Getting rid of a cling-on

Larianne · 21-09-2011 08:03PM #1

Last year, girl in my class clung onto myself and another classmate - following us every where, asking what we were doing, where we were going all the time. She's also a compulsive liar. You'd tell a story and she'd have a similar story only better. :rolleyes: It actually got a bit much. So much so, that I ended up not going into college a lot of the time.

What can I do? How do you tell someone they are annoying without hurting their feelings? I did ignore her after a while but that's not nice either

Any tactful way of doing it???

Slidey · 21-09-2011 08:04PM

Drop the hand

greenmachine88 · 21-09-2011 08:05PM

tell her to chill out and relax and be herself etc

Logical Fallacy · 21-09-2011 08:05PM

I stopped be a fan of tact when i turned 30.

Just tell her to **** off.

Ally Dick · 21-09-2011 08:06PM

Tell her to f@ck off

karma_ · 21-09-2011 08:06PM

Mature & Non-Traditional Students, you're a mod.

orourkeda · 21-09-2011 08:06PM

Ask her for violent anal

El Guapo! · 21-09-2011 08:06PM

I thought a cling-on was a little piece of shít that clings to your arse hair and takes ages to get off :pac:

Larianne · 21-09-2011 08:06PM

karma_ wrote: »

Mature & Non-Traditional Students, you're a mod.

I can hardly ban her from my class.

Yakult · 21-09-2011 08:07PM

Tell her the truth, that you don't want to be her friend or just hire a hitman.

Logical Fallacy · 21-09-2011 08:07PM

Dean09 wrote: »

I thought a cling-on was a little piece of shít that clings to your arse hair and takes ages to get off :pac:

That's a Dangle Berry.

AnamGlas · 21-09-2011 08:07PM

Dean09 wrote: »

I thought a cling-on was a little piece of shít that clings to your arse hair and takes ages to get off :pac:

Dingleberry, also referred to as dangleberry.

pablomakaveli · 21-09-2011 08:08PM

Tell her you have leprosy and she is at risk by coming near you.

Or you could tell her to **** off.

karma_ · 21-09-2011 08:09PM

Larianne wrote: »

I can hardly ban her from my class.

No, but maybe you could approach the situation in a mature way, i.e not asking AH for advice.

Cill Dara Abu · 21-09-2011 08:09PM

Have a threesome

mattjack · 21-09-2011 08:09PM

Tell bigger more outrageous lies,like about the time you and David Norris were arrested on the roof of the Dail wearing speedos.

Superbus · 21-09-2011 08:10PM

Treat her the same way, only moreso.

El Guapo! · 21-09-2011 08:10PM

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

That's a Dangle Berry.

Yeah I thought it was that too!

Temptamperu · 21-09-2011 08:11PM

karma_ wrote: »

No, but maybe you could approach the situation in a mature way, i.e not asking AH for advice.

But we give such good advice.

I say blast her with piss and tell her to fúck off before she gets the hard side of your hand.

funk-you · 21-09-2011 08:11PM

Try to kiss her. It's win, win.

-Funk

Larianne · 21-09-2011 08:11PM

karma_ wrote: »

No, but maybe you could approach the situation in a mature way, i.e not asking AH for advice.

Well now, in fairness, sometimes AH comes up trumps with proper advice.

What's your advice??

orourkeda · 21-09-2011 08:12PM

mattjack wrote: »

Tell bigger more outrageous lies,like about the time you and David Norris were arrested on the roof of the Dail wearing speedos.

http://www.independent.ie/multimedia/archive/00191/Cat_191420t.jpg

Abi · 21-09-2011 08:12PM

Larianne wrote: »

What can I do? How do you tell someone they are annoying without hurting their feelings?

Theres probably no other way around this than actually saying something to her =/

I did ignore her after o a while but that's not nice either

Well neither is forcing yourself into someones company.

I do this quite well

Slidey wrote: »

Drop the hand

Nah, that might back-fire

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

I stopped be a fan of tact when i turned 30.

Just tell her to **** off.

Same here. Done with pussy-footin', just tell it how it is.

You could always address her on her pork-pies, no doubt she'll become all defensive and angry and not want to talk to you after that anyway.

Larianne · 21-09-2011 08:14PM

Abi wrote: »

Theres probably no other way around this than actually saying something to her =/

You could always address her on her pork-pies, no doubt she'll become all defensive and angry and not want to talk to you after that anyway.

Thanks missy!

Yes, I know I have to say something to her but how do you tell someone that they are annoying and a compulsive liar?!? Straight out?

I'm thinking if I just say "You're wrecking my head" she might cop on to fuk off away from me...

