Do women prefer dominant or submissive men?

Johnny Foreigner

Do women prefer dominant or submissive men?
In my experience women find a dominant man to be a turn on.
They want men to be men, and take control.

ThePower11

They prefer rich men

Amirani

It's all about the penis size, fortunately mine is a snug 15 inches.

Biggins

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Do women prefer dominant or submissive men?
In my experience women find a dominant man to be a turn on.
They want men to be men, and take control.

In all honesty, (like males) females sometimes being a of a dominant characteristic, prefers to switch 'roles' for their own reasons -and visa versa if they are more of a submissive character, if they are given the chance.

Short version: They like to take a break from their normal character (for own reason).

Depending on what they are themselves, helps decide that they prefer often!

Liam Byrne

Are those the only two options?

What about those of us with healthy, balanced views who adapt and react appropriately to different situations ?

The King of Moo

It's simple.

They want an Ant, not a Dec.

ALL of them!!

:pac:

Aoifey!

It depends on the woman really, not all women want the same thing.

BBDBB

women prefer a man who is wise enough to be either submissive or dominant dependent upon the circumstances

Bipolar Joe

Women are like the sea. They surround us and are full of sh!te.

Gee Bag

NiallSparky wrote: »

It's all about the penis size, fortunately mine is a snug 15 inches.

Is that the big black rubber one you brought back from your holidays in Amsterdam?

Logical Fallacy

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Do women prefer dominant or submissive men?
In my experience women find a dominant man to be a turn on.
They want men to be men, and take control.

I wouldn't base too much on the fact that your mother likes it when you cook your own meals.

theteal

A little from column A, a little from column B

eurokev

depends on time of the month I find, I grow my beard according to other halfs menstrual cycle.

Johnny Foreigner

Liam Byrne wrote: »

Are those the only two options?

What about those of us with healthy, balanced views who adapt and react appropriately to different situations ?

I think they are called metrosexuals.

candy-gal1

a little from column a, little from column b

but mainly dominant wins out imho

minidazzler

I have found that some women like to dominate and some like to be submissive....crazy I know.

Johnny Foreigner

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

I wouldn't base too much on the fact that your mother likes it when you cook your own meals.

My mother was killed 6 years ago in a car accident by a drunk driver.
You weren't to know that though, so I will forgive you.
Be careful in future.

Biggins

Should be a third option: "Men should be capable of adapting either way when required."

stupidusername

It entirely depends on the context. I've yet to be the submissive one in a relationship, but when it comes to sex, I think I would hate to be the dominant one.

Johnny Foreigner

ThePower11 wrote: »

They prefer rich men

There may be some truth in that.
I know 2 women who have openly admitted they would go with a man if he was rich. Looks and age wouldn't come into it if he was a millionaire for example.
I think many women had a taste of the good life in the Celtic Tiger boom years, and they became greedy and materialistic as a result. Now they are hungry to have that lifestyle again, and see a rich man as the way to attain it.

TeddyTedson

People are different. It's as simple as that.

Feisar

I just act as I feel appropriate at the time. If I'm wrong I've no problem admitting it or if I feel I'm right I'll stick to my guns.

What is this dominant in the modern context anyway?

What right do I have to be dominant over my GF when she earns her own money and pays her own way?

Although I was really pissed off this morning! She woke me an hour and a half early on my first day back to work because it was windy and she was scared. And no, not for some TLC. I'm in Belfast she's in Dublin.

Johnny Foreigner

stupidusername wrote: »

It entirely depends on the context. I've yet to be the submissive one in a relationship, but when it comes to sex, I think I would hate to be the dominant one.

Interesting. I think it is common especially with strong, confident women in a position of power to like to be in control in a relationship. They are used to getting what they want. But when it comes to sex they crave a role reversal and find it a turn on for a man to be dominant and take the lead.

Johnny Foreigner

Feisar wrote: »

I just act as I feel appropriate at the time. If I'm wrong I've no problem admitting it or if I feel I'm right I'll stick to my guns.

What is this dominant in the modern context anyway?

What right do I have to be dominant over my GF when she earns her own money and pays her own way?

Although I was really pissed of she woke me an hour and a half early on my first day back to work this morning because it was windy and she was scared. And no, not for some TLC. I'm in Belfast she's in Dublin.

