What to do about a socially inept friend ?

Fozzydog3

Hey just looking for some input here ,

what would or have you done with a socially inept friend ?

I have this friend he's absolutely harmless pretty nice guy but he ends up ruining nights and parties by talking about the same three things over and over again and its gotten to the point where people wont invite him to stuff and he's started to notice , so theres a choice between inviting him much to the chagrin of others and not inviting him and feeling like a horrible two faced prick especially after reading through the "have you ever been to the funeral of someone who commit suicide" thread

so what would y'all do ?

INEEDANID

Does he drink and ramble on or something?

drunkmonkey

Give him some poppers at the next part, job done!

Fozzydog3

INEEDANID wrote: »

Does he drink and ramble on or something?

he'll have about 4 cans and yes ramble on and on and won't get another person a word in edgewise

RedXIV

Tell him.

seriously. he'll be annoyed at first but better he knows now and can fix the problem

listermint

Sounds like someone i know, but he eventually found a girlfriend. win win all round. Shes a wierdo too so its ok.

Logical Fallacy

Whenever he repeats a topic just punch him in the nuts.

He'll soon catch on.

stargazer 68

If he is starting to notice that hes not being invited out then maybe you could tell him why. Put it nicely though - dont say 'you are an irritating s**t'

Aldebaran

listermint wrote: »

Sounds like someone i know, but he eventually found a girlfriend. win win all round. Shes a wierdo too so its ok.

I also know a guy like that, but he left the country, so I chalk that up as a win too.

hondasam

If I were him I would get new friends. I'm sure ye all talk ****e when ye are drinking.

listermint

Does he have a job? people with customer service type jobs tend to increase their socialness. get him a job.

The King of Moo

Lock him in the cleaning room with Father Dougal.

Fozzydog3

hondasam wrote: »

If I were him I would get new friends. I'm sure ye all talk ****e when ye are drinking.

I'm the one with the thread

The King of Moo

Probably telling him is the best thing in the long run, and he'll eventually understand why you told him.

NothingMan

I have a friend that wrecks everyones heads. We do be talking in a group and he'll just talk at one person, usually me, about something he told me a half hour ago. So while you're trying to pay attention to the big conversation and be sociable he's nattering in the other ear. Many a time I wanted to punch him in the throat so I could continue socialising uninterrupted.

hondasam

Fozzydog3 wrote: »

I'm the one with the thread

And ?

Hackysack

NothingMan wrote: »

I have a friend that wrecks everyones heads. We do be talking in a group and he'll just talk at one person, usually me, about something he told me a half hour ago. So while you're trying to pay attention to the big conversation and be sociable he's nattering in the other ear. Many a time I wanted to punch him in the throat so I could continue socialising uninterrupted.

I HATE it when people do this. It's very annoying.

General General

LSD-spiked Canapés will do the trick here... out of curiosity, what are the three topics? I'm guessing WW2 features there somewhere.

coco_lola

Don't do what I did... Type a text to send to a friend talking about how this person was rambling on and on... And send it to the person you are talking about... *facepalms*

bleg

You're thinking of abandoning your friend because others don't like him?

You're not much of a friend.

Fozzydog3

General General wrote: »

LSD-spiked Canapés will do the trick here... out of curiosity, what are the three topics? I'm guessing WW2 features there somewhere.

ooh good answer its war in general , the one time he tried E and his unimpressive dad

Standard Toaster

What are the same 3 things he talks about?
Insulation types, favourite humming noises and his favourite colour being gray???

Sounds like a fun guy imho

Fozzydog3

bleg wrote: »

You're thinking of abandoning your friend because others don't like him?

You're not much of a friend.

No im making a thread to see what can be done to help him, something he wouldnt do for me

Alter-Ego

Fozzydog3 wrote: »

ooh good answer its war in general , the one time he tried E and his unimpressive dad

Maybe you could have a "Not talking about war, yokes or your dad" themed party and invite him as the guest of honour. He'll get the idea.

hondasam

Fozzydog3 wrote: »

No im making a thread to see what can be done to help him, something he wouldnt do for me

who said he needs help, he sounds like most people do when they are drinking.

Fozzydog3

hondasam wrote: »

who said he needs help, he sounds like most people do when they are drinking.

then where are those threads ?

Frank Black

Buy him an Encyclopedia and encourage him to read it.

It will increase his knowledge and allow him to broaden his conversational topics.

Get him to log onto Wikipedia if you don’t want to splash out on an Encyclopedia.

hondasam

Fozzydog3 wrote: »

then where are those threads ?

what threads would they be ?

There is nothing with your friend.

Latchy

Maybe one of his topics of conversation is his christmas card collection and how you should pop around to his house one night one night to look at them .

Now who wouldn't find that interesting ?

Alter-Ego

hondasam wrote: »

who said he needs help, he sounds like most people do when they are drinking.

Most people I know, myself included talk a lorrah lorrah shoite when they're drunk but it tends to be about a wide range of subjects.

