cheer up and smile :)

scarymoon1 · 13-08-2009 07:46PM #1

ok, just out of curiousity, if a random guy tells you in a bar when you trying to buy a drink to cheer up or smile, is this a chat up line or is he just being sarcastic?

LadyJ · 13-08-2009 07:48PM

scarymoon1 wrote: »

ok, just out of curiousity, if a random guy tells you in a bar when you trying to buy a drink to cheer up or smile, is this a chat up line or is he just being sarcastic?

Happens to me all the fúcking time and tbh I don't give a crap what it is because it's really annoying and rude imo.

Theresalwaysone · 13-08-2009 07:52PM

Maybe you look sad? Sadder than the average bear?

jellie · 13-08-2009 07:52PM

LadyJ wrote: »

Happens to me all the fúcking time and tbh I don't give a crap what it is because it's really annoying and rude imo.

me too. maybe i look miserable or something :rolleyes: either way i usually have to restrain myself so i dont tell them to f*ck off. have often heard it from bus drivers

scarymoon1 · 13-08-2009 07:54PM

i was just wondering as i hate it - it puts me right off the guy and i just say nothing.

PCPhoto · 13-08-2009 07:54PM

he could just be trying to cheer you up (make you smile) ....

no offence but maybe you were just not looking like you were having fun and this guy just said to cheer up.

(mental note: stop saying cheer up and buying drinks to random girls at the bar)

LadyJ · 13-08-2009 07:54PM

I don't have to have a smile plastered all over my face all the time. Sometimes I'm thinking, sometimes I'm just concentrating on not bumping into people while walking through the pub but either way, it's a ridiculous comment to make to someone you don't even know and so incredibly irritating.

Will · 13-08-2009 07:55PM

Maybe just maybe he was just trying to be friendly and that's the best way he knew how? Not every guy is out to chat up a woman or be rude.

Manic Moran · 13-08-2009 07:57PM

In my case, I honestly mean it, and I don't reserve the comments to bars.

I do it often, and without regard to gender. Told a chap at dinner today to smile. Junior soldier, out of an artillery unit. Other than that, don't know him. He just looked a little glum.

I note that you don't seem to consider the possibility that you might have actually looked in need of a bit of cheering up. If you weren't, then just ignore it, no skin off my nose. Only trying to help.

NTM (Interloper)

LadyJ · 13-08-2009 07:59PM

If someone is feeling down though, that won't cheer them up. It'll just make them feel self-conscious. Plus, maybe they don't want to cheer up. Maybe someone just died or they've had some other bad news. I dunno, I just think it's rude.

Jesus Wept · 13-08-2009 08:00PM

Manic Moran wrote: »

In my case, I honestly mean it, and I don't reserve the comments to bars.

I do it often, and without regard to gender. Told a chap at dinner today to smile. Junior soldier, out of an artillery unit. Other than that, don't know him. He just looked a little glum.

I note that you don't seem to consider the possibility that you might have actually looked in need of a bit of cheering up.

NTM (Interloper)

I'm certain that cheered him up no end.

liah · 13-08-2009 08:02PM

Manic Moran wrote: »

In my case, I honestly mean it, and I don't reserve the comments to bars.

I do it often, and without regard to gender. Told a chap at dinner today to smile. Junior soldier, out of an artillery unit. Other than that, don't know him. He just looked a little glum.

NTM

Jaysus you would completely wreck my head then.

I, unfortunately, got stuck with the default non-expression of "bored" or "pissed off" or, according to some, "sad."

Doesn't mean I AM. It's my completely, utterly neutral face. All muscles relaxed, just usually thinking about stuff.

The amount of freaking times people tell me to cheer up or smile is utterly unfathomable. It drives me up the flipping wall. I get it, okay?! I can't freaking help how my face looks by default.

Christ, I can't smile all the time. Face would hurt.

Manic Moran · 13-08-2009 08:09PM

The-Rigger wrote: »

I'm certain that cheered him up no end.

To a point.

Sometimes it's nice to know that someone notices you. Granted, our situation is a little unique.

NTM

helimachoptor · 13-08-2009 08:14PM

Said it a few times but mostly to girls in bars but never as a prelude/start of a chat up. tbh some girls (and blokes) just have miserable looking faces unless they put effort into smiling

:)

Theresalwaysone · 13-08-2009 08:25PM

Seems to me from the limited responses here that telling a girl to cheer up will illicit the same response as telling them to "relax".

Just dont do it.

Jesus Wept · 13-08-2009 08:41PM

Manic Moran wrote: »

To a point.

Sometimes it's nice to know that someone notices you. Granted, our situation is a little unique.