General General · 21-09-2011 08:15PM

Tell her that you are a Satanist & would like her to come to a Satanist party you & your Satanist friends are having... then, like it was an afterthought, ask her: you're still a virgin, right?

dazed+confused · 21-09-2011 08:15PM

Are we really not allowed to say "your ma" anymore?

Can we still say "Blast her with piss?"

Blast her with piss!

Geekness1234 · 21-09-2011 08:16PM

Boobs?

ballsymchugh · 21-09-2011 08:16PM

turbolax a few special french fancies for her!

Witcher · 21-09-2011 08:17PM

Getting rid of a cling on you say?

http://potpiedeluxe.com/files/2010/10/13c7595d36b44b63.jpg.jpg

I'm aware the Star Trek character is spelled Klingon

General General · 21-09-2011 08:17PM

Also, if she asks when's the party, you say: um, when's your next period?

Captain Darling · 21-09-2011 08:17PM

Tell her you come in peace and get Scotty to beam you up.

Rocky_Dennis · 21-09-2011 08:18PM

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Send her this in an email and I'm sure she will get the hint

karma_ · 21-09-2011 08:19PM

Larianne wrote: »

Well now, in fairness, sometimes AH comes up trumps with proper advice.

What's your advice??

In fairness, it's hardly the most pressing problem anyone has to face. For one it's flattering that someone is interested in being in your company and at the same time I'd be shocked if you had to spend more than 45minutes in this persons company 3 days a week, assuming this is a degree course.

21-09-2011 08:20PM

Photon torpedoes.

saywhatyousee · 21-09-2011 08:21PM

Is she good looking?Thats the real question?????

looky loo · 21-09-2011 08:22PM

Just take her aside one day and say 'listen luv, I know you probably dont mean it but your personality is a bit annoying and I would prefer not to be in your company.

Abi · 21-09-2011 08:22PM

Larianne wrote: »

Thanks missy!

Yes, I know I have to say something to her but how do you tell someone that they are annoying and a compulsive liar?!? Straight out?

I'm thinking if I just say "You're wrecking my head" she might cop on to fuk off away from me...

Nay a bother

Well I suppose if she comes out with another cracker, I'd turn around and say "well thats not really true, now is it?" or "jesus, if I have heart burn, you say you've a heart attack" :rolleyes: Really start to show her you're losing patience with her horse-shit.

Never discuss after college plans in front of her, and just arrange to meet up with the others on their own. Put the ball back somewhat in her court, if she approaches you and asks why she's being left out, tell her that you're a grown adult and can choose who you would like to spend time with.

You're not being a bitch here, she's put you into an awkward position, so she's just going to have to take what you end up saying to her.

parker kent · 21-09-2011 08:23PM

karma_ wrote: »

No, but maybe you could approach the situation in a mature way, i.e not asking AH for advice.

Would somebody mature offer some advice instead of being a little whinge?

I'm not sure how to get rid of somebody like that. You see them everyday, so it is just awkward. Introduce her to new people and hope she likes them better :pac:

A friend of mine is a mature student in UCD and has had a similar person attach themselves to him. Always has to one up everybody with stories etc. Seems there is always one wherever you go.

Sky King · 21-09-2011 08:24PM

Send her a text message calling her a galloping fuckbox or something but make it look like you sent it to her by accident and it was meant for someone else. Be all like:

Mary is SUCH a galloping fuckbox. & a compulsive liar. Don't u jst hate dat bout her? neway Im meeting David Norris later, something about underpants call u 2mor xx

Sid_Justice · 21-09-2011 08:24PM

One of the most important elements of college is having a friend you actually don't like. You'd be doing yourself a disservice eliminating her from your life.

mattjack · 21-09-2011 08:25PM

Sky King wrote: »

Send her a text message calling her a galloping fuckbox or something but make it look like you sent it to her by accident and it was meant for someone else. Be all like:

Mary is SUCH a galloping fuckbox. & a compulsive liar. Don't u jst hate dat bout her? neway Im meeting David Norris later, something about underpants call u 2mor xx

speedo's, my good man

General General · 21-09-2011 08:26PM

parker kent wrote: »

Would somebody mature offer some advice instead of being a little whinge?

I'm not sure how to get rid of somebody like that. You see them everyday, so it is just awkward. Introduce her to new people and hope she likes them better :pac:

A friend of mine is a mature student in UCD and has had a similar person attach themselves to him. Always has to one up everybody with stories etc. Seems there is always one wherever you go.

Well, I've a friend who is attending Harvard & he has a cling on who is a million times worse than anything described here...

Geekness1234 · 21-09-2011 08:26PM

Larianne wrote: »

Last year, girl in my class clung onto myself and another classmate - following us every where, asking what we were doing, where we were going all the time. She's also a compulsive liar. You'd tell a story and she'd have a similar story only better. :rolleyes: It actually got a bit much. So much so, that I ended up not going into college a lot of the time.

