Mixed-race couples

Jude_2010

Thing is there this girl at school that I'm into and she's into me too but to cut a long story short I'm getting the feeling she's reluctant cause I'm black (i dont mean because she's had bad experiences before, just cause of the whole mixed thing) and I understand that, sort of..
We do get a couple stares when were together, which pisses me off cause, I mean what's the big deal here haha.

Basically, lets say you're a parent and your daughter says she's dating a black guy. What would be your first reaction. May be you've been in that situation before.
Also any advice would be appreciated very much

Thanks for reading

Where To

My ex was a sprinter but I was only ever good at the egg and spoon.

It didn't work out.

kumate_champ07

ignore them, if you like each other go for it

Super-Rush

Oh jesus not in After Hours.

Oddjob

It would depend on your background.

Guill

It's like having a bowl of half Krispies and half Cocoa Pops. Not for me but i wouldn't complain if i seen someone eating it.






Unless they were my Krispies...

Pherekydes

Race is just a social construct.

biko

As long as you/he is a good boyfriend that's all that matters.

Ghost Buster

Jude_2010 wrote: »

Thing is there this girl at school that I'm into and she's into me too but to cut a long story short I'm getting the feeling she's reluctant cause I'm black (i dont mean because she's had bad experiences before, just cause of the whole mixed thing) and I understand that, sort of..
We do get a couple stares when were together, which pisses me off cause, I mean what's the big deal here haha.

Basically, lets say you're a parent and your daughter says she's dating a black guy. What would be your first reaction. May be you've been in that situation before.
Also any advice would be appreciated very much

Thanks for reading

Im a father of a daughter (7 weeks so purely hypothetical:D) and i would not give a fiddlers. in fact i would be delighted about it.....provided the guy was decent. Good luck with it...

daz801

Pherekydes wrote: »

Race is just a social construct.

No, race is a classification system used to categorize humans into large and distinct populations or groups by heritable phenotypic characteristics, geographic ancestry, physical appearance, and ethnicity.

My name is URL

Each to their own

jaffacakesyum

OP, ignore what anyone else thinks. As long as the two of you are comfortable that's all that matters

TheZohanS

Now are you black or just really, really dark navy blue?

'Cos I'll be damned if ima gonna let my daughter date a smurf. :mad:

alchemist33

I wouldn't mind if my son went out with a black girl, as long as she was a decent sort. But that's not relevant to you.
Go for it, man.

mikemac1

Jude_2010 wrote: »

I'm getting the feeling she's reluctant cause I'm black

If you are able to mind read and understand girls you're a better man then most :cool:

There could be any number of reasons you're seeing reluctance, you've focused on one.
An obvious one but might not be the reason at all


People will stare at you for the clothes you wear or the way you cut your hair. This isn't London where nobody cares

El Weirdo

Think we should start a sweep on the first "I'm not racist, but..." post.

Jude_2010

El Pistolero wrote: »

Oh jesus not in After Hours.

hahahaha I wasn't really bothered looking for a suitable category. so I just stuck with this .. sorry bout that

Oddjob

Anyway go for it, and if you can convince your lesbian sister to shack up with a Roma gypsy, you get made the Emperor of Boards.

Your traveller mother will be so proud.

Micky Dolenz

How hot is she?

John Doe1

Maybe in west leitrim, people would judge but Swords? I think you will be fine, if you like her that much it shouldn't matter:)

Agento.T.o

Pherekydes wrote: »

Race is just a social construct.

Social construct is determined by Race Guess your White only Whites go around discussing how they don't even exist. O.P if your just an individual couple then happy to you but you may lead the way for the destruction of the White&Irish genotype in this country Would you be happy knowing that you where the first of many to have contributed to Irish Genocide?

Magill

I'd imagine the only reason you get some people staring is because its just not very common here yet.... imagine a white guy walking down the road with a black girl in say... kenya... don't you think everyone would stare ? Much more so than your experiencing. Just have to get used to it until everyone else has.

Jude_2010

TheZohan wrote: »

Now are you black or just really, really dark navy blue?