Dominant in the modern day context is the man taking control, and making the decisions. Telling the woman exactly what he expects of her.
You have every right to be dominant over your girlfriend. You are the man.

Spread

If Danielle O'Donnell and Sinead O'Connor were in the sack together .......... any thoughts as to who would make the first grab?

Johnny Foreigner

TeddyTedson wrote: »

People are different. It's as simple as that.

True.
Some women like metrosexual men who shave their chests, pluck their eyebrows, wear skinny jeans, and go on sunbeds.
Some women like men to be men, and dominate them.

Chuck Stone

Dominant is too strong a word and has connotations of the bad old days.

Women like men to be assertive and confident in their decisions which is very different to domineering.

Assertively
ScampChuck

BBDBB

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

True.
Some women like metrosexual men who shave their chests, pluck their eyebrows, wear skinny jeans, and go on sunbeds.
Some women like men to be men, and dominate them.

you seem to be trying too hard:rolleyes::D

hondasam

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Do women prefer dominant or submissive men?
In my experience women find a dominant man to be a turn on.
They want men to be men, and take control.

Each to their own, what ever makes you happy.

Johnny Foreigner

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Dominant is too strong a word and has connotations of the bad old days.

Women like men to be assertive and confident in their decisions which is very different to domineering.

Assertively
ScampChuck

Bad old days?
You cannot beat 1950's values.
Men were men. Women respected a man's authority.

stupidusername

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Interesting. I think it is common especially with strong, confident women in a position of power to like to be in control in a relationship. They are used to getting what they want. But when it comes to sex they crave a role reversal and find it a turn on for a man to be dominant and take the lead.

I didn't say anything about craving submission in sex. I said I would hate to be the dominant one. that doesn't equate to always having to be the submissive one. sex can be neither. I don't crave being dominated. There's a helluva lot of stuff in the world of domination that is disgusting and just plain stupid (in my eyes) and I would never want, but I'm saying submission is something I can be ok with dependent on how far it goes, whereas dominance I can't see myself ever doing that.

hondasam

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Dominant in the modern day context is the man taking control, and making the decisions. Telling the woman exactly what he expects of her.
You have every right to be dominant over your girlfriend. You are the man.

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Bad old days?
You cannot beat 1950's values.
Men were men. Women respected a man's authority.

:pac::pac: you don't know much about women.

bronte

Needing to "domineer" all the time is a sign of personal insecurity which is massively unsexy. It takes much more confidence to let it switch between the two partners. Confidence is hot.
Would you not get bored of the same person taking the lead in the sack all the time? I'd say that'd get fairly predictable after a while.

Zebra3

Spread wrote: »

If Danielle O'Donnell and Sinead O'Connor were in the sack together .......... any thoughts as to who would make the first grab?

No thoughts on that whatseoever.

Ever.

Johnny Foreigner

BBDBB wrote: »

women prefer a man who is wise enough to be either submissive or dominant dependent upon the circumstances

Is this possible?
I don't think roles can be reversed.
I think being either dominant or submissive is a genetic character trait.
Some people are born confident, leaders, extroverts.
Some people are born shy, want to be led, introverts.
I think one can act in role reversal, but really you are born dominant or submissive.

biko

I think women want men to be masculine and assertive, know what he wants.
I don't think they want a dominant male that will subdue them.
Just a guess of course.

krudler

Dominant to me suggest the man getting what he wants all the time, who wants that? being happy to please your partner when she needs it (not just in sex) but having enough of a backbone to call her out on her bullsh1t is a good balance.

Wertz

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

There may be some truth in that.
I know 2 women who have openly admitted they would go with a man if he was rich. Looks and age wouldn't come into it if he was a millionaire for example.
I think many women had a taste of the good life in the Celtic Tiger boom years, and they became greedy and materialistic as a result. Now they are hungry to have that lifestyle again, and see a rich man as the way to attain it.

Or perhaps they merely see them as potentially good providers for themselves and their offspring. Nothing wrong with that at the bottom of it all and let's be honest, the lads with the money aren't complaining either.

As for the poll, too confined...either/or...surely there's a middle ground. Not all women or men conform to some general sexual stereotype no matter how much we like to think that they do...

