Debs - I till havnt found anyone - Beginning to get worried

formula1

debs is the middle of august, i have no idea who to ask or who i might ask.

what am i going to do?

(not bringing a lad)
(not going on my own)

anyone else in the same boat?

likely_lass

do you not have any girls who are mates ?

manutd4life

i dont have anyone either

pathway33

book yourself and a mate (real or imaginary) 2 ryanair tickets to the middle of nowhere for that night and say to your class that you thought the debs was the following weekend and there's no way you can cancel ryanair. Ryanair will only set you back a tenner while the debs will be €200. Hang around the airport for a few hours and bobs your uncle

ironclaw

pathway33 wrote: »

book yourself and a mate (real or imaginary) 2 ryanair tickets to the middle of nowhere for that night and say to your class that you thought the debs was the following weekend and there's no way you can cancel ryanair. Ryanair will only set you back a tenner while the debs will be €200. Hang around the airport for a few hours and bobs your uncle

Now that is creative!

I'm doing the Debs for my school and we have a few who only booked one ticket. Theres no shame in going alone, there honestly isn't. Deb's are over-rated to be honest..

Lots of money... How are ya.... Heres a flower.. Thanks... Fancy car... Picture... Dinner... Bar... Dancefloor.. Bar... Dancefloor... More bar...Get very sick...Taxi.... Sleep... HUGE HEADACHE...

Try find someone but go regardless. Many people are in the same boat, and I feel going alone is better than "rent-a-date"

likely_lass

pathway33 wrote: »

book yourself and a mate (real or imaginary) 2 ryanair tickets to the middle of nowhere for that night and say to your class that you thought the debs was the following weekend and there's no way you can cancel ryanair. Ryanair will only set you back a tenner while the debs will be €200. Hang around the airport for a few hours and bobs your uncle

hahaha pathway i love it

poor guys you must have a neighbour or something, just ask a girl your mates with even if you dont know her that well. Just explain you dont have a girlfriend and need a date - one of my mates asked me last year, didnt read anything into it, we had a great time and any girls happy for another chance to wear her debs dress

lorna100

if you've no girl mates that you can ask, ask one of your guy mates with a girlfriend to get one of her friends to go along too.

formula1

likely_lass wrote: »

do you not have any girls who are mates ?

thats the problem... i go to an all boys school, i live in the middle of nowhere, and dont have a huge amount of friends....

ironclaw

formula1 wrote: »

thats the problem... i go to an all boys school, i live in the middle of nowhere, and dont have a huge amount of friends....

Try and if not, go alone. There is no shame in it what so ever. Plenty of people do it and the embarrassment is purely in your head. To be honest, it takes so much more to go alone than to ask someone out.

Try all the same to find someone but don't miss your debs, you will regret it if you do.

errlloyd

I think this is like the only plus for a pre-debs, you realize the date isn't a big deal.

A debs isn't date an issue mate, if you invite a girl to the debs it doesn't mean anything like asking her out, (but its an easy way to ask her out if you're going for that.) You must have some girl you're in regular contact with you could ask, or even a family friend from back in the absolute daiye.

Anyway man you have until August, take it easy for a while, in general you should bring someone you know well, but if you meet someone better between now and then its all cool.

Couple things to be wary of.

Bring someone from in your school (**** its all bois), your arm in arm in the door, but gonzo once inside, which is grando if your mates are in the same boat.

Bring someone from outside school, (but who knows other people in your year), good stuff, arm in the door, they might piss off, you might piss off or both of you might hit it off.

Bring someone from outside school, (but who knows no one but you), arm in the door, and then its a bit clingy unless you can pwn her off on a mate, however a decent trick is get one of your mates (in the same boat as you) to bring one of her mates.

Bringing a cousin... This is not good crack, don't do it please.

Bringing someone who replied to a forum post, probably not the best idea, but if you're paying I'll go in drag, and honestly me and you will be legends for as long as we both shall live .


Alternatively you could try bringing and Orangutan see picture...

Pygmalion

I also have no-one to go with, not really worried, though I'd definitely prefer not to go on my own.

