what was the worst that was ever said to you

ilovesleep

What was the worst thing somebody ever said to you?

i was having an arguement/row with my sister one night over her keeping me awake. and what she then did was unforgiveable. my breasts are different sizes and there is a considerable difference and its really noticable despite the padding of one side of the bra. my sister cupped her breasts, shoved them into my faced and insisted i caused the row because i was jealous of her breasts. and she loved every minute of it. it wasnt the first time she did it either and i used to let it slide but that night i flipped and cracked and hurt her badly. i'm not proud of what i did and feel really guilty for hurting her but my god she deserved it. i swear to god in the name of all thats holy i will never speak to her again. she doesnt deserve the air she breathes.

miss5

God that was very nasty of your sister.

I had a brief eating disorder when I was younger and while I was going through
that my sister would make fat jokes constantly even though I was too thin.
I think sisters can be incredibly hurtful sometimes.

lil'bug

i hear ya on that one, my sister is one evil bitch i have nothing to do with her, she attacked my partner one night.she used to beat me up all the timei'm so glad i don't have anything to do with her anymore.
proberbly one of the worst things she ever said to me was i had to take medication because i was mentaly unballanced, i have epilepsy

SarahMs

I would amount to nothing...... suppose it was kind of reverse psychology.

at the time though I was in a bad place... it could have gone either way really.

then just the usual run of the mill BS that is said to you by ex friends, or ex partners.

Pythia

An ex boyfriend (ex for a reason!) said I had calves like a rugby player! Nice.

hootietootie

A "friend" of mine told me that if I lost a few stone I COULD be quite pretty(I'm 5'6" and about 10 stone):rolleyes:

My daughter told me it would be a good idea if I wrote down all the songs I sang and stuck them on the fridge so that people could still see my beautiful songs but they wouldnt have to listen to me singing them! Shes 5:pac:

Mrs Garth Brooks

Ya my sister is a bitch too.

She used to blame me for everything that went wrong in her life. I couldn't bring her to the gym, she would turn on me saying i didn't want her to lose weight. She lost a book, she thought i took it out of spite cause i didn't want her to do well. Ordered her a phone off the internet, phone was late coming, she demanded for her money back. She's late getting up in the mornings, it was my fault. Couldn't sit in with her one sunday morning when she was learning to drive, she went on and on saying i wouldn't go because i didn't want her to do well. Couldn't go to a party, was sick the same week - so she wouldn't go and turns on me as if it was my fault i was sick and she wouldn't go. Real paranoia. Lashed out on the poor animals just to get to me. If she knows im trying to improve my life at all, she would say horrible things. Once said she would burn my car. I applied to go back to college this year, told me she would email the college and tell me just how evil i am. What? Evil? For not putting up with her tantrums? I do a bit of voluntary work which i love, also threatened to ring the boss there. Whats worse, couldn't ever apologise after her moods. Doesn't see it that im not happy and turns it around on me saying i shouldn't be angry. What does she expect? Sit back and take it? She spent years cutting me off fairly quickly. I asked something, i get a huff. If she knew i was going somewhere and she wasn't, she would get into the bathroom and shower first and take ages just to slow me down. She wished me dead a few months ago and last month, gave a good few blows to my head. Was bleeding badly, was sick afterwards too (very well could have ended up dead with getting hit on the head). Loads of other things.

She isn't worth it anymore. She is very toxic and don't want anything to do with her until she grows up. Im not responsible for her life - she shouldn't be blaming me. If it doesn't go her way, she isn't happy and its my fault. Won't ever speak to her again.

Blazer

Holdy shít..can't wait to read the rest of the posts in here...
One thing stands out...women can be complete biatches..
No bloke would ever do that stuff to their siblings like that.

Giselle

'You're the type who'll be dead for six months before anyone misses you'

Nightwish

You're ugly. You'd be better looking if I smashed your face into a mirror - said to me by someone close to me. No wonder I have self esteem issues

Panthro

when i was in 5th class the 6th class lads used to throw slaps on the 5th class lads. I was one of the bigger boys in 5th class, overweight and as shy as hell. so i had one 6th class who used to constantly pick on me, and i never really did much about it.
until one day in front of everyone he called me "a fat fooker" or something to that effect, i saw red...
pushed him to the ground...
and sat on him until his face turned blue!!

moral of the story..
dont mock those that have a weight advantage!!:D

FouxDaFaFa

Giselle wrote: »

'You're the type who'll be dead for six months before anyone misses you'

Jesus.
That's just so unbelievably nasty.

