Doing "it" in the parents house....

neversuitedher

Recently i starting seeing a guy ive know for a few years, Im 20 and he's 19. We slept together in each other houses (both living at home) and tried (and failed) to sneak out in the morning, the thing is our parents have both said they are completly "cool" with it. I just feel really bad/embarassed about the whole thing though, i think its a bit disrespectful to be "at it" in the house...

What do you think, have times changed, Are parents allowing their kids to do this now, no way would it have happened "back in the day"

:eek:

AnonoBoy

neversuitedher wrote: »

Recently i starting seeing a guy ive know for a few years, Im 20 and he's 19. We slept together in each other houses (both living at home) and tried (and failed) to sneak out in the morning, the thing is our parents have both said they are completly "cool" with it. I just feel really bad/embarassed about the whole thing though, i think its a bit disrespectful to be "at it" in the house...

What do you think, have times changed, Are parents allowing their kids to do this now, no way would it have happened "back in the day"

:eek:

Sex outside marriage?

Obviously you're both going to hell so nothing I can say will help.

Enjoy your eternal damnation.

brendansmith

neversuitedher wrote: »

Recently i starting seeing a guy ive know for a few years, Im 20 and he's 19. We slept together in each other houses (both living at home) and tried (and failed) to sneak out in the morning, the thing is our parents have both said they are completly "cool" with it. I just feel really bad/embarassed about the whole thing though, i think its a bit disrespectful to be "at it" in the house...

What do you think, have times changed, Are parents allowing their kids to do this now, no way would it have happened "back in the day"

:eek:

If they are cool with it why not see how far you can go?

Throat job at the dinner table etc

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

neversuitedher wrote: »

Recently i starting seeing a guy ive know for a few years, Im 20 and he's 19. We slept together in each other houses (both living at home) and tried (and failed) to sneak out in the morning, the thing is our parents have both said they are completly "cool" with it. I just feel really bad/embarassed about the whole thing though, i think its a bit disrespectful to be "at it" in the house...

What do you think, have times changed, Are parents allowing their kids to do this now, no way would it have happened "back in the day"

:eek:

There's nothing wrong with it. I used to do it all the time when I was stating over at my girlfriend's parents house. Sometimes id'd even do it at the table during breakfast.

We are talking about drinking tea, right?

Overheal

Wheres the option for "I havent dont it enough in my parent's place to be able to offer a parent's perspective..."

phantom_lord

i had girlfriends parents let me stay over when i was a teenager, my parents wouldn't have done the same and i could never imagine letting my children do it though! especially if i had a daughter.

brendansmith

phantom_lord wrote: »

i had girlfriends parents let me stay over when i was a teenager, my parents wouldn't have done the same and i could never imagine letting my children do it though! especially if i had a daughter.

Some spotty little thug pounding away on your daughter whilst you cook his dinner so he has the energy to give her another ride. I dont think so.

FearDark

sex?

Ruu_Old

No sex please, we're Irish!

TheKells

I don't have wains yet but
If it was my son then I'd highfive him....but only if the girl was hot.
My daughter, well don't be silly, she wouldn't do things like that!:)

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

brendansmith wrote: »

Some spotty little thug pounding away on your daughter whilst you cook his dinner so he has the energy to give her another ride. I dont think so.

... said the man with David Becham's undie-shot in his sig!

Anyway, who said anything about a guy...? The girl might be a lesbain and have her griflriend over.

brendansmith

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

... said the man with David Becham's undie-shot in his sig!

Anyway, who said anything about a guy...? The girl might be a lesbain and have her griflriend over.

hhhhhhhmmmmmmmm. So you are saying lickouts at the dinner table......interesting.

Degag

Think it comes down to age and maturity. Anything under 18, definately not. 18 -21 depends on attitude and maturity. Anything over that is a bit over bearing. They should be well able to think for themselves at that age and make their own decisions.

Interesting about the different views between boys and girls. I'd be the same though if i had a daughter, would be far more protective of her than a son!

JohnCleary

uh drunk edit

ChocolateSauce

OP, can you actually give a single reason why having sex is disrespecting your parents?

It isn't at all, unless they asked you not to.

brendansmith

ChocolateSauce wrote: »

OP, can you actually give a single reason why having sex is disrespecting your parents?

It isn't at all, unless they asked you not to.

You dont think sodomising someones daughter while they watch telly in the next room is disrespectful???

4zn76tysfajdxp

brendansmith wrote: »

You dont think sodomising someones daughter while they watch telly in the next room is disrespectful???

Heavens no.

cruiser178

The day my daughter walks up my driveway,boyfriend in tail,with his pyjamas under his arm, is the day my steel toe caps get cleaned.