Major problem is that any female friends I have are in same school as me so are going anyway, and have someone to go with.
Even if they didn't I doubt I'd be willing to ask and I doubt they'd say yes, would be very awkward in my opinion.

But to be honest even if I do go with someone, as previous poster says it'll be arm-in-arm in the door and then we'll both go our separate ways probably.

christina_x

Pygmalion wrote: »

I also have no-one to go with, not really worried, though I'd definitely prefer not to go on my own.

Major problem is that any female friends I have are in same school as me so are going anyway, and have someone to go with.
Even if they didn't I doubt I'd be willing to ask and I doubt they'd say yes, would be very awkward in my opinion..

Doubtful!
im in a mixed school and we have our debs (well.. we call it prom) around Dec. and one of my friends wanted to ask me to go with him (i was told before he asked me) but he was scared id say no! Think about it, why would i say no? i have to have a date, i get on with the guy, and it reduces the stress that im never gonna be asked!
He finally did ask me like! Just dont make it a big confrontation, just as your sitting havin a catch up or something! my friend just asked me as we left school for our busses! i was delighted to go with him! so much less pressure than if your going with somebody you like as you worry about what to say ect!

I promise, us girls arnt as mean as you thing we are! as long as your friends with us and were not seeing anybody i say go for it:)

errlloyd

But honestly mate, you can't go wrong with an orangutan.

However what Christina says is absolutely right. Just on a point about brining your girlfriend, or someone you are close to. Secondary relationships usually end in college, however debs photos go on forever. I know people who have burned theres or shredded them, or who have broken down in tears seeing them again.

Sometimes your better off with someone who is and always will be, your friend.

celtic723

christina_x wrote: »

Doubtful!
im in a mixed school and we have our debs (well.. we call it prom) around Dec. and one of my friends wanted to ask me to go with him (i was told before he asked me) but he was scared id say no! Think about it, why would i say no? i have to have a date, i get on with the guy, and it reduces the stress that im never gonna be asked!
He finally did ask me like! Just dont make it a big confrontation, just as your sitting havin a catch up or something! my friend just asked me as we left school for our busses! i was delighted to go with him! so much less pressure than if your going with somebody you like as you worry about what to say ect!

I promise, us girls arnt as mean as you thing we are! as long as your friends with us and were not seeing anybody i say go for it:)

:pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac:

Jeebus

errlloyd wrote: »

But honestly mate, you can't go wrong with an orangutan.

However what Christina says is absolutely right. Just on a point about brining your girlfriend, or someone you are close to. Secondary relationships usually end in college, however debs photos go on forever. I know people who have burned theres or shredded them, or who have broken down in tears seeing them again.

Sometimes your better off with someone who is and always will be, your friend.

Take an opposite-sex friend over your boyfriend, however, and expect your relationship to come to an abrupt close before even the debs itself begins.

Pygmalion

I meant I have a feeling my friends would take it too seriously if I asked, as in I'd be asking them as a friend, but they wouldn't see it that way and would say no.
I'm not talking in general here, I know several people who are going just as friends, I just know that the girls I'm thinking of would take it more seriously than I'd like.

But I think they already have someone to go with anyway, will probably end up asking if they know anyone who'd like to go.

quirkster

formula1 wrote: »

thats the problem... i go to an all boys school, i live in the middle of nowhere, and dont have a huge amount of friends....

Dude I was in an all boys boarding school in the middle of nowhere, and at my debs, it was 50/50 between those who had dates and those who didnt. To be honest a lot of guys including myself regretted bringing a woman (I met my date 2 weeks previously and was bringing her for one reason only..) Instead of worrying if shes having a good time, if youre hanging out with her enough etc etc etc you an be off having one last bit of craic with lads you mightnt see again. No shame at all to be had!

errlloyd

Jeebus wrote: »

Take an opposite-sex friend over your boyfriend, however, and expect your relationship to come to an abrupt close before even the debs itself begins.

