Would you go clubbing alone?

The After Hours Troll

Simple question really, think we've all been had some nights were your the only one looking to go out.

I did a few times when I was pissed, once just walking by a club. Don't think I'd enjoy it or have the self confidence to do it much though, but it's very annoying sometimes you plan to go out then find out people aren't then your stuck...

Leelaa22

As a girl ...not a chance!

Otis Driftwood

As a bloke,not a chance.

There were a few times when I was living in Dublin and was out that I stopped off in Bruxelles on my own for a night cap or 3 and to listen to some tunes but thats the height of it.

There is a guy I know from where Im living now and he tends to do this.Myself and 3 pals were heading towards the night club,the street was relatively quiet.We got to the doors of the night club and yer man literally appeared out of nowhere.There is an alley right beside the club and we reckon he was waiting there until he saw someone he recognised.

He is a funny fish.

Wolfe Tone

I live in a small town so I would be bound to see some people I know. Yeah I would.


Wouldn't go out in Dublin on my own though.

Dord

Nah, I wouldn't bother. Gigs are another story though, I'd go see a band on my own.

HavingCrack

Been out with one other person a few times and I've really enjoyed it...but on my own...nah you'd have to spend your whole night trying to chat up girls to have any fun I'd imagine

Nip The Tip

Not anymore, as I'm a stranger in a city.

Back in college I was quite popular despite my foreskin problems, and on 2 occasions (I think) I wanted to go out but nobody in my direct circle of friends did, so I'd have a few cans with the lads and wander across the road to the college club on my tod.
Always met rakes of people I knew there, so I never looked like a lone shark in the corner all bored. One of those 2 times it actually took me about 30 mins to get to the bar as I was inundated with people I knew bumping into me for a chat/****e-talk

But times were different back then.

Leelaa22

Nip The Tip wrote: »

Not anymore, as I'm a stranger in a city.

Back in college I was quite popular despite my foreskin problems, and on 2 occasions (I think) I wanted to go out but nobody in my direct circle of friends did, so I'd have a few cans with the lads and wander across the road to the college club on my tod.
Always met rakes of people I knew there, so I never looked like a lone shark in the corner all bored. One of those 2 times it actually took me about 30 mins to get to the bar as I was inundated with people I knew bumping into me for a chat/****e-talk

But times were different back then.

was that a bit too much info?

But really you guys have it handy in that regard. There have been plenty of times I wanted to go out but no one was going, and I would like to go out on my own without the constant worry. I wouldnt even walk to my local in my old town, and it was a 2 min walk. There was one strech of path that was in darkness and there were a few attempted, half interrupted attacks there and I lived in a quiet enough town! CRAZY!!!

blindpilot

No chance. Met a lad from work out one night who was on his own. Everyone seemed a little weirded out by it. Granted he is a little weird himself. But I cant say its something I'll ever do.

krudler

Have done twice in Ireland ,and did just last week when I was in San Francisco, went to a Halloween party with about 1000 people at it on my lonesome and had one of the best nights out ever at it. (pulled too )
Irish people have this tendency to find anyone who isnt a sheep a bit wierd, I know people who wont sit and have a coffee by themselves or even walk into a pub unless someone comes out to the door to meet them for fear of being " a loner" I used to think that way a bit too but going abroad on my own really opened my eyes and once you're out of your comfort bubble and have to talk to people you'd be amazed how a night can turn out, everyone should try it once I reckon.

TouchingVirus

Have done on a few occassions, but I went to a specific club to see a specific DJ and not out generally clubbing like you'd head for after the pub with your friends. I only did that once, and didn't have the best night out - I missed having the banter with friends.

I agree with krudler though, it should be tried anyways, especially if you're not in a local area as you get to meet all kinds of people I even flew over to the Ministry of Sound in London and went clubbing there on my own though I had intentions of meeting people there.

Leelaa22

but if you didnt want to meet anyone who did you talk to?

Galvasean

I wouldn't go to a night club on my own. However, the odd time I do wander off from the group to go 'exploring'. Sometimes I return to them. Sometimes I don't. It's good to have a group to fall back to in case you find nothing interesting.

TanG411

nedtheshed wrote: »

As a bloke,not a chance.

There were a few times when I was living in Dublin and was out that I stopped off in Bruxelles on my own for a night cap or 3 and to listen to some tunes but thats the height of it.

There is a guy I know from where Im living now and he tends to do this.Myself and 3 pals were heading towards the night club,the street was relatively quiet.We got to the doors of the night club and yer man literally appeared out of nowhere.There is an alley right beside the club and we reckon he was waiting there until he saw someone he recognised.

He is a funny fish.

He sounds like me.

Hang around until there's someone I know, then cling to them!

