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Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 129 ✭✭HistoryMania


    Feeling a bit defeated at the moment. Don't know if its the time of year or what could be wrong. I took my sleeping pills hours ago and I am still wide awake.

    So much has being going through my head lately. I don't I was doing ok with college and all that, but the more it goes on the more pressure seems to be building up. I am also going to try and apply for Trinity this year, but honestly don't think I have it in me to even consider this.

    I've being feeling completely weird the past few weeks and I don't know why. My psych appoint ( first one in three years) is in Feb, hopefully can push this up a bit further.

    Sorry for venting in her, this is the only place I feel I can talk out.

    Sorry again for the rambling


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 650 ✭✭✭handbagmad


    If people don't shut up about Christmas money presents and the whole lot I think I will loose my mind. I hate it. So FALSE and stressful. I have declined all party invites and have chose to spend the day alone with a few box sets to watch.
    Not handling my moods well at all
    Can't wait for this stupid money drivin retail holiday to be over. Im better off to be alone don't want to bring others down with me


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 650 ✭✭✭handbagmad


    Im also here listen to the howling wind and rain outside n all I want to do is go for a walk in it.


  • Registered Users Posts: 7,096 ✭✭✭HalloweenJack


    bob50 wrote: »
    anyway my question is has anybody went for counselling for depression ? what if anything did it do to help you

    My own experience is that you talk all about your feelings and emotions. but you still feel the same at the end of the session have went for about 8 sessions and still feel none the wiser

    Thanks in advance for replies
    From my own experience, keep at it.

    I know I got a lot worse before I got better and after a few months I felt really frustrated that I was going nowhere and actually getting worse but it worked wonders for me in the end.

    I think at the time, I didn't really know just how big of a problem I really had so once I got in there, there was a lot to get through and it took a lot longer.

    Unfortunately, it's not a quick fix. There is no quick fix for depression. It will take time. That probably isn't what you want to hear but it's the truth. Overall, I had a very good experience with counselling but it was far from easy or straightforward.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    bob50 wrote: »
    Hi Herisson, did you get a chance to go to the doc ?

    I haven't had the chance. If I do I know he will put me back on anti d, its his solution to everything;put them on a tablet. I don't want to go back on them, they didn't help me.

    Counselling has helped me more. Obviously I still am depressed but counselling has helped me more than the pills did. It's good to talk things out.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 43 LanaFey


    Hi everyone, I'm new here. Decided to register so I could post in this thread, hope nobody minds.

    I recently paid a visit to my GP about my anxiety/depression which is taking over my life at the moment (or so it feels). I've always been a pretty anxious person which has varied in intensity over the years. I've just started seeing someone for the first time in a few years (with my anxiety/depression issues it wasn't really an option for a while and I had no interest anyway) and as nice as that is, it seems to have really shone a spotlight on my anxiety problems which I wasn't expecting and isn't very pleasant :( has anyone else experienced this? I'm not naive enough to think that getting into a relationship was going to solve my problems but I wasn't expecting it to exacerbate them.

    Anyway the thought of losing one of the few good things that has happened in my life recently (the relationship) shocked me into action which is why I spoke to my GP which I haven't done before (last time I was majorly depressed I got treatment through Pieta House which was a literal lifesaver). She prescribed me Lexapro to start off with and recommended some counsellors for me who I am going to contact about appointments in the new year, she thinks I could benefit from CBT.

    I'm a bit worried about the potential side effects of the Lexapro but I'm willing to give it a go. Been on it for a week now, but the doctor said I won't feel the effects for a few weeks.

    I'm struggling at the moment, with Christmas and all. Can't concentrate on work or anything. Nobody in my life is aware of what's going on. I don't want to talk or interact with anyone but at the same time I hate feeling lonely/isolated so I just feel stressed and exhausted all the time. I kind of wish I could hibernate through Christmas and the New Year but I'm not looking forward to January either! I'm trying to be optimistic about the meds and counselling working in the New Year and taking it one day at a time, but it's tough.

    Anyway, apologies for the long ramble- I hope Christmas is as pleasant and stress-free for all of you as it possibly can be!


  • Registered Users Posts: 535 ✭✭✭bob50


    LanaFey wrote: »
    Hi everyone, I'm new here. Decided to register so I could post in this thread, hope nobody minds.

    I recently paid a visit to my GP about my anxiety/depression which is taking over my life at the moment (or so it feels). I've always been a pretty anxious person which has varied in intensity over the years. I've just started seeing someone for the first time in a few years (with my anxiety/depression issues it wasn't really an option for a while and I had no interest anyway) and as nice as that is, it seems to have really shone a spotlight on my anxiety problems which I wasn't expecting and isn't very pleasant :( has anyone else experienced this? I'm not naive enough to think that getting into a relationship was going to solve my problems but I wasn't expecting it to exacerbate them.

