Grocery Shopping with your male half?

She Devil

How does grocery shopping go with your male half? Does he go?

My OH insists on joining me and i hate it, he is such an impulse buyer, he throws all sorts of stuff into the trolley, things we really can't afford, and things we really don't need! So i snap at him not to be stupid, or we have that under the sink at home, or we don't bloody need that .... next thing i get glares from other shoppers, i can see they are thinking, "What a b""ch" but i really am not, its just the one place in the world he tries my patience. Someone has to be sensible right?

Aw no I think it's nice that he goes with you, and you shouldn't really tell him not to be buying stuff he wants because it's his house too (premsumably) Sensible can be boring sometimes. That said, i do see where you're coming from but I would leave him to it, he obviously enjoys it and unless you're really strapped for cash and he's buying random boys toys every time you go then he's not really doing any harm.

CathyMoran

He does all the shopping though I go along with him - he is always trying to get me to buy food to eat (am a really bad eater). We do kiss all the time though (like we would in public and in private elsewhere), we also exchange witty banter. We go to a really nice store so they are used to us.

dr.bollocko

Why do ye always spend sooooo looooooong reading all the labels? Why?

so we can stay looking good for the likes of you!!!

useful_contacts

She Devil wrote: »

How does grocery shopping go with your male half? Does he go?

i snap at him not to be stupid, next thing i get glares from other shoppers, i can see they are thinking, "What a b""ch"

Nosy pricks none of their business, ask them if they would like to pay for what he wants seen as they are so concerned:D

My OH insists on coming shopping with me, its either cos i forget half the stuff or he thinks ill get attacked in tescos One thing i hate tho is the second we get in the door hes grabbn my arse, draping his arms around me, kissn me every 2 seconds, its like hes staking a claim on me, after nearly 5 years its bloody headwreaking ha

Last week while we were shopping it was one of the few times he didnt have his arms draped around me, walked into the frozen food aisle, and saw my ex there, all of a sudden hes pulling and dragging outta me like a child, WTF? Men!!!

dr.bollocko

Deleted User wrote: »

so we can stay looking good for the likes of you!!!

How is reading every ingredient on a god-danged packet of rashers going to make you more attractive to the OH?!

What Cathy....You kiss while shopping?

I cringe when I see people using the weekly shop as couple time.

It is and always will be me time.

Redpunto

Its normally quite stressful coz hes not used to shopping with the kids so he gets freaked out once the kids start acting up,,usually end up in the alcohol aisle by the end of it all:D

Redpunto

Redpunto wrote: »

Its normally quite stressful coz hes not used to shopping with the kids so he gets freaked out once the kids start acting up,,usually end up in the alcohol aisle by the end of it all:D

Would leaving him minding the kids at home, so that you can escape the lot of them for a while. Not be at all tempting?

dr.bollocko

dr.bollocko wrote: »

How is reading every ingredient on a god-danged packet of rashers going to make you more attractive to the OH?!

okey dokey, possible blonde moment then

assumed you were a bloke who had wandered in the door!

see, by reading the back of everything we know if they've too much fat or sugar so's not to make us fat, or not too much bad stuff to give us nasty skin or yucky cellulite! but if your a girl you know this already so don't know why i'm explaining, hmmm,

CathyMoran

Moonbaby wrote: »

What Cathy....You kiss while shopping?

I cringe when I see people using the weekly shop as couple time.

It is and always will be me time.

Yes we kiss every few minutes while shopping, though it might only be a peck on the cheek. We dont do time apart well, plus, while I trust him I like to see what is in the shops to try and make me hungry.

Ok I'm a great believer that pdas have a time and place.
Patty fingers in the produce section wouldn't be my thing.

Macha

We both normally go shopping together to local fruit & veg places. I disappear off to the butchers while he's examining some aubergine (he's vegan) and I appear back whistling with a nice free-range chicken in the bag

But we just started an organic fruit & veg box order that will be delivered every week to the door-woohoo! Then it will be down to the local shop just for packaged goods like dairy, etc.

tribulus

The few times there needs to be shopping done I go as otherwise there'll end up being feck all meat and too much stuff like chocolate, yoghurt and fruit that never gets used up.