Jeebus speaks some truth, thats a ****ing change. (Referring to the biblical character and not the poster, the poster is and always has been, a large sheet of paper I put up on my wall, to conceal the entrance of a tunnel, which looks like it ends, but thats just the headlamp of an oncoming train, the 5:10 to venice, if it leaves at 5:10, and the genoa train leaves at 5:40. it goes 10 mph faster, and its 400 miles from Genoa to Venice, when they are passing which is closer to Venice, Italy or Croatia. Are you confused, I am)

celtic723

Pygmalion wrote: »

I meant I have a feeling my friends would take it too seriously if I asked, as in I'd be asking them as a friend, but they wouldn't see it that way and would say no.
I'm not talking in general here, I know several people who are going just as friends, I just know that the girls I'm thinking of would take it more seriously than I'd like.

But I think they already have someone to go with anyway, will probably end up asking if they know anyone who'd like to go.

dont say that whatever you do don't say that.

Jeebus

celtic723 wrote: »

dont say that whatever you do don't say that.

Seconded.

Go watch Harry Potter and the Goblet of fire.

Ron: [discussing inviting dates to the Yule Ball] This is mad! At this rate, we'll be the only ones in our year without dates! Well, us and Neville.
Harry: [laughing] Yeah, but then again he could take himself.
Hermione: It might interest you to know that Neville's already got someone.
Ron: What? Now I'm really depressed. Oi, Hermione... you're a girl!
Hermione: [haughtily] Very well spotted.
Ron: Come with one of us! It's one thing for a bloke to show up alone, but for a girl it's just sad.
Hermione: [angrily] I won't be going alone, because believe it or not, someone's asked me! And I said yes!
[exits]
Ron: Bloody hell. She's lying, right?
Harry: If you say so.

Same principle applies.

Edit : "Harry: [laughing] Yeah, but then again he could take himself."

This brings up an interesting possibility. Put lipstick on your thumb and middle finger. Say you're bringing your right hand as a date. Cheap, easy, and you're guaranteed a ride afterwards. Also, you get to buy a corsage for yourself, and it can match your tux !

errlloyd

Jeebus, 1 internets for you

celtic723

Jeebus wrote: »

Seconded.

Go watch Harry Potter and the Goblet of fire.

Ron: [discussing inviting dates to the Yule Ball] This is mad! At this rate, we'll be the only ones in our ye
ar without dates! Well, us and Neville.
Harry: [laughing] Yeah, but then again he could take himself.
Hermione: It might interest you to know that Neville's already got someone.
Ron: What? Now I'm really depressed. Oi, Hermione... you're a girl!
Hermione: [haughtily] Very well spotted.
Ron: Come with one of us! It's one thing for a bloke to show up alone, but for a girl it's just sad.
Hermione: [angrily] I won't be going alone, because believe it or not, someone's asked me! And I said yes!
[exits]
Ron: Bloody hell. She's lying, right?
Harry: If you say so.

Same principle applies.

if you done that off the top of your head that is both accurate nerdy whilst being very impressive.

errlloyd

Hmm I disagree, a direct movie quote is just plain nerdy. If it was book I would say immpressive, but you know its not cause it would have all that Jk rowling **** "Harry thought to himself about inviting a girl" and not real world "harry realised emma watson was smoking hot, and decided he was going to use wemguardian leviosa to left her top for a quick peek, she saw this coming however and expellarimused (WHAT THIS IS IN MY DICTIONARY) him, with him completely mercyless she imperuised ron and got him to... insert sex act here"

Jeebus

My nerdiness is restricted to being extremely talented at using google, guys.

Sorry to disappoint.

celtic723

Jeebus wrote: »

My nerdiness is restricted to being extremely talented at using google, guys.

Sorry to disappoint.

what is this google you speak of?:eek:

timmywex

formula1 wrote: »

debs is the middle of august, i have no idea who to ask or who i might ask.

what am i going to do?

(not bringing a lad)
(not going on my own)

anyone else in the same boat?

Havnt anyone myself, havnt asked anyone, havnt thouht about it.


Hardly anyone in the year has asked anyone yet, plenty of time anyways!

KokaNoodles

formula1 wrote: »

thats the problem... i go to an all boys school, i live in the middle of nowhere, and dont have a huge amount of friends....