Otis Driftwood

I dont live in Cork so you are safe enough.:pac:

krudler

Leelaa22 wrote: »

but if you didnt want to meet anyone who did you talk to?

Strangers, thats the fun part, meeting new people

Lukker-

If it's a gig/DJ I want to see I definitely would have no problem going on my own. I've never gone into town with the intention of going clubbing without someone to meet though. Although one of the best nights I've had out recently was when I got kicked out of the club all my mates were in (jumped a barricade) and went to another on my own I probably had one of my best nights in a while there.

Leelaa22

krudler wrote: »

Strangers, thats the fun part, meeting new people

Maybe im just very sheltered but that seems a dangerous thing to me to do ony our own

Otis Driftwood

Leelaa22 wrote: »

Maybe im just very sheltered but that seems a dangerous thing to me to do ony our own

You are probably right being female but from a blokes perspective I wouldnt think most would have anything to worry about.

Leelaa22

nedtheshed wrote: »

You are probably right being female but from a blokes perspective I wouldnt think most would have anything to worry about.

Except for other men starting on you for no reason, in my head this happens alot in real life, but i dont know

krudler

Leelaa22 wrote: »

Maybe im just very sheltered but that seems a dangerous thing to me to do ony our own

Talk to people? pubs and clubs are supposed to be a place for socialising, well maybe not clubs cos the music is so bloody loud, but thats why the smoking areas are great for starting conversations with people, and i dont even smoke. Ive never had someone start or even try to start something with me in real life once, unless you're in a pub full of scummers then you've nothing to worry about

maxxie

Bit awkward when somebody asks you who are you here with though id say!

Eh im on my own!

OMG are you larry murphy!

Otis Driftwood

Leelaa22 wrote: »

Except for other men starting on you for no reason, in my head this happens alot in real life, but i dont know

I can honestly say Ive never had anyone start a row with me in my life.Ive been in 2 fights and both of those were because I was backing up my brother.

There have been 1 or 2 occasions where someone might get a bit lairy with me but Im so easy going I never get riled.I talked them down and made them feel a bit silly for being a dick.

Leelaa22

krudler wrote: »

Talk to people? pubs and clubs are supposed to be a place for socialising, well maybe not clubs cos the music is so bloody loud, but thats why the smoking areas are great for starting conversations with people, and i dont even smoke. Ive never had someone start or even try to start something with me in real life once, unless you're in a pub full of scummers then you've nothing to worry about

Yeah supposed to be a place for socialising, but even when im on my own just waiting for someone to arrive it can be weird. Men seem to think Im there to be hit on and am looking for someone to go home with, just cause im standing on my own. and thats just 10 15 mins on my own, imagine the hassle if I was there the whole night!!! Id imagine they start laughing at some stage and call me a loner.

Hail 2 Da Thief

No chance!
You'd want to be abit strange to go into a club alone imo!
Different story if you know there'll be peolpe in there that you'll know though.
But to go in & just stand at the bar on your own is very :eek:

MFZ

Hail 2 Da Thief wrote: »

No chance!
You'd want to be abit strange to go into a club alone imo!
Different story if you know there'll be peolpe in there that you'll know though.
But to go in & just stand at the bar on your own is very :eek:

The alternative would be to stay at home?
Nah.

Go out, meet new people. Or just listen to the music and dance.
Whatever you like.

Leelaa22

MFZ wrote: »

The alternative would be to stay at home?
Nah.

Go out, meet new people. Or just listen to the music and dance.
Whatever you like.

you'd dance on your own?

Skuxx

Its not something I'd ever plan to do although I did once before! Went out to the pub with a mate but he got turned away going into the club after and told me to go on as he was gona head home! I had a surprisingly good time, managed to pull my current gf

TouchingVirus

Leelaa22 wrote: »

you'd dance on your own?

God yeah! What'd be the craic with holding up the bar all night?

Again, I'm not talking about heading to a regular Irish Saturday-night nightclub here. I've been to gigs in clubs (lets call it a gig because I went to see the DJ specifically, not Barry from down the road spinning some tunes) on my own, mashed in with the crowd and have at it. Sure you don't know anybody there, and who gives a sh*t what they think anyways. Besides, if ya bump into a girl there and start up a little chat you never know what'll happen - you could end up pulling, or just making a really nice friend and having a great night.

I most likely wouldn't go dancing on my own though, like being one of maybe 20 people on the dancefloor. Not unless I was properly drunk and really didn't care. But if there's a good crowd, like 100 or more on the floor then you better believe I'll be out there if I'm in the mood for a dance/mosh/good time

It's surprisingly easy to meet people when you don't have the safety net of your friends, though I can see why it's daunting for people. I'll freely admit that I'm not the best at it either but it's not a barrier for me

Leelaa22

nedtheshed wrote: »

I can honestly say Ive never had anyone start a row with me in my life.Ive been in 2 fights and both of those were because I was backing up my brother.

