What to do about a socially inept friend ?

Fozzydog3 · 15-07-2011 12:22PM #1

Hey just looking for some input here ,

what would or have you done with a socially inept friend ?

I have this friend he's absolutely harmless pretty nice guy but he ends up ruining nights and parties by talking about the same three things over and over again and its gotten to the point where people wont invite him to stuff and he's started to notice , so theres a choice between inviting him much to the chagrin of others and not inviting him and feeling like a horrible two faced prick especially after reading through the "have you ever been to the funeral of someone who commit suicide" thread

so what would y'all do ?

INEEDANID · 15-07-2011 12:23PM

Does he drink and ramble on or something?

drunkmonkey · 15-07-2011 12:24PM

Give him some poppers at the next part, job done!

Fozzydog3 · 15-07-2011 12:25PM

INEEDANID wrote: »

Does he drink and ramble on or something?

he'll have about 4 cans and yes ramble on and on and won't get another person a word in edgewise

RedXIV · 15-07-2011 12:25PM

Tell him.

seriously. he'll be annoyed at first but better he knows now and can fix the problem

listermint · 15-07-2011 12:26PM

Sounds like someone i know, but he eventually found a girlfriend. win win all round. Shes a wierdo too so its ok.

Logical Fallacy · 15-07-2011 12:27PM

Whenever he repeats a topic just punch him in the nuts.

He'll soon catch on.

stargazer 68 · 15-07-2011 12:28PM

If he is starting to notice that hes not being invited out then maybe you could tell him why. Put it nicely though - dont say 'you are an irritating s**t'

Aldebaran · 15-07-2011 12:29PM

listermint wrote: »

Sounds like someone i know, but he eventually found a girlfriend. win win all round. Shes a wierdo too so its ok.

I also know a guy like that, but he left the country, so I chalk that up as a win too.

hondasam · 15-07-2011 12:30PM

If I were him I would get new friends. I'm sure ye all talk ****e when ye are drinking.

listermint · 15-07-2011 12:30PM

Does he have a job? people with customer service type jobs tend to increase their socialness. get him a job.

The King of Moo · 15-07-2011 12:31PM

Lock him in the cleaning room with Father Dougal.

Fozzydog3 · 15-07-2011 12:31PM

hondasam wrote: »

If I were him I would get new friends. I'm sure ye all talk ****e when ye are drinking.

I'm the one with the thread

The King of Moo · 15-07-2011 12:32PM

Probably telling him is the best thing in the long run, and he'll eventually understand why you told him.

NothingMan · 15-07-2011 12:33PM

I have a friend that wrecks everyones heads. We do be talking in a group and he'll just talk at one person, usually me, about something he told me a half hour ago. So while you're trying to pay attention to the big conversation and be sociable he's nattering in the other ear. Many a time I wanted to punch him in the throat so I could continue socialising uninterrupted.

hondasam · 15-07-2011 12:35PM

Fozzydog3 wrote: »

I'm the one with the thread

And ?

Hackysack · 15-07-2011 12:39PM

NothingMan wrote: »

I have a friend that wrecks everyones heads. We do be talking in a group and he'll just talk at one person, usually me, about something he told me a half hour ago. So while you're trying to pay attention to the big conversation and be sociable he's nattering in the other ear. Many a time I wanted to punch him in the throat so I could continue socialising uninterrupted.

I HATE it when people do this. It's very annoying.

General General · 15-07-2011 12:39PM

LSD-spiked Canapés will do the trick here... out of curiosity, what are the three topics? I'm guessing WW2 features there somewhere.

coco_lola · 15-07-2011 12:39PM

Don't do what I did... Type a text to send to a friend talking about how this person was rambling on and on... And send it to the person you are talking about... *facepalms*

bleg · 15-07-2011 12:41PM

You're thinking of abandoning your friend because others don't like him?

You're not much of a friend.

Fozzydog3 · 15-07-2011 12:41PM

General General wrote: »

LSD-spiked Canapés will do the trick here... out of curiosity, what are the three topics? I'm guessing WW2 features there somewhere.

ooh good answer its war in general , the one time he tried E and his unimpressive dad

Standard Toaster · 15-07-2011 12:42PM

What are the same 3 things he talks about?
Insulation types, favourite humming noises and his favourite colour being gray???

Sounds like a fun guy imho

Fozzydog3 · 15-07-2011 12:42PM

bleg wrote: »

You're thinking of abandoning your friend because others don't like him?

You're not much of a friend.

No im making a thread to see what can be done to help him, something he wouldnt do for me

Alter-Ego · 15-07-2011 12:45PM

Fozzydog3 wrote: »

ooh good answer its war in general , the one time he tried E and his unimpressive dad

Maybe you could have a "Not talking about war, yokes or your dad" themed party and invite him as the guest of honour. He'll get the idea.

hondasam · 15-07-2011 12:46PM

Fozzydog3 wrote: »

No im making a thread to see what can be done to help him, something he wouldnt do for me

who said he needs help, he sounds like most people do when they are drinking.

Fozzydog3 · 15-07-2011 12:47PM

hondasam wrote: »

who said he needs help, he sounds like most people do when they are drinking.

then where are those threads ?

Frank Black · 15-07-2011 12:49PM

Buy him an Encyclopedia and encourage him to read it.

It will increase his knowledge and allow him to broaden his conversational topics.

Get him to log onto Wikipedia if you don’t want to splash out on an Encyclopedia.

hondasam · 15-07-2011 12:50PM

Fozzydog3 wrote: »

then where are those threads ?

what threads would they be ?

There is nothing with your friend.

Latchy · 15-07-2011 12:50PM

Maybe one of his topics of conversation is his christmas card collection and how you should pop around to his house one night one night to look at them .

Now who wouldn't find that interesting ?

Alter-Ego · 15-07-2011 12:51PM

hondasam wrote: »

who said he needs help, he sounds like most people do when they are drinking.

Most people I know, myself included talk a lorrah lorrah shoite when they're drunk but it tends to be about a wide range of subjects.

I knew a guy that's like the OP's friend but all he talked about was guns, WOW, Sci-Fi, and when he got really drunk, about how nobody pays attention to him.

anawfulbogey · 15-07-2011 12:52PM

Blast him with piss?

What to do about a socially inept friend ?

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