I'm not racist but...

stupidusername

...why is it that when black guys try to flirt with you it just gets creepy? I was at the park feeding the pigeons, as I do, and this guy sat near enough to me, talking over to me for ages. I couldn't here what he was saying, which I kept saying. He asked what my name was, what age I was, was I from Limerick. Then with a bit more of not being able to here him, and telling him this, I ignored him.

So he came over to me. 'do you have a boyfriend?' Fúcks sake! I said ya. Then he said do you have a boyfriend or are you just afraid of me? I said ya I do. 'Oh I like you anyway' Then I texted someone to ring me. In the meantime he asked could he have my email address, I said no. He asked why, i said because I don't give strangers my personal details. 'But that's not your personal details'

Finally I got a phone call. He didn't move, or go away at all, so eventually I just walked away.

This has happened a bit. I don't have anything against black people, but for some reason any black guys that come on to me are really creepy! Be normal and there's a chance I might talk to you.

Kooli

Is it foreigners more than black guys? I sometimes find foreign guys have a totally different approach to women than Irish guys that can be perceived as creepy. A black Irish guy would presumably be totally different. So I imagine it's a culture thing rather than a race thing, but I've definitely experienced it too.

minidazzler

Could it be just the setting in which he came all over you?

If he did it in a night club would it be quite as creepy?

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

I think they call that Xzenophobia OP? Doesn't make you a racist though, well not in the conventional sense.

Different cultures and what not.

Don't forget, you can be black and be Irish too,

biko

It's probably how they flirt back at home. I assume now since you couldn't understand him he had a foreign accent?
Aren't Italians and Spanish guys supposed to be very forward too?

punchdrunk

FÚCKERS ROBBING OUR WIMMIN!! :mad:

CreepingDeath

stupidusername wrote: »

I was at the park feeding the pigeons, as I do

snigger

stupidusername

He wasn't Irish, but if an Irish guy came over doing the same thing, I would be as freaked out, but it only ever is black guys.

Well if in a nightclub, ya I notice Indian lookin guys lookin at you quite creepily, but you get lots of lads doin that in a club i suppose anyway. Haven't been in one in a while so at least that was the way it was. Although now that I think about it, when i was on the way out to the park, some indian guys in the hall were lookin at me a bit much too.

I just sound really paranoid

fillmore jive

Was it this guy? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTFZyl7hfBw

jesus_thats_gre

stupidusername wrote: »

...why is it that when black guys try to flirt with you it just gets creepy? I was at the park feeding the pigeons, as I do, and this guy sat near enough to me, talking over to me for ages. I couldn't here what he was saying, which I kept saying. He asked what my name was, what age I was, was I from Limerick. Then with a bit more of not being able to here him, and telling him this, I ignored him.

So he came over to me. 'do you have a boyfriend?' Fúcks sake! I said ya. Then he said do you have a boyfriend or are you just afraid of me? I said ya I do. 'Oh I like you anyway' Then I texted someone to ring me. In the meantime he asked could he have my email address, I said no. He asked why, i said because I don't give strangers my personal details. 'But that's not your personal details'

Finally I got a phone call. He didn't move, or go away at all, so eventually I just walked away.

This has happened a bit. I don't have anything against black people, but for some reason any black guys that come on to me are really creepy! Be normal and there's a chance I might talk to you.

Prick tease!

AnonoBoy

I bet if he was drop dead gorgeous you wouldn't have found his behaviour 'creepy'.

ToniTuddle

Can't stand the way dudes from India stare at you.
Only ever experienced in New Zealand and they just look at you like they are mentally raping you in their brains.

Freaks me out. As a result I don't like them.

Wolfe Tone

Poor Black guy was just trying to be nice.

winston82

"you know your putting on weight when too many black guys keep hittin on ya" - chris rock

stupidusername

biko wrote: »

It's probably how they flirt back at home. I assume now since you couldn't understand him he had a foreign accent?
Aren't Italians and Spanish guys supposed to be very forward too?

No I couldn't hear what he was saying, because beside the park, there's a lot of traffic. but ya he did have a foreign accent. same as a south african guy i used to know. I've been in both Italy and Spain and haven't experienced that, but maybe.