What can I do? How do you tell someone they are annoying without hurting their feelings? I did ignore her after a while but that's not nice either

Any tactful way of doing it???

On a more serious note,you just have to confront her with this,not in an aggressive manner,but be calm and collective.You may not notice,but she might not have any other people she feels comfortable with.The compulsive lying may sound juvenile,but it's a way to get attention which she might not have/received.
Approach it like a man OP.She might have her own problems.

Cynical Apathy · 21-09-2011 08:27PM

People like this are common. From my experience they're not bad people, just insecure and desperate for friendship. Call her on all the lies, and soon she'll stop. She's just insecure and lonely and once the lies stop and friendship is established she'll probably end up being the most loyal friend you could have.

General General · 21-09-2011 08:28PM

Geekness1234 wrote: »

On a more serious note,you just have to confront her with this,not in an aggressive manner,but be calm and collective.You may not notice,but she might not have any other people she feels comfortable with.The compulsive lying may sound juvenile,but it's a way to get attention which she might not have/received.
Approach it like a man OP.She might have her own problems.

What? Like the Borg?

Eve_Dublin · 21-09-2011 08:29PM

Be a big cranky-hole with her and make yourself the kind of person SHE doesn't want to be around.

Geekness1234 · 21-09-2011 08:29PM

Cynical Apathy wrote: »

People like this are common. From my experience they're not bad people, just insecure and desperate for friendship. Call her on all the lies, and soon she'll stop. She's just insecure and lonely and once the lies stop and friendship is established she'll probably end up being the most loyal friend you could have.

Good idea.

karma_ · 21-09-2011 08:30PM

parker kent wrote: »

Would somebody mature offer some advice instead of being a little whinge?

I'm not sure how to get rid of somebody like that. You see them everyday, so it is just awkward. Introduce her to new people and hope she likes them better :pac:

A friend of mine is a mature student in UCD and has had a similar person attach themselves to him. Always has to one up everybody with stories etc. Seems there is always one wherever you go.

Whinging? I didn't start the thread, but a bit of perspective would be nice for a change on AH.

denballs · 21-09-2011 08:30PM

Larianne wrote: »

Last year, girl in my class clung onto myself and another classmate - following us every where, asking what we were doing, where we were going all the time. She's also a compulsive liar. You'd tell a story and she'd have a similar story only better. :rolleyes: It actually got a bit much. So much so, that I ended up not going into college a lot of the time.

What can I do? How do you tell someone they are annoying without hurting their feelings? I did ignore her after a while but that's not nice either

Any tactful way of doing it???

I THINK YOUR A BEACH.............a real ray of sunshine....really....hahaha.......

erm.......anyway.......the girls better off without you as a (for lack of a better word) friend ......... but be honest with her...dont mess with her head...tell her out straight..............

sincerely hopeing you the worst,
denballs

parker kent · 21-09-2011 08:31PM

Cynical Apathy wrote: »

People like this are common. From my experience they're not bad people, just insecure and desperate for friendship. Call her on all the lies, and soon she'll stop. She's just insecure and lonely and once the lies stop and friendship is established she'll probably end up being the most loyal friend you could have.

Every time she tells a lie, reply with one ten times worse. See if she notices. Something like....

Cling-On: Yeah so this really cute guy/girl asked me out last night.
Larianne: That's nothing. A billionaire whisked me away to Madagascar last night

Larianne · 21-09-2011 08:33PM

karma_ wrote: »

In fairness, it's hardly the most pressing problem anyone has to face. For one it's flattering that someone is interested in being in your company and at the same time I'd be shocked if you had to spend more than 45minutes in this persons company 3 days a week, assuming this is a degree course.

Well for me it is. Starting back at college next week is already filling me with dread that this girl is going to be around. :mad:

My course is full time so 5 days a week. We have a lot of practical classes so she's around then, then at lunch time, when I go to the computer room, when I go to the library.... hasn't followed me into the toilet yet..

Thanks for your help though.

Geekness1234 wrote: »

On a more serious note,you just have to confront her with this,not in an aggressive manner,but be calm and collective.You may not notice,but she might not have any other people she feels comfortable with.The compulsive lying may sound juvenile,but it's a way to get attention which she might not have/received.
Approach it like a man OP.She might have her own problems.

Cynical Apathy wrote: »

People like this are common. From my experience they're not bad people, just insecure and desperate for friendship. Call her on all the lies, and soon she'll stop. She's just insecure and lonely and once the lies stop and friendship is established she'll probably end up being the most loyal friend you could have.

See lads, this is the problem. She's clinging onto me and another girl because she has annoys everyone else.

Okay, time to play hardball this year. :cool:

Getting rid of a cling-on

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