Would you go clubbing alone?

Leelaa22

TouchingVirus wrote: »

God yeah! What'd be the craic with holding up the bar all night?

Again, I'm not talking about heading to a regular Irish Saturday-night nightclub here. I've been to gigs in clubs (lets call it a gig because I went to see the DJ specifically, not Barry from down the road spinning some tunes) on my own, mashed in with the crowd and have at it. Sure you don't know anybody there, and who gives a sh*t what they think anyways. Besides, if ya bump into a girl there and start up a little chat you never know what'll happen - you could end up pulling, or just making a really nice friend and having a great night.

I most likely wouldn't go dancing on my own though, like being one of maybe 20 people on the dancefloor. Not unless I was properly drunk and really didn't care. But if there's a good crowd, like 100 or more on the floor then you better believe I'll be out there if I'm in the mood for a dance/mosh/good time

It's surprisingly easy to meet people when you don't have the safety net of your friends, though I can see why it's daunting for people. I'll freely admit that I'm not the best at it either but it's not a barrier for me

it must just a girl thing but I would feel vunerable and unprotected on my own in a club. arae there any girls on here to give their POV and touchingvirus I apologise in advance if you are a girl im not a figuring out males and females but username

Panthro

As a bloke, I wouldn't do the nightclub on me toblerown, but say if it was a band that was playing and I really wanted to see them but had nobody to go with, I'd more than likely chance going it alone

johnmcdnl

would do it in my hometown in the knowledge that there's a chance someone I'll know will come eventually but not a hope in dublin or any other town I wouldn't know too well

I'd probably end up out in the smoking area and chatting to randomers more than likely though - but that's what I'd often end up doing anyways so no surprises there...

If I had the option I probably wouldn't go to a club at all

TouchingVirus

Leelaa22 wrote: »

it must just a girl thing but I would feel vunerable and unprotected on my own in a club. arae there any girls on here to give their POV and touchingvirus I apologise in advance if you are a girl im not a figuring out males and females but username

Nope, you got it right - I'm a guy.

If you were looking for both perspectives (or a lot of female perspectives) you might be in the wrong forum. While a few ladies frequent the Gentleman's Club it wouldn't be as much as say Personal Issues, After Hours or The Ladies Lounge

testicle

maxxie wrote: »

OMG are you larry murphy!

Yes!

MyPeopleDrankTheSoup

have done it a few times, only because i had a raging horn on me and was a man on a mission. and successful might i add.

also, the few times, I was langered beforehand from drinking with lads who didn't go to the club for whatever reason,too drunk, work in the morning, whatever.

no way would i go the pub on my own, get slowly pissed and then onto the club on my own. be awful

krudler

Leelaa22 wrote: »

Yeah supposed to be a place for socialising, but even when im on my own just waiting for someone to arrive it can be weird. Men seem to think Im there to be hit on and am looking for someone to go home with, just cause im standing on my own. and thats just 10 15 mins on my own, imagine the hassle if I was there the whole night!!! Id imagine they start laughing at some stage and call me a loner.

I've gotten to the stage where I really dont give a flying fcuk what people think, so what if someone thinks you're a loner? more fool them, just because I dont need the safety bubble of a few friends around me to enjoy myself, I urge you to try it once, just to say you have, you'd be amazed at the coversations you can wind up in or where you can wind up at the end of a night. I genuinely dont understand this idea that being alone makes you a loner, I get shocked looks off people because I go to the cinema alone sometimes, the main reasons I do are either my friends are busy, or I'm just bored and want to see a movie by myself during the day. I mean you wouldnt feel like a loner watching a dvd at home by yourself would you? its exactly the same thing.

Seaneh

I;d often go to a bar by myself for a few quiet beers and a read of a paper.
I;ve gone to clubs by myself knowing that people I know would be there, but that's not really the same...

ballsymchugh

a guy that i lived with in college was very successful at chatting with the ladies, way more than i ever would, so if the two of us decided to go out, more often than not, i'd end up on my own. as krudler said, you can have some great craic. it's all what you make of it yourself. if you're bothered about what others might think if they see you alone, then it'll probably seem like every pair of eyes is giving you a funny look, but if not, it can be a great laugh. there's plenty of people who end up on their own at some stage during the night, it can be great craic in fairness.

Nip The Tip

Leelaa22 wrote: »

was that a bit too much info?