I can't think of any of my own, I guess I've been lucky so far!

jenny4385

after 5 years 'i dont love you anymore'

jenny4385

found a lovely post bout me on bebo:: 'what about that freaky beast you scored on paddys day'' really boosted my non existent self confidence

midlandsmissus

Awh Jenny (hugs) that's horrible. I've learnt that peple who say things like that have incredibly low self esteem of their own. You have to try to think that and not let it hurt you.

And Berkut I think you're wrong - men may not be as nasty to their siblings - but they can be incredibly cruel to and about girls they've been with - often using them as entertainment value with their friends.

Ickle Magoo

Jeepers, there are some real nasty pieces of work...I can't remember my sister and I doing anything like that to each other - though my mum did say she found me throwing rocks at her one day when I was little... :eek:

"I bet he divorces you within the year" would probably be the worst comment I've had in real life...

I've had a few nasty personal comments on-line which sting a bit at the time but since they don't actually know me I tend to be able to rationalise as being more about them than me.

Dudess

Berkut wrote: »

No bloke would ever do that stuff to their siblings like that.

Like, never ever ever? I'd say you're wrong there...

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

I've had a few nasty personal comments on-line which sting a bit at the time but since they don't actually know me I tend to be able to rationalise as being more about them than me.

Yeah there are some really malicious people on this website and it does affect you, if far less than in real life.

whiskeyman

miss5 wrote: »

I think sisters can be incredibly hurtful sometimes.

I don't think it's down to sisters, but down to those that are closest to you, and indeed down to those that you love the most (even though you probably don't realise it!).

A hurtful comment from a stranger can be brushed away easier than one from someone who knows you very well and with whom you've an emotional bond with, whether it be family, friend or partner.

Worst was from an ex breaking up, saying she just didn't love me any more and expected it to be different.
Crushing.
Long over her now though

McChubbin

"You'd made a perfect rape victim."

Said by my ex after he commented on my naivity.

Possibly the lowest blow he could have ever inflicted, especially since he knew about my past at the time.

lil'bug

McChubbin wrote: »

"You'd made a perfect rape victim."

Said by my ex after he commented on my naivity.

Possibly the lowest blow he could have ever inflicted, especially since he knew about my past at the time.

scumbag
:mad::mad:

jenny4385

lil'bug wrote: »

scumbag
:mad::mad:

couldnt agree with you more.. some men think they own women just because ur there girlfriend... not on....

pinkpigs

I still can't believe it... from my ex-husband/boyfriend of 13 years..

'I do want a family, just not with you'

It still makes my stomach sick every time I think of it (which is every day)

Truley

Lived in a house with two other girls during my first year in college. Thought things were going well, would chat with them in the evenings, share food and went on nights out together. Never had any major disagreements and I genuinely would have considered them friends.

One day after a year living together I found a not very nice facebook conversation about me between the two of them. They gave me a pretty vicious going over, bitching about how much they don't like me and were trying to avoid me. (I know it's easy for me to say, but I am not a bad housemate in any way, and would be considered a 'weird' or difficult person by any stretch.) They didn't even specify what it was about me they didn't like, it was just ... bitching really.

So they would say all these horrible things about me on the internet and then carry on in real life as if everything was ok. They never confronted me about any problems and remaind reasonably polite. The worst thing is I never actually confronted them about what I saw, and to this day I am kicking myself. I even went to alot of trouble to help one of them when they were moving out!

I still get upset thinking about it tbh

cheekyass

When I was 19 I got braces on my teeth to straighten them out. About two months before I was due to get them taken off I met a guy outside a pub who told me that I would be 'decent if I wasn't wearing braces'.......It was awful because I was very self conscious of them as it was. Boys can be so mean!

THEZAPPA

A friend of mine(well...friend) said I am al right but a skanky boar? and that I'd only be good as a date and then rape


He said it the day after he tried to get it on with me and I refused...haha
still doesn't know I know he said it!


Hurt alot though

miss5

Darlughda wrote: »

When I discovered my (now ex) husband having an affair with one of my friends, who was also my manager at the time, I asked him why.

His reply - "Because she is the epitome of femininity".





Ladies, it took years for me to repair my self-esteem after that.

God that's awful, What a creep.

Your better off without him, Must have been a horrible experience.