NTM

While I understand that your intentions are good, imo it would be better to ask them if they are alright/ok, rather than telling to 'smile' or 'cheer up' or even better 'cheer up - it might never happen'.

liah · 13-08-2009 08:43PM

The-Rigger wrote: »

While I understand that your intentions are good, imo it would be better to ask them if they are alright/ok, rather than telling to 'smile' or 'cheer up' or even better 'cheer up - it might never happen'.

Wouldn't advise that either to be honest.
I keep getting asked that too and it provokes the same reaction. In a relationship now and he keeps asking "you okay?" whenever I'm at my default expression or not talking for a few minutes. Just as much a headwreck.

claireloopy · 13-08-2009 08:47PM

Got this a few times but not recently maybe i am just a happier person now!:)

lin lin · 13-08-2009 08:49PM

PCPhoto wrote: »

he could just be trying to cheer you up (make you smile) ....

no offence but maybe you were just not looking like you were having fun and this guy just said to cheer up.

(mental note: stop saying cheer up and buying drinks to random girls at the bar)

no no, there's nothing wrong with the buying drinks (if it's done right :-))

its the Cheer up, or Smile that's so fopping annoying

Manic Moran · 13-08-2009 09:20PM

Tell you what, then. I'll continue telling male soldiers to cheer up, and girls I'll buy the drinks.

Or something.

NTM

Sephiroth_dude · 13-08-2009 10:31PM

I have women say that to me all the time when I go to the bar or If Im sitting at the bar and I find it really annoying :mad:.

b3t4 · 13-08-2009 11:01PM

ARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHH

This is exactly what I want to say to people who say this kind of thing to me.

I can't think of a single thing, right now, that annoys me more. :mad:

The last thing I want to do is smile when people have said this to me. What I truly want to do is rip their heads off. That might make me smile but I'm not sure that's what they were thinking

Tar.Aldarion · 13-08-2009 11:28PM

Thought the thread was gonna be telling me to vheer up and smile, and I want to get what I do in sucha conversation...

*glare*

Eviledna · 13-08-2009 11:57PM

I find this annoying to no end...not so much for the cheer-up sentiment, more for the notion that a stranger would feel they have the right to tell me how to feel/emote.
It makes me think: "Oh dear, have I dulled your otherwise shiny lollipop and sunshine filled day with my average sentiments??"

It's not a gender thing, although some fellas seem to think it's cute. The shock on their face when they see a real frown (:mad:) afterwards...priceless.:pac:

Nervous Wreck · 14-08-2009 12:19AM

Tbh, saying "cheer up" to someone is pretty low down on the list of things that are gonna make them cheer up. When someone tells me to smile, I grit my teeth and fight back the urge to punch them.

dfx- · 14-08-2009 01:30AM

This is like the time I read that calling someone love was an infringement on manners :eek:

Novella · 14-08-2009 02:58AM

I fcuking hate being told to smile. Go fcuk yourself! 1, I am probably not unhappy and 2, why the fcuk would I cheer up just because some stranger told me to?!

xzanti · 14-08-2009 09:14AM

LadyJ wrote: »

Happens to me all the fúcking time and tbh I don't give a crap what it is because it's really annoying and rude imo.

I fcuking hate that..

cause like I'm really going to flash you a big toothy smile for that.. now fcuk off asshole.. :rolleyes:

Gauge · 14-08-2009 09:23AM

I hate it, I find it really patronising. It just so happens my default expression looks bored/a bit grumpy (after reading this thread it's nice to know I'm not the only one), so if my mind wanders while I'm waiting at a bar that's just how I'm going to look. Very annoying while you're minding your own business- thanks a lot, now I don't feel like smiling at all! I know a lot of guys just see it as harmless but it really is very, very irritating. Also "Who died?" is not an appropriate thing to ask someone ever, and "Cheer up, it might never happen!" is almost as bad.

The worst is when it's accompanied with a finger poke to my cheek. WHAT THE HELL. That's not going to get you a smile, it's going to get you warned that if you do that one more time you will draw back a stump. I just find it inexplicably rude to comment on a stranger's expression and invade their personal space like that.

jellie · 14-08-2009 09:49AM

The-Rigger wrote: »

'cheer up - it might never happen'.

ive often been tempted to reply "it already has" & spontaneously burst into tears for that one. i usually just glare at them though, i cant do tears quick enough.

ciagr297 · 14-08-2009 09:51AM

sar84 wrote: »

ive often been tempted to reply "it already has" & spontaneously burst into tears for that one. i usually just glare at them though, i cant do tears quick enough.

i've been sorely tempted to try this tact myself on occasion, just to see what reaction i get

never have gone that far though

cheer up and smile :)

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