She Devil

Yeah we kiss while shopping to we get on really well, but its just in the supermarket that makes me lose my patience with him, Usually i try to stuff his face before we go just so he doesnt think he needs everything, the other day he found burger sauce for chicken burgers he thought it was a great idea, and real cheap to, He doesn't eat chicken burgers!!!! Our presses are full of food he thought he might like and hasn't even opened, we aren't in a position to be able to shop like that at the moment, money is tight! I feel like the mean one

bnagrrl

I prefer to go on my own as I am super fast going around the aisles getting only what we need.

When he comes with me (especially to the likes to Lidl/Aldi) he spends the time looking at power tools or whatever offers they have that week and we end up spending waaaaay too much time in the supermarket. Really annoys me! :mad:

She Devil

She Devil wrote: »

Yeah we kiss while shopping to we get on really well, but its just in the supermarket that makes me lose my patience with him, Usually i try to stuff his face before we go just so he doesnt think he needs everything, the other day he found burger sauce for chicken burgers he thought it was a great idea, and real cheap to, He doesn't eat chicken burgers!!!! Our presses are full of food he thought he might like and hasn't even opened, we aren't in a position to be able to shop like that at the moment, money is tight! I feel like the mean one

well then I do see your problem! the reason I probably am sticking up for him is because me and my husband are the other way round! I'm usually the one who spends loads of time in the supermarket buying lots of chocolate and biscuits (all for him mind you!) He likes to get it done quick but usually after he does the shopping he'll be looking in the cupboards saying there's nothing to eat, so when I go, I like to bring him home loads of food to keep him happy!

One thing I'm a bit upset about thought is that my husband would never kiss me in the supermarket *sniff*

Rozabeez

My mother and I do the shopping together regularly, last week we brought my brother and it was so frustrating, he kept switching things from the trolley, we ended up with loads of junk and not a lot of fruit and veg, and he got over-excited in the alcohol aisle and tried to switch my bottle of wine for a different one.

Rozabeez

Rozabeez wrote: »

My mother and I do the shopping together regularly, last week we brought my brother and it was so frustrating, he kept switching things from the trolley, we ended up with loads of junk and not a lot of fruit and veg, and he got over-excited in the alcohol aisle and tried to switch my bottle of wine for a different one.

I had to bring my dad last week. He lasted 4 and half minutes....and even then couldn't go ten seconds without chucking a hissy.
Why was I scanning the shelves, why was I looking at things that weren't food, Why was I thinking about purchases, God this is boring, How much longer etc. etc.
I did us both a favour and sent him off to chat up the other manly types outside.

RAFC

Shopping with OH (and kids) no way, its all about ME ME ME ME ME, its my time and I won't share it with any of them, unless of course he is buying me something, even then its all about ME :D:D:D

When we got married first it was lovely and romantic, shopping together one hand each on the trolley (turning green now) deciding together what to buy - 17 years later we'd probably run each other down with the trolley shopping is the only time I have to myself :cool:

Redpunto

Moonbaby wrote: »

Would leaving him minding the kids at home, so that you can escape the lot of them for a while. Not be at all tempting?

Ohhhh yehhh, try to do that as much as possible but he has this thing that when we're together we should as much time together as possible and not split the family up at the weekend even if it means total melt down

Munster_Gal

Me and my OH going shopping together every week. Usually we make a list though and plan our dinners for the week and that way we don't (most of the time) buy things that we don't really need. Trying our best to stick to a budget and not waste the small amount of money that the government has us left with!!!!
Cathy I totally get the kissing in the shops thing We do that too... Although not as much as we used to

Munster_Gal

Munster_Gal wrote: »

Cathy I totally get the kissing in the shops thing

Please explain it to me?

Munster_Gal

I think it's just the doing things together as a couple... Love being with him and I guess I like everyone else to know that I'm with him too

dr.bollocko

Moonbaby wrote: »

Please explain it to me?

:eek:
You mean you wouldn't kiss Cathy in the shop?!

Pythia

We often go together. A lot more sweet things/junk seems to make it in if we go together. We do most things together and food shopping is no exception.