Posy

A guy from another branch of the company I work for was working with me one day. He had heard of a girl that worked in my office who was a real stunner. He asked a girl, as we were sitting around on our lunch, if there was a good looking girl in the office called such-and-such. This happens to be my name too, so my friend looks in my direction and asks if he's sure he's not referring to me. He just looked at me, laughed and said "No, I said a good looking girl." What a charmer. :rolleyes:

I'm finding it hard reading some of the hurtful things people have said to those who loved them but inspired by how people can move on with life after such damaging comments. Lot of strong ladies on this forum. *Hugs*

My Dad's wife used to constantly call me ugly when I was a kid. But that's not the kinda stuff I should talk about here!


Oh my ex said to me "you are the most manipulative person I have ever met". Lovely. Then a few minutes later he said I'm not allowed to talk to his new girlfriend :rolleyes:

Nervous Wreck

Giselle wrote: »

'You're the type who'll be dead for six months before anyone misses you'

I hope you don't mind, but I plan on using that one.

Truley

My boyfriend last night - 'Oh Truley so and so tagged a photo of you on facebook. Want me to untag it for you?'

Charmed I'm sure :rolleyes:

Jenneke87

That if I ever want to get a boyfriend I should get a boobjob

That I´m ugly

A teacher saying that I was arrogant, immature, controlling, and relying too much on other people(yeah that´s why I lived abroad on my own for two years.....)

wireless101

jesus

Nickibaby*

Posy wrote: »

A guy from another branch of the company I work for was working with me one day. He had heard of a girl that worked in my office who was a real stunner. He asked a girl, as we were sitting around on our lunch, if there was a good looking girl in the office called such-and-such. This happens to be my name too, so my friend looks in my direction and asks if he's sure he's not referring to me. He just looked at me, laughed and said "No, I said a good looking girl." What a charmer. :rolleyes:

I'm finding it hard reading some of the hurtful things people have said to those who loved them but inspired by how people can move on with life after such damaging comments. Lot of strong ladies on this forum. *Hugs*

Very similar thing happened to me when I was about 13 at school. Little ugly joker of the class says to his friend: oh i'm talking about the good looking Nicki not that Nicki (me) - I was morfified at the time! :eek: I actually met the guy a couple of months ago - he is still short and ugly, gotta love karma

NoDice

McChubbin wrote: »

"You'd made a perfect rape victim."

Said by my ex after he commented on my naivity.

Possibly the lowest blow he could have ever inflicted, especially since he knew about my past at the time.

Gosh I'm so sorry to simply read somebody had the audacity to say that to you. I hope you punched him right in the face. What an A-hole.

I'm so sorry to all of you. You're all lovely, from what I've read on here and from the people I've chatted to on here. It's so hard to believe people can be so cruel. You've all obviously dealt well enough with it and I always think "no regrets, don't look to the past for it is the past which shaped you." I've had so many awful things said to me and done to me. Yet I think if they didn't happen, I wouldn't be the woman I am today.

One that always sticks with me that isn't very sad or anything was:

"You're a horrible little girl, you never smile and you can't pull off a short skirt".

I cried my eyes out. A manager in a clothes shop said that to me. We'd a horribly revealing uniform to wear so I always wore footless tights and converse with the skirts to dull it down a bit. Also, everyone that knows me knows I never stop smiling. I think she just didn't like me cause I didn't do what she told me (she hadn't a clue how to run a clothes shop and I had 2 years experience).

HUGS FOR EVERYONE!!

Andrew33

A homeless person told me I should eat more! (I'm thin:D), in fact I'm so thin that when I went for an X-Ray last week the doctor told me to just stand in front of the window! Bloody cheek.

speedboatchase

Andrew33 wrote: »

A homeless person told me I should eat more! (I'm thin:D), in fact I'm so thin that when I went for an X-Ray last week the doctor told me to just stand in front of the window! Bloody cheek.

Ah look at this way - he's probably dead


ps. Horrible stories ladies, I count myself lucky that I can't actually recall anything a colleague, ex or family member has called me that was particularly insulting. Ah sure I must be great

Kanoe

was out with a mate of mine for a coffee one day when I bumped into a friend and ended up sitting in a circle with her (gay) female friends who were having a drink. After a while I went out for a smoke and a little while later a few of the girls followed and stood opposite me and started a discussion about where I had gone, I was referred to as the hack with the re(tard). Couldnt give a crap what they said about me but my friend was born with a physical disability and it really pissed me off. Changed how I feel about about some people though. I should have just punched them.

kraggy

zxy wrote: »

was out with a mate of mine for a coffee one day when I bumped into a friend and ended up sitting in a circle with her (gay) female friends who were having a drink. After a while I went out for a smoke and a little while later a few of the girls followed and stood opposite me and started a discussion about where I had gone, I was referred to as the hack with the re(tard). Couldnt give a crap what they said about me but my friend was born with a physical disability and it really pissed me off. Changed how I feel about about some people though. I should have just punched them.

