is it slutty for a girl to have a one night stand?

mrets

any thoughts????

Novella

I think if a girl wants to sleep with someone, she should be able to, without having anyone class her as a slut.

merlin39

God no, go for it girl. love them and leave them..

minidazzler

No, if a girl wants to sleep with someone she can go ahead and do it, it's her body.

I would prefer she was safe (well all people were safe about it), but if not, again, it's her body. Do as she pleases.

liah

No.

Why would it be?

Kinky Slinky

Yes

mrets

Kinky Slinky wrote: »

Yes

a reason maybe???

krudler

It always seems to be the girl who's labeled as the slut, the guy just gets away with being a guy. I guess (and this is purely from a guys perspective, feel free to correct me) that sex is a lot more invasive for a woman than a man, we're entering your body in probably the most personal act there is, so if a girl is seen as someone who'll let anyone do this naturally people will see her as slutty, especially if its a fairly regular occurance

Theres nothing wrong with enjoying sex, its what its meant to be, fun and enjoyable, but for me one night stands just dont do it, only ever had one and it was the most awkward, crappy sex ever, personally to me sex is something to be enjoyed with someone you feel close to or more of an attraction than just drunken lust or whatever (lets face it most ONS's are a result of booze) each to their own though.

Cupcake_Crisis

Absolutely not If a woman wants to have protected, consentual, no strings attached sex more ower to her!! Why should it be any different for a woman than it is for a man?

beks101

In a word, no.

But discretion is the name of the game for a woman who wants to have a few but doesn't want to be labelled as one. That's the world we live in.

Kinky Slinky

mrets wrote: »

a reason maybe???

a woman with the morals of a man

blackbetty69

depends on how often she does it

Gauge

Kinky Slinky wrote: »

a woman with the morals of a man

I wasn't aware morals were gendered.

minidazzler

Kinky Slinky wrote: »

a woman with the morals of a man

Thanks, for generalising all men! Cos we all just think with our sexual organs and don't think of concequences.

Gary ITR

For the love of God, of course not. At the end of the day it's only sex

enry

mrets wrote: »

any thoughts????

every night?

who cares as long as she does not give you crabbs

Novella

Kinky Slinky wrote: »

a woman with the morals of a man

That's a ridiculous statement. Not all men have the same morals. Some people enjoy casual sex and engaging in one night stand's. If it's done in a way that is safe etc, what exactly is the problem with it?

merlin39

enry wrote: »

every night?

who cares as long as she does not give you crabbs

Would you be up for it everynite. means going out seven nites a week! Once a week would be grand.

pikachucheeks

merlin39 wrote: »

Would you be up for it everynite. means going out seven nites a week!

... Not every one-night stand involves going out to pubs and clubs, surely?

minidazzler

merlin39 wrote: »

Would you be up for it everynite. means going out seven nites a week! Once a week would be grand.

The internet exists for a reason!!!

Theresalwaysone

If its with me. No.

If I hear about her with someone else. Yes.


joking

enry

merlin39 wrote: »

Would you be up for it everynite. means going out seven nites a week! Once a week would be grand.

its been so long since i've been up for it, i worry that they have changed it. god who has the energy. but the way i see things, do what you want as long as your not hurting anyone else. you just have to remember its just sex but it can get messy

Kinky Slinky

Novella wrote: »

That's a ridiculous statement. Not all men have the same morals. Some people enjoy casual sex and engaging in one night stand's. If it's done in a way that is safe etc, what exactly is the problem with it?

If an attractive woman came up to a man and asked for sex on a Saturday night I'd guarantee the majority would say yes, if the sexes were interchanged I don’t think there would be the same result, Personally I don't have a problem with it ,that’s just my opinion on the topic

brendansmith

IMO......yeah a bit.

Its a bit classless, I she wants to and dosnt care what the neighbours might say thats fine but I think its a bit laddish tbh.

Maybe im just old fashioned.

merlin39

pikachucheeks wrote: »

... Not every one-night stand involves going out to pubs and clubs, surely?

Where would you meet them then?

Novella

Kinky Slinky wrote: »

If an attractive woman came up to a man and asked for sex on a Saturday night I'd guarantee the majority would say yes, if the sexes were interchanged I don’t think there would be the same result, Personally I don't have a problem with it ,that’s just my opinion on the topic

That's fair enough! You think it's slutty for a woman to have a ONS, do you think the same of a man then?

Bob_Harris

I'm going to vote for a yes. A poll would could be interesting.

Professey Chin

Nope.Definately not.Same rules apply to both genders ie both can enjoy casual/ONSs without getting a bad name.