    Anyway the thought of losing one of the few good things that has happened in my life recently (the relationship) shocked me into action which is why I spoke to my GP which I haven't done before (last time I was majorly depressed I got treatment through Pieta House which was a literal lifesaver). She prescribed me Lexapro to start off with and recommended some counsellors for me who I am going to contact about appointments in the new year, she thinks I could benefit from CBT.

    I'm a bit worried about the potential side effects of the Lexapro but I'm willing to give it a go. Been on it for a week now, but the doctor said I won't feel the effects for a few weeks.

    I'm struggling at the moment, with Christmas and all. Can't concentrate on work or anything. Nobody in my life is aware of what's going on. I don't want to talk or interact with anyone but at the same time I hate feeling lonely/isolated so I just feel stressed and exhausted all the time. I kind of wish I could hibernate through Christmas and the New Year but I'm not looking forward to January either! I'm trying to be optimistic about the meds and counselling working in the New Year and taking it one day at a time, but it's tough.

    Anyway, apologies for the long ramble- I hope Christmas is as pleasant and stress-free for all of you as it possibly can be!

    I know how you feel this Christmas so far has been hard for me to take in stay with meds they should kick in soon all the best


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    First christmas just me and Soph. Kinda sad./


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    cloud493 wrote: »
    First christmas just me and Soph. Kinda sad./

    :(

    *hugs*


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 650 ✭✭✭handbagmad


    Its all just **** how the hell an I gonna sit wit 10 ppl tomorrow hate it hate it hate it. It's all crap


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  • Registered Users Posts: 4,400 ✭✭✭lukesmom


    bob50 wrote: »
    Ive been suffering with moderate depression for last 10 years anyway I am on meds for it which help a bit

    I have a question 2 months ago I went for bereavement counselling as I had lost my mother in july and I was struggling with her passing, I actually went for bereavement counselling but turned into depression counselling anyway my question is has anybody went for counselling for depression ? what if anything did it do to help you

    My own experience is that you talk all about your feelings and emotions. but you still feel the same at the end of the session have went for about 8 sessions and still feel none the wiser

    Thanks in advance for replies

    I'm on my fourth session and find it's helping me much more than I ever thought it would. It's helping to make sense of the whys and how's of me getting depression and anxiety. The psychologist simplifies it for me and breaks it down piece by piece so I can rationalise how I felt and how I now feel.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 650 ✭✭✭handbagmad


    Its a lonely day


  • Registered Users Posts: 18,106 ✭✭✭✭RobbingBandit


    I'm sat on a bed in a b and b first christmas on my own, my name life is changing for the better but it is very hard to stay motivated, my brother asked me to come out for dinner with the family, I said no way if I go back I will never get away from them or worse I will do something stupid. I just need to look on this situation as me finally being free, free at last.


  • Registered Users Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    That is incredible fortitude Bandit! You're going to go places with that resolve. By going places I mean, leading a good life.

    For others here suffering, try give yourself a day or two of not worrying. Now I know that sounds like I'm talking through my hole but I spend up to 8 hours a day staring at a mirror and worrying. I know I will not get over it, but I have said to myself, no matter what my worst fears are, I'm taking a break from that. It is as it is. So I'm saying a day or two to myself because I know for a fact if I said a longer period of time it'd be too daunting.

    So **** all my fears for a couple of days. Nothing is going to hurt me, even if I look in the mirror and see the worst things imaginable I'm just not having it. (This is not related to it being christmas btw).

    All the best :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,252 ✭✭✭norwegianwood


    Feeling sad and empty at Christmas is so hard when everyone around you is happy. :(


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,400 ✭✭✭lukesmom


    Feeling sad and empty at Christmas is so hard when everyone around you is happy. :(

    So sorry u feel this way :( here is a virtual hug I know it's not much but I mean it x


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 59,905 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Feeling sad and empty at Christmas is so hard when everyone around you is happy. :(

    At home with flatmate and dog watching ****e. Gave up on doing this day years ago. I know some people have to and find it very stressful and hope you are ok, i'm adding a virtual hug for you.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 59,905 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Registered with a site for online support as i'm more likely to communicate that way than face to face.. But. The site is painfully awkward to navigate or post in.. I have a headache after two hours battling around with it.. :(


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,400 ✭✭✭lukesmom


    Registered with a site for online support as i'm more likely to communicate that way than face to face.. But. The site is painfully awkward to navigate or post in.. I have a headache after two hours battling around with it.. :(

    I recommend a site called nomorepanic


  • Registered Users Posts: 43 LanaFey


    Feeling very up and down this Christmas... overall it hasn't been as bad as I anticipated but I just feel completely zapped of energy, don't want to do anything, then feeling guilty because I'm not doing anything, especially at Christmas when everyone is in such good form :(

    Not sure if the meds are having any effect, I think I feel less anxious overall but at the same time I feel more depressed than usual.