'Cos I'll be damned if ima gonna let my daughter date a smurf. :mad:

I'm Danzel Washington black ..
hows that for you?

Pherekydes

daz801 wrote: »

No, race is a classification system used to categorize humans into large and distinct populations or groups by heritable phenotypic characteristics, geographic ancestry, physical appearance, and ethnicity.

That's still a social construct.

Super-Rush

Jude_2010 wrote: »

hahahaha I wasn't really bothered looking for a suitable category. so I just stuck with this .. sorry bout that

Tis your call.

Just warning you.

So as my esteemed co mod Micky said, how hot is she?

Pherekydes

Agento.T.o wrote: »

Social construct is determined by Race Guess your White only Whites go around discussing how they don't even exist.

Is there some punctuation missing from this?

El Weirdo

Agento.T.o wrote: »

Social construct is determined by Race Guess your White only Whites go around discussing how they don't even exist. O.P if your just an individual couple then happy to you but you may lead the way for the destruction of the White&Irish genotype in this country Would you be happy knowing that you where the first of many to have contributed to Irish Genocide?

Give it a fucking rest, will you?

Dudess

Agento.T.o wrote: »

Pherekydes wrote: »

Race is just a social construct.

Social construct is determined by Race Guess your White only Whites go around discussing how they don't even exist. O.P if your just an individual couple then happy to you but you may lead the way for the destruction of the White&Irish genotype in this country Would you be happy knowing that you where the first of many to have contributed to Irish Genocide?

:pac:

Coriolanus

No daughter of mine is going out with a black lad.

Or a white or yellow or red or anything, she's going into the convent at 16.

I have a friend who had a problem like this. His girlfriend had to struggle with the fact he was from the north side. She felt her friends looked down on her for this. Eventually they broke up. They were both white. Best thing my mate ever did was get away from her.

Crazy Horse 6

Once she goes black she'll never look back.

Kevin Duffy

That skin colour thing is a red herring OP, they don't want you dating their daughter 'cos you're a boardsie. They're right too.

44leto

"because I am black" Ali G
I suppose another "Guess who is coming to dinner" no-one cares these days as long as its not a troll.

Jude_2010

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

How hot is she?

hahaha very hot
kind of like a seventeen year old 40% sexier Leigh-Allyn Baker but she claims she doesn't look anything like her soo..

SharpshooterTom

The world is going mixed race.

I've been saying this for a long time, we need strip down the borders, or at least relax them to allow full globalisation to take place.

I've always believed the world will be beige eventually, certainly in parts of europe, America this definitely will be the case shortly etc.

In Britain, a mixed race majority is certainly possible. 22% of primary schoolchildren are not white, and this is increasing, and I'm glad. If the tories don't cap immigration completely, we should be looking at a non-white majority by the second half of this century.

Things are looking up for this century, miscegenation is the new phenomenon of the 21st century. Hopefully we will have something like this in Ireland eventually.

teaandtoast

What difference does it make want race or ethnicity a person it's usually the character and personality of a person that attracts a person. I know they said opposites attract aswell.

44leto

Pherekydes wrote: »

Race is just a social construct.

And so, just because something is a social construct does not make it any less impotent. The whole of human civilization is a social construct.

Jude_2010

Nevore wrote: »

No daughter of mine is going out with a black lad.

Or a white or yellow or red or anything, she's going into the convent at 16.

damn right too

Micky Dolenz

Jude_2010 wrote: »

hahaha very hot
kind of like a seventeen year old 40% sexier Leigh-Allyn Baker but she claims she doesn't look anything like her soo..

Any pics?

Just to compare of course.

Peetrik

My daughter would be free to make her own decisions. Hopefully I would have raised her well enough for her to make good decisions where her partners are concerned.

A large age difference would be the only case where I'd intervene.... or if her partner was from Cavan... seriously.. that accent

fuerte1976

F them all. Go for it bud

El Weirdo

Jude_2010 wrote: »

hahaha very hot
kind of like a seventeen year old 40% sexier Leigh-Allyn Baker but she claims she doesn't look anything like her soo..

*googles*

Niiiice.