Kinky Slinky

Novella wrote: »

That's fair enough! You think it's slutty for a woman to have a ONS, do you think the same of a man then?

No, I know I am being a hypocrite but I think it’s socially more acceptable for a man to have a ons than a woman

krudler

A former friend of my OH's has a reputation for being a slut, she'll shag literally anything with a dick, in the year they lived together she must have slept with well over 100 men,she went out at least 3 nights a week and at least 1 of those nights would have a one night stand, sometimes every night, and a lot of it was unprotected, she told us she gets "embarassed" buying condoms, yet sleeping with random blokes isnt? Its gotten to the stage now where guys will tell their friends about the girl you're guaranteed a shag off of if it hits 2am and you havent pulled, so her slutty reputation is well deserved imo

pikachucheeks

merlin39 wrote: »

Where would you meet them then?

Could be friends with them, meet them online, through college or work, through a club ... List is endless.

My point being, not all one night stands are based around going out to bars, getting drunk then pulling someone. There's a variety of ways to meet people, even if it's just for a one nighter.

I don't think it's slutty. It's a personal choice.

merlin39

krudler wrote: »

A former friend of my OH's has a reputation for being a slut, she'll shag literally anything with a dick, in the year they lived together she must have slept with well over 100 men,she went out at least 3 nights a week and at least 1 of those nights would have a one night stand, sometimes every night, and a lot of it was unprotected, she told us she gets "embarassed" buying condoms, yet sleeping with random blokes isnt? Its gotten to the stage now where guys will tell their friends about the girl you're guaranteed a shag off of if it hits 2am and you havent pulled, so her slutty reputation is well deserved imo

that one sounds like the town bike.

I don't give a damn what someone else does in their sexlife, unless they are hurting themselves or others.
Or unless they are a part of my own.

Nathan251

hmmm, i think it depends on what criteria the woman uses to go ahead with the one night stand

slut if
...she does it just coz the guy buys her loads of drinks and is generally trying to be flash
...she does it for some petty superficial reason i.e. tattoo, nice tan, sixpack
...she does it on the basis of some status lie he has presented to her, be it his job or random achievement or whatever
....she needs to get drunk to commit to the act

not slut if
...she genuinely has a laugh with the guy, getting to know him over a period of many hours talking and both are single, mature, stable adults with a genuine mutual attraction and open and honest about what they are about to do

Professey Chin

Nathan251 wrote: »

hmmm, i think it depends on what criteria the woman uses to go ahead with the one night stand

slut if
...she does it just coz the guy buys her loads of drinks and is generally trying to be flash
...she does it for some petty superficial reason i.e. tattoo, nice tan, sixpack
...she does it on the basis of some status lie he has presented to her, be it his job or random achievement or whatever
....she needs to get drunk to commit to the act

not slut if
...she genuinely has a laugh with the guy, getting to know him over a period of many hours talking and both are single, mature, stable adults with a genuine mutual attraction and open and honest about what they are about to do

TBH your not slut requirements sounds like people looking to start something more then a ONS

merlin39

Nathan251 wrote: »

hmmm, i think it depends on what criteria the woman uses to go ahead with the one night stand

slut if
...she does it just coz the guy buys her loads of drinks and is generally trying to be flash
...she does it for some petty superficial reason i.e. tattoo, nice tan, sixpack
...she does it on the basis of some status lie he has presented to her, be it his job or random achievement or whatever
....she needs to get drunk to commit to the act

not slut if
...she genuinely has a laugh with the guy, getting to know him over a period of many hours talking and both are single, mature, stable adults with a genuine mutual attraction and open and honest about what they are about to do

What if it isnt "over a period of many hours". How bout an hour?

Joey the lips

Personally I always thought it "Slutty" for anyone, Mail,female to have a one night stand but then again at the end of the day if your free and s/he is willing why not enjoy being a slut for the night.... If that takes your fancy....

Nathan251

merlin39 wrote: »

What if it isnt "over a period of many hours". How bout an hour?

ya that's ok if they have "bonded"/connected

pikachucheeks

Nathan251 wrote: »

ya that's ok if they have "bonded"/connected

Why is a bond or connection important for a one-night stand though, considering you just want to have sex with them for a night, then most likely never talk to them again?

The_Kew_Tour

Sorry as a bloke I have to say that a girl should not be called a slut if she has a one night stand.

A guy is a legend if he does the same thing by his mates or whatever.

I have to say though even few mates I know if they met girl for one night stand they be like ah she was one filty thing etc but I often ask would they like for her to say same about them to her mates.

Guys sleep with 100 girls and there some sort of God status, if Girl has two one night stands she slut.

