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*NEW START* Any Other Plus Size Women Feel The Same?? MOD NOTE 1ST POST
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People are ****. *hugs*
I'm a size 12 and I get comments too! I once had a guy try to get with me in a club and I told him I had a boyfriend and he said "you're fat anyways", and another time I was walking home alone and a few guys were going past on a rickashaw and shouted to me "we'd invite you on, but you wouldn't fit"
People are crap. Thats the long and short version!
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christina_x wrote: »People are ****. *hugs*
I'm a size 12 and I get comments too! I once had a guy try to get with me in a club and I told him I had a boyfriend and he said "you're fat anyways", and another time I was walking home alone and a few guys were going past on a rickashaw and shouted to me "we'd invite you on, but you wouldn't fit"
People are crap. Thats the long and short version!
I'm sure the guys on the rickshaw were all like Hollister models themselves :rolleyes:. It's hard to think of an answer at the time but I'd have said "that's because your beer bellies take up too much space" or something like that. Drunken idiots!0 -
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God that's awful eviltwin - don't let it get to you (I know that's easier said than done though). I just cannot believe the ignorance of people nowadays
Its the fact they didn't even attempt to hide it you know? It was almost as if it was okay to say it out loud because I am big so its somehow okay. It was more that than what they actually said. I know human nature being what it is we make comments about people based on how they look, dress etc but most people keep it to themselves. I always wonder why idiots like this feel they need to tell you how your size makes them feel, what do they expect you to do with that information?
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How does someone even see a big woman when they see a well proportioned size 14 woman?!ShaShaBear wrote: »I know the feeling, I've had a few remarks thrown at me this past year. I went from almost a size 12 (could fit into most size 10 clothes, but 12 was more comfy as I have IBS and bloat after I eat or drink) and now am a definite size 14. Even my mother has passed comment on it (and she is a size 22) but I am very happy with my current weight, even though I'm considered overweight on a BMI scale. I have a classic hourglass figure though, so fortunately I'm mostly boobs and bum, with a bit of a tummy. The only thing I don't like is the tummy, so I'm working on that - but my OH thinks I'm incredibly sexy with curves and he's known me when I was a size 8 five years ago!
It all comes down to how you feel, but when people pass comment on me I smile and say "aww, thanks!". Baffles the hell outta people :rolleyes:
Where do these muppets come from?! God it's grim...0 -
Am un-animously overweight now, but had pretty decent (if I may say so myself!) genuine "actual-curve" curves in Secondary School that I didn't/couldn't learn to appreciate at all due to simply just thinking I was bigger than all the others and it's too late for them nice curves now. Maybe I might have viewed it differently if there was even a slight mix of sizes amongst us, but as there wasn't it was blatantly clear I was one/two of the only ones any way bigger, even a small bit bigger, than any of the rest of the girls so it wouldn't have been easy to view it any other way. Would nearly die (but wouldn't really die as I've no interest in losing weight right now,) for those curves back again, if I had them now I'd dress them up and dress them down and dress them everyway!
Wouldn't know much about losing weight myself lol but am sure any bit of weight-loss can be seen as an incentive to keep going. If I was intending to lose weight I think I'd try the stick-a-picture-on-the-fridge trick.
On a side-note I'd love if all Clothes-shops were obliged to stock all sizes undies and bras etc. I guess there's always online-shopping but different styles and fit have to be contended with which is a pain.0 -
confuseddotcom wrote: »had pretty decent (if I may say so myself!) genuine "actual-curve" curves in Secondary School that I didn't/couldn't learn to appreciate at all due to simply just thinking I was bigger than all the others and it's too late for them nice curves now. Maybe I might have viewed it differently if there was even a slight mix of sizes amongst us, but as there wasn't it was blatantly clear I was one/two of the only ones any way bigger, even a small bit bigger
I was the same in school. Honestly thought I was "fat" because I was a bit bigger than most of my friends. Looking back....WHAT was I thinking? I was a size 10!! Just shows the warped teenage mindset. A big part of it was not knowing how to dress well for my curves - a lot of teenage clothes were very straight up and down. The biggest part was my dad buying clothes for me when he went on trips, but he didn't know my size. So, he'd come back with size 14 clothes that were too big, but he'd say "You'll grow into them". That really messed with my body perception.