Feel like becoming bi? Then ur sorted

cryano

<snip>funny but... no<snip>

Or you could bring an orangutan, people will always remember the guy at the debs with the orangutan......

postalservice

Most people wait til the a month or less beforehand.
Ask a friends friend. Or ask your friend to ask there friend (or just sound them out). Tis great cuz then they wont be clingy and you can enjoy the night(dont just dump them off with said friend btw...be nice lol)

IWishh

Go by yourself,

I wish I hadnt already asked my friend, as selfish as it sounds I dont want to have to worry about him not knowing people or having a good time, prefer to get on and have a good night myself

likely_lass

another idea - find someone who cant handle her drink - arrive with her on your arm, send her home in a taxi, have the craic with the lads

errlloyd

Likely_lass' username provides a hint.

But surely if you go to an all lads there's an all girls nearby that your generally advised to hook up with, a hunting ground as some might say, btw remember to keep it 6th years only...

pathway33

IWishh wrote: »

Go by yourself,

I wish I hadnt already asked my friend, as selfish as it sounds I dont want to have to worry about him

which is it?

1. your friend is 8
2. your friend is 80
3. your friend is a halfwit

errlloyd

OR : Her friend is a ridiculous drunk with an allergy to alcohol and a heart problem who likes to whore on girls, but is in a relationship with a girl who loves him very much and her dad is hulk hogan, this particular guy also carries a gun around, loaded, but removed the safety catch cause it wouldn't fit in his jeans, at the same time he only has one leg, and because of a muscle problem if he falls on his back he is like a turtle and can't right himself, he lives on the other side of town, but between him and his house there is a field of landmines and a pits full of snakes and quicksand. He has epilepsy and there are loads of strobe lights, he also has the eyes of a reptile and therefore only see's ultra violet meaning he will be blinded, he had a traumatic experience when he was younger and now goes on killing sprees when he hears "journey - Don't Stop Believing"

Tbh mate, you would worry too.

OR EVEN BETTER

Maybe he's a ****ing orangutan and she is worried she will lose him!!

likely_lass

errlloyd wrote: »

Likely_lass' username provides a hint.

But surely if you go to an all lads there's an all girls nearby that your generally advised to hook up with, a hunting ground as some might say, btw remember to keep it 6th years only...

whats that supposed to mean? my usernames from a song

tootyflutty

Try a cousins friend if your really pushed. The majority of the girls at my school havnt got dates either, it's just the couples that are sorted.
Head out to the pub the week before your debs, believe me that is where the majority of the matches are made

star-pants

We had our debs in the October or November, and we were an all girls school.
I only asked someone end of Sept.
Some girls didn't bother they just went in groups, tbh no one really sees you arrive and considering I spent part of the night keeping my 'date' from mauling me you're nearly better without one. (He was a friend of my friends boyfriend, and he had a gf himself) :rolleyes:

errlloyd

Its easier as a girl, like the oness is on guys to ask someone, not girls.

My last piece of advice to OP I guess is just ask someone, I asked a girl who was far too good for me to come with me to my pre-debs, she said yeah and she came. It just meant I didn't get any action. (But I cruised in with a scorching hot burd, so its all good, would have rathered an Orangutan though)

star-pants

errlloyd wrote: »

Its easier as a girl, like the oness is on guys to ask someone, not girls.

Well if it's an all girls school then it's on the girls to ask :pac:

errlloyd

star-pants wrote: »

Well if it's an all girls school then it's on the girls to ask :pac:

Yeah meaning its more acceptable to fail cause you're in an unusual position. I also get the impression guys judge other guys girlfriends a lot more than girls judge other girls boyfriends.

star-pants

errlloyd wrote: »

Yeah meaning its more acceptable to fail cause you're in an unusual position. I also get the impression guys judge other guys girlfriends a lot more than girls judge other girls boyfriends.

Maybe... but I think people need to not worry so much about what others think.
You'll have a percentage that have a gf/bf, then another percentage that are with someones friend, then a percentage that didn't or couldn't bring someone.

