Would you get married ?

tempura

Darksaga87 wrote: »

Wouldnt get married, Divorces are too expensive.

That is actually a complete misconception. If you can remain amicable with your ex then it costs very little. The problem is when people begin to behave like idiots and starting fighting over crap, then the greedy solicitors eyes light up and thats where the money goes.

You can leave a marrage without huge financial damage if your mature enough about. I did anyway, but then again, im a grown up.

RobbieTheRobber

I'm female - Yes

alwaysadub wrote: »

My mother has pretty much given up on me ever getting married at this stage, so at least that's her off my back.

In fairness it was always going to be hard to meet someone when you have to walk around the place with your mother on your back! :eek:

RobbieTheRobber

I'm female - Yes

tempura wrote: »

That is actually a complete misconception. If you can remain amicable with your ex then it costs very little. The problem is when people begin to behave like idiots and starting fighting over crap, then the greedy solicitors eyes light up and thats where the money goes.

You can leave a marrage without huge financial damage if your mature enough about. I did anyway, but then again, im a grown up.

Im not sure if you know this but the reason for most marriage breakups is a failure in communication or cheating and in these situations, eh communicating amicably might not be very achievable.

inmyday

XxMCRxBabyxX wrote: »

And I can appreciate that! I did mention if we're still together!
But I'm happy now, can I not have that? Why should I break up with him just because we're young? He's made me happy so far and gotten me through a lot of **** couples doubles my age haven't had to deal with.

I understand what you are saying and I know that the chances of us spending the rest of lives together are probably very slim but right now I love him, he loves me and we are really happy. That's all that matters. If we end, we end. I will survive. I'm an independent person as it is. I only see my boyfriend once/twice a week, I live my own life, look after myself.

Bottom line is while I get what you were saying it's not fair or necessary tbh. I'm smart enough to know these things without someone on the internet telling me that we'll never last. This is my relationship in the end of the day and I know it's nowhere near a magical fairytale. If it lasts, it lasts, if it doesn't, well then it doesn't and I'll survive

Don't mind these clowns, thinking they know everything, predicting the future, bleeding nutters!

"My uncle did this, my friends did that. 15 is too early to be in a relationship", Tell them to fudge off with their opinion about YOUR relationship.

Do what you want, that makes you happy.

Bruthal

tempura wrote: »

That is actually a complete misconception. If you can remain amicable with your ex then it costs very little. The problem is when people begin to behave like idiots and starting fighting over crap, then the greedy solicitors eyes light up and thats where the money goes.

You can leave a marrage without huge financial damage if your mature enough about. I did anyway, but then again, im a grown up.

Its a bit contradictory saying its a misconception at the start of the post and then saying "thats where the money goes" at the end of it.

High energy

I'm female - Yes

I'm actually quite shocked at the results, kinda 70% - 30% in favour of marriage. I thought the general consensus of the population was moving away from backwards religious views, but for the sake of society I would like to believe that 70% in favour of marriage would do it for other reasons (e.g. custody of children, tax credits, become next of kin, etc).

entropi

I'm female - Yes

Never had any intentions of getting married, I don't see why a piece of paper (and most of the time, a hugely expensive ceremony to go with) has to prove your love for someone. So far that statement to me, has remained true

Sure I'm not religious now, wouldnt see a point in it anyway.

minidazzler

I'm male - No

High energy wrote: »

I'm actually quite shocked at the results, kinda 70% - 30% in favour of marriage. I thought the general consensus of the population was moving away from backwards religious views, but for the sake of society I would like to believe that 70% in favour of marriage would do it for other reasons (e.g. custody of children, tax credits, become next of kin, etc).

The question is not "Would you get married in a church?" It's just would you get married.

I always said I would be an eternal bachelor, but fcuk it, I'll probably marry one day, for the party more than anything. Open bar is where it's at!

bnt

I'm male - No

High energy wrote: »

I'm actually quite shocked at the results, kinda 70% - 30% in favour of marriage. I thought the general consensus of the population was moving away from backwards religious views, but for the sake of society I would like to believe that 70% in favour of marriage would do it for other reasons (e.g. custody of children, tax credits, become next of kin, etc).

Why do you see marriage as tied to religion? You can get married with no reference to religion at all. Besides, do you think there was no marriage before there was religion?

