Do you get on with your siblings?

cjbh

I sometimes feel guilty that my family is not like the Brady Bunch where everyone gets on well with one another.
I come from a big family with lots of different dyads.

I am the youngest and am often compared to elder successful siblings, which leads to resentment, although it's not the actual siblings' fault.

I often think my personality has been seriously affected, for better or worse, by my early relationship with my sibs, and that if I had been an only child, I would be much different.

Nowadays, I get on well with some, do not speak to others. I don't have a problem with some, but nevertheless would not normally phone or text them.

Just wondering how rare or common it is to have a fragmented family like this?

Are you glad you have brothers n' sisters, or are you indifferent?

Overheal

cjbh wrote: »

I sometimes feel guilty that my family is not like the Brady Bunch where everyone gets on well with one another.
I come from a big family with lots of different dyads.

I am the youngest and am often compared to elder successful siblings, which leads to resentment, although it's not the actual siblings' fault.

I often think my personality has been seriously affected, for better or worse, by my early relationship with my sibs, and that if I had been an only child, I would be much different.

Nowadays, I get on well with some, do not speak to others. I don't have a problem with some, but nevertheless would not normally phone or text them.

Just wondering how rare or common it is to have a fragmented family like this?

Are you glad you have brothers n' sisters, or are you indifferent?

You're just asking for it aren't ya :pac:

Joe Cool

Yes.

phasers

I get on great with my sister and two of my brothers, the other one is a twat and drives me mad.

I'm the youngest too but generally my siblings are compared to me because I do most things first and did way better in school than they did.

galwayrush

Yes, coz i don't take any sh1t from them.:)

ihadu

i get on really well with everyone

My name is URL

I'm the oldest so the rest have to bask in my superiority and favoritism at family gatherings.

I always get my dinner first at those things too, lol

but yeah, I get on with my siblings

Tar.Aldarion

Have three brothers and a sister. Two older, two younger. We are all very different with different views and passions but get on well.
I'll be the most successful though.

sam34

im the youngest of 8.

get on great with three of them, would be in contact on a very regular basis, alternate days or more. i count them as very close friends.

the eldest in the family is 18 years older than me, so i dont know him all that well. he's grand, and we get on fine, we just wouldnt be very close. having said that, if i was in trouble and needed him, he'd be there in a shot, and vice versa.

one sis i dont really get on with, but i tolerate her for my parents sake, more than anything else.

another brother, i am just rebuilding a relationship with, after a long falling-out.

and the final one is a bit tricky - regular contact, but a bit wary of her and wouldnt trust her.

still, 3 great friends out of 7, thats not too bad, imo.

joes girls

have 3 brothers all younger than me.......we all get on fine now, but when we all lived at home we did beat the crap out of each other. we dont see loads of each other, but i always know they are there for me if i need them, and me for them!!!

bronte

One brother, Love him to bits.
He wrecks my head at the best of times, but he'll always be my lil bro.
We couldn't be more different, but thats what makes it fun!

flynnser19

ive three older brothers, one i dont get on with unless he's in a good drunken mood but generally he's tellin me to f**k off!!!i suppose its the way it is being the little sister!!

i ge ton well with my other brothers though.

Maddison

I dont really get along with my immediate family my dads gf is 2 years older than me & shes a complete twat so rather than argue with him about her Ive just blanked him, my mum is ill so I dont really see her. My sister is an arrogant twat & my brother is a mirror image of my dad.
Im just perfect:rolleyes: Not really but Im the kind of person that If someone bothers me I just stop giving them the time of day. Im not losing out on much, my family arent very supportive of me & my decisions.

ChocolateSauce

I have two half siblings. I've only met my brother once, and he was...well...on the road to being an average American, something which is frankly horrifying. I've only met my sister three times, and she's alright. Typical 16 year old- she tried to impress me by telling me how many drugs she did and how many guys she'd slept with. At this rate it'll be my mother all over again :rolleyes:

Although I think she was lying.