Nevyn

Is "shop" a slang term for something else ?

takola

He does all the grocery shopping. I hate shopping and always find it stressful. Packed store and queue's out the door. It's painful! I have no patience and I usually end up taking his head off over stupid little things and it always ends with him saying "I'm never bringing you shopping with me again!" when he's lost patience. Which always makes me laugh because I remember my mother saying the same thing to me as a child. :rolleyes: It does come in handy though when he attempts to persuade me to come shopping with him again a couple of weeks later and I can remind him of what a disaster the last time was.

As for kissing in there. I'm affectionate when out and about, I'll hold hands and there will be all those random touches that couples usually have. But I don't really do kissing unless we're parting ways. And if I were trying to do the shopping and he wanted to do all that lovey dovey stuff, I'd end up choking him because the last thing I'd need is someone pulling out of me! I'd end up telling him to get out of my personal space. It has been said that I am an incredible bitch sometimes though and that is the truth. IMO, grocery shopping is not the place for romantic lovey dovey crap. (Gosh I sound like a sour cow! )

But then, our usual way of dealing with each other is to trade insults, all in good fun of course which is obvious as we're laughing at each other but I guess we're just not really one of those lovey dovey couple.

Shivers26

Myself & OH do the grocery shop together. We have a system going at this stage. I have the dinners and lunches for the week planned and we decide on other things as we go. If he was in charge of it we would be living on jaffa cakes

Ginny

Meh, I've had exes in the past who have thrown tantrums about going shopping, the way I see it is IF you're eating it, using it etc. you should be coming shopping, WE should be doing the shopping, or at least taking turns. I'm noones mother.
These days its all sweetness and light, and very straightforward, so a lot less stressful:D.

europerson

I would have thought most couples go shopping together, so that each half can get things they each like.

brianthebard

Thaedydal wrote: »

Is "shop" a slang term for something else ?

Yes its slang for "to exchange monetary units for goods and/or services which can be used for sustenance, lifestyle maintenance, and other such essentials".

Stheno

No one has mentioned the inability to pack things properly????

Crash

Anytime i've gone shopping with my girlfriend, we end up with way more crap than we've needed, and mostly sweets and junk. Its one of those things that I wouldn't buy them on my own, and SHE wouldnt buy them on her own, but one or the other of us realises that if we can even slightly get the other to concede just a bit, then we can blame the other for "****s sake, why do we have so many sweets? I just ate the entire pack like ffs". Its handy.

Xavi6

nouggatti wrote: »

No one has mentioned the inability to pack things properly????

Why would they? Isn't that what the person at the checkout is for? Plus, I worked in a Spar for three years so I'm pretty clued in as to what can and can't go in with what so never any hassles there.

I personally love the weekly shop and have no problem doing it on my own. I know what she likes so always get the right things. It's great going home and having a full fridge! We do usually go together though.

Stheno

Xavi6 wrote: »

Why would they? Isn't that what the person at the checkout is for? Plus, I worked in a Spar for three years so I'm pretty clued in as to what can and can't go in with what so never any hassles there.

I think possibly I have OCD as to how groceries should be packed

And there are no bagpackers in my local supermarkets

nouggatti

nouggatti wrote: »

I think possibly I have OCD as to how groceries should be packed

And there are no bagpackers in my local supermarkets

+1 on both counts!

nkay1985

takola wrote: »

I hate shopping and always find it stressful. Packed store and queue's out the door. It's painful!

24 hour Tesco Ardkeen is just the job for this. I tend to go in at 10pm after my evening shift. Or if it's the weekend, at about 11 or 12! I can't stand when there are loads of people in the supermarket - especially loads of children. Don't get me wrong, I love kids, and I understand that not everybody can leave them at home, but it's the ones that basically run wild there that drive me mad. When we were young, my mother used to go shopping on a Friday evening and we'd all stay at home. But if we did end up going with her, there was no acting up or "I want this, I want this" and throwing tantrums. We simply wouldn't have gotten away with it!

So I find my way easier to cope with. We usually just do little shops often - getting food for dinner etc - then when all cleaning stuff and things you don't buy every week are running low we'll go do a big one.

seamus

Women are horrifically inefficient at shopping, so I prefer going on my own, but sometimes she'll come with me and it takes twice as long.