There have been 1 or 2 occasions where someone might get a bit lairy with me but Im so easy going I never get riled.I talked them down and made them feel a bit silly for being a dick.

good for you talking them down when a guy gets in my grill I cry , I know there is no way I could take them. when a girl gets in my face, its the back of my hand! haha not really

starbelgrade

No. You need at least one other person to hold the seal down.

Leelaa22

TouchingVirus wrote: »

God yeah! What'd be the craic with holding up the bar all night?

Again, I'm not talking about heading to a regular Irish Saturday-night nightclub here. I've been to gigs in clubs (lets call it a gig because I went to see the DJ specifically, not Barry from down the road spinning some tunes) on my own, mashed in with the crowd and have at it. Sure you don't know anybody there, and who gives a sh*t what they think anyways. Besides, if ya bump into a girl there and start up a little chat you never know what'll happen - you could end up pulling, or just making a really nice friend and having a great night.

I most likely wouldn't go dancing on my own though, like being one of maybe 20 people on the dancefloor. Not unless I was properly drunk and really didn't care. But if there's a good crowd, like 100 or more on the floor then you better believe I'll be out there if I'm in the mood for a dance/mosh/good time

It's surprisingly easy to meet people when you don't have the safety net of your friends, though I can see why it's daunting for people. I'll freely admit that I'm not the best at it either but it's not a barrier for me

it must just a girl thing but I would feel vunerable and unprotected on my own in a club. arae there any girls on here to give their POV and touchingvirus I apologise in advance if you are a girl im not a figuring out males and females but username

Panthro

As a bloke, I wouldn't do the nightclub on me toblerown, but say if it was a band that was playing and I really wanted to see them but had nobody to go with, I'd more than likely chance going it alone

johnmcdnl

would do it in my hometown in the knowledge that there's a chance someone I'll know will come eventually but not a hope in dublin or any other town I wouldn't know too well

I'd probably end up out in the smoking area and chatting to randomers more than likely though - but that's what I'd often end up doing anyways so no surprises there...

If I had the option I probably wouldn't go to a club at all

TouchingVirus

Leelaa22 wrote: »

it must just a girl thing but I would feel vunerable and unprotected on my own in a club. arae there any girls on here to give their POV and touchingvirus I apologise in advance if you are a girl im not a figuring out males and females but username

Nope, you got it right - I'm a guy.

If you were looking for both perspectives (or a lot of female perspectives) you might be in the wrong forum. While a few ladies frequent the Gentleman's Club it wouldn't be as much as say Personal Issues, After Hours or The Ladies Lounge

testicle

maxxie wrote: »

OMG are you larry murphy!

Yes!

MyPeopleDrankTheSoup

have done it a few times, only because i had a raging horn on me and was a man on a mission. and successful might i add.

also, the few times, I was langered beforehand from drinking with lads who didn't go to the club for whatever reason,too drunk, work in the morning, whatever.

no way would i go the pub on my own, get slowly pissed and then onto the club on my own. be awful

krudler

Leelaa22 wrote: »

Yeah supposed to be a place for socialising, but even when im on my own just waiting for someone to arrive it can be weird. Men seem to think Im there to be hit on and am looking for someone to go home with, just cause im standing on my own. and thats just 10 15 mins on my own, imagine the hassle if I was there the whole night!!! Id imagine they start laughing at some stage and call me a loner.

I've gotten to the stage where I really dont give a flying fcuk what people think, so what if someone thinks you're a loner? more fool them, just because I dont need the safety bubble of a few friends around me to enjoy myself, I urge you to try it once, just to say you have, you'd be amazed at the coversations you can wind up in or where you can wind up at the end of a night. I genuinely dont understand this idea that being alone makes you a loner, I get shocked looks off people because I go to the cinema alone sometimes, the main reasons I do are either my friends are busy, or I'm just bored and want to see a movie by myself during the day. I mean you wouldnt feel like a loner watching a dvd at home by yourself would you? its exactly the same thing.

Seaneh

I;d often go to a bar by myself for a few quiet beers and a read of a paper.
I;ve gone to clubs by myself knowing that people I know would be there, but that's not really the same...

ballsymchugh

a guy that i lived with in college was very successful at chatting with the ladies, way more than i ever would, so if the two of us decided to go out, more often than not, i'd end up on my own. as krudler said, you can have some great craic. it's all what you make of it yourself. if you're bothered about what others might think if they see you alone, then it'll probably seem like every pair of eyes is giving you a funny look, but if not, it can be a great laugh. there's plenty of people who end up on their own at some stage during the night, it can be great craic in fairness.

