Why are you single?

Novella

I'm single because I want to be. I haven't met anyone yet who I could see being in my life for a prolonged period of time and I couldn't be bothered 'dating' short-term. I guess I'm just waiting to find someone who makes the juice worth the squeeze.

G-Money

cafecolour wrote: »

I should've had a "I'm too picky." option on the poll - it def seems to be a common enough problem among a lot of the folks I know, especially lads of who spend a lot of time on the computer, playing video games, etc. I know it's pretty dime store sociology, but I do wonder if too much media consumption does lead to unrealistic expectations for real life.

You could be right. I'm not quite sure what it is with me though. I don't have this mentality where I'll only go after absolute supermodels and anything less is unacceptable. I mean occasionally I will meet a girl and there will be some sort of a surge of excitement when I first see her. It happened recently enough with a girl. The problem is that it happens so rarely and the girls it does happen with, for whatever reason are either uninterested or unavailable.

And I'm not talking girls who are supermodels either. This most recent girl was a normal girl, dressed quite conservatively, but just something about her did it for me.

I guess I just wish that would happen more often with single girls who have the same reaction when they see me.

Lia_lia

Because I'm a playa.

Nahh.

Just don't really want to be in a relationship. Well, I wouldn't mind it. But I'm not seeking it out or anything.

Lia_lia

grandmaster wrote: »

You could be right. I'm not quite sure what it is with me though. I don't have this mentality where I'll only go after absolute supermodels and anything less is unacceptable. I mean occasionally I will meet a girl and there will be some sort of a surge of excitement when I first see her. It happened recently enough with a girl. The problem is that it happens so rarely and the girls it does happen with, for whatever reason are either uninterested or unavailable.

And I'm not talking girls who are supermodels either. This most recent girl was a normal girl, dressed quite conservatively, but just something about her did it for me.

I guess I just wish that would happen more often with single girls who have the same reaction when they see me.

Well you sound like a nice guy!

Wibbs

Novella wrote: »

I guess I'm just waiting to find someone who makes the juice worth the squeeze.

Good line. *nicks same*

gonnaplayrugby

idk really, i have no confidence with girls

and theres only 1 girl i want to be with

yermandan

I jump in too much too soon and that has scared the most recent girl away!!! Not a bad thing though because I know what not to do now and am addressing why I do it in the first place!!

My guess is that to be with a significant other is something that I really enjoy and I rarely find someone worth taking the risk with, so I tend to go a bit overboard in the beginning...

If the tables were turned and she was that way with me then I'd probably react the same way!

Its the most confusing area of life for sure

Shanotheslayer

Currently single atm, usually **** up relationships myself, by having trust issues, so I don't really bother so just go from woman to woman casually

Sisko

Can't stand the whole 'chatting up in a bar' bullshit/ mating ritual thing.

Girl sitting around in a bar looking pretty. Guy must approach and then impress her within a limited time limit by a combination of buying drinks and witty banter/bull**** etc. Girl judges guy by appearance/cloths personality traits and willingness to spend money before deeming them sexual compatible.

Its really not all that different to the stuff that goes on in the wild :

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7dx2CUMtZ-0

Thus I decided I'd rather just get to know someone and see how things go from there, unfortunately that never happens. I blame single sex schools and growing up in an area where all the chicks are 'howaya howaya's' :mad:

GTE

Porn.

G-Money

Lia_lia wrote: »

Well you sound like a nice guy!

Thanks.

Abi

I could easily go under a few of the options tbh. I'm seperated from my ex, and I have seen other people since we seperated. I don't actually know what I want. Maybe its because I have had a rough time with my ex (and thats still an ugly mess) that I'm afraid to more than like someone. It scares me a bit then I push people away. Stupids I know =/

Nokem

I'm Single atm because ex couldnt handle things going on in my life and wanted me to put her No.1 in my life ahead of family and career, i wasnt prepared to do that so back on the scene and loving it!:D

Lone Stone

Single due to Socialy Crippling Panic Disorder :eek: Altho i do get asked out a fair bit just ya know... thought of going place's = dooooooooooommmm

gonnaplayrugby

actually how do ya guys move on? i mean ive never been with this girl or anything but shes the girl ill always remember. i dont think i will ever feel same way about someone?

Abi

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

actually how do ya guys move on? i mean ive never been with this girl or anything but shes the girl ill always remember. i dont think i will ever feel same way about someone?

Jesus. will you just ask her out already, and put us all out of our misery



Here, give me her number - I'll facking do it for you!

epgc3fyqirnbsx

I suppose I like the idea of going out with someone but when it comes down to it I just couldn't be arsed putting in so much effort.
I have been called a commitmentphobe but in reality I'm just lazy/indifferent.

Friends seem to think this will change when I meet 'the one' but I couldn't see it, my me time is too important.
But I dont see anything overly wrong with this as long as I'm straight up with people and happy in myself

Nulty

I'm not relationship material at present. I picked "Too stuck in my ways" but im unemployed and have no real peospects of starting a career in the immediate future. That what I'm working on for now and I couldn't juggle a relationship aswell. Priorities and all. Plus I'll be better relationship material when I get the other one sorted.

Makes sense, no?

mikom

Long term relationship with someone who has grown to be my best friend.

Gummy Panda

I'm a panda. We like our space

bazmaiden

Gummy Panda wrote: »

I'm a panda. We like our space

and from what I hear you have pretty much no interest in intercourse,

Abi

mikom wrote: »

Long term relationship with someone who has grown to be my best friend.

Biggins! thats not funny. Give Mikom back his account!



:pac:

Fall Guy

I tend to idolise girls I fancy which leads to a mild panic attack whenever they are in the same room as me, my heart rate shoots up and my mouth goes all dry and I can't think of a single conversation starter to use. I usually end up scowling at the girl if they look at me as I'm so scared of them not liking me so I don't want to make out that I like them. God I'm so lonely.

mikom

Gummy Panda wrote: »

I'm a panda. We like our space

Plus the fact that they eat-shoots-and leaves.

ZzubZzub

I'm single cause I realised I'm at an age where I need to be ok with being by myself! I'm 21, been in 2 relationships consecutively since I was 15, so I'm used to always having someone there.

The ex and I broke up 3 months ago, and in that 3 months I've only slept with him.. I'm a terrible excuse of a single person. Just terrible!

Gummy Panda

bazmaiden wrote: »

and from what I hear you have pretty much no interest in intercourse,

Depends on who it is with

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipAosfx0oaM

mikom

Abitar wrote: »

Biggins! thats not funny. Give Mikom back his account!



:pac:

Occasionally, just occasionally mind, i drop the attempts at humor.
Normal service will now resume.

candy-gal1

tis true though, lol some pandas do want relationships! am in a long term relationship with one who is also my best friend!

bazmaiden

mikom wrote: »

Occasionally, just occasionally mind, i drop the attempts at humor.
Normal service will now resume.

Thank God I was worried there for a minute,

candy-gal1 wrote: »

tis true though, lol some pandas do want relationships! am in a long term relationship with one who is also my best friend!

You are in a long term relationship with a panda?

candy-gal1