CreepingDeath wrote: »

snigger

Why you snigger? I like pigees!

antodeco

minidazzler wrote: »

Could it be just the setting in which he came all over you?

Woah woah woah, this wasnt a porno!

stupidusername

AnonoBoy wrote: »

I bet if he was drop dead gorgeous you wouldn't have found his behaviour 'creepy'.

Well he was quite alright looking, he was just creepy.

ToniTuddle wrote: »

Can't stand the way dudes from India stare at you.
Only ever experienced in New Zealand and they just look at you like they are mentally raping you in their brains.

Exactly! Couldn't quite put a description on it. but thats it

winston82 wrote: »

"you know your putting on weight when too many black guys keep hittin on ya" - chris rock

:eek: I AM!

AssaultedPeanut

minidazzler wrote: »

Could it be just the setting in which he came all over you?

If he did it in a night club would it be quite as creepy?

I think someone has redtube open while they're posting......

bonerm

AnonoBoy wrote: »

I bet if he was drop dead gorgeous you wouldn't have found his behaviour 'creepy'.

fillmore jive wrote: »

Was it this guy? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTFZyl7hfBw

Nah I bet it was this guy.

Cypher_sounds

Women always have something to complain about tut tut

Hannibal Smith

dementedsoul wrote: »

I think someone has redtube open while they're posting......

:D

I remember once being on the Luas and this 70 year old Polish man sat beside me (I'd helped him get a ticket on the machine so apparently I was potential wife material or something ) and he asked if I was married, when I said yes, he didn't believe me (cheeky so and so ) so I showed him my wedding ring and he argued that I couldn't be married cause the ring was on the wrong hand...at that point I put me earphones in :cool:

who the fug

So do you reckon my old mountain man routine of sniff on that bitch would work with you, I as well irish and can catch sheep and not fussy about shaggin a Limerick bird

40 years of pissing off Irish wimmen and counting (that and I likes the free slaps, they cost money over here )

kylith

I've had pretty much the same conversation as the OP at a bus stop once. They guy was handsome enough, well dressed, and had a complete inability to recognise body language that said 'stop talking to me and go away'.

Although I've been interrogated about my name, where I come from, my phone number by Irish guys on the bus too, but they're usually just too drunk to know when to shut up.

Bulktohulk

CreepingDeath wrote: »

snigger

Is the s silent?

Micky Dolenz

Hannibal Smith wrote: »

:D

I remember once being on the Luas and this 70 year old Polish man sat beside me (I'd helped him get a ticket on the machine so apparently I was potential wife material or something ) and he asked if I was married, when I said yes, he didn't believe me (cheeky so and so ) so I showed him my wedding ring and he argued that I couldn't be married cause the ring was on the wrong hand...at that point I put me earphones in :cool:

They wear the ring on the other hand in some countries I believe.

me_right_one

Bulktohulk wrote: »

Is the s silent?

Post of the century:D:D:D:D

--LOS--

It is a culture thing not a race thing and I'm sure the OP appreciates that. I do come across this from time to time. I have a bit of a running joke with my sister that she tends to attract these types like one guy who sat down beside her in a library in town and just started winking incessantly and air kissing, sleeeeaze.

PK2008

So what is your number OP?

SoWatchaWant

After Hours' Racist Thread of the Week has arrived.

entropi

stupidusername wrote: »

In the meantime he asked could he have my email address, I said no. He asked why, i said because I don't give strangers my personal details. 'But that's not your personal details'

You didnt realise he was part of an African State lottery, and only wanted your email address so you could forward bank details, thus claiming your winnings?

AssaultedPeanut

CreepingDeath wrote: »

snigger

Bulktohulk wrote: »

Is the s silent?

me_right_one wrote: »

Racist ignorant non-funny post.

FY-fucking-P

SugarHigh

I think Chris Rock might be able to explain why black guys like you so much.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5MShSaGbl2Y

--LOS--

SoWatchaWant wrote: »

After Hours' Racist Thread of the Week has arrived.