Nip The Tip

Leelaa22 wrote: »

was that a bit too much info?

But really you guys have it handy in that regard. There have been plenty of times I wanted to go out but no one was going, and I would like to go out on my own without the constant worry. I wouldnt even walk to my local in my old town, and it was a 2 min walk. There was one strech of path that was in darkness and there were a few attempted, half interrupted attacks there and I lived in a quiet enough town! CRAZY!!!

half interrupted? what did the passer-by do, join in?? :pac:

jokettle

Girl's POV: I have no problem eating alone, sitting in cafes/restaurants alone, and I've occassionally gone for a quiet drink on my own as well. An entire night out with no planned company, however, just isn't for me.

I see the pub as a very social place, and while a lot of people here seem happy to socialise with new people in pubs/clubs (and fair play for doing that!), it really would make me feel....vulnerable? I'm not sure what the correct word is. But the pub is usually where I go to catch up with friends, so I just don't see it as somewhere to frequent when I'm alone.

Even the odd times I've had a drink by myself, some men seem to think I'm there to be chatted up. If anyone wanted just to start an innocent conversation, that would be absolutely fine; I'd probably enjoy the company! But when one guy leaves his gaggle of mates to try it on, and all the friends are at their table staring over and sniggering, I'm glad to go home and spend the evening in my own company without having to put up with this kind of lecherous behaviour.

Of course, I have met a few lovely guys in pubs and had a nice chat, but unfortunately those experiences have been rare. Honestly, when you've experienced the creepy/immature/far too drunk to be unsupervised-type of guys as much as I have, it's very off-putting to be alone in that environment. And there's always the nagging paranoia that if and when you reject clumsy advances, someone could take it the wrong way; and if things turn ugly I have no one to back me up and help me stay safe.

I don't mean to sound harsh towards men; having re-read my post I think it could sound as though I think you're all sex-pests! I know that's not the reality but when alone in a pub, I feel like a twat-magnet, so it's really not for me.

Otis Driftwood

Its funny you mentioned the above in terms of just having a nice chat with a randomer.I never/rarely do this anymore.I agree that its great to chat to someone and have absolutely no ulterior motive but the fact is that now if I was to approach a woman on her own in a pub/club invariably her guard goes up and she automatically assumes Im trying to get into her knickers.Im sure most blokes would be of the same opinion too.Kinda sad really especially when you hear women saying "where are all the good men gone!!!".:(

Nip The Tip

pubs & especially clubs are the worst place to meet women, they always have their bitch shields on.
What I find amusing is how women complain about it, e.g. "I'm here to have fun not get hit on"... but if no men bother with them they get all bitchy & sour :pac:

Leelaa22

Nip The Tip wrote: »

pubs & especially clubs are the worst place to meet women, they always have their bitch shields on.
What I find amusing is how women complain about it, e.g. "I'm here to have fun not get hit on"... but if no men bother with them they get all bitchy & sour :pac:

thats just not true at all. I dont know what type of women you hang around with but the rest of us arent like that.

jokettle

Nip The Tip wrote: »

pubs & especially clubs are the worst place to meet women, they always have their bitch shields on.
What I find amusing is how women complain about it, e.g. "I'm here to have fun not get hit on"... but if no men bother with them they get all bitchy & sour :pac:

You're hanging around with the wrong women! A lot of us can be guilty of acting cold on occassion, but personally I only go down this route if I'm getting hassled by a guy. I'd never be rude to anyone unless they absolutely deserved it. Getting pestered in clubs and pubs can happen a lot, especially as more drink gets taken, and when being polite doesn't work there are very few other strategies available to get rid of a nuisance. And like I said earlier, it's this kind of behaviour that puts us off being out alone.

Wolfe Tone

Just as an aside, who thinks night clubs are rubbish?

Why cant the pub just stay open longer

krudler

MUSSOLINI wrote: »

Just as an aside, who thinks night clubs are rubbish?

Why cant the pub just stay open longer

Late bars ftw

Mackman

MUSSOLINI wrote: »

Just as an aside, who thinks night clubs are rubbish?

Why cant the pub just stay open longer

Bingo, i gave up on clubs years ago. They're just not worth the hassle.
So no, wouldnt go clubbing alone. I have gone to pubs if there's a gig on and had a few quiet ones by myself. But thats different.

homerun_homer

Club - no.
Pub - yes.

My location and circumstance makes it a bit annoying and too much effort required to go to a club alone but if I was in a city I liked then maybe. In another city/country I would do it if bored and knew the club and felt comfortable with being alone there.

Nip The Tip

Leelaa22 wrote: »

thats just not true at all. I dont know what type of women you hang around with but the rest of us arent like that.

Ah, maybe it's like alzheimer's, ye don't even know ye have it!