A while ago I was wondering why marriages were formalised at all, and why there was a ceremony and a party: after all, young people don't really need to be told when they can and can't have sex, do they? I came to the conclusion that marriage isn't about the people getting married, it's about everyone else: the parents, the tribal elders, relatives and guests, and so on. You can still see this in tribal societies today: when two tribes make peace with each other, a good way of sealing the deal is to marry off the young people. Hence the need for a contract of sorts, a dowry, someone to bless the union, and a party. All of this happening before religion was invented.

maninasia

Marriage is a statement and it helps people to focus on their plans and their suitability to live together long-term and have children. It's a commitment even if it doesn't always work out. Legally it gives clarity to a situation regaring kids, ownership , debts etc.

MIN2511

I'm female - No

I would love to get married, it's days like this i think i wouldn't want to end up on my own at 70 with no kids and no family to share special moments...

Merry Christmas guys

High energy

I'm female - Yes

MIN2511 wrote: »

I would love to get married, it's days like this i think i wouldn't want to end up on my own at 70 with no kids and no family to share special moments...

Merry Christmas guys

There's plenty of married people living alone at 70, and plenty of unmarried people happily living together at 70.

MIN2511

I'm female - No

I hope to be the latter.... Happily married and living together at 70

Lenovo

Love reading threads like this as you get to hear from people who don't fit into what people consider normal, ie get married and start having kids straight away.

I got engaged a long time ago and I think the subject of marraige has come up in conversation about 5 times in that time and mainly because someone asked us "whats the story?, giving us a day anytime soon". Which usually comes with the response "sure whats the rush", from both of us.

I'm in my late 30's with no desire to have kids (partly as I probably would struggle to get pregnant), have the house and love my OH dearly.

So why do I have no urge to get married when everyone I know is already or in the planning process of doing it? I love going to other peoples weddings and have been up at the altar with family and friends as part of their weddings.

Thanks for reading my little rant/letter to myself.

Lenovo

I'm female - No

Lenovo wrote: »

So why do I have no urge to get married when everyone I know is already or in the planning process of doing it?

Cos you've been lucky enough to not have next of kin issues or need hospital visits?

Lenovo

We have had some issues where we both have been very sick, we have made it clear to our family's that what the OH decision is what we would want.
But to get married in case you or your OH get sick is a very strange reason.

candy-gal1

I'm female - No

Tbh, I would probably put being engaged on a much higher and meaningful scale than actually getting married. Marraige is a contract and a joint back account :rolleyes:, engagement is asking if someone wants to be with you and love you forever as you will to them , to me that means something.

Lenovo

I'm female - No

Lenovo wrote: »

We have had some issues where we both have been very sick, we have made it clear to our family's that what the OH decision is what we would want.
But to get married in case you or your OH get sick is a very strange reason.

My point is there are very definite legal reasons to want marriage, and hospital visitation rights is the one that always leaps at me first. I can't imagine being with someone for so many years and being told to f* off in the hospital if they were very ill or dying. I don't think it's strange at all to not want that to happen.

Mr. Manager

I'm male - No

The only reason I would get married is if I had a family with my OH and I wanted to make sure they were all alright for money

Richard Dower

I'm female - Yes

Marriage is for suckers, a way for women to cash in off poor ba*tards.

Whippersnapper

I'm female - No

I had no intention of ever getting married until I met my current partner. Now, the thought of marriage seems natural and beautiful.

Not a big expensive church wedding but a small, meaningful ceremony.

plein de force

I'm male - No

if i find i man i love with every fibre of my being and i feel we'd spend many happy years together then yes i would. also us gays would have to be allowed get married first too.

bronte

bluewolf wrote: »

My point is there are very definite legal reasons to want marriage, and hospital visitation rights is the one that always leaps at me first. I can't imagine being with someone for so many years and being told to f* off in the hospital if they were very ill or dying. I don't think it's strange at all to not want that to happen.

Is there a particular reason for that visitation rule?
Seems like one of those things that needs serious revision in the time we live in today.

Saaron

I'm female - No

I'd only like to get married if I found someone who I wanted to be with forever.
I'd rather something casual and fun. Something different. Not a religious, boring wedding.

I'd get married because to ME it would show that I want them forever and vice versa. That I'm serious about US etc etc