It's hardly racist, you can't deny it is common. If you go to somewhere like the 5 floors of fun in Templebar, it is full of "sleazy foreigners" reeking of desperation, there's a place I can think of in the uk where it's best to avoid the r n b floor less you wish to be surrounded like a pack of wolves, I'm sure it happens lots of places. It's not a case of noticing these guys more than irish guys or so-called good-looking guys, it is just more common.

Bulktohulk

dementedsoul wrote: »

FY-fucking-P

Jesus man, it was all in jest, way to go overboard.

AssaultedPeanut

Bulktohulk wrote: »

Jesus man, it was all in jest, way to go overboard.

Sorry duuuude, I guess I just don't, like, agree with racism 'n' stuff

dermothickey

2 minutes and 30 seconds in very funny piss take of racism in general ]

http://www.youtube.com/watch#!v=-ldMY6z7Eno&feature=related

Vomit

stupidusername wrote: »

...why is it that when black guys try to flirt with you it just gets creepy?

How many black guys have flirted with you?

sceptre

stupidusername wrote: »

I was at the park feeding the pigeons, as I do

Limerick already has too many flying rats. Stop feeding them, it just acts as encouragement.

me_right_one

dementedsoul wrote: »

Sorry duuuude, I guess I just don't, like, agree with racism 'n' stuff

Did you eat too much FAIL for breakfast? Cos you're spewing it all over the place!

Thats a hypocritical post. Usually when people dont agree with racism, its because its discriminatory. None of the posts you "fixed" were discriminatory in any way, they were witty and within the context of the thread. Would you be so defensive if the OP said the creepy lad was from Cork, for example? Maybe the "fixed" posts would have read "that was harsh, bai" or some other such relevant humour. To then go and sarcastically mock the manner in which you percieve someone to talk because of the way they post, now thats discrimination.


I aint sayin she a gold-digga, but she aint messin with no broke-gabroke;)







(I suppose thats sexist!!)

AssaultedPeanut

me_right_one wrote: »

Thats a bit of a hypocritical post. Usually when people dont agree with racism, its because its discriminatory. None of the posts you "fixed" were discriminatory in any way, they were witty and within the context of the thread. Would you be so defensive if the OP said the creepy lad was from Cork, for example? Maybe the "fixed" posts would have read "that was harsh, bai" or some other such relevant humour. To then go and sarcastically mock the manner in which you percieve someone to talk because of the way they post, now thats discrimination.

Rubbish
There's no comparison.

I'm not overly PC, but saying the word nigger in a round-about way for absolutely no reason, in a thread that happens to be about black people and foreign people IS racist.

And before you say that word wasn't said. Someone saying snigger and someone else asking if the S is silent, is more-or-less saying nigger. And that's not cool

EDIT: I see you edited your original post to include the following load of tripe, before and after the bit already quoted above.

me_right_one wrote: »

Did you eat too much FAIL for breakfast? Cos you're spewing it all over the place!
......
I aint sayin she a gold-digga, but she aint messin with no broke-gabroke;)

(I suppose thats sexist!!)

Spewing fail breakfast all over the place?! Quoting Kanye West for no reason?! Seems like you're a bit of a rasshole

The R is silent


(I suppose that's personal abuse)
(but apparently things aren't offensive if they're written in this manner)

orourkeda

stupidusername wrote: »

...why is it that when black guys try to flirt with you it just gets creepy? I was at the park feeding the pigeons, as I do, and this guy sat near enough to me, talking over to me for ages. I couldn't here what he was saying, which I kept saying. He asked what my name was, what age I was, was I from Limerick. Then with a bit more of not being able to here him, and telling him this, I ignored him.

So he came over to me. 'do you have a boyfriend?' Fúcks sake! I said ya. Then he said do you have a boyfriend or are you just afraid of me? I said ya I do. 'Oh I like you anyway' Then I texted someone to ring me. In the meantime he asked could he have my email address, I said no. He asked why, i said because I don't give strangers my personal details. 'But that's not your personal details'

Finally I got a phone call. He didn't move, or go away at all, so eventually I just walked away.

This has happened a bit. I don't have anything against black people, but for some reason any black guys that come on to me are really creepy! Be normal and there's a chance I might talk to you.

He sounds like a helpless romantic to me.

