Do women prefer dominant or submissive men?

hondasam · 03-01-2012 08:24PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Dominant in the modern day context is the man taking control, and making the decisions. Telling the woman exactly what he expects of her.
You have every right to be dominant over your girlfriend. You are the man.

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Bad old days?
You cannot beat 1950's values.
Men were men. Women respected a man's authority.

:pac::pac: you don't know much about women.

bronte · 03-01-2012 08:25PM

Needing to "domineer" all the time is a sign of personal insecurity which is massively unsexy. It takes much more confidence to let it switch between the two partners. Confidence is hot.
Would you not get bored of the same person taking the lead in the sack all the time? I'd say that'd get fairly predictable after a while.

Zebra3 · 03-01-2012 08:25PM

Spread wrote: »

If Danielle O'Donnell and Sinead O'Connor were in the sack together .......... any thoughts as to who would make the first grab?

No thoughts on that whatseoever.

Ever.

Johnny Foreigner · 03-01-2012 08:26PM

BBDBB wrote: »

women prefer a man who is wise enough to be either submissive or dominant dependent upon the circumstances

Is this possible?
I don't think roles can be reversed.
I think being either dominant or submissive is a genetic character trait.
Some people are born confident, leaders, extroverts.
Some people are born shy, want to be led, introverts.
I think one can act in role reversal, but really you are born dominant or submissive.

biko · 03-01-2012 08:26PM

I think women want men to be masculine and assertive, know what he wants.
I don't think they want a dominant male that will subdue them.
Just a guess of course.

krudler · 03-01-2012 08:27PM

Dominant to me suggest the man getting what he wants all the time, who wants that? being happy to please your partner when she needs it (not just in sex) but having enough of a backbone to call her out on her bullsh1t is a good balance.

Wertz · 03-01-2012 08:28PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

There may be some truth in that.
I know 2 women who have openly admitted they would go with a man if he was rich. Looks and age wouldn't come into it if he was a millionaire for example.
I think many women had a taste of the good life in the Celtic Tiger boom years, and they became greedy and materialistic as a result. Now they are hungry to have that lifestyle again, and see a rich man as the way to attain it.

Or perhaps they merely see them as potentially good providers for themselves and their offspring. Nothing wrong with that at the bottom of it all and let's be honest, the lads with the money aren't complaining either.

As for the poll, too confined...either/or...surely there's a middle ground. Not all women or men conform to some general sexual stereotype no matter how much we like to think that they do...

Feisar · 03-01-2012 08:29PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Dominant in the modern day context is the man taking control, and making the decisions. Telling the woman exactly what he expects of her.
You have every right to be dominant over your girlfriend. You are the man.

Making decisions, such as: should we go and see Sherlock Holmes or Mission Impossible?

I kid but I still disagree with you. Any real decisions effecting the both of us in a serious way would be discussed/debated and a solution found.

My Dad thinks I'm crazy for doing all the cooking, apparently my GF will see me as "less of a man/I'll lose my maleness" etc! I reckon I'm the better cook and besides it relaxes me. Dad's so old school it's unbelievable.

BBDBB · 03-01-2012 08:30PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Is this possible?
I don't think roles can be reversed.
I think being either dominant or submissive is a genetic character trait.
Some people are born confident, leaders, extroverts.
Some people are born shy, want to be led, introverts.
I think one can act in role reversal, but really you are born dominant or submissive.

I think your thinking needs rethinking as it is limited in its pigeonholing of people

I can put you in a situation where you are forced to be the leader against your will or in a position where you shut up and do exactly what you are told

pragmatic1 · 03-01-2012 08:30PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Is this possible?
I don't think roles can be reversed.
I think being either dominant or submissive is a genetic character trait.
Some people are born confident, leaders, extroverts.
Some people are born shy, want to be led, introverts.
I think one can act in role reversal, but really you are born dominant or submissive.

Extrovert doesnt mean confident and dominant. In fact it can be the complete opposite.

Chuck Stone · 03-01-2012 08:30PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Bad old days?
You cannot beat 1950's values.
Men were men. Women respected a man's authority.

Excréments d'un taureau. Pardon my French.

In those days it was more about 'women know you place'.

jaffacakesyum · 03-01-2012 08:30PM

The amount of people who are starting their sentences with 'Women like ____'

It's stupid

Some women like dominant men
Some women like submissive men
Some women like neither
Some women like the man to be dominant sometimes, submissive other times
Some women like men to adapt to the situation and be confident/assertive at times, not so much at other times
Some women like men to be dominant but only in the bedroom
Some women like men to be submissive but only in the bedroom

etc. etc.

BBDBB · 03-01-2012 08:31PM

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

The amount of people who are starting their sentences with 'Women like ____'

It's stupid

Some women like dominant men
Some women like submissive men
Some women like neither
Some women like the man to be dominant sometimes, submissive other times
Some women like men to adapt to the situation and be confident/assertive at times, not so much at other times
Some women like men to be dominant but only in the bedroom
Some women like men to be submissive but only in the bedroom

etc. etc.

