Do you keep stuff from previous relationships?

ash23

Actually that just reminded me that i have a giant stuffed bear and a huuuuuge stuffed horse that my ex got me. They're in the garage somewhere. My daughter adopted them so I can't bin them.

G86

Sure I do, and there's no harm in it. I've never really understood the whole 'throw everything away' concept. It doesn't mean you're not over it, and it doesn't mean you're clinging on to anything; it means it's a part of your life that you're happy to remember. Which, IMO, is alot more healthy than sitting burning cards and photos with a matchstick bonfire and a voodoo doll........

Bubs99

Im a seriously sentimental person, like most of you, I keep cards from all friends, family and my current long term boyfriend, concert tickets, holiday plane tickets, brochures, I litterally have thousands of photos and loads of albums.

I use to write diaries when I was a teen when times were tough but I threw them out a few years ago to start a fresh new life but I honestly think if I kept them and edited them in to a book, Id be able to publish it. With my life story, i think it'd be a best seller. LOL!

But, I have thrown out all former boyfriend love letters, teddies, t-shirts etc, except a gold chain from an ex, simply because it's gold!

I do plan to make a big scrap book or a few of all the good and fun times in my life, holidays, concerts, parties and my boyfriend and I. I have collected loads to put in the scrapbooks, beautiful paper etc. So, Im looking forward to that.

Abi

Nope, I don't keep anything. I chuck out anything I can find, it's my way of closing a chapter, and I don't think I'd have a clear head until any reminders were gone. After I ended things with my ex, he demanded material things off me. I don't give a shit, because he was just being petty and using every excuse he could to talk to me. All cards etc that I could find, gone.

boomtown123

I've only been in one relationship and that lasted a week in secondary school. So I haven't had the chance of keeping anything!

evilmonkee

I keep gifts, teddy's, jewelry, trinkets etc.

I have some cards and things in my parents house from when I lived there, the next time I visit I must remember to throw them out. Not because they remind me of bad times, or good times or in case my partner comes across them.

They no longer hold any meaning to me, I've grown and changed in the years since I was given them. I'm a different person now than I was when they were given to me. In my mind they might as well have been given to someone else.

Morag

Do kids count? :pac:

Giselle

Abi wrote: »

Nope, I don't keep anything. I chuck out anything I can find, it's my way of closing a chapter, and I don't think I'd have a clear head until any reminders were gone

Same. If I had any regrets or lingering feelings, good or bad, reminders would have made them hurt.

Babybuff

don't think so. I did have a large fluffy penguin that I got someone as a Christmas present but never made it to Christmas so it sat in my wardrobe for a year but then I started seeing someone else and she saw it and wanted it :pac: She used drive around with it buckled up in the back of her car, was kinda funny. Penguins, the gift that keeps on giving.

_petulia_

Danniboo wrote: »

Hey girlies,

Just been thinking the past few days about this. I'm one of those people that keeps picture, old cards, letters, concert tickets (a saddo in other words:D) in a box. There's obviously some bits and bobs in there from ex bfs and i'm just wondering if you keep stuff from exes or do you think everything should be thrown out with the bath water as they say? I've absolutely no romantic feelings for any of these guys. They're just memories and positive ones I guess.

I keep birthday cards and stuff from family (if you mean bits and pieces in general).

And I think it's great if some people can manage to hold onto things from previous relationships without feeling any pain/regret when they look over them but personally I throw those sort of things out when a relationship ends.

coco_lola

I keep cards. I just love them. I'm big into scrap booking, and keeping cards helps me to scrapbook that time in my life

If it ended on bad terms though, Bang, everything into the bin. Thankfully, that's never happened yet.

Neyite

I've kept gifts - jewellery, teddies etc, but never cards or ticket stubs. I think I've a photo or two knocking around of an ex or two. I'm not sentimental about that stuff though.

I have all the cards I got from my partner, though. That gives me the warm fuzzies.

The Big Red Button

chatterpillar wrote: »

I have a box which contains pretty much all the letters/cards I've ever received from anyone, at least from my teenage years on, so there are a good few things there from my exes ... well, from two of them in particular!

Both relationships ended on good terms (though we're not really in touch any more), and they were both really good guys. And I was a teenager, so it's sort of funny to read back and see what I/we were like back then.

I've never been in a relationship that ended badly. But even if I was, I don't think I'd go throwing out all the mementos. I mean, even if I got rid of the physical evidence, it wouldn't change my own memories. And, I dunno, even if the person turned out to be a b****x, I think it's good to remember the good bits too.

Shortly after my boyfriend and I started going out (over six years ago!), I was showing him a photo album of different nights out etc ... and at the end of it, there were a few "coupley" photos of me and my ex, who my boyfriend had met. The two of them didn't get on. Boyfriend wasn't a bit impressed that I still had these photos, and asked me to get rid of them. I told him to stop being a d*ck! My past is what it is, if I wanted to get rid of those photos for myself and for my own reasons - fine. But I was well over that guy, and as far as I was concerned, if my boyfriend had a problem, it was his own insecurities or whatever. It's not like I ever have looked at those photos since, or ever will again, most likely! Still though, it's part of my past ... I don't know, hard to explain, it's just nice to sort of keep some things on record!

Lol, how things have changed since I posted this!