But really you guys have it handy in that regard. There have been plenty of times I wanted to go out but no one was going, and I would like to go out on my own without the constant worry. I wouldnt even walk to my local in my old town, and it was a 2 min walk. There was one strech of path that was in darkness and there were a few attempted, half interrupted attacks there and I lived in a quiet enough town! CRAZY!!!

half interrupted? what did the passer-by do, join in?? :pac:

jokettle

Girl's POV: I have no problem eating alone, sitting in cafes/restaurants alone, and I've occassionally gone for a quiet drink on my own as well. An entire night out with no planned company, however, just isn't for me.

I see the pub as a very social place, and while a lot of people here seem happy to socialise with new people in pubs/clubs (and fair play for doing that!), it really would make me feel....vulnerable? I'm not sure what the correct word is. But the pub is usually where I go to catch up with friends, so I just don't see it as somewhere to frequent when I'm alone.

Even the odd times I've had a drink by myself, some men seem to think I'm there to be chatted up. If anyone wanted just to start an innocent conversation, that would be absolutely fine; I'd probably enjoy the company! But when one guy leaves his gaggle of mates to try it on, and all the friends are at their table staring over and sniggering, I'm glad to go home and spend the evening in my own company without having to put up with this kind of lecherous behaviour.

Of course, I have met a few lovely guys in pubs and had a nice chat, but unfortunately those experiences have been rare. Honestly, when you've experienced the creepy/immature/far too drunk to be unsupervised-type of guys as much as I have, it's very off-putting to be alone in that environment. And there's always the nagging paranoia that if and when you reject clumsy advances, someone could take it the wrong way; and if things turn ugly I have no one to back me up and help me stay safe.

I don't mean to sound harsh towards men; having re-read my post I think it could sound as though I think you're all sex-pests! I know that's not the reality but when alone in a pub, I feel like a twat-magnet, so it's really not for me.

Otis Driftwood

Its funny you mentioned the above in terms of just having a nice chat with a randomer.I never/rarely do this anymore.I agree that its great to chat to someone and have absolutely no ulterior motive but the fact is that now if I was to approach a woman on her own in a pub/club invariably her guard goes up and she automatically assumes Im trying to get into her knickers.Im sure most blokes would be of the same opinion too.Kinda sad really especially when you hear women saying "where are all the good men gone!!!".:(

Nip The Tip

pubs & especially clubs are the worst place to meet women, they always have their bitch shields on.
What I find amusing is how women complain about it, e.g. "I'm here to have fun not get hit on"... but if no men bother with them they get all bitchy & sour :pac:

Leelaa22

Nip The Tip wrote: »

pubs & especially clubs are the worst place to meet women, they always have their bitch shields on.
What I find amusing is how women complain about it, e.g. "I'm here to have fun not get hit on"... but if no men bother with them they get all bitchy & sour :pac:

thats just not true at all. I dont know what type of women you hang around with but the rest of us arent like that.

jokettle

Nip The Tip wrote: »

pubs & especially clubs are the worst place to meet women, they always have their bitch shields on.
What I find amusing is how women complain about it, e.g. "I'm here to have fun not get hit on"... but if no men bother with them they get all bitchy & sour :pac:

You're hanging around with the wrong women! A lot of us can be guilty of acting cold on occassion, but personally I only go down this route if I'm getting hassled by a guy. I'd never be rude to anyone unless they absolutely deserved it. Getting pestered in clubs and pubs can happen a lot, especially as more drink gets taken, and when being polite doesn't work there are very few other strategies available to get rid of a nuisance. And like I said earlier, it's this kind of behaviour that puts us off being out alone.

Wolfe Tone

Just as an aside, who thinks night clubs are rubbish?

Why cant the pub just stay open longer

krudler

MUSSOLINI wrote: »

Just as an aside, who thinks night clubs are rubbish?

Why cant the pub just stay open longer

Late bars ftw

Mackman

MUSSOLINI wrote: »

Just as an aside, who thinks night clubs are rubbish?

Why cant the pub just stay open longer

Bingo, i gave up on clubs years ago. They're just not worth the hassle.
So no, wouldnt go clubbing alone. I have gone to pubs if there's a gig on and had a few quiet ones by myself. But thats different.

homerun_homer

Club - no.
Pub - yes.