Thing is, the nights about having fun with your friends, not all about having a partner with you. TBH I had more craic with my friends, I would have been happy enough not bringing the guy I brought.

errlloyd

star-pants wrote: »

Maybe... but I think people need to not worry so much about what others think.
You'll have a percentage that have a gf/bf, then another percentage that are with someones friend, then a percentage that didn't or couldn't bring someone.

Thing is, the nights about having fun with your friends, not all about having a partner with you. TBH I had more craic with my friends, I would have been happy enough not bringing the guy I brought.

OP said he's not going alone, in fairness the ideal debs girl is someone who looks very good for your picture and then free night with the mates.

star-pants

errlloyd wrote: »

OP said he's not going alone, in fairness the ideal debs girl is someone who looks very good for your picture and then free night with the mates.

I know, but it's just something to consider.
Maybe he can ask a friend if they know anyone, or see who his friends are bringing and see if their dates have someone who'd want to go.

errlloyd

Hmm I think this picture will help you understand why men need dates...

Skuxx

Yeah man don't worry about it!
I just asked one of my friends and she was delighted to come.....just ask some1 and you'll be surpriesed how happy they will be!!

But even if you don't find someone its fine to go on your own, nothing at all wrong with it!
What ever you do, don't be like 3 of the guys in my school who didn't go at all cause they had no date!

errlloyd

Alan speaks the truth, your better of going alone or with the cloverfield monster than not going at all.

phasers

I saw a guy on gumtree advertising looking for a Debs date a few weeks ago. Was it you OP?

I think the poor guy was even offering money to a girl to go with him :pac:

I'm gonna have to second the Orangutan idea.

baileyjackson

ironclaw wrote: »

Now that is creative!

I'm doing the Debs for my school and we have a few who only booked one ticket. Theres no shame in going alone, there honestly isn't. Deb's are over-rated to be honest..

Lots of money... How are ya.... Heres a flower.. Thanks... Fancy car... Picture... Dinner... Bar... Dancefloor.. Bar... Dancefloor... More bar...Get very sick...Taxi.... Sleep... HUGE HEADACHE...

Try find someone but go regardless. Many people are in the same boat, and I feel going alone is better than "rent-a-date"

Its totally overated. We booked a 40 seater bus instead of the fancy cars, total waste otherwise! No one stays glued to their date anyway, I barely saw mine! Take from it what you want, the Debs is a Glorified piss up and the last time you have to see some losers from Secondary school. Just dont worry, relax and dance your arse off!! Get your teachers PISSED aswell if you can, always good for a laugh!!

Pigwidgeon

I have a boyfriend now, but there's no saying I'm definately going to be with him by the time of my debs at the end of september, optimistic i know. But if i amn't I'll just ask one of my guy friends or something like that.
Tbh though I really don't see the big deal in going by myself, I know a few girls in my year who are planning to go together.

djcervi

Man you have got a couple of months.. try getting involved in something where you will meet other people. Do something new or something you like, like a film or drama course (where you will probably get to know/meet girls). Things like that are great for confidence and are generally good fun. Look around on what's on offer.

I'm also in an all boys school and most of my friends are guys. A while back I kinda realised that I was really shy, and really awkward around girls in general. So I decided to go the gaeltacht, french college and I was an extra on a play. Soon I became less awkward and opened up.. and I have made some good friends with both sexes.. Anyone can do it.

As regards the debs personally I don't really want to go. I only really want to make an apperance so that I do not have any regrets about not going to my own debs in the future. My year is full of cliques and I'm a bit of an Inbetweener. :pac:( Although I'm not that freaky ) I will probably feel awkward at it for the mostpart (like I did at our 6th year class nites out), but my mates will help. I haven't asked anybody yet as mine isn't till October, so there is plenty of time to figure out who I'll ask. Anywho I just got invited to my friend's debs so I might end up asking her.

Anyway man have a great summer and I hope everything works out.

p1akuw47h5r3it

ironclaw wrote: »

Try and if not, go alone. There is no shame in it what so ever. Plenty of people do it and the embarrassment is purely in your head. To be honest, it takes so much more to go alone than to ask someone out.

Try all the same to find someone but don't miss your debs, you will regret it if you do.

If I don't find sum1 I'd rather jus not go tbh.