Mossy Monk

Yes I do.

shenanigans1982

I have a younger sister and a younger brother. Have the odd argument with my brother over stupid things and a lot of it is to do with me being over protective but it's never drawn out and normally cleared up straight away but when it comes down to it I would do anything for him.

My sister on the other hand I can't stand, she always craves to be the centre of attention and is loud and obnoxious. Never got along even when we were younger and everyone used to blame me but as we got older people started to see her for what she was. To avoid arguing I try keep away from her.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Yup, though they're both still terrified of me from when I used to beat the crap out of them when we were little (even though they're bigger and stronger than me now )

marbar

i'm the yo9ungest of 4 and there's a pretty big gap between me and the rest (i'm adament i wasnt an accident...)

really lucky in that i get on brilliantly with them and two of them are like my best friends

when i hit 18 we decided to have one night a week where we'd meet for beers no matter what. 10 years later we still do it

goldenbrown

make it a very rare occasion - though I would never admit that to them...why do i need their attitude?..I have plenty of my own!....:)

citizen_p

yeah get along fine...not like the brady bunch tho

Whiskey Devil

I get on ok with my brother most of the time and really well with sister - we like a lot of the same things (except men of course hehehehehohoho)

A Neurotic

3 older brothers. One's one of my best friends. I get on really well with another - today he told me he bought me Editors tickets just for the lulz. The last one is very different to me, we get on ok and I have a lot of respect for him but we wouldn't be all that chummy.

Cool guys. I feel lucky.

Iago

I could go months without talking to any of my siblings. Hell I've gone months without talking to my parents. Would normally speak to my parents once a week, maybe see them once a month or so, but could go 6 months without seeing any of my sisters.

Doesn't really make a difference to me to be honest.

KnifeWRENCH

2 older sisters.

Eldest is married with a child. They call out about once a week. I do get on well with her and my bro in law but I feel awkward around my nephew because I'm terrible with kids. The rest of the family dote on him a lot more than I do.

My other sister I fight with more often, probably because we're so alike! We had a huge fight last year that dragged on for a few months but that's all in the past. Overall we get on really well though.

All in all, I'm lucky in that the three of us (plus the bro in law) get on really well in general.

marwelie

Im the eldest of three. Only boy. Oldest sister always acted like she was my mother, drove me mad until she moved out. Now we get on fine, she'd do anything for anybody without looking for anything in return. Little sister is one of the funniest people I have ever met. She gave a speech at her wedding which had me laughing so much I had to watch the DVD twice to see if it really was as funny as I thought. It was! The most remarkable thing about the speech was the fact that up to then she barely ever uttered two words together in public.

stovelid

Two younger sisters.

We have residual sibling issues because they had to help with housework while I lorded it around under the loving gaze of Mother.

Elessar

Only child. Sometimes I think I missed out. Other times I don't. Would be nice to have a younger brother I got on with though. Saying that I'd probly end up hating him.

Meh.

Novella

I have one little brother (although he's not so little, he's 6'5") but he's great! We have nothing in common, other than our love for slagging off our parents!

brummytom

Got two little brothers. Can't stand the bastards

Teferi

Only child ftw.

Jeebus

Hi Nick....I wuv youuuuu

mardybumbum

Have a lil sis.
She's collecting her LC results tomorrow.
Gonna laugh in her face just at the moment her jaw drops and she realises she hasnt got enough points to do the course she wants.
Mwahhahahahahahahahahahahahaha

JupiterKid

I'm the youngest of 3, and have two older sisters. I get on very well with both of them, but I'm very close to my middle sister in particular.

I think that with very big families, there's more scope for not getting on well with some siblings.

Senna

I'm youngest in a family of 4, 2 sisters and 1 brothers. Get on great with them, of course there was the usual fights when we were kids, but couldn't foresee a future situation were i would fall out with any of them.
We had a death in the family 9 years ago, so i would say that brought us closer.