The "boyfriend" above is now an ex. And I still probably have absolutely everything from the relationship (including the engagement ring!), simply because it's all in boxes in my parents' house back home. I've never looked at it since we broke up, just never felt the inclination to do so ... I guess, at some stage, I'll go through it all and dump the majority of the sentimental stuff, might hold on to a few bits and pieces though.

As far as I'm concerned, he's been one of the biggest parts of my life so far, he's helped make me who I am, he's a really great guy, and the majority of my memories from the relationship (particularly the earlier years) are positive.

A few cards sitting in a box somewhere don't mean that I'm not over the guy. Similar to what I was saying in the post above, a few years from now, I'll probably read back on those cards I got from him and smile at how innocent and cute we were! I mean, God, we got engaged at 22 ... even now (only four years later) I cannot believe how naive and immature we were ... we had no doubts at the time though, and even though I know it was stupid, I'll never regret it, despite how it's all turned out.

Gevie Stee

Would you get jealous if a current bf was still wearing jewellery from an ex?

Sorry if this is a little off topic??

grey_so_what

I'd be more upset at the fact he was wearing it in the first place!...

Seriously though, no way would I like it....I'd keep thinking it was his reminder of her...

Gevie Stee

grey_so_what wrote: »

I'd be more upset at the fact he was wearing it in the first place!...

Seriously though, no way would I like it....I'd keep thinking it was his reminder of her...

What if he just liked the piece of jewellery and said there was nothing more to it.

grey_so_what

I'd find a way for him to "accidentally" lose it........:)

Gevie Stee

I actually wear a piece of jewellery from an ex bf, we're broken up years now but I just like it, it was expensive and I don't see why I should stop wearing it just because we're broken up. My current bf doesn't like it and was just wondering what other peoples opinions were

Malari

Gevie Stee wrote: »

I actually wear a piece of jewellery from an ex bf, we're broken up years now but I just like it, it was expensive and I don't see why I should stop wearing it just because we're broken up. My current bf doesn't like it and was just wondering what other peoples opinions were

Same thing happened with me, in the early months of my current relationship. Well, my boyfriend didn't say he didn't like this necklace as such. Just knew who it came from and reminded him all the time. He gave me a pressie of a different necklace and I started to wear that instead. You'd swear it was an owner's collar :rolleyes: I still have the old necklace, which I love, but can't really start to wear it again can I? :pac: This is 6 years ago!

grey_so_what

I think it depends why he doesn't like it - If it is for the reason that he thinks you wear because of the ex then you need to chat about it to him - But if he just doesn't like it because of taste then that's just his problem!

Gevie Stee

Malari wrote: »

Same thing happened with me, in the early months of my current relationship. Well, my boyfriend didn't say he didn't like this necklace as such. Just knew who it came from and reminded him all the time. He gave me a pressie of a different necklace and I started to wear that instead. You'd swear it was an owner's collar :rolleyes: I still have the old necklace, which I love, but can't really start to wear it again can I? :pac: This is 6 years ago!

haha the owners collar made me laugh, that's exactly what it's like! It's only a piece of jewellery, we don't talk, have no contact anymore, I just love the piece of jewellery.

Gevie Stee

grey_so_what wrote: »

I think it depends why he doesn't like it - If it is for the reason that he thinks you wear because of the ex then you need to chat about it to him - But if he just doesn't like it because of taste then that's just his problem!

No it's about the ex, we have talked but I refuse to stop wearing it.

Snoopy1

I have nothing belonging to ex's.
Ex's are ex's for a reason, something my boyfriend doesnt understand!!!

Once many years ago, i was going out with a guy and found a naked picture of his ex, that he'd kept.
I wasnt too pleased :mad:

grey_so_what

Gevie Stee wrote: »

No it's about the ex, we have talked but I refuse to stop wearing it.[/QUOTE

Would you wear it on a romantic night out?....how does he react?

God, I'm really nosy;)!

Gevie Stee

grey_so_what wrote: »

Gevie Stee wrote: »

No it's about the ex, we have talked but I refuse to stop wearing it.[/QUOTE

Would you wear it on a romantic night out?....how does he react?

God, I'm really nosy;)!

I wear it everyday

tatabubbly

I kept my jewellry box that an exs mum got me for chrimbo. she was such a lovely woman so i kept it!! i did find some photos yesterday of the boy who broke my heart so i burned them!! i have a wonderful boy now and keep so many of our momento, plane tickets, cinema stuff.... all that jazz!!

Malari

Yeah, I used to wear mine every day too. Never took it off. I guess I could try to get it made into a charm for a Pandora bracelet or something...

grey_so_what

Then I'd be careful he doesn't think like me!.....

Ah, I'm only messing...but if you wear it all the time he should get over it....

Especially if it's as nice as you say!!

Gevie Stee

grey_so_what wrote: »

Then I'd be careful he doesn't think like me!.....

Ah, I'm only messing...but if you wear it all the time he should get over it....

Especially if it's as nice as you say!!

Well he was real annoyed about it, and had asked other people did they think it was weird.
He hasnt mentioned it recently so maybe he has gotten over it?

grey_so_what

Malari wrote: »

Yeah, I used to wear mine every day too. Never took it off. I guess I could try to get it made into a charm for a Pandora bracelet or something...

I made a clip out of an engagement ring!!!

And my friend made earrings and a pendant out of hers!!

We often have a laugh when we meet up and are wearing them