My location and circumstance makes it a bit annoying and too much effort required to go to a club alone but if I was in a city I liked then maybe. In another city/country I would do it if bored and knew the club and felt comfortable with being alone there.

Nip The Tip

Leelaa22 wrote: »

thats just not true at all. I dont know what type of women you hang around with but the rest of us arent like that.

Ah, maybe it's like alzheimer's, ye don't even know ye have it!

Leelaa22

Nip The Tip wrote: »

Ah, maybe it's like alzheimer's, ye don't even know ye have it!

I can be a b1tch, a huge fu**ing cnut of a b1tch, when I have to be.
So I know when Im being one or not and I am telling you Ive never been a b1tch to anyone in a club or anywhere without just cause and as for feeling sour for not getting hit on, seriously that is just a huge sign of insecurity, and im not an insecure girl and a little insulted you would assume I am.
I dont go out looking to get hit on I go out to have a good time!
Really I do not know what type of girls you are hanging around with that made you form this opinion, maybe you need to expand your circle of friends?

El_Drago

krudler wrote: »

I've gotten to the stage where I really dont give a flying fcuk what people think, so what if someone thinks you're a loner? more fool them, just because I dont need the safety bubble of a few friends around me to enjoy myself, I urge you to try it once, just to say you have, you'd be amazed at the coversations you can wind up in or where you can wind up at the end of a night. I genuinely dont understand this idea that being alone makes you a loner, I get shocked looks off people because I go to the cinema alone sometimes, the main reasons I do are either my friends are busy, or I'm just bored and want to see a movie by myself during the day. I mean you wouldnt feel like a loner watching a dvd at home by yourself would you? its exactly the same thing.

Couldn't have said it better myself.I think its pathetic that anyone should be hindered to go places just because someone isn't going with them. Only this weekend gone I went to a club on my own and had a great night talking to complete strangers and people who I wouldn't have spoken to had I been with friends.Will definitely be doing it again if no one happens to be around/up for a night out.

homerun_homer

People travel abroad alone all the time so there should be no difference in attitude in going to a club by yourself. It's just our cynical Irish attitudes at the idea of ourselves or others doing it that stops most of us from going out solo, but it's shouldn't be something to turn your nose up at.

Nip The Tip

Leelaa22 wrote: »

I can be a b1tch, a huge fu**ing cnut of a b1tch, when I have to be.
So I know when Im being one or not and I am telling you Ive never been a b1tch to anyone in a club or anywhere without just cause and as for feeling sour for not getting hit on, seriously that is just a huge sign of insecurity, and im not an insecure girl and a little insulted you would assume I am.
I dont go out looking to get hit on I go out to have a good time!
Really I do not know what type of girls you are hanging around with that made you form this opinion, maybe you need to expand your circle of friends?

oh you make me lol

Leelaa22

Nip The Tip wrote: »

oh you make me lol

You can put on your big but wew both Im right, you dont know every woman and how she thinks. you were wrong. BURN
Now Im going to and some lol!

Nip The Tip

You do that

francie81

The After Hours Troll wrote: »

Simple question really, think we've all been had some nights were your the only one looking to go out.

I did a few times when I was pissed, once just walking by a club. Don't think I'd enjoy it or have the self confidence to do it much though, but it's very annoying sometimes you plan to go out then find out people aren't then your stuck...

I don't think it bother me too much because again I go into one am in a trance so I'd dance most of the night (music depending) but I don't think it ever happen me going on my own as we need a taxi into town anyway so as with everyone else you normally do this in groups.

IrishGrimReaper

Wouldn't go to a club on my own, especially not in my hometown anyway, you'd barely want to go there in a group it sucks that much:rolleyes:

Places like Cavan which are nearby I'd go a few times but only with a few friends, 1-2 is the right spot for me. Need to go there more

But going to a pub is alright to go solo, I like the peace and quiet.

Maguined

MUSSOLINI wrote: »

Just as an aside, who thinks night clubs are rubbish?

Why cant the pub just stay open longer

Depends on what you are looking for. Socialising with people? then yes they are crap, funny shenanigans? they are awesome, I love going with my friends, I don't dance and I don't try and chat women up, I go simply to watch. I view it like its a comedy club, I just watch silly people do the funniest things. I have never gone to a nightclub without laughing my ass off.

Leelaa22

Nip The Tip wrote: »

You do that

Oh I did that...... and your face!!! :eek: oh yes I went there