I knew a guy that's like the OP's friend but all he talked about was guns, WOW, Sci-Fi, and when he got really drunk, about how nobody pays attention to him.

anawfulbogey

Blast him with piss?

MungBean

Let him notice and then tell him what the problem is. He cant change if he doesnt know theres a problem or what it is. Dont let him ruin his social standing not knowing why, be a prick if ya have to and tell him outright that people are sick of him talking about the same things over and over. He'll more than likely take offence and think your a cúnt.

He might be embarrassed and avoid the social scene for a while but then tis up to you to get him back into it too. You'll have to go out of your way to coax him out and hopefully by then he wont be too eager to talk about war, E or his dad. The whole thing will blow over and everyone will be mates again.

Alter-Ego

anawfulbogey wrote: »

Blast him with piss?

Then he'd probably just talk about war stuff, the time he tried E, his dad, and the time his mate blasted him with piss.

Latchy

anawfulbogey wrote: »

Blast him with piss?

Let me guess .......your who the OP has in mind .:pac:

ReReginald

secretly record him banging on about those 3 things.
spike his drink.
tie him to a chair.
attach electrodes.
switch on a tv.
randomly play audio of his three topics over the tv - electrocute him each time.
chloroform.
a+e department.
tell him he was in a coma.
mention his favorite topic.
hit him in the nuts.

BBDBB

get him laid

it sounds like he needs it

and it will at least give him a 4th topic of conversation

IsMiseDaithair

The King of Moo wrote: »

Lock him in the cleaning room with Father Dougal.

Lock him in a room with Father Austin Purcell !!!:D

orourkeda

buy him a prozzy and a bag of coke

mcmoustache

So what the hell are these three things?
Is it football, the blacks and national socialism?

Fozzydog3

mcmoustache wrote: »

So what the hell are these three things?
Is it football, the blacks and national socialism?

war in general , the one time he tried E and his unimpressive dad

Latchy

Set him up on a date with the a Jedwards .He will be so in awe of all their shyte talk to .

orourkeda

anawfulbogey wrote: »

Blast him with piss?

blast him with sh1t

Seachmall

I had the exact same problem.

Nice guy, killed fun. Invited himself along when I was meeting mates and I felt like I was at fault for bringing him along.

I got him involved in a club in college and he made friends there, haven't seen him in months and from what I've seen on Facebook he's having great craic with his new friends (they constantly go travelling to different counties for piss-ups).

Sweatynutsack

He's obviously not drinking enough
You need to make sure he gets properly pIzzed, so much that he wont be able to talk, just an odd mumble through his vomit filled mouth

Teyla Emmagan

I know a guy like this. He eventually found a girlfriend who is brilliant. She literally kicks him in the leg if he starts going on too long (you would not believe how long this guy can talk about amazingly boring rubbish). Anyway, he's a million times nicer to be around now.

spider guardian

You don't really have much options here. How many ways are there to convey to a person that they are annoying and tedious when socialising? You may as well just tell him straight out. Yeah, it's going to be awkward, and it'll be really hard not to come across as a dick, but just maybe it will make him think. Maybe he will hate you and never speak to you again, or he may work on his social skills and not be such a bore on nights out.

Either is a win.

Pace2008

hondasam wrote: »

who said he needs help, he sounds like most people do when they are drinking.

What, after four cans? That amount of drink just tends to oil the conversation. It's only when everyone nears the blackout stage that ridiculous three-topic loops start to happen.

Latchy

IsMiseDaithair wrote: »

Lock him in a room with Father Austin Purcell !!!:D

The toilet

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

I know a guy like this. He eventually found a girlfriend who is brilliant. She literally kicks him in the leg if he starts going on too long (you would not believe how long this guy can talk about amazingly boring rubbish). Anyway, he's a million times nicer to be around now.

The bruises on his legs did the trick .

Adamantium

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

I know a guy like this. He eventually found a girlfriend who is brilliant. She literally kicks him in the leg if he starts going on too long (you would not believe how long this guy can talk about amazingly boring rubbish). Anyway, he's a million times nicer to be around now.

on a side note:

friends(i mean mates,not true friends in the sense of the word) in college should never live together unless there is a proven track record that you can put with each others extended periods of ****e talk for long periods of time..... as the mask just slips!


also i'm not in the business of cheering housemates up about there first world problems ad nauseum and THEN they refuse to do anything about it :rolleyes: , **** SELF LOATHING unless you have a terminal illness or can't find food to eat, you're doing pretty damn well for yourself!


they say if you want to know the true nature of a person:
Eat and live with them

Boring rubbish talk doesn't annoy me as much if the person who expresses it with some animation/energy and geunine interest/enthusiasm , i've met engineering students speak about the working of atoms and made me laugh with their observations! :oreally:o

sunflower27

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

Whenever he repeats a topic just punch him in the nuts.

He'll soon catch on.

Orando Broom

Fozzydog3 wrote: »

war in general , the one time he tried E and his unimpressive dad

How is his dad unimpressive? Does he compare him unfavourably to your impressive paters?