Feisar

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Dominant in the modern day context is the man taking control, and making the decisions. Telling the woman exactly what he expects of her.
You have every right to be dominant over your girlfriend. You are the man.

Making decisions, such as: should we go and see Sherlock Holmes or Mission Impossible?

I kid but I still disagree with you. Any real decisions effecting the both of us in a serious way would be discussed/debated and a solution found.

My Dad thinks I'm crazy for doing all the cooking, apparently my GF will see me as "less of a man/I'll lose my maleness" etc! I reckon I'm the better cook and besides it relaxes me. Dad's so old school it's unbelievable.

BBDBB

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Is this possible?
I don't think roles can be reversed.
I think being either dominant or submissive is a genetic character trait.
Some people are born confident, leaders, extroverts.
Some people are born shy, want to be led, introverts.
I think one can act in role reversal, but really you are born dominant or submissive.

I think your thinking needs rethinking as it is limited in its pigeonholing of people

I can put you in a situation where you are forced to be the leader against your will or in a position where you shut up and do exactly what you are told

pragmatic1

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Is this possible?
I don't think roles can be reversed.
I think being either dominant or submissive is a genetic character trait.
Some people are born confident, leaders, extroverts.
Some people are born shy, want to be led, introverts.
I think one can act in role reversal, but really you are born dominant or submissive.

Extrovert doesnt mean confident and dominant. In fact it can be the complete opposite.

Chuck Stone

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Bad old days?
You cannot beat 1950's values.
Men were men. Women respected a man's authority.

Excréments d'un taureau. Pardon my French.

In those days it was more about 'women know you place'.

jaffacakesyum

The amount of people who are starting their sentences with 'Women like ____'

It's stupid

Some women like dominant men
Some women like submissive men
Some women like neither
Some women like the man to be dominant sometimes, submissive other times
Some women like men to adapt to the situation and be confident/assertive at times, not so much at other times
Some women like men to be dominant but only in the bedroom
Some women like men to be submissive but only in the bedroom

etc. etc.

BBDBB

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

The amount of people who are starting their sentences with 'Women like ____'

It's stupid

Some women like dominant men
Some women like submissive men
Some women like neither
Some women like the man to be dominant sometimes, submissive other times
Some women like men to adapt to the situation and be confident/assertive at times, not so much at other times
Some women like men to be dominant but only in the bedroom
Some women like men to be submissive but only in the bedroom

etc. etc.

Lady Gaga has been on the phone and wants to know if she can use the above as lyrics

Johnny Foreigner

bronte wrote: »

Needing to "domineer" all the time is a sign of personal insecurity which is massively unsexy. It takes much more confidence to let it switch between the two partners. Confidence is hot.
Would you not get bored of the same person taking the lead in the sack all the time? I'd say that'd get fairly predictable after a while.

Not at all.
It is human nature to be dominant or submissive.
Some women crave to be dominated by a man. They are submissive by nature and do not wish to be dominant themselves. They are only satisfied if a man takes the lead and is confident and controlling.

Chuck Stone

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

The amount of people who are starting their sentences with 'Women like stuff'

They do like stuff now.

Johnny Foreigner

Spread wrote: »

If Danielle O'Donnell and Sinead O'Connor were in the sack together .......... any thoughts as to who would make the first grab?

I think you mean Daniel (not Danielle).
Daniel is homosexual so its a mute point.

bronte

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Not at all.
It is human nature to be dominant or submissive.
Some women crave to be dominated by a man. They are submissive by nature and do not wish to be dominant themselves. They are only satisfied if a man takes the lead and is confident and controlling.

It's a serious turn off dude!

Each to their own.

Johnny Foreigner

hondasam wrote: »

:pac::pac: you don't know much about women.

You are mistaken.
The statistics of the poll prove I know a lot about women.

Liam Byrne

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Liam Byrne wrote: »

Are those the only two options?

What about those of us with healthy, balanced views who adapt and react appropriately to different situations ?

I think they are called metrosexuals.

You need to improve your thinking. Put down the beer and prehistoric club.

Metrosexuals are plonkers that fall for the beauty industry's crap about moisturiser and waxing and "bands" with no instruments.

Eve_Dublin

Hey OP....aren't you the guy who posted here recently how you tell your women what they should wear and do? Brought me down with a serious dose of the heebie jeebies.