    I'm not looking forward to January at all... it's always been the worst month of the year for me. On the plus side I will be starting counselling (need to work up the nerve to ring the counsellor first though!) and meeting with my GP to discuss whether or not the medication is working. So at least it feels like I'm doing something.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 650 ✭✭✭handbagmad


    So folks today is my birthday officially another year older non the wiser :P
    On reflection of the past year its been some rollercoaster ride some highs, many lows.
    My first Xmas and new year as a singleton in 8 years.
    I have many wounds to heal but with hope i can piece my life back together.
    All we can really do is hope and take it a step at a time eh?


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 59,905 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Have a good birthday, and i hope it's a good year for you.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 559 ✭✭✭Maura74


    LanaFey wrote: »
    Feeling very up and down this Christmas... overall it hasn't been as bad as I anticipated but I just feel completely zapped of energy, don't want to do anything, then feeling guilty because I'm not doing anything, especially at Christmas when everyone is in such good form :(

    Not sure if the meds are having any effect, I think I feel less anxious overall but at the same time I feel more depressed than usual.

    I'm not looking forward to January at all... it's always been the worst month of the year for me. On the plus side I will be starting counselling (need to work up the nerve to ring the counsellor first though!) and meeting with my GP to discuss whether or not the medication is working. So at least it feels like I'm doing something.

    Sorry you are feeling like this over Christmas period, friend of mine had the same feeling and it turn out that she was suffering from condition of seasonal affective disorder, maybe the link will be of help to you.

    http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Seasonal-affective-disorder/Pages/Introduction.aspx


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 59,905 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    It's so quiet, nearly not able for the silence, it'll be the same at work later. Ah well.. Once i distract myself from thinking too much i should be ok..

    Hope that all of you here are managing as best you can with what can be a very testing time of year..


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,604 ✭✭✭writer_lady170


    had a weird few days over christmas, was missing a family member who sadly passed away around this time of year. All felt very strange and my feelings were all over the place, one minute very happy and the next very sad. Still managed to enjoy most of christmas in the circumstances though:) Spent it in Cork with my granny, family and a few cousins


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,400 ✭✭✭lukesmom


    Does anybody else here obsess about the medications they are on? Like googling withdrawal symptoms when you come off them. I wind myself up so badly doing this . I'm due to come off one in feb that has caused me 2 stone weight gain and I keep hearing horror stories about coming off them even though I need to. :(


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 737 ✭✭✭Yellow121


    lukesmom wrote: »
    Does anybody else here obsess about the medications they are on? Like googling withdrawal symptoms when you come off them. I wind myself up so badly doing this . I'm due to come off one in feb that has caused me 2 stone weight gain and I keep hearing horror stories about coming off them even though I need to. :(

    I do this. What I was told before is that when you look up reviews for different medications you have to remember that it's more likely that people who had negative experiences will post their views.
    Doesn't change the fact that it has happened for those people though and it could happen to you. I read about a thing that was described as a zap in your head happening when you come off a certain drug. Tried to convince myself it was only silly Americans moaning about it, turned out it was true and very uncomfortable/painful.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    Im so anxious about New Years. I have goals set out and im just psyching myself out that i cant do them, like i cant lose the weight that i cant get rid of my anxiety.

    I dont want to go out tonight, i want to be left alone but i know if i do that ill be unhappy and if i go out and socialise ill be uncomfortable too.

    Im just feeling really down right now.

    I really dont like New Years at all, i always have a terrible time tbh.


  • Registered Users Posts: 43 LanaFey


    I did similarly when I got my prescription lukesmom, googled side effects and freaked myself out :( I've just gotten into a relationship and lost a fair amount of weight last year and any side effects to do with gaining the weight back or losing my sex drive really scare me. However like Yellow121 said I reminded myself that unhappy people are more likely to post about the negative things than happy people, and I've barred myself from looking it up any more because it does increase my anxiety and it's not doing me any favours. I did find some positive stories too, and I remind myself that my doctor wouldn't have prescribed this medication if she didn't think it would help.

    Have you spoken with your doctor about your concerns lukesmom? He/she might be able to reassure you- my doctor warned me about withdrawal symptoms and explained that if I decide to come off the meds she would gradually reduce the dosage to try and avoid them, which was good to know.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 4,400 ✭✭✭lukesmom


    Yeah Lanafey my psych doctor knows all about my concerns and has assured me it will be a very gradual withdrawal just like you were told. It doesn't stop me fearing the worst at times though and I know the worrying does not help me one bit


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