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Have you ever been asked out on a date?

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    #32
    Handsome Bob
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    Once, by e-mail in work. Jesus, put me off the thought of relationships with colleagues for life.


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    #33
    Barna77
    Registered Users Posts: 3,271 ✭✭✭Barna77


    Yeah, been asked a few times. It worked out once :D the others... meh. And as for being stood up.... :mad:

    Does being promised endless love by a drunk randomer count as been asked out on a date? :pac:


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    #34
    py2006
    Registered Users Posts: 9,847 ✭✭✭py2006


    Barna77 wrote: »
    Does being promised endless love by a drunk randomer count as been asked out on a date? :pac:

    Yes! in this limited world!


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    #35
    getzls
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 806 ✭✭✭getzls


    Yes is a around of sort way, My wifes friend came over to me in a disco and said she wants to go with you. Well it would have been rude to say no. Was my 1st wife so maybe yes was the wrong answer!:rolleyes:


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    #36
    py2006
    Registered Users Posts: 9,847 ✭✭✭py2006


    getzls wrote: »
    Yes is a around of sort way, My wifes friend came over to me in a disco and said she wants to go with you. Well it would have been rude to say no. Was my 1st wife so maybe yes was the wrong answer!:rolleyes:

    I had to read that twice! :confused:


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    #37
    Snowie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    Otis Driftwood wrote: »
    Mallei,you have been warned about your posting style in tGC before so let me make it very clear to you one last time.

    tGC is a forum used to discuss everyday things that alot of men experience.Female input is more than welcome however your particular brand of observations are argumentative and in my opinion posted with the sole reason to enflame or goad other posters into reacting,in basic terms,trolling so with that being said,if you cannot contribute to threads in here without resorting to gross exaggerations,fantasist notions or general trollish behavior then your access will be removed.

    Thanks,
    OD.

    thats so articualte


    Im in awe <3:D


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    #38
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    I'm a divel for being asked out and not actually figuring out that it wasn't just meant as in a friend kind of thing as opposed to a "date"...


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    #39
    py2006
    Registered Users Posts: 9,847 ✭✭✭py2006


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    I'm a divel for being asked out and not actually figuring out that it wasn't just meant as in a friend kind of thing as opposed to a "date"...

    This seems to be quite a regular thing with us guys!! I think in future women should clarify by shouting in your face, "oh by the way, the coffee thing tomorrow....IS A DATE!!!! " :P


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    #40
    gargleblaster
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    It is a common enough thing for men not to know if a coffee or lunch invite is a friendly thing or a date. I'd never assume that type of invite was romantic either.

    Which is why when I used to approach men, I would always come right out and ask if he was attached or available. That made my intentions quite obvious I thought.


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    #41
    bluecatmorgana
    Registered Users Posts: 447 ✭✭bluecatmorgana


    py2006 wrote: »
    This seems to be quite a regular thing with us guys!! I think in future women should clarify by shouting in your face, "oh by the way, the coffee thing tomorrow....IS A DATE!!!! " :P


    I asked out a male friend once by text (I'm a coward) and I made sure to use the word date in the text.

    He said no....


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    #42
    py2006
    Registered Users Posts: 9,847 ✭✭✭py2006


    bluecatmorgana wrote: »
    I asked out a male friend once by text (I'm a coward) and I made sure to use the word date in the text.

    He said no....

    Ah no, sorry to hear that!! Nothing worse!! I hope he said more than just "no"?


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    #43
    bluecatmorgana
    Registered Users Posts: 447 ✭✭bluecatmorgana


    Ah yes, to be honest he was very sweet about it and didnt make it at all embarrassing for me.


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    #44
    py2006
    Registered Users Posts: 9,847 ✭✭✭py2006


    bluecatmorgana wrote: »
    Ah yes, to be honest he was very sweet about it and didnt make it at all embarrassing for me.

    Well thats something!! I hope you have met somebody since! There is no worse feeling than being rejected by somebody you really like! From experience, it ruins a friendship too.


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    #45
    Earthhorse
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    Just to reverse the trend of what might be a sort of confirmation bias in this thread, I'm gonna say no.


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    #46
    Bottle_of_Smoke
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    few times where it was suggestive but they made it out to be a casual "if you're free you wanna do this" kind of way. don't know if that counts.

    I do think irish date culture is quite interesting though when you compare it to other places.

    I worked with this nigerian guy in an office once. not in my department but we got chatting at a work night out. He told me he had asked four girls out from work (he'd been working there approx 6-8 weeks at the time)

    People thought he was sleazy because of this but it was actually the complete opposite. In ireland when you go on a date its pretty much expected it will lead to more and if you want out in the middle you feel like you need an excuse! but the type of dates he was after was where you get to know each other and then see if you're interested. no strings attached kind of thing. I think more similar to american dating


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    #47
    entropi
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    Not to my knowledge (there are many men, like myself, who wouldnt even realise it unless it was properly said to me, or on a big lit up neon sign:p)

    That being said, I've done the asking a few times, it would be nice to be asked:pac:


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    #48
    southsiderosie
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    I've approached guys before but, to be honest, trying to get someone's attention in a bar can feel a lot like this...even if men don't have a clue as to what is going on!