That's the pits. Absolute lowest of the low. A person with a disability is fragile enough as it is. What if he had heard it himself? Imagine what damage it would have done.

Idiots.

bubbaloo

A "friend" in school (20 years ago) said to me "you're really ugly when you smile". I still cover my mouth when I smile or laugh because I'm so self-conscious of it.
Cheers Mate!!

jellie

funny what sticks with you. sometimes a throwaway comment by someone will hurt without them even realising.

my ex told me (while we were together) that his friend who id only recently met told him that he had awful taste in women. my reaction was along the lines of "WTF why the HELL would you say that to me?!". his reaction was "i gave out to him like" or something along them lines. i dont know if he was just an idiot or if he was trying to destroy what little self confidence i had. it worked :rolleyes:

keane2097

Don't know what the worst thing that's been said about me is. I don't think I'd commit it to memory tbh.

Some of ye could do with toughening up a bit tbh.

bubbaloo

i dont know if he was just an idiot or if he was trying to destroy what little self confidence i had. it worked

A bit of both I'd say!!

BizzyLizzie

''You're the reason this family is in debt''

My mom said that to me during my last year of college.

sam34

i was sitting with a group of my classmates from college, and someone said to the whole group "guess which girl from our class has had plastic surgery?"

one of the guys looked me up and down and then said, with a sneer on his face, "well it definitely wasnt sam34"

cant say i was particularly hurt, as this guy is an a55hole who i dont care about, but it was a nasty comment nonetheless.


my sister once tried to hurt me by pointing out, at a family gathering, that i was the only one in the family who was "totally and utterly alone" (she was divorced but had a kid, all other siblings married). it was a pointed barb designed to hurt, but it backfired as i was happily single at the time and it showed her up for the bitter individual she was.

FreeHugs

"Go home, take a load of pills and do us all a favour"

A customer once said this to me when I was working in a shop. I hate retail

rediguana25

keane2097 wrote: »

Don't know what the worst thing that's been said about me is. I don't think I'd commit it to memory tbh.

Some of ye could do with toughening up a bit tbh.

Sometimes it's hard not to let things get to u though.. But by recounting the horrible things that was said to you I think your just hurting yourself. What was said was said and that was then. After that all the thoughts or energy you give to it is just you keeping up the negativity. Deep breaths, dust urself off and put it aside knowing that you are special and something somebody says to you is just their opinion- but ur opinion of urself is infinitely more important.

krudler

Wasnt directly to me but it bugs me to this day, worked with a girl who had a bad stammer when she got flustered or nervous, you wouldnt know it when she was calm and she was the life and soul of the party to meet her out and in good form, but if she got panicked she couldnt get words out at all. Anyway one day this guy asked her something while we were standing beside each other at our tills, and she was struggling to say anything, and this utter cockbag impatiently turned to me and asked me the same thing, I (as politely as I could ) said she would deal with his query and he responded with "well I dont have all day to wait while she splutters out some words, why is she even working here?"

Well, at that moment it took everything I had to stop me utterly ruining this guy in the insult department, I went upstairs a few mins later and found her bawling, some people are just beyond pricks.

g'em

keane2097 if you don't like this topic then don't comment on it - your post was neither constructive or particularly pleasant and it has been deleted. I think you should leave the thread be for now.

xoixo

Not sure if I over reacted but this really got me...
Was walking down the street with an ex boyfriend couple of years back, and a group of guys walk past us - one grabs my ass the other says something sleazy about my 'tits', you know the sort of thing.

I looked over to my boyfriend who really sarcastically, without caring less goes 'Awwwh, does someone feel exploited?'

Contessa Raven

xoixo wrote: »

I looked over to my boyfriend who really sarcastically, without caring less goes 'Awwwh, does someone feel exploited?'

That's awful! I'd expect a more angry response from my OH if someone grabbed me like that. I can't believe he said that to you! :eek: I'd have blown my top if that was me! :mad:

sumatra

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

I hope you don't mind, but I plan on using that one.

awful, but so do I