Since I already had those bigger clothes, it made it easier to simply grow to fill them after I left school until now (I'm 23). I'm around a size 14 now, pushing a 16 in some brands. I want to lose weight, and it's pure laziness that I haven't. This year though I've found a new interest in fashion, and have finally found styles that I like and suit me..so it might be just the push I need 0 -
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I think I've always felt fat but it's hard to pin point the times when I actually was overweight and the times when it was just my low self esteem.
Even now, I have problems knowing whether or not I could stand to lose a few pounds. I'm 27, 5 ft 1 and weigh 9 and a half stone. I'm quite curvy - 32F boobs and def have an ass, so sometimes I think I wear it well, other times I feel like a whale.
The most I've been is about ten and a half stone during my teen (chubby) years and the smallest is about seven stone when I was actively starving myself and over-exercising in what was clearly an eating disorder. I wasn't happy at either of those weights but in my head I should be about eight stone.
I have a terrible relationship with food, I'm either starving or bingeing. A total emotional eater. I've been like that most of my life.
At this stage I don't know how to change 0 -
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tomthetank wrote: »I think I've always felt fat but it's hard to pin point the times when I actually was overweight and the times when it was just my low self esteem.
Even now, I have problems knowing whether or not I could stand to lose a few pounds. I'm 27, 5 ft 1 and weigh 9 and a half stone. I'm quite curvy - 32F boobs and def have an ass, so sometimes I think I wear it well, other times I feel like a whale.
The most I've been is about ten and a half stone during my teen (chubby) years and the smallest is about seven stone when I was actively starving myself and over-exercising in what was clearly an eating disorder. I wasn't happy at either of those weights but in my head I should be about eight stone.
I have a terrible relationship with food, I'm either starving or bingeing. A total emotional eater. I've been like that most of my life.
At this stage I don't know how to change
I clicked on this thread wanting to post exactly what you just said!
I too have always had problems with the way I look. I've always felt fat and I still do. I am 5'7 and 11 stone and some at the moment and right now I am actually fat but a couple of years ago, I weighed 9 stone and I still felt fat. I know the problem is how I see myself and until I figure out my happiness from the inside, it doesn't matter what I weigh, I am always going to feel ugly and fat.
I hadn't been intimate with anyone for four years because I felt too ugly to be attractive to anyone- even when someone said they found me attractive, I sabotaged it because I didn't want to deal with the moment when the scales would finally drop from their eyes and they would see me for what I am- ugly and fat. People are constantly telling me I am beautiful, gorgeous, etc but I resent them for dangling the possibility in front of me. I actually sometimes dislike them more than those people who I know don't find me attractive. Last week though, I convinced myself to let go and was intimate with someone who turned out to be an ass. I wonder now whether subconsciously, I went with someone who would reinforce how I see myself?
If I could change one thing about me, it would be my confidence. I see people who are bigger than me, who are happy and carefree and so attractive because of it. I try and fake it but people can smell when you're faking it. I don't know what to do at this point. I am starting a water fast today to lose weight. I am going to drink water for 30 days and see if it can change how I feel about myself. It's a long shot. I know.0 -
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How does someone even see a big woman when they see a well proportioned size 14 woman?!
Where do these muppets come from?! God it's grim...
I think some people are trying to hit where they know it hurts. Most women don't like to be called fat and these **** know that. It's seen as a universal sore spot. I reckon they'll say anything irrespective of whether it's true or not just to hurt someone....because they're ****. It doesn't make it any better though.0 -
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Yep, makes sense that it would become a self fulfilling prophecy. I used to think I was fat as a teen because I had a sticky-out tummy; besides that I was skinny apart from having big boobs, but I zoned in on the tum.
Size 14 now - love my curves. That's genuine - smart-asses always dismiss that way of thinking as denial. Still unhappy with my tum, and now my arms, but I can appreciate the good now too - slim legs, pert bum, big boobs. I want to get the tum flatter though, but for health reasons mainly.
Again though, it's not like size 14 is huge.
In fairness I've never had smart comments hurled at me as size 14. Would be gutted if it happened though. How nasty and humiliating.
I love food and that's that - I'm not even talking about junkfood, moreso lunches etc with my pals - but these are high in calories. And I don't do much exercise lately - I think it's important to get active, especially if your job is sedentary, as mine is.
To the anonymous poster talking about a water-only regime, 5 ft 7 and 11 stone is really not fat; a bit overweight perhaps but no way would anyone look at you and think you're fat, just average sized.0 -
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