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    #49
    py2006
    Registered Users Posts: 9,847 ✭✭✭py2006


    southsiderosie wrote: »
    I've approached guys before but, to be honest, trying to get someone's attention in a bar can feel a lot like this...even if men don't have a clue as to what is going on!

    Well that was kinda creepy!


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    #50
    southsiderosie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,565 ✭✭✭southsiderosie


    py2006 wrote: »
    Well that was kinda creepy!

    LOL, well maybe not so much in a stalker-y way! :p

    I guess the general point is there is a lot of hair tossing and strategic positioning and girls FEEL like they are being as bold as a fan-dancing bird...but in reality that kind of stuff is waaaay too subtle in a crowded bar, especially if there are 20 birds all flocking around. :pac:


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    #51
    py2006
    Registered Users Posts: 9,847 ✭✭✭py2006


    southsiderosie wrote: »
    LOL, well maybe not so much in a stalker-y way! :p

    I guess the general point is there is a lot of hair tossing and strategic positioning and girls FEEL like they are being as bold as a fan-dancing bird...but in reality that kind of stuff is waaaay too subtle in a crowded bar, especially if there are 20 birds all flocking around. :pac:

    Yea, standing close to a guy and flicking the hair doesn't help the penny drop!


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    #52
    Fremen
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    southsiderosie wrote: »
    I guess the general point is there is a lot of hair tossing and strategic positioning and girls FEEL like they are being as bold as a fan-dancing bird..

    AAARGH! A few years ago, I asked the ladies' lounge if they thought hair-tossing meant anything in terms of body language, and I got a resounding 'no'. Bloody wimmins with their confusion.

    Been asked out a couple of times. Once, it lead to a six month relationship. Another time, a random woman on the tube handed me her phone number as she was getting off the train. I called her the next day - turns out she was ten years my senior, and a bit tipsy at the time, so that went no-where.


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    #53
    getzls
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    Yes, asked out few times. once it was put to me i want you come home with me. Didn't like to say no, would be a bit rude.


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    #54
    dsmythy
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    Just on men often not realising they are being asked on a date. Perhaps it's a defensive reaction against the possibility of being labelled a creep for presuming a simple friendly invite was more than just that.


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    #55
    Honey-ec
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    I'm happily married now, but I asked plenty of men out in my single years. That actually sounds really bad, now that I see it written down... Anyhoo, I was never one for standing around flicking the hair, giving the look, etc; if you like a guy, why not let him know? I always asked would they like to go for a drink rather than coffee - to me, coffee = friendzone, drink = date (or as close to it as you're likely to get in Ireland, anyway).


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    #56
    Will
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    hollypink wrote: »
    What dreadful aspersions are cast in this thread? :confused: One poster used the word headstrong, everyone else sounded quite positive I thought.
    yawha wrote: »
    Erm, what the fúck?

    Not only is it a bit early to suggest a thread can have a recurring theme after only 10 posts, there hasn't in fact been a single reference to aggressive women, or in fact any negative comments about women at all. There's only been one post in which one poster has given his personal experience of being asked out by independent, headstrong women, and he wasn't even using that terminology in a derogatory or insulting manner...

    I go away for the weekend and come back to see I caused a lil kerfuffle with the word headstrong. I meant it in a positive way, the women who've asked me out previously were go getters basically. They wanted something, they worked towards it and got it. They didn't mess about. This was apparent in their professional lives and also it seems when it came to asking men out.

    Anywho the thread has moved on. Hopefully I will be asked out more in the future :D


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    #57
    Barna77
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    py2006 wrote: »
    Yes! in this limited world!
    Well, I was last Saturday night :D

    Now the ball is in my court


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    #58
    py2006
    Registered Users Posts: 9,847 ✭✭✭py2006


    Will wrote: »
    I go away for the weekend and come back to see I caused a lil kerfuffle with the word headstrong. I meant it in a positive way, the women who've asked me out previously were go getters basically. They wanted something, they worked towards it and got it. They didn't mess about. This was apparent in their professional lives and also it seems when it came to asking men out.

    Anywho the thread has moved on. Hopefully I will be asked out more in the future :D

    Don't worry, nobody apart from one bitter individual thought you meant 'headstrong' in a negative way! :)


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    #59
    Gandalph
    Registered Users Posts: 1,792 ✭✭✭Gandalph


    Is this a trick question?! Woman can ask men out? Looks like Iv been living a life of ignorance and neglect.

    Can some woman on boards ask me out please to make my day/life?


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    #60
    py2006
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    Gandalph wrote: »
    Is this a trick question?! Woman can ask men out? Looks like Iv been living a life of ignorance and neglect.

    Can some woman on boards ask me out please to make my day/life?

    Don't even go there dude! It would be very sexist of you to make a generalisation that women don't ask men out as much as men ask women out!!


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    #61
    Gandalph
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    py2006 wrote: »
    Don't even go there dude! It would be very sexist of you to make a generalisation that women don't ask men out as much as men ask women out!!

    Aw I be playing dawg, those wimmins necks do be cramped with the amount of hair flicking they do in my direction


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