I also get given out to for walking away and leaving the trolley at the far end of an aisle cos her bag is in it. I've been leaving the trolley to its own devices for most of my life, so I'm not going to start thinking about her handbag now, she'll just have to carry it.

Honey-ec

We do it together and it's grand, in and out in half an hour. As for the kissing and cuddling - why would you do that, just why???

I live in Tullow and we always laugh at the fact that the car park is full of middle-aged men sitting in the car waiting for their wives to do the shopping. "Arrah, I couldn't be in doing dat, dat's wimmins work..."

I always just wonder why they don't just stay at home and let the wife drive herself if they dislike it that much???

nkay1985

Honey-ec wrote: »

I always just wonder why they don't just stay at home and let the wife drive herself if they dislike it that much???

Don't get me started on wimmin drivers /joke!!!

:pac:

Honey-ec

Honey-ec wrote: »

We do it together and it's grand, in and out in half an hour. As for the kissing and cuddling - why would you do that, just why???

I live in Tullow and we always laugh at the fact that the car park is full of middle-aged men sitting in the car waiting for their wives to do the shopping. "Arrah, I couldn't be in doing dat, dat's wimmins work..."

I always just wonder why they don't just stay at home and let the wife drive herself if they dislike it that much???

It is a social thing, my dad loves that because he get to chat with randomners.

Malari

My parents are a DISASTER when they go shopping together. And they each complain separately to me about the other's short-comings

"She spends ages deciding what yoghurts to get!"
"He can't stand still for 2 mins and then we end up forgetting things!"

The only thing that happens when the OH goes shopping is he gets a box of fun, sugary, kiddy cereal and I get a "boring" one when I go on my own!

When we go together he picks up a load of biscuits and sweets and then moans to me that I "shouldn't have let him buy them!"

So we avoid the Danger Aisle of Goodies if possible :pac:

Femelade

Theres a shopping centre near me, that i hate going to on my own...its couples everywhere!! My boyfriend thought i was mad, but he came with me one day and noticed it too...
couples, everywhere, holding hands, kissing...

peanuthead

Hate that, but Id take it over skanger mams roaring the heads off their kids for asking for chocolate, or fat babies squahed into the trolleys with a mouthful of deli sausage rolls!!

CathyMoran

I asked my hubby about the kissing - he said that he loves me and he enjoys it! (We both do) To be fair we hug and kiss all the time, I dont see how being in a supermarket makes any difference!

nkay1985

Femmy wrote: »

Theres a shopping centre near me, that i hate going to on my own...its couples everywhere!! My boyfriend thought i was mad, but he came with me one day and noticed it too...
couples, everywhere, holding hands, kissing...

It seems from this thread that this is a regular occurence. I can't say I've ever noticed people being all couply in the supermarket. And I can't say I think of it as a romantic place, so why would people be like this? Shopping is purely functional for me.

kmick

My OH bought a telescopic baton.
http://www.code09.com/productdisplay.php?pid=5&gclid=CLvt4pO_q5YCFQpPQgodXjqyzA

Now when I try and put chocolate biscuits, beer, crisps, organic lambs lettuce, green tomato sauce, tellytubby crackers, cupcake tins, jml products or superglide into the trolley she extends her baton. Usually just the extension of the baton is enough to put me off put sometimes I try and sneak it in and that results in a stinging whip to my buttocks.

piscean

Myself and the OH have been shopping more often in Lidl since the "recession" and that place is full of chocolate/sweets/cakes - the trolley would be full of Bramley Apple Pies/Swiss Rolls etc if I let him.
Sent him to do weekly shopping one day and he came back with tons of stuff for a ridiculously cheap price - half the stuff I wouldn't eat ie really cheap meat, 20 fish fingers for €1 etc - bless him though he thought he did really good!!

Honey-ec

Moonbaby wrote: »

It is a social thing, my dad loves that because he get to chat with randomners.

But they're not talking to anyone, they're just sitting in their cars on their own!

I'm guessing it's to do with being from a rural town and of a certain age - none of the wives drive and the men won't be seen in the supermarket with them.