ChocolateSauce

brendansmith wrote: »

You dont think sodomising someones daughter while they watch telly in the next room is disrespectful???

No I don't, and so far no one has been able to give me a good reason why it is, except under the circumstances whereby the parents asked them not to, in which case you are disrespecting their wish to have dominion over their home.

cruiser178

ChocolateSauce wrote: »

No I don't, and so far no one has been able to give me a good reason why it is, except under the circumstances whereby the parents asked them not to, in which case you are disrespecting their wish to have dominion over their home.

see above post ^^^^

brendansmith

ChocolateSauce wrote: »

No I don't, and so far no one has been able to give me a good reason why it is, except under the circumstances whereby the parents asked them not to, in which case you are disrespecting their wish to have dominion over their home.

I would imagine no parent wants to know about their child having sex (at any age) in the same way no child wants to know about their parents having sex.

I think the OP meant their parent were ok about sleepovers and not penetrative activities.

OnTheBalls

My girlfriends dad caught us having sex in his living room before. I think he thought it was funny all though it was pretty weird. Now he just jokes about it! I'm 21 she's 19 by the way.

Buford T Justice

Yes yes yes, whilst I'm sure that this is very fascinating for eveyone, the important question I think that we all want to ask is




What would Trent say about this?

NothingMan

When I was 17, girl 16 she stayed over and she slept in our uncomfortable spare bed. My Mother gave out saying she should have just slept in my bed cos it's comfortable. Then again my mam is cooler than all your mothers. Hell, since then i've done it in my mams bed nevermind the house. I did make sure she wasn't in it though.

Saying that since I was 18 I lived in a granny flat out the back so could get away with filthy things out there. Only moved out 3 months ago with the gf and now I don't have to worry at all about screams being heard.

(as long as I dispose of the hookers bodies without being seen)

AckwelFoley

i used to ride my ex all over the gaff when her parents were in bed.

When i was done i put her back in her cot

She was in college most of the time we were at it so it was rest time when she was at home

jm99

i haven't slept over in the girlfriends never mind scored there after 14 months. she stays over at mine though and i'm sure we've been heard by my parents. we tend to get a bit carried away after a night out!!!

Zainal

Your parents probably did it when you're in the house, so you're just returning the favour.

dario28

This is what you may want to avoid !!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhvbEh8Dv5g

youcancallmeal

Different strokes for different folks

GavRedKing

I have stayed over with ex's before and had sex before in my house and theres, dont realy see the problem with it, if you have being allowed to stay chances are the parents know what could and probably will happen and are trusting of both of you.

Aidric

youcancallme>al wrote: »

Different strokes for different folks

A steady medium paced stroke works best in the company of ones folks.

phasers

My brother tried it once, my mam waited til he was finished, went up to his room and bate the shyte out of him in front of his girlfriend

orourkeda

phasers wrote: »

My brother tried it once, my mam waited til he was finished, went up to his room and bate the shyte out of him in front of his girlfriend

sounds like your ma needs a good ride

blackbetty69

what harm is it doin on anyone? a bit of noise pollution in the house thatl be over in 10 mins isnt gonna hurt ne1..

Gone Drinking

My parents didn't mind, i'd bring back girls and they'd leave in the morning.. no biggie. I have a long time girlfriend now and her parents don't mind us sleeping together in her house when we visit. I'd never have gone back to a girls house if it was a one night stand, unless i knew her parents were away.

I remember one night, many moons ago me and my best mate came home to my house after a night out drinking with this bird he'd been kissing about a week. We'd planned to come home and just have a few beers but turns out thats not what she was looking for.

She asked us to roast her, so once my mate gave the nod, we did.

Anyway, the heat generated in the room set off the smoke alarm and in my parents all the smoke alarms are connected (one goes off, they all go off) so my dad came banging on my bedroom door, thankfully i'd locked it.

I just told him we were smoking, he turned them off and that was that, thankfully.

I know one girl who went back to a guys house and was riding him downstairs when his mother burst in and started giving out to her while she was sitting there.. on him.. Imagine that :E

dilallio

JohnCleary wrote: »

My oul lads house is about the most posh/expensive area that I can do 'it' in the West of Ireland, so that in it's own right makes it fun tbh

Is this it : http://www.bruening-minden.de/Tims%20Reise%20Unterordner/Galway/imagepages/image53.html

Nice one

Bonito

My ex long term girlf and I broke in her mothers new bed before her and her Boyf

Epic win

'Til I realised - "wait, didn't your bed used to belong to your mum?"