Bulktohulk

dementedsoul wrote: »

Rubbish
There's no comparison.

I'm not overly PC, but saying the word nigger in a round-about way for absolutely no reason, in a thread that happens to be about black people and foreign people IS racist.


And before you say that word wasn't said. Someone saying snigger and someone else asking if the S is silent, is more-or-less saying nigger. And that's not cool

It's not racist.... In my opinion it's the way something is said, not what's said that would point to someone being racist or not. Saying something jokingly isn't racist,it's a joke. If they said it with the intention to demean, be cruel etc... then sure, but it was obviously a joke, this is after hours after all.

If there's one thing I hate it's people who are 'PC'. I consider them the most racist people of all. Standing up for other races when they don't need or want the help is patronising and much worse than phrases that are 99% of the time said in jest.

I'm not talking about you in particular, but we all know my comment was not said in a racist way and only someone with a stick up their arse would take offense at it.

A Primal Nut

Sorry if this has been said, but generally if a girl finds a guy attractive, for whatever reason, they will think is chat-up attempted is charming. If a girl doesn't find a guy attractive, he is automatically considered a creep when he chats her up. You aren't attracted to black guys which probably explains it.

Then again, I know at least two black guys who grew up in Ireland, would know the story about acting confident and talking to girls, and would always get their fair share. On the other hand I know plenty of guys who are thought of by girls as creepy when they chat them up, even though I know them as the nicest guys you could meet.

It comes down to personal preference. One woman's creep is another woman's charming prince!

AssaultedPeanut

Bulktohulk wrote: »

It's not racist.... In my opinion it's the way something is said, not what's said that would point to someone being racist or not. Saying something jokingly isn't racist,it's a joke. If they said it with the intention to demean, be cruel etc... then sure, but it was obviously a joke, this is after hours after all.

If there's one thing I hate it's people who are 'PC'. I consider them the most racist people of all. Standing up for other races when they don't need or want the help is patronising and much worse than phrases that are 99% of the time said in jest.

I'm not talking about you in particular, but we all know my comment was not said in a racist way and only someone with a stick up their arse would take offense at it.

Nope, no stick up the arse. I just think the comment wasn't funny and in my opinion, quite racist considering the nature of the thread.
Saying "this is after hours" doesn't make it any less so. Again, this is my opinion, since you're just going by yours....

The_Minister

Bulktohulk wrote: »

I'm not talking about you in particular, but we all know my comment was not said in a racist way and only someone with a stick up their arse would take offense at it.

Said to someone who called them on their post being offensive.

Did you type that with a straight face?

Sonnenblumen

Light the crosses!

The_Minister

On topic:
I know a Canadian woman living in Ireland who is having huge trouble getting laid - she can't figure out Irish guys because they are so reticiant - no-one dates here, so she can't figure out how to get into relationships (she refuses to do one-night stands).

biko

SoWatchaWant wrote: »

After Hours' Racist Thread of the Week has arrived.

I don't agree, hence no lock yet. Just because a person is black/ brown/ foreign doesn't mean the criticising him/her is a automatically racist.
In my opinion.
If you feel that a certain post is racist or crossing some line then please report it with an explanation and one of the forum mods will get right on it.
Cheers.

I see how "why is it that when black guys try to flirt with you it just gets creepy" can be seen as racist because it points to black guys in general, but then the OP talk about a single individual.
This seems to me to go along with most rants of "all women are crazy, my girlfriend did something stupid".
Hope my point here comes across.

Carl Sagan

It'd be great if more people would just randomly talk to strangers.

Michellenman

I actually thought this was going to be a thread on how people always say 'I'm not racist but..' before going on to say something that is in fact racist.

Guess I was right.. .kinda.

kylith

A Primal Nut wrote: »

Sorry if this has been said, but generally if a girl finds a guy attractive, for whatever reason, they will think is chat-up attempted is charming. If a girl doesn't find a guy attractive, he is automatically considered a creep when he chats her up.

I disagree. To come up and say hi and start a conversation is perfectly fine. To try to continue a chatting up when the girl is only giving one word answers, looks uncomfortable in the situation, and is giving absolutely no indication that she's interested in being chatted up is creepy.