Buceph

I don't think Ireland is as racist as some people make out. I think we're still a bit backward for that. In places like London and America they have a long history of different races being part of their culture, so you get true acceptance as well as true racism. Over here, we don't have a history of other cultures coming here (apart from the fecking Brits raping our potatoes and stealing our women.) We have some Asian/Chinese immigration from the 50/60/70s, and the odd story like Paul McGrath and Phil Lynott popping up, but broadly most people of different ethnicity are recent immigrants and their children, and that's where I imagine most of the difficulty is. But for some people that just comes out as a "race" thing.

An example would be the stories you hear of an asylum seeker about to be deported from Ballybogtown, Wesht Kerry. You have every local marching on the Dail demanding that the family are allowed stay, that they've done well in the community and are good people, and didn't she help with the junior infants nativity play and isn't the young fella on the under 10 football team, and sure he might be the first black player to win the Provincial Club Trophy for Ballybogtown. Then they're asked what about immigrants in general and they all say, "They should all be kicked out, but our local immigrants are grand people, lovely family, and they're ok to stay."

I wouldn't have a problem with it, as long as you're an alright lad. I just think that parts of Ireland have yet to encounter many people of a different race, and when they do they see them as "our people" while thinking the rest of that race is different and scary. Eventually they'll figure out that they're alright. And part of them figuring that out would be you going out with this girl and showing them that it's normal and nothing to be scared of.

If it's a problem with her parents or family that you're having, and you're looking for advice, then maybe you should try posting in the Personal Issues forum. If you're just looking for discussion on the average Irish attitude, then I think broadly some people are just a little scared of this new happening in Ireland. Most will be grand in time.

kevmol88

biko wrote: »

As long as you/he is a good boyfriend that's all that matters.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-16549350

KKkitty

OP Ask her how she feels about you and if she says she doesn't feel the same ask her why. If it's a race issue don't take it to heart. Your race is part of who you are and you seem like a nice young man so I hope it works out for you.

seanybiker

Get in there as quick as you can. Supposedly after you she wont go back. Best of luck with her

up for anything

Agento.T.o wrote: »

Social construct is determined by Race Guess your White only Whites go around discussing how they don't even exist. O.P if your just an individual couple then happy to you but you may lead the way for the destruction of the White&Irish genotype in this country Would you be happy knowing that you where the first of many to have contributed to Irish Genocide?

You eventually found your way out of the race thread, unfortunately.

Wasn't it the Spanish Armada who first contributed to Irish Genocide or the pesky Normans or even perhaps the Formorians?

You do speak a lot of twaddle. :rolleyes:

seanybiker

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

That skin colour thing is a red herring OP, they don't want you dating their daughter 'cos you're a boardsie. They're right too.

Why did you have to mention the colour of the herring? you racist:mad:

Micky Dolenz

Agento.T.o wrote: »

Social construct is determined by Race Guess your White only Whites go around discussing how they don't even exist. O.P if your just an individual couple then happy to you but you may lead the way for the destruction of the White&Irish genotype in this country Would you be happy knowing that you where the first of many to have contributed to Irish Genocide?

Banned.

Pushing racist agenda.

billybudd

Agento.T.o wrote: »

Social construct is determined by Race Guess your White only Whites go around discussing how they don't even exist. O.P if your just an individual couple then happy to you but you may lead the way for the destruction of the White&Irish genotype in this country Would you be happy knowing that you where the first of many to have contributed to Irish Genocide?

Of all the nations in the world i think we could do with a bit tanning! apart from this your post is idiotic and opinions like yours should be confined to a field somewhere in the middle of nowhere.

SharpshooterTom

teaandtoast wrote: »

What difference does it make want race or ethnicity a person it's usually the character and personality of a person that attracts a person. I know they said opposites attract aswell.

This is my belief why the world is going mixed race. I believe if we don't stop immigration we should have a fairly beige country ourselves in time hopefully. I believe Europe needs to go through this phase due it having an ageing population and so we need more immigrants.

They're talking about Britain having a non-white majority by 2066, whether that will happen or not is another thing, but if it does, hopefully we're not too far behind.