Twee.

I have two older brothers and get on with them really well. We're not totally chummy, but will go to the pub or to a gig together. I did go through the hating them phase, as did they. But We're all in out 20s now (Well me almost!) so we've over all that!

K-9

1 brother and sister. The older we get, we get on better and accept each others faults, even laugh at them.

marwelie

stovelid wrote: »

Two younger sisters.

We have residual sibling issues because they had to help with housework while I lorded it around under the loving gaze of Mother.

Sounds VERY familiar

Twee.

marwelie wrote: »

Sounds VERY familiar

Mmm, too familiar. Except I'm the daughter in this case! "Why can't HE do it? NOT FAIR!"

Kiera

Yup i get on very well with all my brothers and sisters. I'd be lost without them.

blagards

i do get on with my brother, but i think that he can be an arrogant twat some of the time but i think that that is a family thing as i have often been accused of it myself:(

AnonoBoy

I never liked my brother. Just don't trust him at all.

Sincerely,

Abel.

stovelid

marwelie wrote: »

Sounds VERY familiar

Twee. wrote: »

Mmm, too familiar. Except I'm the daughter in this case! "Why can't HE do it? NOT FAIR!"

I did want to challenge the unfair patriarchal strictures, but that would have meant having to do hoovering and ironing and stuff.

Schism

I'm the youngest of six. I'd say we all get on very well together, mainly because we're family but also because we're all decent people. Any time we go out for a family dinner or something it's like a bunch of friends having a laugh even though the ages range from 22 to 42.

You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family.

DancingQueen:)

I have one younger sister and she always gets me in trouble for no reason. It always annoyed me but you get used to it!!

Loopy

Im the eldest of 5 - 2 younger brothers and sisters. We all get on good now but battered each other when we were younger.. Great Fun!
Id love a good sibling scrap now:o

Cupcake_Crisis

I just have the one older brother and honestly if i thought id get away with it.....id have him killed!

Bonkers_xOx

I have one younger sister. I do not get on wih her at all. She's really big-headed and think she's worthier than everyone else. She's also a snob. I can't wait til she's older and has to get a job and realises that not everyone thinks the sun shines out her ar*e like my parents. She'll come begging to me and I can laugh in her face.:pac:

ciagr297

K-9 wrote: »

1 brother and sister. The older we get, we get on better and accept each others faults, even laugh at them.

same here, 1 brother and sister, both younger
used to fight viciously with my sister, still have the odd screaming match but we've learned to be able to laugh at ourselves a bit more

they could've had 6 more after my sister, i wouldn't have cared. she was my direct competition:D:D

by the time my brother arrived i had given up hope of having both parents to myself.

Love2love

I have 6 brothers and I am the only girl. I love them all to bits and we spend alot of time together. We socialise together too and would speak on the phone most days. My boyfriend is an only child and sometimes he doesn't understand why I spend so much time with them but I really think of them as my friends.

smileysurfer

I have two sisters and one brother and wer like the Brady bunch.... only cooler
People all seem amazed at how/why we get on so well but I couldnt imagine it any other way.
I look at my sisters as best friends and my brother is just adorable!!
Wer a really close family so it makes for happy house.........almost all the time

The Big Red Button

I'm second eldest of seven, we get on grand most of the time. As in, we rarely fight any more - we used to absolutely batter each other when we were younger, my parents spent more time in A & E than anywhere else!

I have to admit though, I would consider myself to be closer to my friends than I am to most of my younger siblings. I suppose it's only natural, when you have so many people of different ages and with different interests, you're just not going to have a whole lot in common with all of them. And weirdly enough, while I have plenty of male friends, I'm a lot closer to my three sisters than my three brothers, seems very sexist or something.

It's nice to have a family that gets on well overall though. No long-term feuds or rifts. It's great when everyone's home for Christmas, for the first few days anyways ... then it just starts getting a bit claustrophobic.