have an obsession for infidelity related stories. I'd recommend searching literotica where no doubt you'd find plenty to entertain you but something tells me your fetish is only really fulfilled when you can validate that it is real people cheating (or as real as anonymous posters on boards can be) and not merely fiction.

    No doubt you'll soon tire of boards and you'll further your already unhealthy interest in your friends sex lives. Culminating in an inability to gain any sexual satisfaction from your own relationships unless it involves some form of infidelity by either or both partners.


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    #76
    9959
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    pickarooney wrote: »
    What if you're both 80? Bugger all chance anyone is going to find either of you attractive.

    As a proud, and some might say, attractive octogenarian, I take deep offence at your 'throwaway' ageist comments.
    How dare you presume that 'mature chedder' is distasteful to everyone's palate, why even your namesake Wayne is believed to be partial to the wiley charms of the more experienced bedroom gymnast.

    Try me sometime, you cheeky young man/woman, I don't care which, I'm desperate.

    Yours in expectation, Doris (87)

    P.S. I note, with a frisson of excitement, that you choose to use the word 'bugger' to express yourself, well then, 'let's get it on' as one of my favourite crooners Marvin Gaye once warbled!


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    #77
    hoodwinked
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,175 ✭✭✭hoodwinked


    pickarooney wrote: »
    What if you're both 80? Bugger all chance anyone is going to find either of you attractive.

    Not true my grandmother is 73 (widowed) and still gets propositions from men her age (be they widowed or still single)


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    #78
    repsol
    Registered Users Posts: 754 ✭✭✭repsol


    hoodwinked wrote: »
    Not true my grandmother is 73 (widowed) and still gets propositions from men her age (be they widowed or still single)

    You can still get a tune from an old piano!:D


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    #79
    KwackerJack
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    Finish it!

    Buy a big fast coupe!

    House with a big mucky dog and a bar!

    Few women to have 'tea' with and live happily ever after ;)

    All hypothetically speaking of course, Id never live such a life style :o


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    #80
    Scanlas The 2nd
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    I'd stay together for the kids.


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    #81
    ElvisChrist6
    Registered Users Posts: 595 ✭✭✭ElvisChrist6


    Try suggesting you both try out different looks, you might find it refreshing if you do. For example, ask her to grow a beard!


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    #82
    Brain Stroking
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    Confab wrote: »
    OP, 13 of the 34 threads you have created are about sexual inadequacy, infidelity or sexual jealousy. Do you have something to tell us?

    Yup spotted that straight away. I reckon he's textually attracted to all our replies and his furiously **** since this thread was created.


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    #83
    Brain Stroking
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    I'm such a tease.


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    #84
    FullblownRose
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    hoodwinked wrote: »
    The grass is not greener, there is no temptation,one of the many reasons i married my husband is because i knew this,

    if my mind/eye/body was ever wandering i would hope i had the balls to tell him rather than being unfaithful,

    i vowed to love, honor and obey and i didn't take my vows lightly. others may do, but you can't say all when you don't know every married couple out there and their situation.


    Nice to see I'm not the only one who feels that way in my own relationship! I think love is not as common as people think it is.


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