Im sorry but there something missing really isnt there.

Once she knows what she doing then there nothing wrong with it is there.

Nathan251

pikachucheeks wrote: »

Why is a bond or connection important for a one-night stand though, considering you just want to have sex with them for a night, then most likely never talk to them again?

isn' t that the definition of a slut though - having sex for the sake of the physical act of sex?

each to their own and far be it for me to judge...but i just have a less sick soulless awkward empty feeling inside if i have at least gotten the name of the person i am sleeping with and shared a few laughs (before the act, not during!!)

however, i personally have nothing against sluts but would prefer to avoid that kind of person myself

Professey Chin

Nathan251 wrote: »

isn' t that the definition of a slut though - having sex for the sake of the physical act of sex?

each to their own and far be it for me to judge...but i just have a less sick soulless awkward empty feeling side inside if i have at least gotten the name of the person i am sleeping with and shared a few laughs (before the act=not during!!)

however, i personally have nothing against sluts but would prefer to avoid that kind of person myself

I always defined a slut by more then just actions (ie lots of ONSs).
To me it was always more of a full attitude that goes with them too.Like they have lots of sex with lots of different people but never care about any possible consequences,are never careful,dont care who they hurt(if theyre in relationships at the time and still do it), are lax about protection and stuff like that.
That makes a slut to me, not a couple of ONSs

merlin39

Ultimate Chin wrote: »

I always defined a slut by more then just actions (ie lots of ONSs).
To me it was always more of a full attitude that goes with them too.Like they have lots of sex with lots of different people but never care about any possible consequences,are never careful,dont care who they hurt(if theyre in relationships at the time and still do it), are lax about protection and stuff like that.
That makes a slut to me, not a couple of ONSs

yes, would agree with that description of one. I was wondering there for a while.

Nathan251

Ultimate Chin wrote: »

I always defined a slut by more then just actions (ie lots of ONSs).
To me it was always more of a full attitude that goes with them too.Like they have lots of sex with lots of different people but never care about any possible consequences,are never careful,dont care who they hurt(if theyre in relationships at the time and still do it), are lax about protection and stuff like that.
That makes a slut to me, not a couple of ONSs

i hadn't thought about it too much but ya

Snowie

is it really that important to people...? who call her a slut and why ?

did she reject you and this is a defence mechanisim ?
or do you just not like her and are looking for a reason to call her mean things?

Call Me Jimmy

I don't think any girl is a slut for having sex, one night stands whatever. A slut in my mind is someone who lacks class, is vulgar etc. but having sex is nothing to do with it.

chughes

It's seems to me that the people who use the terms slut or slutty are more often than not females themselves. I've always been amused by the guys=legends/girls=sluts labels that are attached to people who indulge in serial monogamy. I do believe that females are harder on each other in this regard.
In answer to OP's question, I would say no.

Wibbs

If she's discrete no, if she's not yes. Ditto for a man.

Das Kitty

Well this thread would disagree with you chughes. Most of the slut calling is coming from men.

In my book, there is no such thing as a slut. There are women (and men but this thread is about women) who enjoy no-strings sex with people they find attractive, are safe about it and are doing it for the enjoyment of sex and intimacy.

Then there are women who have ONSs for reasons outside of this, to feel loved, to try to prove to themselves and the world that they are attractive, because they feel this is the only way a man would want them. How could you label a person with such low self esteem a slut and close the book? Or even in the case of one post put it about that said girl is a sure-lay for those who wish to take advantage of the girl's problems (before you pounce, I realise that the poster in question was saying others do this, not himself).

I find it all pretty depressing really.

scanlas

Das Kitty wrote: »

Well this thread would disagree with you chughes. Most of the slut calling is coming from men.

In my book, there is no such thing as a slut. There are women (and men but this thread is about women) who enjoy no-strings sex with people they find attractive, are safe about it and are doing it for the enjoyment of sex and intimacy.

Then there are women who have ONSs for reasons outside of this, to feel loved, to try to prove to themselves and the world that they are attractive, because they feel this is the only way a man would want them. How could you label a person with such low self esteem a slut and close the book? Or even in the case of one post put it about that said girl is a sure-lay for those who wish to take advantage of the girl's problems (before you pounce, I realise that the poster in question was saying others do this, not himself).

I find it all pretty depressing really.

It's not depressing in reality. Genocide is depressing.

Wibbs

scanlas wrote: »

It's not depressing in reality. Genocide is depressing.

Huh? No seriously... Huh?. Yes someone who may feel the need to sleep with as many people as possible because of possible self esteem issues is not up there with Pol Pot's best work, but Sheesh lets play compare and contrast..