Lady Gaga has been on the phone and wants to know if she can use the above as lyrics

Johnny Foreigner · 03-01-2012 08:32PM

bronte wrote: »

Needing to "domineer" all the time is a sign of personal insecurity which is massively unsexy. It takes much more confidence to let it switch between the two partners. Confidence is hot.
Would you not get bored of the same person taking the lead in the sack all the time? I'd say that'd get fairly predictable after a while.

Not at all.
It is human nature to be dominant or submissive.
Some women crave to be dominated by a man. They are submissive by nature and do not wish to be dominant themselves. They are only satisfied if a man takes the lead and is confident and controlling.

Chuck Stone · 03-01-2012 08:33PM

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

The amount of people who are starting their sentences with 'Women like stuff'

They do like stuff now.

Johnny Foreigner · 03-01-2012 08:33PM

Spread wrote: »

If Danielle O'Donnell and Sinead O'Connor were in the sack together .......... any thoughts as to who would make the first grab?

I think you mean Daniel (not Danielle).
Daniel is homosexual so its a mute point.

bronte · 03-01-2012 08:34PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Not at all.
It is human nature to be dominant or submissive.
Some women crave to be dominated by a man. They are submissive by nature and do not wish to be dominant themselves. They are only satisfied if a man takes the lead and is confident and controlling.

It's a serious turn off dude!

Each to their own.

Johnny Foreigner · 03-01-2012 08:34PM

hondasam wrote: »

:pac::pac: you don't know much about women.

You are mistaken.
The statistics of the poll prove I know a lot about women.

Liam Byrne · 03-01-2012 08:35PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

Liam Byrne wrote: »

Are those the only two options?

What about those of us with healthy, balanced views who adapt and react appropriately to different situations ?

I think they are called metrosexuals.

You need to improve your thinking. Put down the beer and prehistoric club.

Metrosexuals are plonkers that fall for the beauty industry's crap about moisturiser and waxing and "bands" with no instruments.

Eve_Dublin · 03-01-2012 08:36PM

Hey OP....aren't you the guy who posted here recently how you tell your women what they should wear and do? Brought me down with a serious dose of the heebie jeebies.

BBDBB · 03-01-2012 08:37PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

You are mistaken.
The statistics of the poll prove I know a lot about women.

the limits of your poll (ie only have two options) invalidate such a claim

Spread · 03-01-2012 08:38PM

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

The amount of people who are starting their sentences with 'Women like ____'

It's stupid

Some women like dominant men
Some women like submissive men
Some women like neither
Some women like the man to be dominant sometimes, submissive other times
Some women like men to adapt to the situation and be confident/assertive at times, not so much at other times
Some women like men to be dominant but only in the bedroom
Some women like men to be submissive but only in the bedroom

And all women like a man that's hung like a donkey but with the hands of an artist!

etc. etc.

There! fyp

Johnny Foreigner · 03-01-2012 08:38PM

Feisar wrote: »

Making decisions, such as: should we go and see Sherlock Holmes or Mission Impossible?

I kid but I still disagree with you. Any real decisions effecting the both of us in a serious way would be discussed/debated and a solution found.

My Dad thinks I'm crazy for doing all the cooking, apparently my GF will see me as "less of a man/I'll lose my maleness" etc! I reckon I'm the better cook and besides it relaxes me. Dad's so old school it's unbelievable.

You do all the cooking? That's a disgrace.
Your Father sounds like a legend. I admire his values.

Eve_Dublin · 03-01-2012 08:39PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

You are mistaken.
The statistics of the poll prove I know a lot about women.

At the time of typing, 12 people voted and who's to say what gender they are?

I'd say you know ****-all if the truth be known.

up for anything · 03-01-2012 08:39PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

You are mistaken.
The statistics of the poll prove I know a lot about women.

I wonder how many of the majority that voted that women like men to be dominant are men assuming that they know what women want. :rolleyes:

stupidusername · 03-01-2012 08:40PM

yeah Johnny the poll is going to be misleading. I mean it's all about what exactly you're referring to. and then degrees of dominance etc. I voted that a man should be dominant, but it doesn't mean I want to be tied down and peed on.

BBDBB · 03-01-2012 08:40PM

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Hey OP....aren't you the guy who posted here recently how you tell your women what they should wear and do? Brought me down with a serious dose of the heebie jeebies.

OP is a dominant man, you can tell because he has to create a thread about how dominant he is:rolleyes::pac:

thats what all dominant people have to do isnt it? tell people that they are dominant, otherwise people wouldnt get to find out:pac:

Johnny Foreigner · 03-01-2012 08:41PM

BBDBB wrote: »

the limits of your poll (ie only have two options) invalidate such a claim

You are either submissive or dominant.
They are genetic personality traits.
You cannot be both. That is why there are only 2 options in the poll.

Eric Cartman · 03-01-2012 08:41PM

seems to be an awful lot of females of the larger variety with very skinny submissive men lately , dont know what thats about.

A dominant woman could deal with me at all but some people seem to crave those types to keep their lives in check. Its just not something id ever want, bring back the 1950's where men werent submissive bitches about it.

Spread · 03-01-2012 08:41PM

Johnny Foreigner wrote: »

I think you mean Daniel (not Danielle).
Daniel is homosexual so its a mute point.

First I've heard of that. Have you a link?

Do women prefer dominant or submissive men?

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