It then turned to epic fail

But THEN, "ah well, consider it revenge for making you sleep where she had sex"

Epic revenge win

Bonito

blackbetty69 wrote: »

what harm is it doin on anyone? a bit of noise pollution in the house thatl be over in 10 mins isnt gonna hurt ne1..

10 mins????

orourkeda

Bonito wrote: »

10 mins????

Yeah 15 Seconds I know. Terrible

geeky

It'd depend on two things - the maturity of my kid and their relationship.

If my kid seems to have a fairly healthy attitude to sex and is with someone who respects him/her, then I've zero trouble with it. Hey, it might be a bit awkward, but it's better than our in a field somewhere.

On the other hand, I don't think it's cool for anyone to be taking one night stands home every other other night of the week and subjecting people in the house to the stilted morning after. I'd say that about anyone I live with, frankly. And if a son or daughter of mine was inclined towards doing that, I'd have a frank discussion with them about sex, maturity, and getting hurt - and herpes. I'd show them graphic pictures of herpes.

orourkeda

geeky wrote: »

It'd depend on two things - the maturity of my kid and their relationship.

If my kid seems to have a fairly healthy attitude to sex and is with someone who respects him/her, then I've zero trouble with it. Hey, it might be a bit awkward, but it's better than our in a field somewhere.

On the other hand, I don't think it's cool for anyone to be taking one night stands home every other other night of the week and subjecting people in the house to the stilted morning after. I'd say that about anyone I live with, frankly. And if a son or daughter of mine was inclined towards doing that, I'd have a frank discussion with them about sex, maturity, and getting hurt - and herpes. I'd show them graphic pictures of herpes.

Its better than them field earwigs in your bag or hootenanny though

geeky

orourkeda wrote: »

Its better than them field earwigs in your bag or hootenanny though

Thanked for the use of 'hootenanny'.

I see your point, but I'm a bit leary of being an enabler for my kid's self-destructive behaviour. For example, if they were smart about drink/recreational drugs, I'd like to think I'll be cool about letting them enjoy themselves in the house. If they're a raging alco, or want to keep their smack spoon in the kitchen cabinet, that's another matter.

It seems that making destructive behavior difficult without adding to the dangers they face is a tricky balance, but I'd rather try and get it half-right rather than give up altogether.

geeky

Gone Drinking wrote: »

I remember one night, many moons ago me and my best mate came home to my house after a night out drinking with this bird he'd been kissing about a week. We'd planned to come home and just have a few beers but turns out thats not what she was looking for.

She asked us to roast her, so once my mate gave the nod, we did.

Anyway, the heat generated in the room set off the smoke alarm...

Pics or GTFO

psychopaul

go nuts and do it

Noodleworm

Well me and they boyfriend been staying at each others parents houses since we were 17/18. We were doing a PLC course and lived an hour away from each other so overnight was practical. It was separate rooms and everything.
We're in college now in Dublin and and stay at each others houses but still go to parents houses at weekends.
Id say they can guess what we get up to when their not around but in their houses separate rooms save any embarrassment.
Anyway, Id say its fine for them to have them stay over in separate rooms from about 17 up, depending on maturity. Mainly just when their finished school, if its long term.

If I were a parent Id say its ok to share if their about 19 and its a serious long term relationship, If their able to do it elsewhere they're less likely to be doing it in your house.

dylano_k

brendansmith wrote: »

Some spotty little thug pounding away on your daughter whilst you cook his dinner so he has the energy to give her another ride. I dont think so.

But if it was your son, its a pat on the back and a can of red bull for dinner, then telling him not to wear er out cos you want a go too:pac:

Nike_Dude

My ex's parents used to let me stay over but I had to sleep in the spare room. Oddly though her mother told her that she knew we were having sex in the house anyway but didnt mind as long as we were "discreet". She didnt want us sharing rooms so as not to be a "bad influence" on her younger brother, even though he was already out ridin any girl he could :rolleyes:

dylano_k

Nike_Dude wrote: »

My ex's parents used to let me stay over but I had to sleep in the spare room. Oddly though her mother told her that she knew we were having sex in the house anyway but didnt mind as long as we were "discreet". She didnt want us sharing rooms so as not to be a "bad influence" on her younger brother, even though he was already out ridin any girl he could :rolleyes:

Did you make the younger brother smell your fingers at breakfast ?

phasers

orourkeda wrote: »

sounds like your ma needs a good ride

Yeah she said you're not really doing it for her anymore

Nike_Dude

dylano_k wrote: »

Did you make the younger brother smell your fingers at breakfast ?

Yes No of course not

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

cruiser178 wrote: »

The day my daughter walks up my driveway,boyfriend in tail,with his pyjamas under his arm, is the day my steel toe caps get cleaned.

He's unlikley to be needing pyjamas.:D