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Getting over someone
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12-10-2010 7:52pm#1
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Haircut - yay! Icecream - yay!
Wouldn't go for the tattoo this weekend to be honest though! If it's something that you've always wanted, do you really want to associate it with getting it the weekend that you were upset over this asshole? He is SO not worth it. You'd be much better to wait til you're over him and when you're much happier on your own, then you'll always associate it with completely happy memories!
As for girly tips ... splash out on a pedicure and manicure, or do a DIY job. It always makes me so happy to know that my toenails are perfect and pretty, even if no one else can see them! 
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chatterpillar wrote: »Haircut - yay! Icecream - yay!
Wouldn't go for the tattoo this weekend to be honest though! If it's something that you've always wanted, do you really want to associate it with getting it the weekend that you were upset over this asshole? He is SO not worth it. You'd be much better to wait til you're over him and when you're much happier on your own, then you'll always associate it with completely happy memories!
As for girly tips ... splash out on a pedicure and manicure, or do a DIY job. It always makes me so happy to know that my toenails are perfect and pretty, even if no one else can see them!
You're right, il hold off getting the tattoo for a few weeks. Though it is something iv always wanted. Just feel like doing something mad this weekend.0 -
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HardLuckWoman wrote: »You're right, il hold off getting the tattoo for a few weeks. Though it is something iv always wanted. Just feel like doing something mad this weekend.
Well if you're getting the hair done anyways, why not go for a totally different cut and colour? The great thing is, it's not permanent, you can always change it back! Ooh and splash out on some fab new makeup, I love doing that! And organise a big night out with your friends to show it all off! 0 -
Plus it's cheaper than getting inked!chatterpillar wrote: »Well if you're getting the hair done anyways, why not go for a totally different cut and colour? The great thing is, it's not permanent, you can always change it back! Ooh and splash out on some fab new makeup, I love doing that! And organise a big night out with your friends to show it all off! 0 -
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Feel like crap and has been for weeks. Coming from someone i always liked, its killing me. He knew i like him and led me on and only because he's going through a midlife crisis.
I wouldn't mind if he was just honest in the first place but to lead me on???
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Good line. Like it.Yeah, I'm a total believer in "I'd rather be hurt by your honesty than pleased by your lies". though it does sound like a country and western song lyric. Than again nada wrong with that. Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.
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I got me a new haircut and sexy little black dress, put on some red lippie and hit the town! The ol' confidence was a bit knocked due to the reasons of the break up, so I wanted to feel lovely about myself and ensure myself that there wasn't a thing wrong with me
OP, the guy turned out to be an asshole, it's better to know sooner than later. You saved yourself in the long run, you deserve someone nice and special.0 -
I cried for about two months whilst moaning to everyone who would listen. Then I threw myself back into being single. It's had its ups and downs, but I haven't forgotten about him, not by a long shot. But then it was the end of a nearly two-year relationship with my first love, so slightly different circumstances.
Try writing down everything you feel about him, maybe in the form of a letter to him. Afterwards, destroy it. That's quite therapeutic.0 -
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HardLuckWoman wrote: »If he thinks he can contact me when he likes in the hope that i would be available when he likes, he has another thing coming. He had his chance.
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HardLuckWoman wrote: »Any girly tips on how to forget about someone?
I liked this guy who turned out to be an asshole. But i cant get him out of my mind.
So far im treating myself this weekend to a new haircut and i always wanted a tattoo so thats on the list for this weekend too.
Would love a big tub of ice cream.
Hey,
I hope you're feeling a bit better now
Oh, I wouldn't do the tatt job just yet, it'll always revert to a reminder of HIM! My friend did this when she broke up with her fiance , she wanted to go wild too, and off she went and got one, she now regrets it - if she'd of told me first, i'd of stopped her ha ha
I'd suggest a girls night in, cheesy dvds, wine/other alcohol, junk food - can't go wrong with that set up
Alternatively, you could write a letter to said man but then destroy it, always destroy it. That way you're getting your feelings out there, but it's not exactly making it worse. Also write down the bad points to him (yes there's a few, there always is, we might have clouded judgment when w/ them , but deep down you'll think of them!) and keep them safe, for when you have a bad day & want to contact him.
I will say this, the old saying about getting over one person is getting under a new person, DON'T - because alike any other 'high', when you come crashing back down you'll feel twice as bad, as you did before AND you'll feel horrible about yourself. You deserve a nice man, so just a lil tip, if you're considering the above!
When people we trust f*ck us around it's always hard to come to terms with at first, and it may take a good while to actually get over him , but you will eventually end up just not thinking about him , and if you do you won't care for him anymore:)
Hope my 2cent has helped!
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Earthhorse wrote: »Similar thing happened me this year. No idea why someone pretends to like you then backs away (an ego boost maybe?). Best thing to do is just get on with whatever you enjoy doing, don't think about them and don't allow yourself time to think about them either.
How do you know he 'pretended' to like you? Did he tell you? Maybe he thought he did or was unsure of what he wanted and in the end decided that pushing you away was easier than dealing with his feelings or didn't want a relationship. I've been in the situation where I've been with someone, liked them and didn't like them, liked them again, didn't like them etc etc etc but the reasons for not liking them were because I was TYRING not to. Not because I wanted to be an ass to him, just because thats the way I felt. Not sure I wanted to be in a relationship, not wanting to lead him on yet a big part of me wanted to be with him - and still you push them away. Doesn't mean you're pretending to like them.Alternatively, you could write a letter to said man but then destroy it, always destroy it. That way you're getting your feelings out there, but it's not exactly making it worse. Also write down the bad points to him (yes there's a few, there always is, we might have clouded judgment when w/ them , but deep down you'll think of them!) and keep them safe, for when you have a bad day & want to contact him.
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RacoonQueen wrote: »I don't get this. Why do people do this?
which part - the letter or the list of bad points?
Writing a letter is a really cathartic way to get the massive jumble of thoughts racing around your mind out of your system, it's a kind of cleansing ritual to put a spiritual slant on it. In a letter that you don't send you can say all the things you would love to say to a person (but know you never should lest your sanity be called into question
). Regardless of whether it's a good or a bad break up the letter thing can help you resolve any lingering questions you have about someone, it helps put clarity on a situation. Particularly if it's a bad break up - you can call them every name under the sun, rant and rave and give out shyte to them and go mental in private whilst keeping your dignity firmly in tact in public!
The list of bad points works better when it's a bad break up, but applies to good ones too. Not only is time a healer, it also has a tendency to be viewed with rose-tinted glasses. As time goes by you may tend to forget that 99% of a person's actions were toxic or bad, and only fondly remember the 1% of the good stuff. Having something on paper, in hard copy, to read and remind of you just what a bad person they were or how not right for you they were can help you see the past more clearly.0 -
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